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writes:Guys are so very confusing! I haven't actually "dated" in the past five years (being in an on-off relationship) but 3 days ago I met a nice fella online and met him up. We had dinner, drinks, and decided to go to a movie. On our way to the movie, he says to me "do you mind if we just go on Wednesday instead? I'm getting really tired." I understood (he works full time, he travels out of state for work every week, and goes to school part time on weekends, and is currently packing to move to another apartment). He asked me to call him when I got home. I got home to see a text from him "Thanks for coming out!" And I replied with "Thanks for dinner!" and he said "Wednesday if you're free, let me know and we'll go watch that movie!" I agreed.Fast forward to Tuesday night after not hearing from him. I texted "hey, are we still on for tomorrow?" wherein he replied "Hey! I hope you're having a good week! I've been super swamped with work..and with it being a short week (Thanksgiving) and me flying out on Friday (for work), do you mind if we reschedule for when I come back?"...I got the hint...I figured he's not interested and he's just not telling me directly. I replied with "sure thing" and he said "thanks!! lots of stuff to do!"...So people are telling me I'm reading too much into things. But i really feel like he's not that interested. If he were, he would have let me know about rescheduling sooner? Or he would have at least texted me on and off? I'm confused, I was sure he was not interested, but then other people keep telling me I'm just being paranoid. I guess I'll just wait and see, but not keep my hopes up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): he's prob not interested. because as a guy, there's really not a whole lot that would keep us from seeing you if we really wanted to. so i think you're accurate. but then again, at the same time, why not just back off and give him a few days or a week and see if he ever gets back in touch with you? what can it hurt? you don't have to have the answers right now. it was just the first date. go about your every day life and see if he ever gets back in touch with you. but i wouldn't bank on him. just do what you were doing before. good luck.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (21 November 2012):
 What are you doing communicating by text messages? You miss out so much on non-verbal queues when you do that. Give the guy a call -- you can tell so much more about what someone is thinking by hearing their voice. You can jump to far too many wrong conclusions if your communication is through simple text messages.
This week, being Thanksgiving, is definitely a crazy week. With him traveling and work being busy, I'd take him at his word -- he is busy and it doesn't mean he didn't have a bad time or thought poorly of you.
The only red flag I see here is that he may be so incredibly busy that he doesn't have time for the level of relationship you want or need. Keep your options open and don't get too hung up on him -- you hardly know him or know the level that he can commit to you.
Eddie
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reader, Staceily +, writes (21 November 2012):
 Yeah just wait and see, but also don't keep your hopes up. Go with the flow, if he calls good go out with him, if not oh well. It could very well be that he is super busy. Let him text you when he isnt so busy and try again if he doesn't ever text back then move on. Just realize he does have a lot on his plate with work and other things so he will likely always be slow to make a date.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 November 2012):
 My guess is that he's seeing someone else and is waiting to see if things go well with her or not.
I could be wrong, it's not really a strong feeling, but it sounds like he doesn't dislike you, but wants you on the back burner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): Hi there! he isn't confusing. he doesn't like you. If he does he will never reschedule watching movie with you, no matter how tired or exhausted he can be.Because having a love life or seeing someone special is an energizer for anyone else. Think of yourself , if you have a crush or if u like someone, no matter how bad your day was since you saw someone you like, it lightens up the situation.Especially if he would talk to you, even just for 5 mins. If a guy is giving you excuses not to see you, his just not into you. Its not confusing, its pretty clear. If a guy likes you he makes things happen. No excuses allowed except if its a matter of life and death.What to do? believe me. don't call him or text him. delete his number on your mobile. if he text you, reply him a short message. But wait 5 hours before you reply or maybe after a day.Its ok to have a little pride sometimes, don't give him the hint that he got you under his spell. Playing hard to get maybe an old school, but it drives men crazy. Nothing could be more satisfying than leaving a JERK wonder and making him crazy. That's my expertise.
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