Is this girl crazy or am I the insane one?
Q. Why are some girls sooo hard to figure out? I mean seriously I feel like wacking my head against a wall sometimes. Theres this girl I been talking to for months, we even met and from first time we kissed etc. But only met twice because I went o...
A. 6 November 2012: Forget her. She doesn't seem interested and she likes playing games. You have already mentioned you want to receive more than a one word answer and she does it anyway, screw it. Not worth so much effort and annoyance. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend developed feelings for my friend so she dumped me!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly a year. We had our occasional fights, but nothing ever too serious. She recently became closer with one of my good friends. I didn't mind them hanging out at first, but then it started to become more ...
A. 6 November 2012: Let them both go. She has been emotionally cheating on you this whole time. She very obviously liked him and spent a lot of time with him. She waited until he reciprocated before saying anything because she didn't want to lose you for someone who ... (read in full...)
My friend cut me out of his life because he got a new girlfriend. Will he ever let me back in?
Q. A friends cut me out of his life since hes had this new gf, it probably was partially my fault but this has never happened before. Despite being friends for so long he was also the love of my life. We always just stayed friends although it was ...
A. 6 November 2012: He may call you back, depending on what was said in your insulting texts to him, when his girlfriend is out of the picture. But as long as she is around he wont be your friend. It's pretty common for people to get out of touch with their friends ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend never spend the night?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We were both in other relationships when we met meaning we were having an affair and broke up with them to be together. Its been 10 months since I moved into my apartment with my mum. My boyfriend spends ...
A. 6 November 2012: He asked you to move in but you can't even visit him at his place or meet his parents...? Then where would you move in to? I don't get any of this. To me it does sound like a double life. He can't be with you after 6pm because of a regimen he has ... (read in full...)
I don't think he wants to be more than friends so am I doing the right thing by keeping my feelings to myself?
Q. Ive been BFF with this amazing guy! He may have his flaws but he is perfect to me. He calls me wifey n I call him my hubby bc we do everything together; grocery shopping, to weddings, to parties, etc. Hes a fun single guy who had had his heart ...
A. 6 November 2012: I don't think you are. I think you should tell him how you feel and find out for certain what he wants, you never know. It's impossible to be truly good friends with him when you have feelings for him. If you refuse to tell him (which I think is a ... (read in full...)
B/f and I broke up got back together and he lied and told me that there had not been anyone else!
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I broke up for a couple of months. We got back together and at the time I only let him back because he said he had not been with any other woman. I have since found out that he spent a week during our seperation with ...
A. 6 November 2012: IF it was only sex and you were separated and he was truthful about it I would say give him another go. But the facts as I see them are this- he has sex with another woman, gave her $3000 (holy crap), took pictures with her, and he lied to your face ... (read in full...)
Friends turned lovers... favourable outcome or not???
Q. Dear Cupid, My best friend and I had sex, we were worried that if we did so we will be risking losing our friendship of years, we are truly good friends, we usually spent most of our time together (going out-visiting friends-chilling...
A. 6 November 2012: Right now what is going on is a friends with benefits situation. You say you both worry about losing your friendship if you were in a relationship, well I'd say FWB is more likely to ruin the friendship than anything else would. Do you want to be in ... (read in full...)
Why has he suddenly gone cold?
Q. Hello For 10 days ago I talked to a guy on a dating site and he became interested directly. He said it many times and complemented me a lot and he said that he talked to a lot girls on the dating site but didnt like them he did only for fun and...
A. 6 November 2012: Why didn't he answer? We can't say, could be many reasons. You have never actually met him so you don't truly know him to know what could be going on. Likely it has nothing to do with anything you did.
What do you do now? Don't message him agai... (read in full...)
I'm so embarrassed of my past and am afraid it will ruin my relationship...
Q. So, i have been with my boyfriend for several years and we are so in love, thinking of getting married in the near future. The problem is, the past few months i've been thinking about my past constantly and feel so embarrased. The thing is, ...
A. 6 November 2012: Your only problem is your perception of yourself. Because you think so lowly of yourself you assume these friends and brothers do as well. You can only allow people to think badly of you if you believe it, so stop believing it! Everybody makes ... (read in full...)
Serious self-confidence issues because of my small boobs
Q. I'm having major self confidence issues, help please! I'm in my 20s and I have a curvy body, except my boobs are small. I have wide hips, a small waist, a curvy butt, and thighs a bit too thick but I'm working on losing weight. People say I have a ...
A. 5 November 2012: I don't know who your friends are but I have yet to meet a man who wants a fatter girl for her big boobs. And never have I heard she can be ugly as long as she has big boobs... Maybe to have sex with its possible (put a bag over her head joke) but ... (read in full...)
Should I be mad because my bf and his ex are good friends?
Q. Hello everyone, I´ve got this problem almost year and a half, since I´ve been dating my bf. The problem is, he´s stayed a very good friends with his ex. They chat on internet very often, she called him when her boyfriend after mine broke up with ...
A. 5 November 2012: Ex's are ex's for a reason, they should not be good friends. You should be able to talk to your boyfriend, not have to snoop to find what he is doing. And he shouldn't have just kept the conversations from you. What could that possibly solve...? My ... (read in full...)
Why do woman hate other women if they don't know each other?
Q. I want to understand why do woman hate each even if they don't know each other. I've seen this situation and it has been happening for the past few years especial black african woman. I've even experience it my self. You get into a taxi and she's ...
A. 5 November 2012: This sounds like what Katt Williams jokes about. It's basically jealousy. Women can be "haters" but it's all their own insecurity and jealousy. Why it is this way? Who knows. Don't let anyone get you down though because that's what they want by ... (read in full...)
What would you consider early warning signs of a controlling man?
Q. Hi, What would you consider early warning signs if a controlling man? My boyfriend of 10 months as shown a few signs but I'm not sure if I'm over thinking. He doesn't like me wearing make up, accused me of wearing clear tights so other people wou...
A. 5 November 2012: Yes he is controlling and there is no sugar coating it. Immediately when you said he doesn't allow you to wear tights because other men look at you... That's all you need to know. Controlling and abusive nature includes lack of self esteem and ... (read in full...)
Can I ask to spend a day with him WITHOUT his family?
Q. Question about boyfriends family and how to split the time. My boyfriend is in the military, and got a leave to come home this weekend. I had not seen him in 3 months. He arrived Friday evening and left again Sunday evening, so not much time. I...
A. 5 November 2012: I do not think you would be wrong to ask to spend the day with him alone. I got the feeling he was a pushover and can't say no to his mom. Profession has very little to do with anything, I dated a guy in the military who was a doormat and couldn't ... (read in full...)
I thought that girls were supposed to like guys who were sensitive and treated them right. What am I doing wrong?
Q. Hello and thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm not exactly the best looking guy at my school (not by a longshot). Yet, I am the kind of guy who treats a girl right. I like romance (yes I'm straight), i write poetry and will do anything to ...
A. 5 November 2012: I wouldn't say it's all about wanting a bad boy, but it is all about wanting to fit in and be popular in high school. A guy could be cute and sweet and nice but if he is a little different and not exactly what everyone finds to fit in then he will ... (read in full...)
Has he slept with someone else?
Q. Hi, My partner and I have been together for 4 years. If we have sex regularly he's able to go on for a while without coming. If we don't have sex for a few days or week he comes quickly. He has always said afterwards "Its because I havent had sex ...
A. 5 November 2012: I'm also curious what the text said. But outside of that the reason he may have lasted is long is he has been taking care of himself frequently if you get what I'm saying. If he has still been able to get off on a regular basis, on his own, the that ... (read in full...)
I was dating a guy who wanted to date other women so I finished it. Did I do the right thing or overreact?
Q. Hello aunties and uncles. I'm a bit confused and bewildered about a recent dating experience and I'd like some opinions or advice. I met a guy via online dating. We had several (4) really enjoyable dates over a few weeks. We chatted freely and...
A. 5 November 2012: He obviously feels he should be in love before becoming exclusive. So until he felt in love with you he was going to continue to date others. He did say he would wait for sex until you could be exclusive, so that tells me he is interested in you and ... (read in full...)
Girls with boyfriends: would you ignore another guy who had a crush on you and not say you had a boyfriend?
Q. I would like to know if any girls out there who are in a relationship ignored another guy that they know had a crush on them and not tell them that they were seeing someone? Why would you not just tell the guy who has the crush that you are seeing ...
A. 4 November 2012: No, I have never done that. If a guy makes an obvious hint to me he is interested I tell him my relationship status. A reason I would not do this? If I were also interested in the guy crushing on me and not serious about my boyfriend/ I wanted his ... (read in full...)
Could it be that I'm ashamed to be Indian?
Q. There's this guy i'm friends with and he makes me feel ashamed to be indian, the comments he makes really grate on my nerves. I don't know what to do about it! It's not him being racist or doing anything malicious. It's just he'll keep referring t...
A. 4 November 2012: Fishdish is right, it is racism. Anyone would feel this way if in the same situation regardless of race and he is very insensitive and rude, I'm surprised he could be so clueless. I would tell him he is being rude and you can't continue this ... (read in full...)
Friendship going down the wrong path
Q. I have an ex-boyfriend and we are trying to be friends. FYI he broke up with me for many reasons and one of those reasons named was being selfish/self absorbed. The problem is I am the one that seems to do stupid stuff. For example, I sent him ...
A. 4 November 2012: You say you are working on being friends but it sounds like it is too soon after the relationship. He is focusing on old relationship problems and truly is being too sensitive for a friend. Friends don't get so hurt over an innocent mistake, it ... (read in full...)
Out of all my past gf's she's the one who loved me the least yet I find her the hardest to get over.
Q. Has anyone seen that movie '500 days of summer'? Well I think it best sums up my "relationship" with this girl. Its been over a year now since I've known her and I've been pursuing. But after I saw this movie for a 2nd time I just learned a lot. ...
A. 3 November 2012: Those tend to be the hardest ones to get over, the ones who never felt as much as you did for them. Luckily you are smart enough to realize you won't ever be the one for her even though it hurts. Now that you know this you need to stop her from ... (read in full...)
Why does he ask if I'm ok so frequently? And why is he nervous?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a few months now and everything is fine, im just slightly confused about something. We are very close and intimate with each other and some occasions it can be a really intense connection (we havnt said I love you or an...
A. 2 November 2012: I think you may have done something involuntarily that has him thinking you are not having a good time or are in pain. Like maybe the last time you had sex you made a strange noise, had a look like you were bored, made a comment he took ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to find others unattractive even if you find only one person attractive?
Q. I asked these kind of questions in many different ways but i could't get satisfying answers so i'm asking in an easier way to understand.believe me or not i only find my husband attractive and beautiful and my husband says he feels the same way. But ...
A. 1 November 2012: Your husband sounds like myself so it is quite possible he is being honest. I never look at a man and think he is attractive, I can see an actor and see how he would be attractive to women logically based on features but I do not see men and think ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband's brother that I love him too and about the fantasy of a threesome with him and my husband?
Q. My brother in law has called me and texted me and told me in person he loves me and is attracted to me. I haven't replied to his remarks out of respect to my husband. I just ignored it when he said it. I know he was intoxicated/high so I didn't ...
A. 1 November 2012: If you truly love your husband then the first thing you should do is tell your husband what his brother said to you about being in love. He should know this, a loyal wife would tell her husband such things. And since you don't want to lie that's ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is being sarcastic to control me!
Q. My boyfriend is on the whole very loving and caring. He cooks lovely meals, always tells me I'm gorgeous etc etc and says I'm the love of his life BUT...he's sometimes sarcastic and I HATE it. He thinks he's being funny but it always seems like he's ...
A. 1 November 2012: I think it's a mix of you being sensitive as well as him being rude. His comments are rude but I think you take them very hard. I also think you need to both work on your communication. Rather than say how he feels (you going to stay over at a ... (read in full...)
Dating for 2.5 years turning into a FWB relationship?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts, I've posted a few questions here as of late (some anonymous), My (now ex) girlfriend broke up with me just under 2 weeks ago saying that we are now on different levels in our lives but that she still loves me - but not sure if she'...
A. 31 October 2012: Friends with benefits are FRIENDS with BENEFITS. You are not friends. You are ex's. You are already and still very emotionally attached to her. You are already afraid of her meeting a new guy at a pub this week. Imagine how you will feel when you ... (read in full...)
Disturbed by his actions in bed
Q. When a guy is giving you oral sex and he holds his breath, does it mean you smell down there? And in the middle of sex, he gives a disgusted look, does it mean he IS disgusted with you? ...
A. 31 October 2012: He could really be holding his breath because he can't breathe while performing oral sex. He doesn't seem to be very skilled at what he is doing in my opinion, not that you are gross or smell. If you smelled very badly down there then he wouldn't go ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me. Has anyone taken their cheating boyfriend back?
Q. FIrst my question is, is there anyone out there who took their boyfriend back after cheating and is still happy today? With trust and no more cheating? My story: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. He is my first and ...
A. 31 October 2012: I took a boyfriend back after lying and talking to girls behind my back. He also apologized, cried, let me punch him in the face, destroyed his computer to prove faithfulness. I took him back because of all this, he was truly sorry right? We lasted ... (read in full...)
What are your best survival tips to help you and your loved ones in a Super Storm like Sandy?
Q. to all the wonderful people in Dear Cupid affected by Super Storm Sandy my Good Wishes to you. Such natural events can have repercussions on family life, relationships, friendships and cause personal pain. Wherever you are, if you've missed fl...
A. 31 October 2012: I'm not sure if this is any use now since the storm has passed but when I lived with my parents in Virginia out in "the sticks" as we called it we had a few things we would do to prepare. It was an area where power was easily lost and didn't return ... (read in full...)
Has my ex really changed?
Q. Has he really changed? I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago as I felt he was moving too fast with the relationship. He stayed persistently trying to get back together and said he has learnt so much about himself. Says he understa...
A. 31 October 2012: I disagree, he hasn't changed in the slightest. This is who he is. You broke up because he didnt give you enough space and it was moving too fast. He said he changed and within a few days of coming back he wants to go on vacation with you, doesnt ... (read in full...)
Our children are the only glue holding our marriage together!
Q. It seems to get harder and harder. my wife and I have been through alot a couple seperation a near divorce(10 days away from siging). when my kids were very little 2 and 6 months. I went back to school full time and worked full time and was only ...
A. 31 October 2012: I don't think there is any fixing this because she won't admit fault for anything and because you both can't move on from the past. At least you are willing to try, seeing a counselor, but since the counselor made her "look bad" she won't go back. ... (read in full...)
What did I do? Did I scare him off?
Q. I meet a guy online.. I like him a lot...we exchanged numbers The conversation was great, he even said... He wants to take me out.. Then something happens to his phone we get disconnected , he calls back and said sorry..my phone is dying, then I s...
A. 30 October 2012: Yeah we can't say if you scared him off. Maybe he wasn't all that interested and someone else came along, who knows? I would doubt your one sentence would be enough to make him run for the hills but again who knows but him. Either way don't call him ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend often visits Facebook of a sexy bikini girl as an entertainment. Is it okay for a serious relationship with me?
Q. Hi everyone. The matter I'm going to talk about is: Faithfulness! (oh yeah old issue) *** Brief of the matter: I've just found out he often visits Facebook page of a sexy party clubbing young girl; and sometimes leaves comments, link of song, fl...
A. 30 October 2012: This guy has a lot of red flags. He is the last person you should be depending on to be loyal, he has already proved he isn't. He has some obsession with females online, normal men do not find Korean bikini clad women and message them compliments. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't do the things I need to make me climax. What should I do?
Q. The only way I can cum is with penetration and breast stimulation at the same time. Time and time I've asked him to touch me and to suck on me, but my boyfriend of 9 years won't do it for more than ten seconds. He gets to cum, but I never can be...
A. 30 October 2012: I'm trying to think of positions where it would be easy to suck on your boobs while also thrusting (can't think of a better word) and I can't think of many. That takes a bit of multitasking. Plus he can get distracted with his own things going on. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and wants an abortion but I don't want her to.. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my girlfriend for a year we just found out she is pregnant - at first she said she was getting an abortion then she changed her mind and was talking to our baby, now she says she is going to get rid of it. I am a very honest ...
A. 30 October 2012: Tell her that, how devastated you would be, you consider it your baby as well and don't want to lose it. Let her know you will be there for her, if you have a baby you can work it out together. Find out her worries and help relieve them, plan for ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend stealing from me?
Q. I dont mean to accuse my boyfriend, but when I was out with him the other week when i did NOT spend a penny, and I went out with 10 pound, I came back with no money at all, not even for the bus. I thought nothing of it until the other day where I ...
A. 30 October 2012: No way for us to say. How do you carry your money and how would he have access to it? If it is easily accessible and you leave the house certain without a doubt you have money then after seeing him you are broke then he probably is stealing from ... (read in full...)
Did I ruin things before they could even begin?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles. Please help me. I have totally muucked things up with a guy who I really like and who I think was perfect for more. I feel sick at what I have done, or more importantly how stupid I have acted. I am 31 and can't beleive...
A. 29 October 2012: The first thing I caught was that it took a few weeks for the 2nd date. I don't get the feeling he was all too serious about this, but you went into it looking for a relationship. He was more casual, have sex and fun, maybe something happens one day ... (read in full...)
Is 5 sex partners by age 21 ok?
Q. Hi. I am curious whether it is ok/normal for a 21 year old boy to have slept with 5 girls. I am a 20 year old virgin and my boyfriend admitted he slept with 5 girls previously. I shouldn't have asked about his past, but I was curious and didn't want ...
A. 29 October 2012: It is very hard to say what is normal/ok. Some guys are still virgins at 21, some have had only one partner, some 20+. "Normal" isn't a term one can define. What you need to do is decide if it is okay for you, does it bother you, does it seem like ... (read in full...)
Do you think he wants me just for sex? He admits he had a STD test recently. Could he be a player?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy and we've been on three dates. He initiated everything from asking me for my number, to arranging for our dates, to paying for each one of them. Yesterday he invited me for drinks with his friends. They were mostly ...
A. 27 October 2012: You will know he is only a player if you make him wait for sex... If he won't wait then you know. Tell him you aren't ready and you don't rush into sex early on, it takes you some time. Don't give him handjobs anymore either. If every time he hangs ... (read in full...)
I don't approve of boyfriends friendship with this girl. what to do?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been arguing for the past few days about his friendship with a girl who continuously flirts with him. he says the flirting has stopped after the first time I confronted him about her texting him saying"call me so j can give...
A. 27 October 2012: I don't think you should say anything to the girl. She is a man stealing whore, fine. But why would you approach her and start things with her..? It is your boyfriend with the problem. He is the one who is loyal to you (or should be) not this random ... (read in full...)
I got too clingy! How can I show him that the old me is back?
Q. please help ive made an awful mess of this. ok i have a good friend and during the summer we became close. hes been with a girl 5 years. she has a lot of issues which hes explained. she needs lots of space, goes out drinking with guys from work and...
A. 27 October 2012: There's no point in texting because it's the opposite of what he wants. My advice is to stop texting calling or messaging him altogether. Leave him alone. When he comes back to you and starts talking then you act and talk like your normal self ... (read in full...)
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