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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I know that after I orgasm from doing it myself I have to go pee, but when me and my boyfriend have sex i don't feel my orgasm but I know i had one because I have to go pee. To me it doesn't make since because when I do it to myself i feel it but when were having sex I don't feel it. Im just asking how can I feel my orgasm when we are having sex ?
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (28 May 2012):
 Most men and women aren't taught about the importance of the clitoris when it comes to female orgasm. Most women can only orgasm with direct stimulation of the clitoris.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris
The reason the clitoris is the focus of most women's orgasms is because when a baby is developing in it's mother's womb, the clitoris and the penis are developed from the -exact- same tissue. The clitoris is basically the female penis. To expect a woman to orgasm without clitoral stimulation is like expecting a man to orgasm without penile stimulation...it's possible, but rare.
The reason you're not feeling much pleasure is because you are not getting enough stimulation on your clit. Many women either use their own hand during sex, or a vibrator.
Unfortunately, you cannot teach another person how to bring you to orgasm until you can do it yourself. I don't want to get too vulgar for fear that the moderators might dislike this post and not let it go through, but I strongly suggest you start masturbating regularly, and experiment with different kinds of stimulation on and around your clitoris.
Eventually, you will learn how to bring yourself to orgasm. Once you can do that regularly, you can teach someone else to bring you to orgasm during sex.
One last thing, and this is important. NEVER fake an orgasm. EVER. You will not teach your partner how to please you if they think they're doing a good job by your faking it. Remember, your partner cannot read your mind, and most men don't understand how important the clitoris is...most men don't even know what a clitoris IS to being with! You have to teach them how to please you with unembarassed, open and honest communication. If you are not mature enough to talk openly about sex, you're not mature enough to HAVE sex.
Always use birth control, safe sex is the best sex. Good luck!
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