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writes: My best mate has recently told me he loves me and I don't know how I feel about him because I love him to bits - but as a friend. Wwhat shall I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, BoiCrzy75925 +, writes (16 November 2005):
Well, if you don't see him as anything more than a friend, just tell him-but try to let him down gently. He may be hurt, but if he really values your friendship, he will respect the fatc that you do not want to go any further than just being friends. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): There was a recnet question someone asked about whether he should tell his friend that he loved her and I told him, if you never ask you'll never know. You have to admire your friend's guts for actually telling you how he feels now you need to have the same level of trust in him to tell him how you feel. If he really does care about you he'll understand and your friendship will be significantly stronger for it.
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reader, wdaft +, writes (15 November 2005):
The best thing to do is be honest. Let him know that you do love him, but from a friendship stand point only. Giving him the answer he is looking for could lead to problems. Be honest and he should respect for feelings.
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reader, Topps +, writes (15 November 2005):
Tell him so, what else can you do? You love him and dont want to give him false hope. You are not responsible for him falling in love with you and neither will you be responsible if he is hurt because your feelings for him are platonic. This is difficult. explain how you feel and what you hope from your friendship. If he retreats wounded, let him, but make sure he knows you still want to be cool and hang out (if you do?) try and return your conversations back to normal as quickly as possible to save his blushes. Many people experience this and while the friendship may be a bit wobbly for a while, I am sure you will not lose it completely. Be compassionate but not patronising.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): well you are obviously good friends so try to be gentle with your friend you do not want to jepordise your friendship.
If you really just like friendship and do not want a relationship then it is only fair you talk to your friend.
Do not let it linger and let your friend get the wrong idea as this could be disasrious for your friendship.
Maybe socialise with other friends in a group with your friend so they understand it is friendship you want and so they do not think your on a date my advice is if this friend is a true friend and you handle this in a understanding way your friend will begin to understand.
Enjoy your friendship and have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): just tell him you love him too just as a friend just say i'm not really ready to that whole commetment thing and then ask him why he thinks he loves you
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (15 November 2005):
 You should most likely just tell him the truth. You love him, as a friend, let him know that. Don't let him think any different. Let him know that you are flattered by the feelings he has for you, but you only want him as you guys are already and don't want anything to ruin that.
I was in this situation before, but I let him know exactly how I felt. I didn't want to lead him on to something that was false. He was my best friend and I was glad to have somebody so close to me and I didn't want to let that get ruined by him having more feelings for me than I did.
I hope you guys can work this out as to where he understands you just want to be friends and nothing more. That you DO love him, but only as a friend, which is still pretty damn good.
Not many girl and guys can love eachother without being in a serious relationshipj or ruining the friendship you have already. Don't let his feelings get in the way of your guys' relationship.
Good luck and I hope what I had to say helps you:)
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