Like what
she writes?
... Add *crazy to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *crazy a private message | | | *crazy's profile:I tend to say exactly what I think without taking into consideration how it's going to sound to another person. Especially when it's something I feel strongly about, I can go off on quite the tangent!
I should apologize from now if I ever come off as cruel, irritable or downright evil. It's not my intention, just sometimes, there are questions people should already know the answer to.
Most of my advice comes from observing the people in my life and using the advice I gave them to help other people - sadly enough, people rarely listen to me in real life...Even when I'm usually right.
I love talking to people and I love helping them with their problems. So you will see me around!
xo |
|
He was my friend with benefits, but now he has a girlfriend!
Q. i have known this guy that i really like for 8 years and we have been kinda freinds with benifits, now he has a gf and he says he loves me and doesnt really like her. a couple of dayz ago we had an amazing nite together where we were cuddling and ...
A. 27 June 2008: Leave him alone; he's only using you - he has a girlfriend yet he wants you to be his little piece of @$$ on the side.
This guy has NO respect for you whatsoever and honestly, you deserve better then that; you should know that you deserve better t... (read in full...)
How do you spot an abuser? What are the signs?
Q. I know a lot about abusive guys and how to spot one. I'm wondering if cussing at a girl is a sign of an abuser? Like have any guys out there called your girlfriend a "f***ing bitch"? But would never ever hit her? My boyfriend and I had a fight toni...
A. 27 June 2008: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html
This is the best link to read, to learn about abusive men. I don't really have that much of an understanding of your relationship with your boyfriend to answer this question... (read in full...)
Five months without a period, and I'm a virgin - What's going on?
Q. I don't think anything is severely wrong, but i am a virgin and I got my first period when i was 11. I am 15 now, and Its been almost 5 months since my last one, and when i get it it last 4 days at most and is very very light. My mood swings are all ...
A. 27 June 2008: Your period may be irregular due to stress, diet, too much exercise... birth control?
You say you're a virgin, so there's absolutely nothing to worry about; you're not pregnant - it can be any of the reasons I listed.
Also, it can take up to 3... (read in full...)
Me and my girlfriend want to have sex, but we're unsure about some things.
Q. I am 12 and me and my girlfriend want to have sex but we don't know were or when....
A. 27 June 2008: Go study - Don't have sex.
Wait until you hit puberty before you even start THINKING about sex, you are FAR too young for that. You don't even know what you want in life, why ruin your youth when you have your whole life ahead of you?
You cou... (read in full...)
He has informed me that his birthday is also National Sex Day!
Q. I am a 15 year old girl, and my boyfriend is turning 16 in August. By August we will have been dating 5 months. I am a virgin, he has told me that he isn't. His parents are going away the week of his birthday, and he has also informed me that his ...
A. 25 June 2008: All I have to say is; don't do it if you don't want to - it may be his birthday, but it's your choice and if you don't feel ready, then don't let him pressure you.
Actually.
Scrap what I just said, you're only 15 and in Canada, you're not the a... (read in full...)
She thinks I’m a perfect husband, I'm not, I can't help cheating on her. Please help!
Q. I'm very deeply in love with my wife, but I have some issues. I can’t stop cheating. I have an addictive personality. Once I do something I like I continue to do. It’s crazy because my wife has the BEST SEX I have ever had in my life. There is noth...
A. 24 June 2008: You need to get help before your wife finds out and your marriage goes to crumbles.
Because no offense to you, but if she catches you cheating and then your excuse is "I'm a Sex Addict?"... I wouldn't blame her for not believing that and kicking ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend became friends with my best friend and now he is hitting on her!
Q. So, my girlfriend and I have been dating for four years. I am 22 and she is almost 23. Our relationship started out as a long distance relationship (me in MD and her in NY). I met her at my brothers wedding, as she is my sister in laws cousin. ...
A. 24 June 2008: Dump her.
She's got guilt written all over her and she doesn't deserve someone like you.
If she really respected your wishes; she would've agreed to cut ties with him because she knew it made you uncomfortable and because she loved you, your ... (read in full...)
I'm I going to be pressured to have sex from all these boys?
Q. i am nearly 14 and i am underpresser about having sex! there are soo many sexy lads that i know, and most of them have asked me out, i have only went out with 1 of them, and there is 9 more lads that have asked me out. the one i went out with said ...
A. 24 June 2008: Good for you honey, for saying No! and not letting those boys pressure you into doing something you don't want to do!
You are far too young to be having sex, at least wait until you are the age of consent and are positive that you are ready!
... (read in full...)
He asked for pictures of me in my underware, does he really like me or is he just trying to use me for my body?
Q. Hi.. This guy i really like has started to ask me to send pictures of me in my underwear! I was really shocked as he claims he is still a virgin so i didnt think he would be into that sort of thing and when i ask him why he wants them he says its...
A. 24 June 2008: Don't send him any pictures!
How well do you know him? Are you absolutely positive that he's a virgin or is he talking out of his butt to get what he wants from you?
Don't do it; he could put those pictures up on Facebook, MySpace,or any o... (read in full...)
I am a 14 y/o dating a 27 y/o and my friends say it is wrong... should I leave him or just ignore what they are saying?
Q. I am 14 years old and i am dating a 27 year old,who was my brothers friend and he watched me grow up.My friends think hes a paedophile and hate him but i do like him and they know im interested in older guys.Also my friends sister has been threating ...
A. 24 June 2008: Leave him.
What the hell is a grown ass man like him doing with a child like you?!
Answer: He wants sex.
You know when women say Men are Only After One Thing? When it comes to guys like him, sweetie, they are right!
Your friends are ri... (read in full...)
Why won't he let me do this one thing?
Q. My boyfriend and I are very comfortable with each other. We've been together for 4 years. We have a healthy sex life. I have one question though, he's seen every part of me, we've experimented with different things and positions... and yet he still ...
A. 24 June 2008: He's probably grossed out like he said and would prefer you NOT to lick his anus. (I can understand that, because girl; you are the only person I've ever known who's wanted to do that!)
If it makes him uncomfortable, don't push it, obviousl... (read in full...)
What is the likelyhood of me being pregnant from this??
Q. Hey ... my b/f and I were naked, and he was on top of me - he pre-cummed, but it was on my mons pubis, a good 3 inches away from my vagina. I cleaned it up without letting it drip any further ... what is the likelihood of me getting pregnant from ...
A. 24 June 2008: No offense honey, but from your post, it sounds like you were having unprotected sex; you may want to be a little more specific next time you ask a question or people are going to make assumptions; none of us personally know you.
Very slim cha... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant, we already have 4 kids and I can't handle any more! She won't agree to abortion, any advice?
Q. My girlfriends pregnant again... We already have 4 kids, she popped the first sprog out when she was 15, had to stay with her ever since, i dont wanna leave her but i cant handle any more kids! Its doin my nut in! She wont get rid of it either., ...
A. 24 June 2008: 4 kids already?!
Damn, do you just have sex in your spare time? Or is she REALLY that fertile? Use birth control; get a vasectomy; get her tubes tied! You people need to stop having children!
(I'm curious; are you mormons? Because that wou... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend I caught her daughter having sex while I was walking the dog?
Q. Ok bit of a strange question for you. Well recently I was walking my dog when I came upon my best friends daughter and her boyfriend (well I presume) having sex. Dont get me wrong, it wasnt like an open field, in all fairness it seemed quite a ...
A. 24 June 2008: Tell her mother.
She's not the age of consent, she could end up pregnant if they weren't using protection or wind up with an STI...the possibilities are actually endless. Along with her partying; that's trouble waiting to happen as well.
... (read in full...)
We broke up but he is now asking if I will lose my virginity with him?
Q. I am only 17 years old, I've dated a guy for only a month then we broke up. We kept talking for a while and he's always been honest to me, even when we broke up. Know were going to see each other and he ask me if i want to lose my virginity with ...
A. 24 June 2008: Come again?
There's nothing wrong with a guy being honest, but I have to question his motives for wanting to sleep with you even though you two are no longer together.
Personally, I wouldn't do it, but it's your decision to make. However, d... (read in full...)
Should the mother of my fiancee's kid back off a little?
Q. Im interested in what you have to say and your opinion.. My fiancee has a 5 yr old son to another woman from years ago, before i ever knew him. She comes in our house to talk about 'their' son, which i dont have a problem with. Its when my fiancee ...
A. 24 June 2008: Um... what does computer software have to do with their child? Is it helping him with school or something?
You're not over-reacting; its understandable why you're feeling left out - after all, you are marrying the man and if his child comes ar... (read in full...)
Is it possible for withdrawal to work as birth control?
Q. Is it possible for withdrawal to work as birth control? I know it's not supposed to work. I'd like to have a baby. The problem is my bf isn't sure, so when we have sex he shoots his sperm on my stomach. I am secretly hoping to get pregnant but ...
A. 24 June 2008: Pulling out isn't the best birth control, you can still get pregnant from pre-cum or as my sex ed. teacher said "Those suckers can swim."
Best protection is birth control (even though you can get pregnant while taking birth control) and a condom. ... (read in full...)
My female friend asked me out, but I'm not gay!
Q. i think my best mate (whose also a girl) fancies me, shes asked me out but i dont feel the same way, and im not gay. help!...
A. 21 June 2008: Tell her straight up that you're not attracted to women, but you're flattered that she asked you out. Let her know that you don't want to hurt her feelings by lying to her and it's nothing against her, you're just not gay.
If you still want to ... (read in full...)
Does this confession about his past mean my boyfriend is GAY?!?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a while and recently he just confessed something to me that hes never told anybody. When he was younger he had a gay friend (he didnt know he was gay). One night when he stayed the night at his friends house ...
A. 21 June 2008: At the worst he's probably bi - just because he fooled around and experimented doesn't automatically make him gay.
He hasn't done anything to make you think that he'd cheat on you, other then some things that are in his PAST.
It's best for... (read in full...)
I love my husband but want my builder
Q. Hi Im confused! I am 21 and have always been very headstrong! 4 years ago i met a married man who i instantly fell for. I found out he wasnt happy in his marraige and made a play for him...it worked and i am now married to him! He worships the grou...
A. 21 June 2008: Let the builder go.
You already uprooted one man's marriage because you wanted a chase and now that you have him, you're bored of him because he "worships the ground you walk on" and that's no longer a challenge.
Grow up.
The builder tol... (read in full...)
I'm just curious about the 'Friends with Benefits' thing while in relationships,
Q. A guy asked me if i wanted to be friends with benefits with him, and i never done it before, the only thing that worries me is that one of us could end up feeling more than just friend with one or other and we are both in a relationship, he's not...
A. 21 June 2008: If you're both in relationships, that's not called "friends with benefits" that's cheating on your partner.
Be more worried about your current relationship then getting involved with someone else on the side who's going to make things more com... (read in full...)
Did she lose her virginity or not?
Q. okay i have this best friend and she dosen't know if she really lost her virginity or not because she said they were in the bathroom she was sitting on the bathroom counter top and he asked her if she wan't to feel what it would be like when she ...
A. 21 June 2008: Doesn't sound like she lost her virginity - but they came pretty close.
Don't be having sex at your age though! You haven't even hit puberty, your bodies are fully developed and you don't know the repercussions of having sex.
Wait until yo... (read in full...)
Can a relationship with a much older guy work?
Q. i have a very deep attraction towards a boy. and i feel he too have an attraction for me. but i am 14 and he may be 24-26.is this relation possible?...
A. 21 June 2008: No, it won't work.
The age gap is too much and the maturity levels are too different for you two to work out.
And I'm sorry, but I have to question any man in his 20's who wants to be with a 14 year old - I see it as him taking advantage... (read in full...)
I think he's coming round and wants to do stuff, what do I do?
Q. i met this boy called dillon 2day and he seems ded nice but he came my house while i got a drink we went up to the water dispencer in my room coz it ice cold anywayyzz we ended up play fighting messin about he through me on the bed and sed nothin ...
A. 21 June 2008: Don't let him in your house!
If it doesn't feel right; there's obviously something wrong, and you know it - this boy's a stranger, he did things that made you uncomfortable and if you let him in your house, he's going to try something else.
... (read in full...)
Online guy won't give me his number, why not?
Q. Hi ! I have been chatting with a Guy from February 2008 onwards, Initially he was trying to chat with me about sex... but I changed his views/ideas completely and I told him that I am only interested in a real good guy... who will be able to give ...
A. 21 June 2008: He has another woman. You're just his online fling on the side so he can cheat without it really seeming like cheating- After all, he's only proposing that you two get together and have sex, not actually going out and doing it. But if you ever... (read in full...)
Do you think it's the right decision/necessary for me to know details of his affair?
Q. I've been very contemplative about this question. I have so many questions in my head all the time that all I do is just think about them. A part of me says that I do want to know EVERYTHING (times, places, who they were with, who knew, what i...
A. 21 June 2008: If you feel that you need to ask, to get all these questions off your head, then go ahead, you're entitled to ask as many questions as you want.
But it seems to me like you're only going to torture yourself with the details. You already know eve... (read in full...)
My married lover won't leave her husband....
Q. Hi, I am in a love with a married woman. I know that she loves me too. She stays with her husband. Both stay together. They had some problems in their relationship in which I came in between and we started loving each other. I know her very well. ...
A. 21 June 2008: Don't bother waste anymore time pining for her - move on.
She cares more about what people are going to think of her if she and her husband do separate, then she does about you. I guarantee you, she's not going to leave her husband - not if she w... (read in full...)
I think I was raped by the man I'm in love with... at 18.
Q. Hey everyone, I feel kinda scared and wierd asking this question but I'm so confused and I need help. Today after I got home from picking up my boyfriend from work, we ate breakfast and he was watching the highlights from the celtics vs lakers ...
A. 21 June 2008: Nice one Diovan!
Sweetie, if there's more then one person recommending you check that link out and more then 5 people, telling you to LEAVE this man, you should be listening.
You came to us for advice and this is what we're telling you.
... (read in full...)
I want to loose my virginity! Any advice?
Q. k i really want to loose my viginity and i kiss my arm and pretend a boy is actually dare but how do i get a boy that is right they all call me ugly but i dont think i am and im hated off all the girls giv me sum advise plzz im 14 x...
A. 21 June 2008: Oh no, sweetie, don't ask questions like that!
You're too young to be thinking about sex; at least wait until you're legal before you seriously consider losing it - being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of and you only lose it once. Make it ... (read in full...)
Why do women like to tease men about sex??
Q. Why do women like to tease men about sex? Why not just be open to their needs instead of making it such a big deal!!!...
A. 21 June 2008: The reason SOME women tease? (Don't generalize)
Simple: because it's fun. These women, more then likely, don't want you at all, they're just taking joy in knowing that they can get you any way they want you - but then simply pull away, not affe... (read in full...)
My GF will not have sex until she is married. I don't want to cheat on her but I have my urges...
Q. My girlfriend is a virgin and will not have sex until she is married. I respect her and her wishes. But I want her so bad it's killing me! I don't want to cheat on her but I have urges what should I do?...
A. 20 June 2008: I suggest porn and masturbation.
Don't cheat, that will just destroy your relationship with her completely and please, don't pressure her because you're horny and she's able to abstain from sex. (After all, women don't hit their sexual peak unt... (read in full...)
I want to have sex again even though I know he used me in the first place. We're 15, what to do?
Q. i've lost my virginity to this guy, who dumped me straight after. now hes asking for more sex even though i know he does'nt love me. i have more feelings for him than he has for me, though i dont trust him. hes aged 15 like me and i know he has ...
A. 20 June 2008: First of all : You should NOT be having sex at 15, you're underaged, the both of you are!
Second of all: Do NOT start sleeping with him again. The fact that he loved and left you should be a damn good sign that you do NOT want to get involved... (read in full...)
I want him back so much!! What do I do??
Q. up until last week i had been seeing a married man for ten years we were perfectly happy and i loved him to pieces and accepted the situation, recently i took up golf and started getting some new girlfriends to play golf with, this was great cus it ...
A. 20 June 2008: This probably isn't what you want to hear, but sweetie, you need to let.him.go.
He's married! Why would you downgrade yourself to become 'the other woman' in his life, the one that no one knows about and if they do, think you're a tramp for bein... (read in full...)
We're always fighting but I don't want to leave.
Q. Hey Guys... ok me an my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months now an i do love him very much, but he is always fighting with me over nothin im constantly cryin an am so over it! it always over stupid things like today i was doing his washin an ...
A. 20 June 2008: Two words: Dump him.
Oh and listen to Smiles, she knows what she's talking about.... (read in full...)
Man charged with sexual assault to me, I feel sorry for him and am scared.
Q. This isnt really about relationships but i value everyones advice on this site and iv always came here in the past with troubles. so im hoping you guy can help me now. A good few months ago a man who i new from a rival store to the one that i w...
A. 20 June 2008: Why the hell did you not punch him in the face when he groped you?! That's infuriating!
You did nothing wrong, that man made his choice and now he has to face up to the consequences that he can't get away with disrespecting you (or any other wo... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of this clingy ex?!
Q. What do you do about an ex that A: won't leave you alone, B: you let him get to you and you actually hang out with him, C: you have a boyfriend, D: you essentially cheated on your boyfriend with your ex and you feel like utter horse-shit because of ...
A. 20 June 2008: Sorry to tell you this sweetie; but you're not over your ex.
If you were, you would've been able to put a stop contacting him, you've obviously found a way to still spend time with him. And you cheated on your new boyfriend with him.
Being e... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for thinking about her this way?
Q. I can't tell what is wrong with me! I can't stop thinking about this girl yet it's not her body or something like that that i'm thinking about. i just wonder every second what she is doing and how she feels and i feel like i want to make her bett...
A. 20 June 2008: Awww, I think you're just a little infatuated with her...Or you view her as a younger sister who you want to protect.
Either way, it's very sweet and nothing to be worried about; there's nothing wrong with you at all.
And your friends are pigs... (read in full...)
How can I get over the girl who rejected me?
Q. going to a party and a girl who rejected me is goin to be there. My friends advise me to avoid her but i know i won't be able to because i will get really annoyed when other guys chat her up and she's dancing with them. Please help i'm trapped i ...
A. 20 June 2008: Don't ignore her, it will drive you insane.
Just talk to her casually; be a friend - just realize that she's not yours and she will be talking and dancing with other guys. You need to accept that and not suddenly become possessive.
On the ... (read in full...)
He put pressure on me and then called it a 'statement' - What does he mean?
Q. its me again, i had sex with my sex partner and it was good as usually but it was a little different. He seem to have put more pressure on me and i counldn't really take it but i did anyway i guess thats what made it different (idn)so today i phone ...
A. 20 June 2008: I have absolutely NO idea what he means by "making a statement"...
Does he like to be in control? Maybe that was his statement; he's dominating you?
I'm sorry, but hopefully one of the uncles can explain this to you.
The best advice I can... (read in full...)
How can I make her care and not think I'm pathetic?
Q. Look this is slightly long on complicated but any help would be appreciated. It's not necessarily an important problem, but I just need some quick advice. There's this teacher (and no I don't love her) but I've always had this soft spot. She's...
A. 20 June 2008: No offense, but you would not be weak if you decided to seek professional help. Teachers aren't qualified to help you, in the way you may need.
It would be a better idea to talk to someone other then your teachers, if they are discussing it with ... (read in full...)
How can I make her care and not think I'm pathetic?
Q. Look this is slightly long on complicated but any help would be appreciated. It's not necessarily an important problem, but I just need some quick advice. There's this teacher (and no I don't love her) but I've always had this soft spot. She's...
A. 20 June 2008: No offense, but you would not be weak if you decided to seek professional help. Teachers aren't qualified to help you, in the way you may need.
It would be a better idea to talk to someone other then your teachers, if they are discussing it with ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of this clingy ex?!
Q. What do you do about an ex that A: won't leave you alone, B: you let him get to you and you actually hang out with him, C: you have a boyfriend, D: you essentially cheated on your boyfriend with your ex and you feel like utter horse-shit because of ...
A. 20 June 2008: Okay
A: Stop hanging out with him; you're only fanning the flames and making him think that you WANT him around! If you don't, avoid all contact with him! Hopefully, he'll get the hint...and if he doesn't, then just tell it to him straight. "I don'... (read in full...)
I think I was raped by the man I'm in love with... at 18.
Q. Hey everyone, I feel kinda scared and wierd asking this question but I'm so confused and I need help. Today after I got home from picking up my boyfriend from work, we ate breakfast and he was watching the highlights from the celtics vs lakers ...
A. 18 June 2008: Could you please re-read what you typed out and think of it from a different person's point of view?
That's not little things; that's him trying to control you. Just because he hasn't full out beaten you doesn't mean anything - what he's doing is... (read in full...)
I think I was raped by the man I'm in love with... at 18.
Q. Hey everyone, I feel kinda scared and wierd asking this question but I'm so confused and I need help. Today after I got home from picking up my boyfriend from work, we ate breakfast and he was watching the highlights from the celtics vs lakers ...
A. 18 June 2008: Sweetie, the second you say NO and he doesn't stop, means it's rape. That's disgusting what he did to you; you need to dump his ass. Right now! What he did was WRONG, he doesn't deserve to apologize or get a second chance. What worries me even... (read in full...)
| *crazy's friends
These are mutual friends, so *crazy has
added them and they have added *crazy!
|
