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I should apologize from now if I ever come off as cruel, irritable or downright evil. It's not my intention, just sometimes, there are questions people should already know the answer to.
Most of my advice comes from observing the people in my life and using the advice I gave them to help other people - sadly enough, people rarely listen to me in real life...Even when I'm usually right.
I love talking to people and I love helping them with their problems. So you will see me around!
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Financially dependent on her, using her for sex, hating myself, what do I do?
Q. Wow, so I am in a really bad situation. It really sucks, and I feel like SUCH an asshole for not doing anything about it. Basically, I am in a relationship that I dont want to be in. I dont like her, I for sure dont love her, and I only am with her ...
A. 10 July 2008: Did you not read what I wrote? You are copping out of breaking up with your girlfriend, for your own selfish needs! Stop being a coward and get it over with, you say you're looking for someone to settle down with? GO FIND HER! So your girlf... (read in full...)
She gets text messages from an ex. I'm not comfortable wiht it. Should I feel this way?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. The whole time, she would get these random text messages from an unsaved phone number. It turns out it is a person (an X for lack of a better term) she had a fling with (before me), and found ...
A. 8 July 2008: You definitely have every right to be concerned, this girl is completely full of it.
No one continuously texts simple little messages like that over a 3 year period and gets no reply! Does she honestly think you're that stupid?
Obviously, sh... (read in full...)
Confused, I have a girlfriend, but attracted to certain guys, am I gay?
Q. Today I was at a friends house for his pool party, we were messing around and jumping in the pool and stuff and he dived, and his swim trunks came off. Then I jumped in after him(w/ goggles) and then everybody else. Nobody payed any attention to it ...
A. 7 July 2008: You might just be bisexual, if you have a girlfriend and are attracted to females as well as males. Or since you've hit puberty and your hormones are all over the place, you're just curious about your sexuality and are exploring. There's nothing ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to dump him or keep him!
Q. I love my boyfriend ,but he never answers my calls.I've called him for a few days to make plans and go out.It seemed like he was ignoring me.He called today and said he never recieved any calls.I was pissed because he has caller ID and everything. I...
A. 7 July 2008: They weren't lying when they said girls mature faster then boys...He sounds like my little cousin! And she's only 7! Let him know you have no patience for his immaturity and ditch him. He obviously has a lot more growing to do. I think it woul... (read in full...)
I'm obsessing over his ex and it's becoming a problem
Q. hi there,i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now.i love him very much and i know he loves me. the problem is im always scratching thru his things to find out what he and his ex got up too.im worried this is becoming an obsession now cos im ...
A. 6 July 2008: That is one unhealthy obsession.
It seems to me like you're trying to find reason to mistrust your boyfriend. You say you know he loves you - but if you really believed that, you wouldn't be going through all of his things.
You need to forget a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend feels I make him violent. I'm fiery, but I want to know where this relationship is going.
Q. Hi I have known my boyfriend nearly 3 years now and most of the time its ok but every now and then we have terrible rows and I sometimes see his face changes and his body language as if he is pretty tempted to hit me. He has shoved me and once ...
A. 6 July 2008: You MAKE him violent?
Sorry, thats still no reason for him to ever lay a hand on you - all the females in my family have fiery tempers; we yell, we scream and we're easily provoked into a fight.
But if a man ever hit us and tried make it se... (read in full...)
Me and my cousin are flirting a lot. I want to have sex with her...
Q. okay i am 15 and my cousin is 14 and every time we're together i can't stop thinking about her and we always flirt every time we're together like at our family cottage me her and my sister slept in the top floor of our bunkhouse and me and her were ...
A. 6 July 2008: No sweetie, the consensual age is 16 - I'm Canadian as well.
And I'm NOT going to help you seduce your cousin! That's wrong! Is she your first cousin? That's blood family buddy, you don't breed with that! I would be more understanding if you were... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said I took her virginity, but I read her diary and it appears she lied...
Q. my girlfreind clams that i took her virginity but her diary say different and she also lived with a guy for a year in a one bedroom apt before we met. at first she told me that she was with 8 people before we met but when i flip out about it she ...
A. 6 July 2008: Why would you read her diary? That's a NO, sweetie!
She probably told you, you were her first to make you feel better! Not for you to mistrust her and snoop around in her things!
Obviously, you're very jealous of her past but I don't think you ... (read in full...)
A married man has said he is interested in me, and I am interested in him...
Q. Hi All A married man wants me to have an affair with him. He told me he was married straight away and that the decison was mine to make. I really liked him instantly and thats never happend to me before. I know that it's wrong but i dont think i c...
A. 6 July 2008: All I have to say is think about what you're getting yourself into:
Not only are you advocating breaking up someone else's marriage for your own (selfish!) desire, but you're also becoming the woman on the side.
Do you really want to be this ... (read in full...)
Financially dependent on her, using her for sex, hating myself, what do I do?
Q. Wow, so I am in a really bad situation. It really sucks, and I feel like SUCH an asshole for not doing anything about it. Basically, I am in a relationship that I dont want to be in. I dont like her, I for sure dont love her, and I only am with her ...
A. 6 July 2008: Oh god, you asshole!
That had to be said - what the hell are you doing with this girl if you only use her as a sex toy and a piggy bank? Now you purposely plan on hurting her by having sex with someone else?! And then you hope she'll find out and ... (read in full...)
I get very emotional reading questions and answers here. I feel I'll never be in love.
Q. hey i am a 14 year old girl. i ahve noticed that lately i have been really emotional, like jsut a sec ago i was reading a question that ssays "what is love?" and i was reading the answers and i felt like "ill never be in love! ill never find a guy ...
A. 6 July 2008: Aww sweetie, you're only 14!
You'll find someone who loves you as much as you love him! Don't be so depressed about it at your age, there will be someone sooner then you know it - and if you don't have a boyfriend right now, it's not a big deal... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me as part of his social life!
Q. Hi. I dont know what to do with my relationship. I've been living with my partner for 7 months now and he wont involve me in his personal live. He says its because he has always been private but I want our relationship to be more open. He doesnt ...
A. 5 July 2008: I still say Dump Him.
What's there to be so defensive about? Does he not HAVE any friends? Are they drug dealers? All female strippers?
Excuses, excuses... He can only be defensive for so long before you start thinking "Why am I putting up wit... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me as part of his social life!
Q. Hi. I dont know what to do with my relationship. I've been living with my partner for 7 months now and he wont involve me in his personal live. He says its because he has always been private but I want our relationship to be more open. He doesnt ...
A. 5 July 2008: I agree with Emilyanswers; he either wants a personal maid...or a little piece on the side.
If he wants to keep you separate from every other aspect of his life, then tell him to forget about it - No one is that private without reason. Dump him... (read in full...)
I think we're heading for breakup - is that the right thing to do?
Q. This is a bit complicated. I've been with my bf for a year now and am living with him but I am at the end of my tether. We both work full time, I pay two thirds of the bills and do ALL the house work as well as looking after his kid at weekends ...
A. 5 July 2008: Have you reminded this boy that you're his girlfriend and NOT his personal maid? I'm sorry, but I think breaking up with him would be best for you unless he stops with the excuses and starts doing his share of work. Its not fair that you have to... (read in full...)
I saw my 44 yearold mother having sex - surely she is too old?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she had a divorce after long married life of 28years.She was shattered and had lived a lonely life all alone for a year in her small parental town. When I got setelled with good job in a bigger town she came to live with me in ...
A. 5 July 2008: My grandparents are still going at it - sorry sweetie, but 44 is NOT too old to still be having sex.
I understand why you would be disgusted to think of your mother - much less SEE- your mother having sex.
But I don't think you should hold it a... (read in full...)
Who do I pick?
Q. hey im 15 years old and i have a big problem. I had a boyfriend for just over a month but we broke up recently because of his mate saying all this stuff and we just kept argueing all the time. There is something he doesnt no aswell. :( im not proud ...
A. 5 July 2008: You need to weigh your options here.
Think of the pro's and con's of being with both boys. You didn't give too much detail about either of them, except for the fact that the new guy is younger then you, is not a virgin and you find that he moves... (read in full...)
How do I win him back? He says there is no chance.
Q. Alright..my ex and I have been broken up for 1yr and 2 months now..our breakup ended badly..we continued to talk afterwards but that got pretty ugly and stopped talking..anywho..we just started talking this April (which was my doing..it had been 7 ...
A. 5 July 2008: My suggestion?
Don't get back together with him.
Jealous? Insecure? Cold-hearted?
You can't make a good boyfriend out of that, sweetie, no matter how much you love him. I'm sorry but I think you're better off on your own.
Even now this gu... (read in full...)
Anyone have any idea how we can arrange an underage marriage?
Q. Ok so I am under 18 and I have this boyfriend who is 38. He and I want to get married but I know my parents won't allow it. No body even knows about him. So my question is, what can I do to be with him? Legally I mean. We have been ...
A. 5 July 2008: This man is older then my FATHER!
He could be YOUR dad! He's a pedophile!
Don't marry him, if you can't bring your boyfriend home to meet your parents, there is no way in hell you can marry him!
5 months is not enough time to say you l... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with this guy?
Q. i have an issue i fell in love with this guy and or well at least i think i did and he wants to have sex but i havent had sex in years and im scared and i dont know waht to do about it. and he took one of my bffs virginty then lied about it so idk ...
A. 5 July 2008: "i have an issue i fell in love with this guy and or well at least i think i did"
You THINK you fell in love with him?
That word alone should be enough reason for you to say No, you're unsure about this guy and I don't support people having se... (read in full...)
Are girls who grew up without a father attracted more to "bad boys"?
Q. My question put simply: Do Girls who grew up without knowing their father (i.e the father left home when they were born) have a tendency to be attracted, and go with "Bad Boys" who dont really care for them, and ultimatly cheat on them and treat th...
A. 5 July 2008: I think it's more then just growing up with a father.
You know what they say: "Nice Guys Finish Last". Which is unfortunate for you, but you can't blame the girl's family for why she is shying away from being more then just friends with you.
... (read in full...)
Spit or swallow? Where should I spit?
Q. If I want to give my boyfriend head what do I do with the sperm? People say spit or swallow but I don't want to swallow so where do I spit it?...
A. 5 July 2008: No.
Just no. You don't put it in your mouth at all! That's the best option, no spitting or swallowing involved!
I'm Canadian as well and you are UNDERAGED in our country! Do not do it.... (read in full...)
How can I persuade my friends to accept my relationship with my former teacher?
Q. Ok, so I have just finished school (I mean A levels - I'm 18), and I have got into a sexual relationship with my ex teacher since finishing school (we were really friendly for years whilst I was at school). He's 36, and a really great guy. I get...
A. 2 July 2008: They probably think it's wrong because you're still so young - he's twice your age!
But at the same time, you are allowed to date him, you're an adult now and you're no longer in the same school as him. So they should be supportive and happy, b... (read in full...)
I just found out that he cheated on me...do we still have a chance of being together?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 14month now and we have set a date to get married wich is next year but i recently found out he cheated on me with my best friends little sister i feel so disapointed and let down do you think we still have a chance ...
A. 2 July 2008: Personally, I believe 'once a cheater, always a cheater.'
Besides, you've obviously forgiven him for not dumping him the second he confessed what he did - what's to stop him from cheating again, because now he assumes he can get away with it?... (read in full...)
I need makeup tips to start the 8th grade!
Q. I really want to start wearing makeup. Like eyeshadow, mascara, eyeliner and lipgloss. I'm pretty sure my mom will approve because I'M GOING INTO 8TH GRADE!! ***I REALLY need LOTS of tips and advice!!!!*** PLEASE AND THANK YOU!!!!! xoxo...
A. 2 July 2008: My rule with makeup?
Two at a time. Meaning if I only wear eyeliner and lipgloss or foundation and mascara or foundation and lipgloss.
Everyone who has said "less is more" is right.
I only wore eyeliner when I was in eighth grade and even no... (read in full...)
My bf thinks he will loose his independance if we get engaged!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. I always knew we wanted to wait till after we finished college to get married, but he has always said he'd want to get engaged whenever. Now he tells me that that was a lie and he said it ...
A. 2 July 2008: You can't "give him" his independence, it's his choice of how independent he wants to be; he's not your child, he's a guy - your age I'm assuming?
You probably scared him with all the talk of marriage - and no offense to you, but who wouldn't... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my husband's younger brother and had sex with him. Why is this so wrong?
Q. I'm a married woman in my 20s, I really love my husband. He's in his 20s also. We have a great sex life. Even so, I've been attracted to his younger brother (also in his 20s) since before we got married. Recently, his brother and I got a little ...
A. 2 July 2008: You did not just ask that.
I'm sorry, but I have to ask, but what vows did you have at your wedding? Did you pay attention at all during the ceremony?
Why bother get married if you're not going to be faithful to the man you "love"? It's no... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 2 July 2008: Congrats Andrew and congrats to everyone else on this site for making such a success!
Over half a million? That's unbelievable! - Well, actually, it's not, since it's happened and all... I'm proud to be a part of it!
I love DearCupid, Andre... (read in full...)
Anyone else turned off by the way some guys kiss?
Q. Is there a reason why some men when they kiss a woman every seems ok but when the lips touch there comes the hard tongue and they think is sexy and that makes them great kissers. I find it a turn off and is not seductive..I actually said to this ...
A. 30 June 2008: Ack!
I have one too many stories, the next guy who tries to stick their tongue down my throat, I'm going to step on his foot!
Way to test my gag reflex, it makes me want to quit drinking and see if there's something *I* did wrong.
Which ... (read in full...)
What's this weird obsession he has with my boobs?
Q. I've been seeing this guy now for 4 months, we have recently started to become intimate but havnt had sex as to be honest neither of us are ready. I'm 16 and hes 17 but he has this weird obsession with my boobs. I am really flattered that he like...
A. 30 June 2008: Quick question : What's your bra size?
My friend has huge boobs and everyone ( and when I say, EVERYONE, I mean) is obsessed with them. We make jokes about them, touch them (they're my pillows) , suggest midgets hold them up to save her back the... (read in full...)
Is my drinking, lying boyfriend using me?
Q. Hi, i'm with my boyfriend 2 years. He is very jelous and controlling. He doesn't let me go to the pub with my girlfriend, he ask all the time where i was what i do, callind all the time to check. he likes drink and argue with me to have excuse to go ...
A. 30 June 2008: Two words: Dump him.
This guy only loves his booze and controlling you - which isn't right. Even if he didn't have a serious drinking problem, I think he would still treat you like crap which isn't right.
This guy is scum, it's sad how you love... (read in full...)
Is it possible that she's pregnant??
Q. Hi all im a male aged 22. My girlfriend and i had sex(unprotected). She was on my lap and eventually turn to missionery with her on top. I ejaculated during da lap position. She asked how many times did i come inside her and it was only during t...
A. 30 June 2008: Do a pregnancy test, I think it's a little late for her to take a morning after pill.
There's a chance that she may not be pregnant, but you should find out as soon as possible, just in case you both are worrying over nothing.
In the future... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he show that he cares??
Q. Im 15, He's 16. We like each other, but were not going out just yet. We are on the verge of going out though. Im totally unexperienced, and he is experienced, he has had sex more than once, and i haven't gone out with a guy, i haven't even kis...
A. 30 June 2008: Sounds to me like the guy (who has been in 9 previous relationships) is enjoying being single too much and since you're taking things slow with him - he's speeding up the process with other girls.
If a guy really cares about you, you wouldn't... (read in full...)
Ladies: Tell me how you would react to this?
Q. Ladies..if I saw you for first time and bumped into you and said "can I just say something, your eyes are so pretty" and walked off? How would you react and what would you think? [Moderator note: major spelling and grammar corrections, next tim...
A. 29 June 2008: I would be surprised and probably stare at you funny like "Okay...Thanks?"
Then I would blush and watch you walk away, while feeling a little giddy inside - yet at the same time, wondering why the hell did you leave, I was falling for the pick-up ... (read in full...)
What should I do - she doesn't like roller coasters, should we break up?
Q. I've been going out with my GF for a year a a few months, i think she's great and we have alot in common.I found out recently that she doesn't like roller coasters (although she has only been on one). The problem is i absolutely love roller c...
A. 29 June 2008: Oh my God, she doesn't like rollercoasters?!
What's WRONG with this girl, clearly you've been extremely self-sacrificing in staying with her when she has such a serious problem...
Okay, now that I'm done laughing and making a fool of you.
... (read in full...)
Oi vay or what really grinds my gears!
Q. Oi Vay... " My bf won't love me unless i have perfect skin what foundation should i use??%$$%?^%%$" In the fatel words of a n00b.... " lolz " i'm sorry if this sounds like a Peter Griffin Rant about "What really grinds my gears" But WHY? ...
A. 28 June 2008: You amuse me greatly.
What's the point of this rant, really? You complain about "the hooker look"...yet you like it?
Don't tell me; you've hit on a girl to find out that she's secretly a radical feminist stemming from the 70's when they wanted... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is begging me to have sex with him, What should I do?
Q. I am 13 years old, my boyfriend and I have known each other since we were 4 but we only started dating last year. My b/f and i are really close, but he keeps begging me to have sex with him. I trust him alot, but i'm not sure what to do. Please h...
A. 28 June 2008: You both are way too young to be having sex, much less thinking about having sex!
Tell him NO!
If he keeps pressuring you; he's not worth it, he should respect your decision to wait until you are at least the legal age of consent before m... (read in full...)
No period yet. What can I do?
Q. hi im 14 and i havent stared my perid yet what should i do ...
A. 28 June 2008: Nothing wrong with being a late bloomer - trust me, I wish I got my period later.
There's nothing you can do but wait it out.
Trust me when I say, enjoy this period of your life while you can. (Pun intended.)
xo... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a father, I need your guidance.
Q. Need advice, I recieved an email from a girl I slept with about 6 weeks ago, saying she is now pregant, wants to keep the baby and wants nothing from me and is willing to cut off all commuication. I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a fa...
A. 28 June 2008: Well.
Luckily for you, this girl offered you the perfect cop-out since you're not "ready" to be a father yet. She wants nothing from you and is willing to cut you off completely if you want no part of that child's life.
That woman deserves a... (read in full...)
He's moving away, should I trust him?
Q. I have a boyfriend who live in the same state as me but different city. He use to live near me, and we been together for 3 months, and then he moved. i want to know if i should stay with him even those he is known for cheating on his girlfriends. ...
A. 27 June 2008: No, you shouldn't trust him - instead you should've dumped him the first time he cheated on you and not have given him a second chance!
In a relationship, you need to be able to trust your partner, no questions asked. He's moving to another ... (read in full...)
My mum wont let me stay the night at my boyfriends!
Q. how unfair is it to not let you'r 16 year old daughter stay at her boyfriends for one night? my mother wont trust me, even tho she was stayin over at my dads all the time when she was my age. she refuses me to stay over at my boyfriend. ho...
A. 27 June 2008: Please, that's not unfair.
It would be unfair if you were banned from seeing your boyfriend, for no reason whatsoever. It would be unfair if your boyfriend wasn't allowed to come to the house or you weren't allowed to go to his house.
A lot o... (read in full...)
He keeps hurting me--but I love him!! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend, after going out a bit told me if i wanted to go to his house and i said yes after a while of hanging out he was pressuring me to have sex with him but after i told him no he got really mad and start pinning me to wall and ...
A. 27 June 2008: No, no, NO, sweetie, he does not love you nor does he care about you at all!
And it saddens me to think that you're staying with him because you love him even though guys like that are not worth the effort you put into making your relation... (read in full...)
He was my friend with benefits, but now he has a girlfriend!
Q. i have known this guy that i really like for 8 years and we have been kinda freinds with benifits, now he has a gf and he says he loves me and doesnt really like her. a couple of dayz ago we had an amazing nite together where we were cuddling and ...
A. 27 June 2008: Leave him alone; he's only using you - he has a girlfriend yet he wants you to be his little piece of @$$ on the side.
This guy has NO respect for you whatsoever and honestly, you deserve better then that; you should know that you deserve better t... (read in full...)
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