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I should apologize from now if I ever come off as cruel, irritable or downright evil. It's not my intention, just sometimes, there are questions people should already know the answer to.
Most of my advice comes from observing the people in my life and using the advice I gave them to help other people - sadly enough, people rarely listen to me in real life...Even when I'm usually right.
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I think I was raped by the man I'm in love with... at 18.
Q. Hey everyone, I feel kinda scared and wierd asking this question but I'm so confused and I need help. Today after I got home from picking up my boyfriend from work, we ate breakfast and he was watching the highlights from the celtics vs lakers ...
A. 21 June 2008: Nice one Diovan!
Sweetie, if there's more then one person recommending you check that link out and more then 5 people, telling you to LEAVE this man, you should be listening.
You came to us for advice and this is what we're telling you.
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How do I get rid of this clingy ex?!
Q. What do you do about an ex that A: won't leave you alone, B: you let him get to you and you actually hang out with him, C: you have a boyfriend, D: you essentially cheated on your boyfriend with your ex and you feel like utter horse-shit because of ...
A. 20 June 2008: Sorry to tell you this sweetie; but you're not over your ex.
If you were, you would've been able to put a stop contacting him, you've obviously found a way to still spend time with him. And you cheated on your new boyfriend with him.
Being e... (read in full...)
How can I make her care and not think I'm pathetic?
Q. Look this is slightly long on complicated but any help would be appreciated. It's not necessarily an important problem, but I just need some quick advice. There's this teacher (and no I don't love her) but I've always had this soft spot. She's...
A. 20 June 2008: No offense, but you would not be weak if you decided to seek professional help. Teachers aren't qualified to help you, in the way you may need.
It would be a better idea to talk to someone other then your teachers, if they are discussing it with ... (read in full...)
How can I make her care and not think I'm pathetic?
Q. Look this is slightly long on complicated but any help would be appreciated. It's not necessarily an important problem, but I just need some quick advice. There's this teacher (and no I don't love her) but I've always had this soft spot. She's...
A. 20 June 2008: No offense, but you would not be weak if you decided to seek professional help. Teachers aren't qualified to help you, in the way you may need.
It would be a better idea to talk to someone other then your teachers, if they are discussing it with ... (read in full...)
When you have sex do you have to shave your pubic hairs or not?? Answers wanted ASAP!!
Q. um....i really dnt know how to saii this but...when havin sex, must you shave the area by your vagina or is this a major turnoff, or do guys like it when you have shaved there??? ...
A. 20 June 2008: I'm not going to answer this.
Don't have sex. You're a child. Do your homework.
Worry about pubic hair when you hit puberty and are legal age of consent. Please, I beg of you, don't go off having sex at your age, you are way too young to doi... (read in full...)
Why did she change her mind? Does she like me or not?
Q. i recently went on a school trip and everyone was in the living room. Slowly one by one everyone went to bed and me and this girl were left. We were lying next to each other on the sofa just talkin in the dark. She put her head on my chest and ...
A. 20 June 2008: Man, the bathroom break killed the mood.
Just go talk to her about what happened, you say it's been awkward between you two? She may have felt rejected, that you purposely left to end things.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Am I incapable of being in a relationship?
Q. Am I incapble of being in a relationship? Whenever a guy I have feelings for starts to show interest I start to pull away from the relationship. It is like the thought of us being together makes me nervous and sick. I have been recently talking...
A. 20 June 2008: I agree Minelisse, something's up - maybe an event in your past has now made you wary of getting into a relationship?
You need to figure out what it is, or you're going to end up pushing away every guy who comes into your life.
Until you fig... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of this clingy ex?!
Q. What do you do about an ex that A: won't leave you alone, B: you let him get to you and you actually hang out with him, C: you have a boyfriend, D: you essentially cheated on your boyfriend with your ex and you feel like utter horse-shit because of ...
A. 20 June 2008: Okay
A: Stop hanging out with him; you're only fanning the flames and making him think that you WANT him around! If you don't, avoid all contact with him! Hopefully, he'll get the hint...and if he doesn't, then just tell it to him straight. "I don'... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps lying!! I don't think I can trust him in any situation anymore....
Q. My boyfriend keeps telling lies. Firstly I didnt want him going to a lap dancing club with the boys as you always hear about what goes on in the back room.which he lied to me about going and came home 600 pound short. He used to do coke and lie ...
A. 19 June 2008: I'm sorry but this guy is loser.
Who blows that much money on strippers? Seriously, you give them dollar bills where I'm from, for a reason...
He also does drugs?
Oh come on sweetie, this boy is a waste of your time, dump him and move on with... (read in full...)
I've been engaged for 4 years and just started wedding plans... but... I don't want to marry him!
Q. So, I am 21 years old and I have been engaged to the same guy for 4 years now. We are finally starting to make wedding plans, but for about the last six months I have been absolutely miserable. I've put on a good face and told myself that everything ...
A. 19 June 2008: Stop the wedding!
Take the kid and go!
Don't worry about his family; if they know what kind of man he is (drinks too much? yells a lot? Warning Signs, anyone?). They'll go over it.
If you don't want to spend the rest of your life with him, ... (read in full...)
I have a small lump on my penis - what should I do??
Q. I have a small lump on my penis but I amafriad that if I go to the doctor that my penis could go hard. What should I do?...
A. 19 June 2008: Like everyone else has says...Go see a Doctor! They're the only ones who can tell you what's wrong.... (read in full...)
Is he too young for me do you think?
Q. I wonder if anyone can advise me on a startling new problem that's come up. Im 35 and single, never been married or had kids, and a few years ago got to know a lovely guy through some friends, who was 19. i found him really attractive and ...
A. 19 June 2008: Go for it. It's not like it's illegal for you to be with him. Age is nothing but a number anyways...
Enjoy!
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What makes a perfect dad?
Q. Hi me and my wife are having a child in October. Can anyone tell me what a dads role is? What makes a perfect dad? ...
A. 18 June 2008: Do everything the opposite of my Dad: Be there for your kid.
There's no real guide to show you how to be the perfect Dad. But you're on the right track for wanting to get it right.... (read in full...)
I think I was raped by the man I'm in love with... at 18.
Q. Hey everyone, I feel kinda scared and wierd asking this question but I'm so confused and I need help. Today after I got home from picking up my boyfriend from work, we ate breakfast and he was watching the highlights from the celtics vs lakers ...
A. 18 June 2008: Could you please re-read what you typed out and think of it from a different person's point of view?
That's not little things; that's him trying to control you. Just because he hasn't full out beaten you doesn't mean anything - what he's doing is... (read in full...)
Help!! What would you do? I am REALLY confused!
Q. I am so confused right now, basically i started going out with my boyfriend when i was 14 and for the first 3 years our relationship was amazing, really really good, we did everything together and we were so perfect and over the last year things h...
A. 18 June 2008: Wow, you've been together since you were 14? That's insane.
I'm sorry to say this sweetie, but I think your relationship with your boyfriend has run its course. Especially you've cheated on him TWICE and no one who truly loves their partner ... (read in full...)
I think I was raped by the man I'm in love with... at 18.
Q. Hey everyone, I feel kinda scared and wierd asking this question but I'm so confused and I need help. Today after I got home from picking up my boyfriend from work, we ate breakfast and he was watching the highlights from the celtics vs lakers ...
A. 18 June 2008: Sweetie, the second you say NO and he doesn't stop, means it's rape. That's disgusting what he did to you; you need to dump his ass. Right now! What he did was WRONG, he doesn't deserve to apologize or get a second chance. What worries me even... (read in full...)
I have an embarrassing problem - can you help me?
Q. Okay, this is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to me. My girlfriend, of nearly a year, and I experimented with oral sex the other day. She was amazing, I have never felt so much pleasure, but the problem is that I couldn't get, and ...
A. 18 June 2008: Here's what you do next: Take a deep breath and RELAX.
You may also want to make sure your girlfriend doesn't think it was her fault or she may never want to do it again.... (read in full...)
He asked me to offer him oral after anal sex, what do you think?
Q. I let my sexpartner do anything he wants when it comes to SEX. I enjoy anal sex with him and he is my only sex partner out of 5 years. One day he wanted to pull out after anal and put it in my mouth. I told him NO WAY thats nasty. Really which one ...
A. 18 June 2008: Ew, I'm sorry but that's just grody. Do NOT put blow him after anal sex, you can get sick from all the bacteria! Even having regular sex after anal can give you an infection, don't do it unless he cleans himself off.
Actually, I wouldn't recommen... (read in full...)
My friend is after my girlfriend! What can I do?
Q. one of my friends is hangin out wiv my girlfriend and puttin his head on her lap and being very obvious about it wot am i meant to do ...
A. 17 June 2008: Why is your girlfriend letting your friend put his head on her lap in the first place?
That's the first thing you should be asking, why is she accepting his advances?
You need to talk to your friend and tell him to back off. It's your girlfr... (read in full...)
My friend keeps pushing me over the edge and I don't know if she's worth having as a friend!
Q. I hate to be a backstabber and talk about my so called friend,but I need to.We've been friends since the 2nd grade, not the best of friends. We usually have arguments all the time. She makes fun of the way I talk. She says I talk and act like a ...
A. 17 June 2008: See, I never quite understood the whole "talking and acting like a white girl" thing. What is that supposed to mean?
Because you're black, you're supposed to sound like an ignorant slave? Ugh, don't kill me... Don't worry, sweetie, I get that all... (read in full...)
I'm confused as to what 'oral sex' means!
Q. When people talk about oral sex, what is it really. is it unprotected sex or what? im confused please help!...
A. 17 June 2008: oral = mouth.
Do I really need to go further?
You're 26-29 years old, have you ever heard of a blow job before?... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay for a 19 year old to party till late or travel to a different city with friends?
Q. I would like to know your opininon for the following question 1) Do you think its okay for a 19 year old to party out with her friends until late in the night (say about 3 am) 2) Does she have the right to plan a trip with her friends to a dif...
A. 17 June 2008: If you want to move out; then go. You're an adult and if you want to prove that you're mature enough, get a job, save up and move out. Your parents can't stop you.
However, if you know from now that it's going to be "a total disaster" then tha... (read in full...)
What do you think about a guy who dumps his girlfriend because his friends do not like her? Is this not wrong?
Q. How important is it for guy's friends to like their girlfriends? If your friends do not like your gf, would you dump her just because your friends do not approve? I can understand if a guy dumps a girl because his friends don't like her due to ...
A. 17 June 2008: That's actually pathetic.
If his friends don't like his girl, big deal. It's not like they're all dating her, just him. She's obviously "cool enough" for him or whatever, so just leave them be. He alone has to deal with her, not them.
The mai... (read in full...)
He's breaking up with me so...is it okay to still have sex with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I are going to break up on a mutual decision even though I dont want to but he doesn't want the pressure of having a girlfriend. We still love each other more than anything in the world though. Is is alright if we still have sex? ...
A. 17 June 2008: It doesn't sound like a mutual decision if you don't want to break up, but he does.
And I'm sorry but a man who "loves you more then anything in this world" would not be breaking up with you because he can't take the pressure of having a girlfrie... (read in full...)
Should females tell their male partners the truth about their sexual past?
Q. I read loads of questions about this and seen it myself with a freind, Should females not tell their male partners the truth about their sexual past? if they're going to freak out what's the point? My workmate once boasted to me about how many b/f ...
A. 17 June 2008: If you know the guy you're with is going to freak out and take it badly - don't even bother telling him, he's not going to listen when you explain and it's just going to cause problems with your relationship, ie; lack of trust even if you've been ... (read in full...)
How do you spot a guy who wants to use a girl for sex? Also, why would they pick a hard target??
Q. I always thought that if a guy was gona use a girl for sex that he would try sleeping with her on the first date and if he didnt get anything, he would turn away and she would never hear from him again. But now I'm thinking maybe guys who use girls ...
A. 17 June 2008: They're not going to go for an easy girl, because there's no chase - which is what guys like, the harder you fight them away, the more they're going to want you and hope you eventually give in.
If he's a jerk, he's going to love you and leave yo... (read in full...)
What's the main reason men cheat?
Q. Y do MOST men CHEAT? What gives them a reason to have more than 1 women? I no theres alot of reason but whats the MAIN reason? Does SEX plays a BIG role in a relationship?...
A. 17 June 2008: Like happytochat said, men who cheat are usually insecure and have low self esteem.
They believe that having love from more then one person will make them love themselves and make them happier - but as you can see that doesn't work, it makes thin... (read in full...)
My sister's boyfriend kissed me. What should I do?
Q. im 14 years old. i have a sister that 18 that talks to this guy thats 21. he treats my sister like his own sister. he gets her anything she wants. a couple of days ago he went to my house to see my sister. he told me to stay outside with them. then ...
A. 17 June 2008: "i really like this guy. and he like me. "
Sweetie, that's your sister's boyfriend. You need to back away from him and tell her what he did, that's a 7 year age gap and I'm sorry to tell you this, but he probably only wants to mess around. ... (read in full...)
Something I might regret later?
Q. i have a thing with this guy; were like really close and all but he wont ask me out cause i'm moving in august =/ and we have phone sex sometimes but now that we started to hang out more we get more "physical" . if you know what i mean. i really w...
A. 17 June 2008: It sounds like you want - but at the same time, you're unsure.
Don't do it if you're not absolutely positive that you want to sleep with him, you'll only feel regret when you move.
Spend more time with him and fool around a bit if you choose. I... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm only with him for sex...
Q. Is there a way to decrease a persons sex drive? I'm horny all the time and it's causing tension with my boyfriend because he thinks I'm only with him for sex, I want to prove him wrong....
A. 17 June 2008: Think you can control your sex drive for a day or two to prove to him that you're not always trying to get him in bed?
Have you ever told your boyfriend, what you're going through? He may be more understanding if you tell him that's it's because ... (read in full...)
I let the love of my life go and didn't even realize it.....
Q. I let the love of my life go. I knew there was a better opportunity (work) for him and decided to take myself away from the situation so that he would go and realize that he really did love me and want to be with me forever. HUGE MISTAKE!! He now...
A. 17 June 2008: If he's invited you to come see him, then you should go. Maybe he wants to see you face to face to talk about your situation.
It sounds like he opened up the way for you to come to him, but you didn't want to.
You should go visit him and te... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay for a 19 year old to party till late or travel to a different city with friends?
Q. I would like to know your opininon for the following question 1) Do you think its okay for a 19 year old to party out with her friends until late in the night (say about 3 am) 2) Does she have the right to plan a trip with her friends to a dif...
A. 17 June 2008: I'm a little curious why you're asking this...
But I guess it depends on the maturity of the 19 year old in question. Is he/she responsible or do they tend to get themselves in trouble?
But considering in most countries I know of, 18+ years ma... (read in full...)
Is it just me, or is anybody else disturbed by 10-13 year olds giving out blow jobs?
Q. I've been watching this board for a couple of days now, and I have to admit that I am shocked at the number of 10-15 year old girls that are asking questions about boyfriends, sex and blowjobs. Is this the norm these days that children start this ...
A. 16 June 2008: Am I the only one who DOES NOT put things in her mouth when she does not know where they've been?
Yes, I AM disturbed about these young girls giving out blow jobs, especially the 13 year old who posted here and was completely nonchalant about it... (read in full...)
He has been violent to me will he change?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend over a year now, and we just had a child together a month ago. He the nicest guy I have ever met and treats me better than anyone I know. He is a very easy to get along with, my friends like him, and my family loves ...
A. 16 June 2008: Take that child and GET OUT.
He's NOT going to change, no matter what you do; there's nothing you CAN do with men like that.
I understand that you love him, but honey, love doesn't make a man like that stop what he's doing or realize that his... (read in full...)
The affair with a married man emotionally messed me up, should I end it with him?
Q. I was recently dating a married man....even though i developed strong feelings for this man...i always knew that it was going nowhere....and I never expected much from him..i do feel like i gave more than what i should...but the point is that we got ...
A. 16 June 2008: Just keep the ties cut is all I have to say.
The second you contact him, you're going to get yourself sucked back in and feel even worse then you do now. So pick yourself up and move on in life, you're young, you'll be fine.
There's no po... (read in full...)
My wife and best friend have stabbed me in the back... Hod do you deal with something like that?
Q. I apologize in advance for the long story. There is so much involved, I know it's not as bad as others on this site, but it feels like a tragedy to me :( We had a simple disagreement a couple of weeks ago, laughable compared to some of the othe...
A. 16 June 2008: Confront her.
When she admits it (and by it,I mean, she's having an affair with your office mate), get your crap and anything of HERS that YOU got for her and leave. File for divorce.
It's women like her who disgust me so much; she used that ar... (read in full...)
In a relationship for no reason, and what do I do about my ex?
Q. I was 'seeing' this guy for 4 months when he ended it with me. I now have a new boyfriend, but am still hopelessly in love with him. I think i partly started going out with my new boyfriend to spite the guy i was seeing. The guy i was seeing l...
A. 15 June 2008: Oh no sweetie, don't even go there! Don't use someone else to get to a guy who's obviously playing with you and only wants more sex, no strings attached! Break up with the boyfriend you don't really like. Cut off contact with the Jerk who's GOIN... (read in full...)
My mum caught me out trying to lose my virginity!
Q. i've known my new bf for months and we good freinds and have been going out for 2 weeks and i decided to lose my virginity with him am almost 17 and been waitin for right person so i said i was stayin at a mates to my mum well she foned later and ...
A. 15 June 2008: Wow.
Well when I first saw this, I thought your mother actually WALKED IN ON YOU. Now, that would've been bad..
I think right now, you need to give your mother some space and then talk to her when she's a little less... angry? Think of it from h... (read in full...)
I've just been dumped - what do I do?
Q. My ex broke up with me! He just did! I feel awful!!! I'm in such pain!!!!!!! HE seems so conten with the decision... it's just we'd had issues a lot of issues because he couldn't trust me because of my past and because I lied, so that made us fig...
A. 15 June 2008: First of all: GET HELP.
And I mean, mental help, self harm is serious (I'm a cutter, I know what I'm talking about) and obviously, that is one of the reasons you and your boyfriend didn't work out.
However, I wouldn't recommend you being in a r... (read in full...)
What are these "bumps" on her vagina?
Q. my question is pretty major. My Girl Friend doesnt want to have sex because she has bumps on her vagina, ive seen it myself. they are almost like pimples, but only occur on the surface and are nowhere by the "inside" of her vagina...do you guys have ...
A. 15 June 2008: If she shaves, it could be razor bumps...
But what are you doing checking out her vagina anyways?! You're a child; not a doctor - which is the only person who should be checking that out!... (read in full...)
Watching lesbian porn with my boyfriend, and I'm enjoying it!
Q. me and my boyfriend have recently been watchin porn togther before having sex and my boyfriend likes to watch lesbian porn because it turns him on alot more, but recently ive noticed that i quite enjoy watchin lesbian porn and it turns me on alot ...
A. 15 June 2008: No, you're not a lesbian! So you enjoy watching girl on girl - it's hot. Enjoy and don't worry.
If anything, you're bisexual...or bi-curious. Either way, there's nothing wrong with it.
If you feel like you want to explore another side of your... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my size. Is it still puppy fat?
Q. Hi there, this is more of a health question. I am 12 years old and 13 next year, and I am worried about my size (*hears all the people reading this sigh because this is written at least 50 times a week*) I know i am not fat, but i also know that i...
A. 15 June 2008: You're growing up. With all your activities, I'm pretty sure it's not puppy fat, you're getting curves, boobs, the whole shebang!
You're just developing faster then your friends. Don't worry about it. You'll get used to it and you'll LOVE having c... (read in full...)
Can a leopard ever change it's spots?
Q. Dear Cupid, For the past two years i've been involved in a long distance relationship with a guy who could very well be the reason for the word 'player'. In the past I've had suspicions that he's cheated on me and a year ago he even left me f...
A. 15 June 2008: I never recommend long distance relationships because there's that TRUST factor. You never really know if he's being honest with you or not.
But if you really love him and you truly believe that he can change (I'm sorry, but I don't, once a cheate... (read in full...)
I want to tease my boyfriend down the phone. Any ideas?
Q. I want to really tease my boyfriend down the phone. I know it sounds silly but has anyone got ideas?? ...
A. 15 June 2008: I agree with Diovan Lestat!
Just add a husky laugh for when he starts gulping and stuttering on the phone...
and he'll probably be banging down your door in about 5 minutes.... (read in full...)
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