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writes: A guy asked me if i wanted to be friends with benefits with him, and i never done it before, the only thing that worries me is that one of us could end up feeling more than just friend with one or otherand we are both in a relationship, he's not happy in the affection area, i am not happy with mine either.Nothing happened yet, i am just curious of the differences and opinions.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 If you're both in relationships, that's not called "friends with benefits" that's cheating on your partner.
Be more worried about your current relationship then getting involved with someone else on the side who's going to make things more complicated - there is a chance you'll develop emotional attachments to him and I assure you, you will end up getting hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Friends with Benefits is really only an option for single people. If either of you is currently in a relationship (see Lazyguy) it is called cheating and that's just not nice.
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reader, eddie +, writes (21 June 2008):
 What is your definition of the word "friend"? Friends go shopping and share interests. This is about sex because if you weren't sleeping with him he wouldn't be so interested in your friendship. Don't be a cheater anymore.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 It is called cheating by having an affair.
If you are not happy in your relationship, end it or fix it but do you really think having an affair is going to improve things?
And people, women especially, tend to have difficulty keep emotions out of sex. Friends with Benefits is an incredibly good idea, for guys. Sex without any effort. A mistress you don't have to maintain, a lover you don't have to seduce. Just sex.
Do you want an unhappy relationship, now ruined because when he finds out about your affair it will have no hope of rescue and become a sextoy as well?
This is going to end in tears.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (21 June 2008):
 As with any close, intimate relationship, there is the danger that one person will start to desire more from the other one. As the old saying goes, love isn't sex and sex isn't love. That said, if you think you can keep your feelings out of it, go for it, but it's often difficult. Also, both of you have to keep the same level of objectivity about this otherwise somebody's going to start feeling a little closer to the other... then start down the path of thinking that it could develop into more than FWB.
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reader, XxAnGelXxx  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 All i have to say is priorities. You should be more concerned about your current relationship than how a "friends with benefits" relationship could progress into some sort of emotional attachment. If anything i'd say you should be asking for advice on the relationship your in at the minute.
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