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writes:i have an issue i fell in love with this guy and or well at least i think i did and he wants to have sex but i havent had sex in years and im scared and i dont know waht to do about it. and he took one of my bffs virginty then lied about it so idk if hes gunna lie or tell everyone or keep to himself. im so scared but i have condums and everything. HELP please!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Stay away from this guy; he is going to use you for sex; you deserve better then that; wait untill you are totally ready and in a loving caring relationship; with somebody that loves you, respects you; do not become a STATISTIC in his record book;
You have integrity and dignity; tell this guy you are not into having sex with him;vow, he will try and convince you different; but unless you are in a longstanding loving relationship; don't give him what he is looking for; let him go find it somewhere else;
Be strong; best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Don't ever sleep with someone because they want you to, sleep only with someone that YOU want to sleep with. It is a hard habit to break, trying to please others, but it is so worthwhile. When you treat yourself with respect, others will respect you too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Do you like feeling like this? The rush, the anxiety, the rollercoaster of emotions, but the fear of betrayal underlying it all?
Well, imagine increasing everything, but that fear of betrayal becomes knowledge of ACTUAL betrayal. That's basically what you'll get if you go after this guy. That, and a pregnancy & STD risk. And a worse reputation & friend situation. Does that all sound good?
You hear this from us, and you seem to sense this on your own too. I think deep down you know how it works. If you wanna go get hurt, go ahead. Nothing anybody says here is gonna stop you if you've made up your mind.
But you'll have nobody but yourself to blame if you get hurt. Don't cry about the way he is later when you knew he was like this from the start.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 July 2008):
If you are scared and think he maybe a lying scumbag then stay the hell away from this guy. You are having bad feelings for a reason. You know it's going to end badly.
Follow your instincts and tell him it's never going to happen.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 "i have an issue i fell in love with this guy and or well at least i think i did"
You THINK you fell in love with him?
That word alone should be enough reason for you to say No, you're unsure about this guy and I don't support people having sex when you don't have strong feelings for each other.
Don't sleep with him, obviously he can find a lay somewhere else.
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