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writes:Hi, i'm with my boyfriend 2 years. He is very jelous and controlling. He doesn't let me go to the pub with my girlfriend, he ask all the time where i was what i do, callind all the time to check. he likes drink and argue with me to have excuse to go out and drink.he is abusing me on the street in the front of people, shouting to make me feel 'how bad i am'.sometimes when we had argue and we have every month, he is agresive to me.he has his own place but he is staying with me everyday. Last time he lied me that he's gone to work, and he was at home and drinking. i had a key from his flat and came and discover that.it was like that one week, i was trying to talk but i didnt want take him to my flat because i didnt like when he is drunk. this last time i thought that he will understand and we will talk, but again was drunk. i was so mad that i said 'its over'. he was trying to talk after one day but his txt was without any apology and 'sorry'. i wanted him to feel guilty, but he made me feel guilty.i know that he really love me, and i love him. I am over 33 and he is 43, we both after relationships and we were planing our future to be forever. I believe in his love, but know he didnt call me, didnt txt me over one week like never before. I think as always he is trying give me hard lesson. Ps I was doing for him everything, cooking,cleaning, washing,iron his shirts.now i have what i deserve.agnes
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Two words: Dump him.
This guy only loves his booze and controlling you - which isn't right. Even if he didn't have a serious drinking problem, I think he would still treat you like crap which isn't right.
This guy is scum, it's sad how you love him so much, but he doesn't even love you enough to give you some respect.
Leave him while you still can, you'll be much happier when you have freedom and aren't being verbally abused on the street or being 'checked' on every 5 minutes because he doesn't trust you.
Take care and good luck!
xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): He actually doesn't love you. I don't think this man knows how to love a human. He loves his booze. That's about the closest he's ever come to true love. But you,,,no. He has too many issues, he was probably never loved and so he doesn't know how to love.
Furthermore, he is an alcoholic. People who have addictions have only one thing on their mind, the source of their addiction. You can't compete with that. No one can. He is already completely consumed with alcohol. He is incapable of loving you.
And even if he weren't an alcoholic, I get the impression he would still be abusive as hell. He's just a complete nut case, pretty much. I would advise you to leave him, but as you seem to think that what he has to offer you is as loving as can be, it might be hard for you to see otherwise. But for your own sake I hope you can open your eyes and find a better mate for yourself.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (29 June 2008):
 Probably best to get out of that one. Ive got a friend at the moments whos other half does coke and waccy baccy everyday, whilst she cleans his house and waits on him hand n foot. Shouts at her, making her feel a foot tall. And i think now she might be having an affair with someone else. I dont know for sure yet, and wont pry, but i think she is. You dont want things to end up that bad do you?
C xxxx
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reader, NIKI_9211  +, writes (29 June 2008):
hi there I had a similar situation. Believe me dont waste your time for this guy Firstly if he really loves you how could he ever insult you in front of anybody and I think a drunk person can never be true to any body. Leave him for a while and trying not to go where he is. If he really is yours he will come back else he is not worth it. You take care of your self life is not eorth crying for somebody who doesnt deserves you.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 June 2008):
Well sweetie you say all these bad things about him but you are choosing to stay and put up with it.
If you don't like it then get out of the relationship. He's never going to change while you are with him because why should he? He can drink and have all his housework done for him, and if you say anything he an just yell at you and you'll put up with it some more.
Stay and put up with it, or get out and be a happier, freer single gal.
Good Luck!! xx
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