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writes:hey i am a 14 year old girl. i ahve noticed that lately i have been really emotional, like jsut a sec ago i was reading a question that ssays "what is love?" and i was reading the answers and i felt like "ill never be in love! ill never find a guy who loves me!" and i jsut feel like lately ive been really wanting romance and a boyfriend. i havent had my period yet, and i am on mild anti depressants. sometiems i jsut long for romance and for a guy to just come up and hold me. is this normal? iv eonly had one boyfriend about 3 years ago, ive never been on a real date and ive never been kissed. this is driving me crazy and i feel so unsatisfied with my everyday life. please help! xoxo P
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reader, Aisha  +, writes (10 July 2008):
They are right. You are still young, give it time. I felt the same way when I was your age. I was 18 ys. old and in college when I fell in love.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 When I was your age up until about 16/17 I found I would easily get emotional and cry...I think raging hormons had something to do with that!!
Any little thing would set me off which used to be quite embarassing at times lol...
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reader, loveguru23 +, writes (6 July 2008):
It's understandable if you feel that way..but you're still young. There will be plenty of guys in your life for you to choose. Right now, what you should do is make a fun list of the things you want in a boyfriend. And BELIEVE that you will get a guy like what you've asked for.
It definately can come true for you. :^)
Daniel Amis
www.relationshipadvice4you.com
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reader, sxcbabiegal +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Hunni your only 14. i know it seems that everyone is coupled up and happy together but some people dont even find love until their say... 40. you have your whole life ahead of you and dont try and be stuck on love the whole way through. Go out by yourself. and make sure that you can satisify yourself. just being alone. life isnt all about love its about knowing who we are and being happy with ourselves. dont think that you live only to be with a man.
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reader, KEY2URHEART32 +, writes (6 July 2008):
wow sweety it sounds like you have a lot going on at a tender age of fourteen. It is normal for you to desire the affection of another whatever your sexual orientation is. However, real love...true love begins with you. You have to love you first and if you don't feel good about your self you can not expect to meet anyone who is going to make you feel good about you. It sounds like you have a self-esteem issue which is common in alot of young lady's and women. But understand that you can overcome that issue by making yourself feel good about you. Take your focus off of meeting the guy who is going to love you until you start loving yourself. Once that happens you will attract the guy that will love you and if by any chance you meet a dog send him back to the pound because you deserve better...remember you love you and he should treat you with respect. Continue to take your medication as been prescribed by your therapist and best of luck in life.
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reader, Benny 1494 +, writes (6 July 2008):
 I know exactly how you feel. I was never the sort of person to fall in love but when i did it took me about 3 years to realise. I've never had a boy friend [sad i know] and i can completly understand what you mean when yuo say you want to be loved.
There isn't really anything you can do except wait.
I've found that spending time with the people who mean something to you [i.e friends and family] nd writing down your feelings. I've started to write a book and it helps me escape from the world around me.
ONe day you'll find someone who you love and loves you back and you'll be the happiest person on earth. Waht you've got to do until then is just wait and look at all the good things in your life! :)
Hope i was some help! xx
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Aww sweetie, you're only 14!
You'll find someone who loves you as much as you love him! Don't be so depressed about it at your age, there will be someone sooner then you know it - and if you don't have a boyfriend right now, it's not a big deal.
Relationships take a lot of time and commitment, it's not all hugs and kisses.
But the way you're feeling is perfectly normal, everyone goes through a time in their single life when they want to feel loved.
Instead of dwelling on what you don't have, think about what you do have. Spend some time doing the things you like again to get your mind off of it; I've learned the best way to battle depression is to keep yourself busy.
Hope this helps, feel free to message me if you ever want to talk!
xo
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