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writes:Alright..my ex and I have been broken up for 1yr and 2 months now..our breakup ended badly..we continued to talk afterwards but that got pretty ugly and stopped talking..anywho..we just started talking this April (which was my doing..it had been 7 months)..we talk and hang out periodically..which at some point hell bring up the past or make comments about guys (did I mention he was always jealous and insecure)..he's even a bit cold-hearted at times..but then there are those times when he'll push his pride to the side and tell me he misses me..spending time with me..and is very affectionate..he says there are no feelings that remain but I find that hard to believe..I still try although he says there's no use..but to be honest I think he's playing hard ball to see how serious I am..its frustrating..but I must admit I do love him(* when we broke up it wasn't bc i cheated..i was completely faithful..I found out he was flirting and talking to someone else..and I overreacted..and after we were broken up he was upset that i had talked to someone else)I just want to find a way to break through that barrier..and win his heart over againany suggestions?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 July 2008):
You still want him back and he may be confused about how he feels but at the moment he is just keeping you running in circles around him by giving you crumbs of affection and then telling you it won't happen.
My advice is to forget him. Move on. If he makes jealous comments then point out that he had his chance to get back with you and said no. He might realise what he is losing and make his mind up to give it a try. But it's more likely that he'll just be more horrible and jealous but still not want you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 My suggestion?
Don't get back together with him.
Jealous? Insecure? Cold-hearted?
You can't make a good boyfriend out of that, sweetie, no matter how much you love him. I'm sorry but I think you're better off on your own.
Even now this guy is treating you like garbage - making jealous remarks about other guys? HELLO, you're not together any more, it's none of his business!
Then he turns around and starts being affectionate? But at the same time going, "I love you, I just can't be with you?"
Pardon my French, but that's Bullsh*t.
He's just playing with your head and your emotions. Which isn't fair to you hun, I think you should go looking for someone else - someone who'll treat you ten times better then this guy!
xo
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