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*haremywife
writes:Himy wife are i are 26 and have been married for 3 1/2 years. We were each others first but both had one other sexual partner before we started officially dating and eventually got married.My wife has recently lost a lot of weight she had put on due to a medical condition and she is feeling very sexyand confident. She recently told me she wanted to experiment a little and had a fantasy of me hiring two well hung male prostitute for her to have sex with.At first i thought this was just something that turned her on but yesterday she asked me to organise it when we went interstate next month. She wants both guys to be well hung (over 8 inches) in their early thirties and to spend the night with them. She doesnt want me to be there.I am torn about this. I want her to do what she wants and the idea of her being with other men doesnt make me jealous outright. But i dont know how i will feel on the night?Your advice please.
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reader, fab40  +, writes (28 September 2008):
Are you kidding me? What type of woman would do that to a man that she is supposeably in love with? Or is she In Love with you or does she does love you? There is a difference. But never the less a woman would not seek pleasure somewhere else if she was in love with you, and getting pleasure from you. You must tell her what it would do to you, and I can say that after this venture she has with these two prostitutes I can gaureentee that your marriage will never be the same. If there is no trust then you have nothing.
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reader, Sandman +, writes (28 September 2008):
 I totally understand why and how you can be torn on this issue.
In relationships, we strive (well at least most of us) to make our partners happy and will do almost anything to ensure their happiness. Sometimes this involves doing things that doesn't necessarily make us happy but we definitely don't like it. In your case, your wife wants to indulge in a fantasy. Jealousy aside (which you state you are not), I would tell her no.
Fantasies should be left at that, just a fantasy. There's nothing wrong with having a fantasy or playing it out - with your spouse. I am all for fantasies, but only between the two of you. When you step outside of your marriage to indulge your fantasies, you are setting yourself up for issues later.
What if she likes the fantasy? I mean REALLY likes it! What if she decides she wants to do it again? And again? What will happen to the intimacy you two once shared, together? Will you now and forever have to share your wife with other men? Will their large penis size intimidate you (for some men, this is a REAL issue)? Will she want them only because they are larger than you? Does the idea make you uncomfortable?
I think the last question, more than any of the others is the one that should hold the most weight with you. If allowing her to indulge in this fantasy causes you to feel uncomfortable - or worse yet, feeling regret later on, you need to talk to your wife and tell her your feelings. Open communication is first step to a continued happy marriage.
And if she wants to have this fantasy, YOU can give it her - not some other men. I know it's not the same, but there are sex shops that sell penis extenders and other types of penile prosthetic's (I believe they just slip over your own penis adding extra inches to your own). Role play. Tell her you'll meet at a bar or something and you'll "pick her up". Go through the whole song and dance: buying her drinks, talking about where she's from and all that. After a while, allow the conversation to become sexual. Start telling her things you'd like to do to her. Allow her to feel your crotch so she can feel the size of your "member". Flirt heavily with each other. When you get home (or to a hotel, however you want the fantasy to play out) have sex with her with the enlarger on. It won't be a truly real penis, but she will still be penetrated by a larger member - and hopefully will get the same pleasure from it. Only it will be with you and not two other men.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): You'll have problems with it. How can I possibly know this?
Because you're unsure of it now - it doesn't make you jealous *outright*, but uneasy enough to write here about it. This is with *just* your imagination working, not even a realtime situation occuring. Reality is different than fantasy, and this is for men who HAVE the fantasy of their woman having other men. You don't write like you have this, so I'm predicting that you'll have real problems once you hit the barrier of "Oh GOD, this is real!!"
I'd say, time for the two of you to compromise. If you're OK, she gets two guys - but NO overnight (for just a nice sex encounter, why sleep with 'em?...), and you want to be one of the guys. Since you're willing to entertain her fantasy, any reason why you shouldn't be included?..
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