Anything we need to do before going to our first swingers party?
Q. Hi my wife and I are intrested in going to a swingers party to try other partners. She would like to try a younger guy again. We have discussed it at great length and feel it would be a great turn on for us both to watch each other with someo...
A. 22 July 2009: First, I'd not venture too far to find a party. First, you'll want to find a location you both like and that you're comfortable in. People tend to travel farther than they should, and there are a few stories of folks bumping into the neighbors, ... (read in full...)
Why cant I have 2 wives if both women love me!?
Q. why i cant have 2 wifes if both woman loves me and i love them , and who made that law for us and what is the sense of it? as we all know that woman get another kind of feelings and therefor man and woman fall in love and make a new life and they ...
A. 21 July 2009: you can certainly do this, but the legal "marriage" may have to be worked around. You may have to enter into a contract to grant each wife an equal share. One down side I didn't see mentioned, there will be days when they are both upset with you - ... (read in full...)
Does it hurt to get fingered?
Q. my boyfriend wants so finger me but im still a virgin and ive never used a tampon, so im affraid its goin to hurt, can anyone help me please?...
A. 21 July 2009: I agree, you need to see for yourself - but for more reasons than knowing about pain. Girls need to be able to instruct boys how to pleasure them. Like it or not, boys are built to get off. Pull on it till it's hard, then pull till it's soft... ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my best friend?
Q. I am 13 and my best friend (he's a boy) tells me everything... the other day he said to me he thinks he is ready for sex... i said i think i am too... later on he asked me if i wanted to have sex with him and he wants it to be with some he trusts ...
A. 21 July 2009: No, your friend could be charged with a sex crime, and this could ruin his life... laws vary, but it's not uncommon for young boys to get charged with "sex with a minor"... image him in 10 or 15 years, no job, can't buy a house, can't rent a flat ... (read in full...)
My husband get angry, throws things and sometimes hits me, what should I do?
Q. hi there, ok my question is more of a long story that i need advice on my husband has this thing where i cant do anything right he will give me a list of things he wants done before he gets home and i will do my best to finish them but he never be...
A. 21 July 2009: Listen, he's never broken a bone, or knocked you out... wait until that happens so that he can see that he has an anger problem.... OH WAIT, are you NUTS! Get the hell out of there... you're dying one day at a time in that environment. If... (read in full...)
I'm a bisexual girl but don't know how to flirt with girls yet. Help!
Q. Well i'm bisexual but pretty inexperienced when it comes to meeting, reading and dating girls still, i've only had 1 girlfriend which didn't turn out so well since there was no real connection in the end and i wasn't really attracted to her just ...
A. 20 July 2009: If you're in a big town, you can always got to a lesbian bar. Just be careful, there will likely be the entire range of gals there... fems, butches, and girls on the prowle for the fresh meat. In 24 hours would could have a girlfreind living with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took me to a swinger's club !!!
Q. My boyfriend and I went to a swingers club and he wanted to join a couples room of course not knowing what it was I said yes the woman opened the door and there was like six couple having sex or just oral sex. I told him I couldnt do this and he ...
A. 20 July 2009: Did you know you were going to a swingers club? Did you know it was an "on premise" club - sounds like NO to the last question... at least... HE should ahve NEVER surprised you. This is very VERY rude, and insensative.
Odds are good he knew ... (read in full...)
I want to watch my wife have sex with another guy. How do I explain this to her?
Q. hi,my wife and i married for last 02 years,our sex life is really booring and i want to spice it up by dirty talk...but there is no response from her,she's very prety and sexy and she loves to wear like whore very micro skirt and low cut tops as she ...
A. 20 July 2009: Good luck - odds are really good that unless she comes up with the idea "on her own" you're not going to talk her into it. Try introducing her to erotica that has some group sex similar to what you want. Read the stories in bed together and talk ... (read in full...)
My husband caught me cheating for the third time. I can't help it. Would I be better "swinging" or with an open relationship?
Q. my husband has caught me cheating for the third time. i really love my husband but i cheat regularly. often an attractive man hits on me and i just can't resist and i am in bed with him. i explained this to my husband and i told him that i ...
A. 20 July 2009: Once you re-build the trust in your relationship you can consider swinging. However, keep in mind, in swinging it's about you and your mate having fun w/ others together (usually). Couples that you'll be trying to hook up with can develop a strong ... (read in full...)
How do I approach him about trying swinging or introducing another in the bedroom?
Q. Hi there! Well, I am in a 2 year relationship and things are just great. However time went by and sex just isn t the same but I'm a very creative person, so I have always lots of kinky ideas and games. My bf is a dear, really good looking and so n...
A. 20 July 2009: If he's the jelous type I'd not go there - work on your relationship, he's GOT TO BE 100% comfortable with watching you get pleasure from another man or woman. He could freak out either way, and possibly worse when he sees you enjoying a woman (men ... (read in full...)
My husband wants a threesome but says will respect my decision. Is he going to be satifsfied with just me?
Q. My husband of 9 months has suggested the idea of wanting to watch me have sex with another man, or having a mfm threesome. My husband and his x-wife had this kind of sexual relationship and he said it brought them closer together sexually. Fant...
A. 19 July 2009: keep this a fantasy. While is may work for a very very small # of people, group sex is not for most. dabbling in it has caused manay marraiges to breakup.
Few people can watch their partner screwing another w/o pain. I've been there, it was r... (read in full...)
She suggested a FMF threesome but now she is skettish about it, how to make her feel better?
Q. Girlfriend suggested a threesome with another female and now is skittish about it ,how do i help her feel better about it? i told her it was up to her if she wanted to. this isn't the first threesome, she had one before we got together and said the ...
A. 19 July 2009: You're at the age when this kind of play may work best, but it's complicated and can be damaging. She may simply want to experiment. proceed very carefully, this can be an emotional rollacoster. Lots and lots of talking - deep stuff, not ... (read in full...)
I want to try a threesome with another girl. How to get my husband onside?
Q. Ok, so this will probably answer itself, but I need advice. I love my husband with all my heart-never loved another man like him in my life. But I've been wondering what being with a woman would be like. I'm not the most "in shape" woman in the ...
A. 19 July 2009: I'd suggest strongly that your relationship has to be in VERY GOOD shape and the two of you need to talk through the "what ifs" very throughly before doing this. Done right it's a blast, done wrong (much higher change) it will distroy your ... (read in full...)
How to convince my wife to have kinky sex? And also suggest a MFM threesome?
Q. OK here it goes. I would like to know what I can do to get my wife to have kinky sex. What I mean by that is I would like her to put on a strap-on on and screw my ass. There are other things i would like to do with her but she shuts me out everytime ...
A. 19 July 2009: First, if this is a realy post (which I have my doubts), you can't convience your wife to do ANYTHING. You have to create a loving and safe relationship where the two of you can explore together. If you create a place where each of you can support ... (read in full...)
I cant tell him why we cant have anal.
Q. so my boyfriend wants me to have anal sex with him but i just keep saying no i don't to and not telling him the real reason. The real reason is because since I was little I have had IBS (Irritable bowel syndrome) (http://...
A. 19 July 2009: Tell him - if he's a good guy, he'll care. We all want our GF's to be healthy and happy. If you have a condition, he needs to know about it, so that he can be part of the solution and not part of the problem.
I totally understand why you woul... (read in full...)
Do girls feel anal is humiliating?
Q. Do girls feel anal sex is in some way humiliating??? My gf and i had anal for the first time last weekend, and in the middle of it she started to cry. Of course we stopped, but at that moment she couldn't explain why she cried. After thinking...
A. 19 July 2009: It seems as if you have a mechanical aspect of it down, so long as she was able to relax and let you enter her without long term discomfort. At first penetration, she's likely going to feel discomformt, but she shouldn't feel pain. As she relaxes ... (read in full...)
THe only reason I got with her is because I thought she was easy
Q. My girlfriend has kind of a sluty past, and I know shes a freak. Infact the only reason i got with her was becuz i heard she was easy, which she was extremely and also REALLY REALY FREAKY, but then while we were sitting in bed she told me a bunch of ...
A. 19 July 2009: you've grown apart, your young, it happens.
You're only obligation is to leave her in a better state than you found her (the old "campsite" rule). Dating at your age is to get life experienc- it worked, time for you two to grow - that will tak... (read in full...)
B/f of 5 years stopped sleeping in bed with me
Q. my boy freind of 5 years stoped sleeping in bed with me he is always makeing excuses of why he wont then i tell him stop making excuses and am told the he just dosnt want to he wont tell me why and i cant sleep with out him it realy hurts i know im ...
A. 19 July 2009: move on - this is not a sexual issue, he's not communicating with you. You can't be in a realationship without communication.
Get out before you get married and have kids. Find someone who want to share his life. 5 years may seem like a long a... (read in full...)
When is it time for boys to grow up?
Q. Just wondering when it is time for boys to "grow up" drinking-wise? I understand that guys (and girls) like to have a good time while they're in college/university, and tend to party hard, get very drunk etc, but when does that behaviour start to...
A. 19 July 2009: Ok, this situation may be more complex... first, at a young age many of us liked to party, but the behaivor you describe is beyond the normal. There's a possiblity that your BF is showing signs that his relationship with alcohol is typical to ... (read in full...)
Sick and tired of my stingy husband!
Q. Hello, I am posting here because I am so sick and tired of my husband being so stingy. We are both working and I am actually earning 800$ more per month than him. Together we are quite a middle-class family - total earning after tax about $6...
A. 19 July 2009: Did you not see this in him when you were dating? You're not going to be able to change this personality trait. He is who he is.
Good luck - find a cheap ground floor flat and save your money, let the kid grow up and is 20 years if you can'... (read in full...)
B/f constantly asking for money! Even called me in the hospital to ask for some!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in relationship for the past 3 and 1/2 years now (it's long distance: I don't know how we've made it work, but we did). And we both love each other very much! Last year my BF lost his job and as a result he has ...
A. 19 July 2009: The problem here appears to be that YOU DON'T WANT TO MAKE A HASTY MOVE. Good God- what's it going to take? This buy has become dependant on you, your nothing more than an ATM with benifits.
This is NOT a relationship - in relation... (read in full...)
What's the biggest reason why you divorced?
Q. I want ask people , who are already divorced, What was the biggest reason to do it? And if they had regret after all? I really want to divore, as my marriage can't be saved anymore, Tried all possible ways for several years I have nobody else,and ...
A. 19 July 2009: I found myself at age 40 in a divorce situation, as my wife had been sliding down a slow and painful road of mental unstability / illness. She'd started to live in her own "reality", and had begun doing things that we're a real problem. Long story ... (read in full...)
Why'd she make a sexual move and then say she only likes me as a friend?
Q. ryt ive been friends with this girl 4 over 2 years and recently ive started to like her. a few weeks ago she came to my house to watch a film, we were in bed cuddling and she kept stroakin my arm n holding my hand, she also put my hand on her boob...
A. 19 July 2009: Agreed, She seems ready for a bit of play, but not an emotional relationship. If you can keep those two things seperate, you appear to be in good position to have a bit of fun, but you'll not be allowed the relationship. At this age, women can ... (read in full...)
How do I handle my mom and her knowing about my sex life?
Q. so me and my mom used to be really close and open with eachother but for some reason we have been fighting alot more and ive lost alot of trust in her. But anyway she snooped through my phone and found out that me and my boyfriend are having sex and ...
A. 18 July 2009: Your mom needs to butt out of your private life. At 17 you need to be able to have a sex life, and it's not any of your mother's business OTHER than to make sure that you're on birth control and that you know enough about how to protect yourself. ... (read in full...)
How do I get over her and move on with my life?
Q. My ex and I were together for 4 years, I had the best time in my life with her she was my everything, the only person i trusted completely without a doubt. 27/11/08 she text me while I was at work to say that she had been thinking about o...
A. 18 July 2009: Sorry for all the pain and drama. The pain will fade in time, although it certainly does not feel that way now. I've been there, and it sucks. However, the best way to start the healing process is to let her go. Staying freinds, while it may ... (read in full...)
What's with the sudden anal sex craze?
Q. I'm 45 and over the course of the last 4 years I have dated 3 guys and each one of them requested to have anal sex. My boyfriend of 7 years before never asked for this........what's up with the anal sex craze and why is it so much better than ...
A. 17 July 2009: The Taboo factor is the first thing, but the tightness and heat are enjoyable. The act of sliding into a woman's ass is amazing. The heat from her anus feels hotter than her vigina (may be it's just me...)
There's a huge trust issue there as... (read in full...)
Some questions about anal sex...
Q. Can you get pregnant when having anal sex? Do I need to use a spermacide when I have anal sex? ...
A. 17 July 2009: Ok, folks, realtity check - my first GF in college got pregnant this way (by the guy before me). While it's rare, sperm can leak out and get into the vigina. It could have been carried their on a careless finger, who knows...
I'd suggest ... (read in full...)
Anal stretching?
Q. Does anal stretching cause long term damage to your rectum? I love receiving anal sex and have started playing with a large butt plug. Will I have to wear diapers later in life, or will my anus heal itself over time?...
A. 17 July 2009: Satindesire is right - unless you're "large" toy is insanly LARGE you should be fine. ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had any success with threesoms or group sex. Does the outcome always seem to be negative?
Q. Has anyone recently been involved in threesome activity or group sex? Does the outcome always seem to be negative or do some of these situations work out ok with little or no consequences? I am contemplating investigating how to meet up with ...
A. 17 July 2009: it all depends on the situation. If there are emotions involved and it's a relationship, it's a TON of work, complex and IMO only good for a few months to a year.
If all you're looking for is a hook up for sex, then the question is what are... (read in full...)
I'm interested in group sex, any advice?
Q. i am interested in group sex but i would like to know about the advantages and disadvantages of group sex and how can i enjoy more with different type of sex. my some friends and their wives are also interested to join in group sex with me and my ...
A. 17 July 2009: If you have an Ipod, get on Itunes and search for "swinging" there are many podcasts put out by swinging couples who share their experience in the lifestyle. The good, the bad, and the HOT... worth a listen if your interested!... (read in full...)
He's looking for group sex - am I fair to be feeling this way?
Q. i have found out that when we split up my ex partner went on a large site looking for group sex and couple sex and he never put his sexual orientation as being straight. I thought that i had a child with a decent heterasexual man but it seems that ...
A. 17 July 2009: You have a right to make sure that the kids the two of you brought into this world are safe and get quality time with both parents.
You ex's sexual fantasies shouldn't Come into play here. He may have simply joined the web site as a way of l... (read in full...)
Is it really ED or does he just find me repulsive?
Q. my partner suffers from errectyle dysfuction and for the last 12 months he has not only totally gone of any sexual contact he has also stopped holding or cuddling me and kissing me if i try to get a cuddle or a kiss he pushes me away,he refuses to ...
A. 17 July 2009: He may be shamed about his inability to perform, which is going to make it worse. Not talking about it is not going to make it better. You two need to work on this and it may take some outside assitance. What bothers me most is his "retreat" to ... (read in full...)
I can't afford to send my daughter to collee, how can I get help?
Q. I need some help to figure out university situation in Canada. How can you get around this law, that your child is not an adult, and you are obligated paying for their university? We wanted if he could get student loan, but refused, because...
A. 17 July 2009: Systems, be they higher education or medical care, have to prioritize the needs of the applicants and apply money based on some series of test that the politicians create in an effort to be "fair". This is the flaw in nationalized programs.
... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend is charging me with vandalism!
Q. Long story short, my bf cheated on me. i didnt know how to deal with this, ive been upset for the last two weeks so in a drunken rage i took red spray paint to his door (he has a door that leads outside) and painted CHEATER on it really big it felt ...
A. 17 July 2009: OK, first you say "his door" - but this is only true if he owns the house. If he's renting, then your problem is likely with the landlord. Either way, the way to make this go away is likely to make restitution. Pay someone to repaint the door & ... (read in full...)
He is constantly making comments that I'm cheating and checks my cell phone!
Q. I have been with my fiance for 4 yrs. we moved in together 18 mos ago. he no longer makes me feel desirable, which is damperin my self esteem. he used to make me feel so beautiful. we are intimate ocassionally but nowhere close to how much we used ...
A. 17 July 2009: GET OUT - and do so now... don't waste the money on a detective... it sounds like he got serious control issues, and you need to get away from men like this.
Look at him clearly, and in the future try to recognize these patterns BEFORE you get ... (read in full...)
How much porn is too much? I've considered downloading pics of naked me to my PC to let him see how it feels!
Q. I just got married a few weeks ago and I knew my husband looked at porn but I thought he was doing it just sometimes as is 2-3 times a week. I found out that he is looking at porn almost every day when he gets home from work and on Sunday when I ...
A. 17 July 2009: Ok, first, trying to inflict pain on your husband to show him how it feels, in an effort to make him change is a huge mistake. This tit-for-tat approach is very hurtful in a relationship.
Now, he's having sex with you, which hopefully is rewardin... (read in full...)
Is she a prostitute?
Q. Hello.Im writing about one girl that i know.She is very beautyfull-tall with straight black hair and green eyes and she is strange i think that she is shy a little.One night she said to me that two friends of hers will come to take her home with a ...
A. 17 July 2009: Wow, I wouldn't jump to that conclusion.
Engage her in conversation, ask her about her friends... talk to her.... if she is a sex worker; she may not come out and say it. *IF* she is, it doesn't mean that she may not be unavailable, but it may m... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mother I want birth control?
Q. how can i tell my mom that i want birth control...
A. 17 July 2009: First, if you have an older woman in you life, ideally and aunt, older sister or someone between you and your mother's age, consider talking to them. Getting on birth control in this day is almost a right of passage from being a kid to an adult. ... (read in full...)
Any ideas for a nice romantic visit to the beach?
Q. My boyfriend and I are going to the lake tomorrow by ourselves without any parentals around and i'm very happy about it. Since we'll be at the beach, and a lot of romantic things happen on the beach, I was just wondering, is there anything..special ...
A. 17 July 2009: Picnics are always fun, go prepared with a blanket, good food, something cold to drink, and what ever you need to be comforatable - sun tan lotion, bug spray, towels. if you can find a secluded spot skinny dipping can be fun! You don't mention if ... (read in full...)
I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!
Q. I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...
A. 17 July 2009: Ok, you were dating someone, broke up, she had sex (with others) afterwards, which she owes you no explanation of, and you're hurt. Since you seem to be hurting, and don't specifically say who broke off the relationship, I've got to assume that s... (read in full...)
Caught my son masturbating, should I buy him some condoms, sextoys and an informative book?
Q. just rececetly i caught my 13 year old son masturbating naked on top of his bed i saw his penis and pubes, this hasnt effected our relationship but i was wondering if i should buy him some condoms and other stuff like a masturbation and sex book or ...
A. 15 July 2009: buy him a sheep...and some gumboots...... (read in full...)
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