My boyfriend won't accept the truth that it's his!
Q. What should I do ?? Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6yrs off and on. im 19yrs old he is 29. I am 5mon pregnant. he is constantly dening that its his. About almost 2 months before I got pregnant I started seeing some one else due to ...
A. 16 December 2009: "He's not a pedophile, they have an ongoing relationship." WTF??? Who thinks that the fact that he's still abusing her makes it LEGAL??? You can NOT have a "relationship" with a 13 year old. The guy is a MAJOR CREAP....
Tell him that he can e... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "drunk dick"?
Q. I recently had sex with this guy and he was drunk... I did things with him sexually before and he could always "finish" even when I gave him a handjob ... but he couldnt when we had sex and it brought down my ego... he said it was beacuse he was ...
A. 8 December 2009: it's 100% real and has ZERO to do with you...... (read in full...)
Mom wants me to be with another race!
Q. Hi aunts, serious problem here... my mom is obsessed with me getting married to someone of a different race of my own, I am african american and she wants me to be with someone caucasian.. She has this thing against african americans because the ...
A. 17 November 2009: Wow, does she realize that she's a racist?
You're 18, an adult- and her baggage doesn't get a vote in your private life. We love who we love, reguardless of race. Fall in love with the person...... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's threesome is haunting me...
Q. My girlfriend recently let slip that she was involved in a threesome when she was 16. The threesome involved her older sister (age 23) and the sister's boyfriend. Some things can't be unheard or rewound and it is now driving me nuts. The words ...
A. 17 November 2009: she made some bad decisions - empathy and love are all it should take to support her and let her know you still love her! The past is the past, not an anchor...... (read in full...)
What are some cheating red flags?
Q. Hello, I have a suspicision that my bf did cheat. He may be doing it still (I doubt it). But something happened and/or he tried. Now I have decided to move forward because I dont have any solid proof and I like to give him the benefit of the d...
A. 16 November 2009: Having to "work" more (but has no more $$$), suddenly hanging with his (guy) friends... but you can't get hold of him on his phone like you used to... Guarding the cell phone, short calls, "can't talk now..", cleaning himself up before he gets c... (read in full...)
How do I change my mom's mind?
Q. im 16 and want my tongue pierced soooo bad! but my mom says no cuz its "trashy". 2 questions, how do i get her to change her mind and is it really trashy for a girl to have a tongue piercing? thanks! lovee, Laceyyy....
A. 2 November 2009: Yeap, it's TRASHY... unless you live in a trailer park, then maybe not, but since most of the women who get them appear to be stripers, who knows.
Your not going to change your mothers mind because she's right, which you'll know in around 18 years... (read in full...)
I love my family, but I don't like them..why am I this way?
Q. Is something wrong with me that I love my family but I dont like them? ...
A. 2 November 2009: Wow, you sound 100% normal !... (read in full...)
I believe I may be pregnant but part of me is unsure even after taking a pregancy test.
Q. I believe I may be pregnant but part of me is unsure even after taking a pregancy test. The reason is very simple, the man I've been sleeping with has had a vesectomy and we use condoms. Is there any chance that this man could possible produce a ...
A. 2 November 2009: Condoms are not 100% effective, and if he's actually had a vesectomy (he wouldn't be the first man to lie about that!), it's not all that complex of a procedure, but Dr's do test patents afterward.
I'd recommend getting to a Dr. ASAP, and let them... (read in full...)
Since I lost my job my marriage has gone downhill...
Q. I lost my job 10 months ago and since then my marriage has gone down hill. We have been married for 15 years and have 4 kids. We have lost everything we have worked so hard for. We just filed bankruptcy and our home is in the process of ...
A. 30 October 2009: Here's a relilation for the two of you... the worst is about to be over... your pile of debit and all the stress that proceeds bankruptcy and a foreclosure is about to be made alot smaller.
Clear the air, and see if you two can rally, and get ... (read in full...)
Am I giving off the wrong vibes that I cannot get a man?
Q. I've never had a boyfriend before but in college i've had my share of interactions with guys that only consisted of sex. Last month I broke it off with this guy who turned out to be untrustworthy. I completely put my all into making it work with ...
A. 30 October 2009: First, I met my wife when she was 40, and I'm her first husband. She's had boyfreinds along the way, but the last one was about 8 to 10 years before me... so, if you're out there and open to meeting people you'll make a connection one day.
I'm n... (read in full...)
Hes a wonderful man but is it possible to find a Prince Charming?
Q. I have been married for just over a year. I constantly think about whether my husband is the right man for me. I was never really sure about him, even when we were dating and engaged. I can't decipher whether this is part of the process, or if I am ...
A. 30 October 2009: Here's a reality for you... You can either put time into fixing this relationship, or you can go through the pain of ending this one, and the time to find your next BF. However, when you get to that point, you're still the same person, and odds are ... (read in full...)
Is 8 partners too many at my age?
Q. Im 20 and have been having sex since i was 17. i have had 8 partners and when i told my new bf he looked shocked. he said it was becouse im not loose down there. but i feel like he thought that was alot. is 8 partners at my age to many?...
A. 30 October 2009: I agree, NEVER disclose this... you can't win at this numbers game... go to your grave with the real number. If guys ask there are some snappy answers you could come up with, but all he needs to know is that "as of tonight I'm willing to add one to ... (read in full...)
Is Oxycotin to blame for his behavior?
Q. Hi well my question is abit difficult to ask but I will give it a shot.I will start by saying I was in a relationship which I fell in love with a guy and I thought he was in love with me.He had told me he was..but shortly after living together I ...
A. 30 October 2009: I suspect that there are multiple chapters in this tragety. First, if you're asking if oxycotin is the cause of all this, NO... if he's addicted to Rx meds, then he's trying to fill some hole in his gut. The SheMale thing is most likely a major t... (read in full...)
Overhead my boyfriend say he would have sex with some girl!
Q. I am 23 years old and am almost 6 months pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We love eachother very much. The pregnancy was planned, we both wanted and talked about it before it happened. I have a hard time tusting ...
A. 29 October 2009: I guess you best get him to clarify what a "very long time is"... once he gets the "itch" a couple of weeks will seem like a very long time... I'd suggest 21 years might be the right answer so that Mr. faithful and make 100% of the child support ... (read in full...)
Pleas from a friend...
Q. Hi, I have a female colleague, who is in a relationship and has a young son. Things have not been good in her relationship for a long time. We started spending time together outside of work and became really close. We have so much in common a...
A. 29 October 2009: As a guy who's been there, don't hold your breath for an explanation... odds are slim that she's going to tell you the story because she doesn't want to relive the expeience and possibly rethink her decision.
At 38 I dated a girl who I'd know sin... (read in full...)
Is it ok that I am 21 and she is 15?
Q. OK... If i am 21 can i go out with this girl that is 15 and she loves me and i love her. her parents like me and trust me, they don't mind if i go out with there daughter. I am a Cristian and i wear a purity ring and i am faithful to my promise with ...
A. 29 October 2009: There's simply too big of an age gap here. The one freind of mine that was in a realtionship like this (female) was seriously damaged when the relationship ended, and IMO never recovred. She's not been in a meaningful relationship and is now 35. ... (read in full...)
Is it true that men like women with a few more curves?
Q. My b/f and I have both gained about 25 pounds since becoming involved with each other 4 years ago. (What can I say, we both love to cook, eat and drink). But I've decided enough is enough and started watching my calories and making time to work out ...
A. 29 October 2009: There are no universal truths... no guys don't like blonds more than brunetts, or redheads more than blonds... guys like what they like... same with height, weight, nationality... name the trait and there will be men on this plant that LOVE it...
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I lied to her... and now she ignores my messages.
Q. I am i love with this girl that i saw a couple of times when i took a train. i found out about her from a common friend of ours.. He gave me her contact details and i contacted her, i chatted with her a couple of times under the pretense that i ...
A. 29 October 2009: You can't make her talk to you... Your best course of action might be to write a letter to her (note, I said LETTER, not Text, not email)- set yourself apart, and explain that you made up the story because you were impressed by her and simply wanted ... (read in full...)
I'm about to be bankrupt and homeless due to him. Should I take something from him? And tell people what's happened?
Q. Hello Have a question I urgently need answering. I am at the end of a pretty terrible 11 year relationship with a guy. He is goodlooking, very talented, intelligent, and can be amusing. He also had a really bad childhood where he got abandone...
A. 27 October 2009: so long as you tell the TRUTH, your on safe ground... don't embellish, no color commentary... just the truth.
"Sadly, I've had to make the hard decision to end this __ year relationship, due to overwhelming financial stress. I am going to focus... (read in full...)
Are my parents doing the right thing?
Q. Hello. My mum and dad are currently breaking up, although I have the feeling that they shouldn't be. Basically, my dad gave up smoking a year and a half back, but his job has gotten really stressfull. My mum had this happen two times before and...
A. 26 October 2009: Sorry for the upheaval. It sounds as if there's alot more to the story- your father loosing it, your mom throwing away valuable jewelery (which I would see if you cxan have someone retreive).
While it may not seem like it now, you'll come out... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's past: threesomes and drugs!
Q. Hi my names Sean and i've got a problem. My girl friends 26 and I'm 24. She's slept with around 30/40 guys a similar number to me. I'm not bothered by that, but recently we were talking about past experiences and she told me she's been involved in 2 ...
A. 26 October 2009: Don't judge her past, she's with you now, and you need to let it go. I'd be more worried that she expect a junkie freind to have access to your home. I'd draw the line, unless you want to come home to an empty apratment... she's likely to start ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with angry family members?
Q. Hi im having a bad time at the moment my brother pasted away 12 years ago and my family cant get over it my brothers daughter came to see us and she stayed with me because her mum only trusted me to take care of her and not say how he passed away ...
A. 26 October 2009: Move- and be around to support these little girls later in life. They're going to need a safe harbour and someone they can trust later... save yourself (and you immediate family) so you can be there for them later.
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Can I beat him at his own game?
Q. Hey all, Me and my ex split up a few months ago, his decision not mine. He's been leading me on ever since, giving false hope that we may get back together. He wants to remain friends but like I said sometimes he gives false hope of us getting...
A. 26 October 2009: Look, cut all ties, and go on about your life... the best revinge is living well- send his a post card in a year and tell him that all is great... or put him on your christmas card list... ... (read in full...)
How do I get through to him that it's not funny?
Q. soo me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 5 months now. we're jus coming back from a huge fight and break up and arent exactly together, jus working on things. so this weekend has been very good and we're happy, but today, i was at my ...
A. 26 October 2009: He sounds insecure, but you need to tell him that his comments are hurtful that he'd actually think that you'd even consider sleeping with your step-brother. He needs to develop some sensitivity about your feelings, and not be rude to you.
He ma... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex-fiance and now he's married
Q. i cant get over my ex fiance. i have tried really hard. when we were together he was very matter of fact and not emotionally caring. i did so much for him. we were together about 3 1/2 years. we got engaged together about 6 months after we met and ...
A. 25 October 2009: Stop wishing for a better past. Let it go.
You need to start anew and get on with your life, as your going to waste what should be very good years playing "what if...".
Cut off all contact with BOTH your ex's, and start to heal. If you st... (read in full...)
I've hurt my cousin and now I feel badly
Q. ok here it goes im 16 and mycousin is 19 we don't see each other very often but he is very protective the other day i went ouy drinking and my ex-bf(beater) texted my cousin he got really worried and told my aunt i got really mad i told him to fuck ...
A. 25 October 2009: You need to go face to face with your cousin and appologize.
Only then will you make any progress. Next time, think with a clear (unemotional head) before you whip out your phone and send a posion text message. Easy to do, hard to un-do - but y... (read in full...)
How do you tell guys you don't like certain things about them without hurting their ego?
Q. Well here's the thing. I am currently with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. He is about 11 years older than I am and I'm in my 20's. I am very happy with him he treats me better than most other guys but lately he's starting to be a bit controlling. ...
A. 25 October 2009: I agree with the above... here's more to consider...
It sounds like he's cheating and trying to make sure that you're not doing the same. He checks you cell phone, but you can't check his... sounds like he's feeling guilty and checking your tra... (read in full...)
Respect for your boyfriend or bucking a culture trend?
Q. My boyfriend seems to think that i don't respect him because i always have an opinion to everything he says.in our culture "men" get much more respect but i dont agree.could it be that im trying too hard to pass the message on to him?i feel so ...
A. 25 October 2009: If you have an opinon about EVERYTHING he says, then you're over opinonated... too much! No one can tollerate being around someone who wants to debate everything they say. It's OK for you to have an opionon, and to properly share it ... (read in full...)
I only touched it twice and he came right away! Is this normal?
Q. I have very little experience when it comes to guys, but me a this guy were french kissing and his hands were everywhere and I could feel he was exteremely turned on, next thing he had his pants down and put my hand on his penis and I only touched ...
A. 25 October 2009: It was normal when it happened! Odds are that he was so worked up it didn't take much to push him over the edge. Guys can come before you even touch his penis in this state. Age and experience will lessen this situation, so please don't make a big ... (read in full...)
I am a nice girl and I don't want to be.
Q. I have a problem with being too nice. I don't want to be too nice because I know sometimes I need to put my needs first. However, I find it difficult to let down a friend when they need me. It is just not in me to say NO. I question myself b...
A. 24 October 2009: you might want to read up on co-dependency... your people pleasing is not healthy for you, which you seem to understand. There are hundreds of good books on the subject, and I'm sure that a good used book store will have dozens of them, as should ... (read in full...)
Dating a separated guy, who's wife wants him back...
Q. I have been in a very loving relationship with a separated guy for just about 2 years. He was only living on his own for about a month, when he and I met. He and his wife were kind of separated for many years (not sleeping in the same bedroom) prior ...
A. 24 October 2009: Your BF needs to forward all her messages to his attorney and get an opinon as to what to do. I'd use this as part of the divorce, and possibly consider seeking custody of the kids. She needs to limit her correspondence with him to matters ... (read in full...)
Alcoholic husband is never there for me!
Q. i am married to an alcoholic. my son and his family of six live with us. i work 96 hours a week to try to make ends meet. i have bone cancer and i get so wore down. i am forever being told by my husband all the things he hates about me. he has left ...
A. 24 October 2009: Google An-anon and get to a meeting today! This is one of the greatest groups in the world, where you will find alot of women who have successfully dealt with EXACTLY what you're going through and will be able to tell you your story with-in the ... (read in full...)
Does it matter if the girl is taller and older than you?
Q. Hi.. I am in love with a girl who is ten months elder than me. Most probably, she is taller than me.. I am 166 cm, where she is 173 cm.. Keeping this barrier in mind, I didn't propose her yet.. I met her before two months and we are working together ...
A. 24 October 2009: Neither matter, what DOES matter is that you are marrying her because you know her better than anyone in your life, accept her 100%, agree to honor her and support her in her dreams and want to spend the rest of your life with her. Now, who care ... (read in full...)
My BF really scares me because he can be sweet, and then extremely abusive.
Q. [Note from Mod: Two questions from same poster] I have run out of options. I feel so run down. I am dead inside and so confused. My boyfriend will curse at me...accuse me of infidelity...throw things at me...spit on me...call me derogatory ...
A. 24 October 2009: DUMP THIS ASSHOLE.... Why in God's name do you LOVE him? He sounds like one of the most vial people on this earth. It sounds as if he's beaten you down so much that you're now taking the side of the abuser. GET OUT while you can, and before ... (read in full...)
I'd like to kiss her again, but I don't know how to bring it up!
Q. Hi. I'm 14 years old, female, and bi. Yesterday my friend and I were planning to kiss so I could experiment. They've once questioned their sexuality, which makes me wonder even more about if they may be bi now. We did kiss, and then we talked about ...
A. 24 October 2009: Talk to her, tell her that you want to kiss some more and see where it goes - share with her how you're feeling when your kissing. Odds are good that if she's willing to kiss you more than once, that there may be some feelings there.... (read in full...)
What's next when the relationship with a drunkard boyfriend comes to an end but still continues........
Q. I was in relationship with a guy who was 6 years younger than me and drunkard. We went around for almost 1 and 1/2 years. We shared a good chemestry but I didn't understand why he had refused my proposal of getting married with him. From the day ...
A. 24 October 2009: I don't understand that response at all... she's in love with a drunk, who can't marry her and someone suggests anal sex? I've a huge anal fan, but I don't see the connection... THis guy is alcoholic, you can't help him, his parents can't he... (read in full...)
We tried a couple swap but he couldnt perform, and now he isnt speaking to me!
Q. A new man I have been dating asked if we could try a swap. A couple swap. I agreed, out of adventure, and because I wasn't in love with him. We have a NSA arrangement, but not just 100% sexual.He talked like I was steady GF, and acted like it wi...
A. 24 October 2009: Consider yourself lucky to be rid of this jerk- what's he's said and done is wrong on sooooo many levels that I won't go into details, and I'm not talking about group play, but in how he treated you, blamed you, used you (and the other couple) to ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and online friends with a 40 year old
Q. i recently became online ''friends'' with a man and i think everything heads in the wrong direction.i met him through an online game.he told me he needs someone to explain him the game,so i agreed to help him and added him in the buddy list,as he ...
A. 24 October 2009: The phrase "future rape victim" is coming to mind here...... (read in full...)
Russian brides? Con artists?
Q. Hello Here is my story about Russian Brides and would like to see if anyone can help me out I am 19 and in Feburary 2009 my father passed away at the age of 63. In 2006 he met a woman named Viktoria from Tibilsi Georgia, in Febuary 2006 on...
A. 24 October 2009: I assume that you've retained the best legal advice that you can and are fighting this every step of the way. I'd rather spend 50% of his money than give 100% of it to this troll.
Figure out a way to convert the assets into cash and do seomthin... (read in full...)
Does this mean I've been dumped?
Q. My girlfriend has just told me she needs some space to sort her life out, because it is in a mess. We have bee going out for 11months. She is currently going through a divorce. Does that mean that i am dumped. I told her that i will wait for he...
A. 24 October 2009: If your GF is still married and going through a divorce, then she probably DOES need some time to get her head clear. She may be worried that she got involved with you on the rebound and doesn't want to end up getting married again, only to repeat ... (read in full...)
My sisters say I am going mad!
Q. HI!! I am a Pakistani muslim girl of 26 years. My problem is that i recently got devorced from my husband who was a complete jerk. We didn't have any kind of relationship and i only spend 8 days with him. I am now doing my ph.d in genetics and some...
A. 24 October 2009: What? you've not written anything that would allow anyone to comment on your mental health. My question is WHY did you marry this man? No relationship? Did you date him, were you two in love? Did you marry against your will? or for the wrong ... (read in full...)
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