How should I deal with paying the mortgage in my marriage?
Q. in a marriage should the man pay the mortgage? how do you feel about it is are hous we split the mortgage...
A. 6 March 2010: It sounds like you are two people sharing a house, not two people sharing a life. Why are you dividing bills? IMO, the best way to live, is to join together, combine your income and the bills, create a budget and TOGETHER pay the bills and monitor ... (read in full...)
Vivid images of her past won't go away.
Q. im aware how unoriginal this question is but it would b nice 2 reassure im not the only 1 out there and 2 hear any similar situations or opposite sex opinions (advice)as long as their not the usual "past is the past let it go" answer... i SO ...
A. 6 March 2010: I agree, would you rather have a chick that had never experienced a dick (and sucked as a lover) or one that had. Your girl is unlikely to seek others at this point, and she's CHOSEN you... don't screw this up.... (read in full...)
Shaven or not?
Q. A simple question to ask, for both males and females if you please: Shaven pubic region or unshaven pubic region? I myself find shaven definitely more preferable, and don't say you like both, because you are bound to like one at least sligh...
A. 6 March 2010: shaven - or at a minimum nicely groomed. Pulling pubs from between the teeth is NO FUN!... (read in full...)
Really like her, just broke up with her boyfriend, how long before I can ask her out?
Q. Alright, I'll get right to the point here I really like this girl, we are great friends and hang out with my bestfriend and her bestfriend ( kinda double dating ) every weekend. As I write this, she is telling me on msn how she misses love, and want...
A. 4 March 2010: Now- just call her and ask her out... It will do her good and with any luck she'll be ready to get out of the house and have some fun. Put some thought into what you'll do and PLAN something fun.... (read in full...)
We are young, how far should we be going with sex, I am confused?
Q. ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for five months and he is sixteen me but he says we should start kissing just because we've been dating for that long. so when ever we got home from school he would pick me up in his car and we would go to his ...
A. 4 March 2010: You need to follow your instincts. If what you did feels icky, then stop doing it. A simple kiss is one thing, heavy kissing (intense deep kissing), petting (getting felt up) another. Getting naked and letting him fell you (or digitally penetrate ... (read in full...)
Together for 6 months, he wants to live together, says no marriage in short term future, should I dig deeper,if I want more?
Q. I’ve been with my BF for just over 6 months. A while ago we talked about marriage in general and he said that he sees it as a label mostly and that getting married doesn’t mean all will be fine in the future. He’s also said that he doesn’t see ...
A. 4 March 2010: Nope, you are NOT jumping the gun. You need to re-read your post. He's NEVER said he loves you. WHY? He can envision spending the rest of his life with you, and is thinking about you two living together. Does he want a roommate? a replacement ... (read in full...)
My mom and dad want to use my credit and then have me go bankrupt, any way I can stop them?
Q. So I have sort of a financial problem... Apparently my dad and mom want to work up my credit then have me go bankrupt I have no specicfic reasons why so dey want to ... But I have no control and if I say no they stop talking to me... Why would I ...
A. 4 March 2010: Your parents are crazy and reckless. First, today employers are using credit score to make hiring decisions. If you screw up your credit (bankruptcy is a rocket ship ride to that!) you'll likley find that most companies will NOT want to hire you ... (read in full...)
Interesting and unsual date ideas?
Q. Hi. I was wondering if anyone has any fun or romantic date ideas. My boyfriend and I have been together just over 10 months, and we're both 17. I was hoping for things beyond the usual movie, cinema, ice-skating, dinner sort of things. Not that none ...
A. 2 March 2010: Find some odd museums and go! Britain has some cool ones!~
Find some ruins, and make a day trip.
Take the train somewhere interesting, pack a meal and just go.
Go tour a factory that makes something you're interested in... beer...... (read in full...)
I found another man's underwear under the bed!
Q. I just found men's underwear under my side of the bed. I'd like advice on what to do. This weekend, I was searching for a pair of old sneakers and they were shoved way under our bed on my side. I have no clue how long they've been there, I usually...
A. 2 March 2010: Ok, another story... Years ago I house sat for a friend, and had my GF over. We screwed like bunnies at their house.. and I left a ziplock bag of condoms under her bed. She thought her husband was cheating on her, but had the common sense to ask ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is spreading hateful rumors and threatening me and my new boyfriend.
Q. What do I do if my ex boyfriend is spreading nasty rumors about me? He told about 3 old friends of mine stuff I NEVER said about them and offered false proof, and they sided with him and now they hate me. My current friends tell me that he is going ...
A. 2 March 2010: Uh, caring guy- if people thought before they hurt other people and said "oh, wait... I'll go to jail" our prisons wouldn't be over capacity...
You need to take this nut job seriously and contact a local women's abuse center and seek advice o... (read in full...)
How can I soothe genital warts before my surgery?
Q. i have genital warts and i just want to know maybe some interesting facts about it and i also want to know how to sooth them until i have my surgery. have can you tell if you have them sereve...
A. 2 March 2010: Well go to MD.com, so a medical site for facts... this is likely not quite the right place. My question is, why don't you go get them treated? You need to take these seriously, while it's not life threatening, it is a form of an STD (I've had them ... (read in full...)
Tips on controlling my outburst during an orgasm
Q. okay, so here it goes. i am 13 and have recently started masturbating. i have orgasms every single time and its hard not to moan or sometimes scream with pleasure! i usually do it when my parents are asleep or when im by myself. do you know any...
A. 2 March 2010: Bite your pillow, but PLEASE do not teach yourself to suppress yourself. You need to be able to keep that part of your orgasm alive and well. All too often kids teach themselves to orgasm in such a way that no one will hear them (guys can learn to ... (read in full...)
Do guys feel it when a girl orgasms?
Q. Do guys feel it when a girl orgasms? Do they feel the contractions, or anything else? Since I'm not a guy, I've wanted to know the answer to this for a long time. ...
A. 2 March 2010: Only felt it with one, who was so tight it was hard to get in, and she had crazy muscles... so much so getting into her (she was in her late 20's, not some kid) was a chore. A lot of fun, but it took time... ... (read in full...)
How much will anal sex hurt and is there a way to make it easier?
Q. Okay so here's the thing. I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend have had sex a couple times and done everything else exept anal. well we tried once and he couldn't get it in. He wants to try it again but when he first tried he said my ass hole is really ...
A. 2 March 2010: At 14 you need to wait- this is advanced stuff, and 99.9% of the guys at this age are NO WHERE NEAR MATURE enough to handle it. They can cause you serious injury if they're not considerate. You should wait a few years and advance to this act ... (read in full...)
Alone and scared hoping to find some Assistance/Guidance.
Q. I was cheating on my wife and "think" I left her to be with the other woman. Subsequently, things didn't work out with the woman I left my wife for, so she leaves me. Thus, I almost immediately begin thinking about my wife and all the good times ...
A. 2 March 2010: You need to pick yourself up, and get on with life. Learn from this episode and put it behind you. You had the ability to have at least 2 women find you attractive, so there appears to be some hope. Work on yourself, then try a relationship... ... (read in full...)
Shaving bumps becoming bothersome.
Q. Okay this is pretty personal but I just wanna know. I shave down there and after eveytime I get those red bumps and they bother me. I just wanted to know if I'm the only one getting them or if there is any way I can prevent them or how I can treat ...
A. 2 March 2010: Try shaving after you've been in a warm bath or shower for a while. Witch hazel (which is available much like rubbing alcohol) is said to help in preventing these.
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My boyfriend has to move for work, and my mother wont let me go with him
Q. okay so heres the deal . my boyfriend got offered a job about 8-10 hours away , and im still in school so my parents wont let me go with him .my school year so far has been hell and my boyfriend is like the only way ive been getting through it ,to ...
A. 28 February 2010: You need to get through school and then make a move. Getting your diploma is vital to your future. If you're getting bullied, get some help with that. Don't make what could be a HUGE mistake and move with him- it's likely to cause the end of the ... (read in full...)
His parents say driving 2 hours to see each other is pointless...
Q. Here is more about the guy that lives 2 hours away. He just turned 17 and lives in a small town. He is the most amazing guy I have ever met. He makes me smile and he gives me butterflies. Whenever I text him I don't know what to say because I never ...
A. 27 February 2010: They may be right- see if he'll move... that would show them. It's what people 60 years ago would have done...... (read in full...)
Am I so wrong for not wanting to have sex?
Q. I'm not quite sure what has happened to me, but my sex drive has gone way down and it's putting a strain on my relationship. My boyfriend feels that because I don't want to have sex with him, the passion is gone and that I find him unattractive. He ...
A. 27 February 2010: Well, sex is an important part of a healthy relationship. You're in a relationship... your partner has a reasonable expectation to have a healthy sex life with his partner. You're not wrong for having lost your drive, but for NOT having done ... (read in full...)
Asian Indian girl asked me to become her brother?
Q. I know a really nice Asian Indian girl who asked me to "become" her brother. Which is fine, because there's always been a platonic relationship going on.. but I'm worried that once that happens, I'm not even sure how it would work in future .. I d...
A. 27 February 2010: Unless I'm missing something, it's symbolic- you're not a blood relative, but a very close friend of the family. We have a few freinds like this, they always join for holidays, and we accept them as if they are family (we consider them so). If ... (read in full...)
Should I tell a best female friend I've loved her for years?
Q. Hi I would like some advices concerning asking a girl out how I have secretly had feeling for years. I’m very confused of what I should do next and not very good at flirting or reading women’s signals. The situation is I have known her for 10...
A. 27 February 2010: Don't rush her, and don't confess a life long love- she may think you're stalking her. Take this naturally, date her, be close, see if she develops a physical attraction. find a good pace- don't rush, but don't wait forever either. Multiple dates ... (read in full...)
We have broken up but he still texts and contacts me every day
Q. Hi. Im very confused with my situation. So, I was with my boyfriend for 8 months. For the first couple of months, the specific birth control I was on made me crazy. I would get mad at my boyfriend for the stupidest things and it would turn into ...
A. 27 February 2010: what he's doing is cruel- you need to be able to get over him and move on, this texting w/o talking is like picking a scab off a sore- it will not heal- block him. If he wants to talk, he has a mouth...... (read in full...)
How can I make my boyfriend realize my worth?
Q. i've been in a long distance relationship for seven months now.my boyfriend and me both love each other a lot.of late, he has started taking less interest in me, he even lied to me once but i forgave him.we even broke up once but patched up within ...
A. 27 February 2010: you can't- move on... you just asked "how can I change him" - you can't... you're not in a "relationship" BTW, or you wouldn't be having these issues... consider this "a guy I know, who lives far away..."... not a relationship.
Or, you could wa... (read in full...)
I like my brother's friend so my brother stopped me seeing him
Q. ok so i like my brothers friend and he likes me he told my brother and now my brother dosent let me see him and im 16 and hes 18 and if my dad found out he would be pritty mad and i cant stop thinking about him i dont know what to do any help??...
A. 27 February 2010: 1. Keep your romantic life to yourself 2. In a year or two you'll be a adult and the 16/18 age thing will not be an issue- but at 18 he's an adult, your not... could be serious legal issues... 3. Your brother appears to have an increased sen... (read in full...)
There is no joy in my life
Q. I feel my family life is driving me crazy. I have such a dysfunction in my family,that is almost hard to believe it. My husband works all the time and my grown kids are in trouble all the time. We have no intimacy, fun or joy in our life. My ...
A. 27 February 2010: Kids are grown, let them get in trouble, let them fall down, pick themselves up and LEARN... Your husband needs a wake up call- let your needs be KNOWN to him and give him an ultimatum- your needs need to be met, are you roommates or in a ... (read in full...)
Why is he sexually abusing me? We're married, but he demands sex!
Q. My husband of many years has always acted as if I am here for his sex needs. He has also said he married me for sex. He expects I will give him sex. Not that he doesn't tell me other things to do. The best he has improved on is to tell me hours be...
A. 27 February 2010: And you remain in this "relationship" WHY? Good God Lady, this is not a relationship, it's a hostage situation. Call in some help if you think there's a chance that he can change, but get out if he can't. You have one life, he sounds like he ... (read in full...)
I am "too large" for my girlfriend
Q. Alright, well I have a pretty large penis. About 7" and over 3" thick. I never had an issue with my penis size until now. I am seeing a girl that I really like. So far the sex has been amazing, but the other night we did it "doggie-style", and after ...
A. 27 February 2010: Dude- sounds like she's probably not 6'-6" tall... in that position her insides are too close to your pelvis (you shortened the distance by having her on her knees)! Avoid doggie, Have her lay flat, and use her buttocks to provide a bit of cushion ... (read in full...)
I can't decide which career path to take
Q. Hi there. I can't decide whether to train an a midwife or a secondary school teacher, and this indecision is making my current relationship unbearable! My partner has supported me financially for the last 2 years (as I will for him if he chooses to ...
A. 27 February 2010: follow your passion- you'll be happier and excel (which means more $$$)- if you chose based on another metric (such as "this one pays more" odds are very high you'll not like it, and either get stuck, be miserable, hate it, do poorly and NOT make ... (read in full...)
I am starting to think is it my fault by boyfriend becomes abusive when drunk
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 24. the thing is he is quite horrible to me when he's drunk. I don't really like to drink, but he'll have a drink of vodka in the house every weekend. I don't know what it is but we really don't get on when he's drunk. ...
A. 27 February 2010: You're falling into the trap that people who are in relationships with addicts experience. The long slow fall drags sober partners down a worse trail than the addict (you're sober and are not numb by a drug... so you get to feel what he can't... a ... (read in full...)
My friend is pregnant again, and I don't want to have to help financially again
Q. I'm probably going to get alot of backlash with what i'm about to write so I want you to read this post properly. I have been mates with this girl for about 10 years. In that time she has has 2 children that were accidents 1 of which I'm god...
A. 27 February 2010: What you've been doing is called enabling - which is part of the problem. They need to fall on their face, pick themselves up and learn to be RESPONSIBLE adults. You're NOT helping them long term by solving their problems. Tough love... cut them ... (read in full...)
My abusive boyfriend is attempting to emotionally blackmail me into staying with him. Should I believe it?
Q. My boyfriend of two years has physically, emotionally, and mentally abused me for two years. I finally found the strength to try and leave him and he is throwing countless excuses in my face that make me reconsider... he was extremely depres...
A. 26 February 2010: Get out, he's kill you slowly... get out and don't look back.... (read in full...)
How do I make some new female friends, again?
Q. When I was in high school I was burned pretty bad by 3 girls that were suppose to be good friends of mine. Ever since the I didnt focus at all on getting new friends and I even avoided people. I find myself now at 23 sitting here with no friends....
A. 22 February 2010: First, let's hope that by 'burned' you don't mean literally.
You've got to open yourself up to taking the risk of being vulnerable again, and find a place where you can meet people who you have something in common with. Join a club, somethin... (read in full...)
Old wives cure for acne
Q. Is urine good for acne and for the facial skin? My friend told me this and I don't know if to believe her....
A. 22 February 2010: Pass on this one... keep in mind, if it sounds too good to be true, it is...... (read in full...)
My wife wont let me go down on her and it is a real turn on for me. Any advice?
Q. My wife is wonderful and we have a good sex life, but she won't let me go down on her. Or at least it hasn't happened in many years. She says she just doesn't like it, but its a real turn-on for me. Any advice? ...
A. 17 February 2010: OK, folks- your MISSING the point... He wants to spend some time down there- she's saying no. That's a problem. As lovers we all need to have a certain willingness to accommodate reasonable requests from our partners... he's not wanting to have ... (read in full...)
How can I be beautiful???
Q. I want to know what about me I need to fix to be beautiful. People tell me I'm funny and smart, but beautiful is a word I've never heard except from family. I am tired of always being alone and yes, I know I am only 19 and I have my whole life ahead ...
A. 16 February 2010: You simply haven't met the right guy... there are people out there that will see your beauty, fall in love with you and tell you all about it! You need to see if you're falling for the same type of guys over and over (we all have a pattern, find ... (read in full...)
I am starting to think sex is gross and want to turn Vanilla.
Q. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing, but I'm starting to think sex is GROSS, for the first time since I experienced it a little more than ten years ago, I am not coming from an 'oh, I've been with so many people and done so many...
A. 10 February 2010: Is this a good thing to be (grossed out by sex), or am I heavily and detrimentally influenced by this last relationship?
NO this is NOT healthy- people deserve to be in healthy robust sexual relationships. You need to work on this for YOURSELF... (read in full...)
How do I NOT sound like an a**hole to ask my fiancé to have vaginal rejuvination?
Q. How do I NOT sound like an asshole to ask my fiancé to have vaginal rejuvination? We have great sex and a great sex life, but a lot of times I don't anything when I'm inside her. She has said she feels me but I feel nothing, and that is a first for ...
A. 10 February 2010: Uh, too late... you already do...
You don't tell us what ruined her vagina. Did she have a 25# baby? Or is it that you're simply too small. I've never heard of a woman being too tight for an average size dick.
If I was he and you suggeste... (read in full...)
He said I could be a stripper at Seaworld because of my weight gain!
Q. I have gained weight in the past 6 years my fiance and I have been together..lately when he gets angry he calls me fat or a pig. He even said to me the other day I could be a stripper...at seaworld. Now he says he won't have sex with me until I lose ...
A. 10 February 2010: I'd start by loosing 100 to 150 pounds of asshole- DUMP this jerk and then start working on yourself. The best revenge is to get on with your life, learn to take care of yourself, gain confidence (MUCH easier when someone's NOT screaming at you)- ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not like me to smile at anyone.
Q. my boyfriend doesn't like it when i smile at people and he told me that he doesnt like it and he always fight with me so help me what should i do? ...
A. 10 February 2010: Break up with him, his behavior is very troubling, as he's trying to take control of you doing a 100% normal behavior. If he was able to have a healthy relationship, he's be secure in himself and allow you to have joy and smile (oh, and at PEOPLE!- ... (read in full...)
I want to marry her but don't have the nerves to ask!
Q. I love my girlfriend more than anything else and I want spend the rest of my life with her, but I'm don't have the guts to ask her to marry me even though I'm fairly sure she would say yes. She makes me smile when no one else can she is always t...
A. 3 February 2010: If you don't have enough courage to ask a woman to get married, maybe you're not ready to be married.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have a fictitious lover - anyone with similar stories?
Q. I am looking for input. My fiance's biggest turn on is fantasizing about me sleeping with other men. I don't but for the sake of role play have developed a fictitious 'boyfriend' and make it as real for him as possible. So, is there anyone else ...
A. 31 January 2010: wow, what a good idea! Much safer than finding a 3rd to bring in!... (read in full...)
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