My boyfriend and I have a fictitious lover - anyone with similar stories?
Q. I am looking for input. My fiance's biggest turn on is fantasizing about me sleeping with other men. I don't but for the sake of role play have developed a fictitious 'boyfriend' and make it as real for him as possible. So, is there anyone else ...
A. 31 January 2010: wow, what a good idea! Much safer than finding a 3rd to bring in!... (read in full...)
Told my gf I watch porn, and she doesn't understand. What can I say to her?
Q. i have been watching porn. i have been with my gf for 4 years so i told her that i watched porn. she got mad and was telling me that i shouldn't be watching those things cause it is all fake so i told her that even if it is fake the sex seems real. ...
A. 31 January 2010: 13 to 15 years old? something's not right here...... (read in full...)
He calls me names and he has stopped taking care of himself. Should I dump him?
Q. My boyfriend calls me a bitch sometimes when he's mad. We've been together for 4 years now, but we just got back together at the end of October after I broke up with him for 3 months. One of the agreements for us to be a couple again was that he ...
A. 31 January 2010: he broke the agreement, hand him a box, he's OUT OF HERE! ... (read in full...)
He accuses me of cheating everytime I go overseas! What can I do?
Q. I have a seven years old relationship with a gentleman who is accusing me of being unfaithful to him everytime i travelled overseas. I went overseas three times since we are together and he thinks i am having sexual intercourse with guys in those ...
A. 31 January 2010: break up, get it over with and WHO CARES... the reason he's making the accusation is likely to be because he is cheating on you.... (read in full...)
Is love supposed to hurt?
Q. I need some major advise i am so confused i wonder at times is love suppose to hurt? i have two daughters with two different men and the last man was almost perfect except for the fact that he didnt work..he was so nice understanding and romantic ...
A. 31 January 2010: no, and you need to recalibrate your 'perfect' meter... it's not working right...... (read in full...)
My friends think I am just a booty call. Am I?
Q. I've known a guy through a mutual friend for 2 years. We have slept together 4 times. After each time, I would send a general message, from a friend to a friend asking how things were going, but I would receive no reply. From what it seems, he ...
A. 31 January 2010: Man, you need to open the curtains and WAKE UP... what do you think a booty call is? ... (read in full...)
Is he Gay or am I Crazzzy?
Q. I hate to think this way because I love my boyfriend with every beat of my heary buuuut there's a few things I'm starting to wonder about latley. ((Hopefully I'm wrong)) Ok so my bf and I have been together for nearly 4 years. This is my First ...
A. 31 January 2010: He doesn't sound gay, he sounds like an immature looser. Oral and Anal sex are fine, but not the only items on the menu. He doesn't appear to CARE about you, and only picks the sex that gets him off. (I assume that he will do you vaginally, when ... (read in full...)
I got my sis to speak to my wife about sending money to another man. Now she says I can thank my sis for her dirvorcing me.
Q. Hi everyone...im in alot of confusion and disbelief... ok so on monday the 26th my wife used my credit card to send money to some guy names Ivan...so i texted my 2 of my sisters and asked them to ask her what was going on cause i tried texting ...
A. 31 January 2010: You really need to step back and figure out if when you saw "you want everything back to normal" is it NORMAL? Or is your wife one of those women who's normal is an abnormal that you've come to understand? In other words, is the shit she puts you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an anger problem and I'm worried about my unborn child
Q. im pregnant and worried about by boyfriends anger. been to the doctor as he has hit me in the stomach and i am worried bout hurting my baby. my friends say i should leave him! i don't know what to do. please help ...
A. 31 January 2010: What, this guy is going around KNOCKING up women he's not married to and he's a 'good father' - are you totally insane? What the hell happened to people understanding the roles of parenthood? You need to seriously the consequences of ... (read in full...)
Bad relationship with my husbands kids! How can I change things?
Q. Several years ago I got involved with an older, married man. At the time I thought it was simply a short fling, but it developed into a relationship that eventually led to him leaving his wife. I do not feel the need to go into the 'gritty' ...
A. 31 January 2010: You need to work on yourself, because it's impossible for you to work on them (life just doesn't work that way).
Odds are good that these kids may never love you, hell- now, just hope they can stop hating you. If you can advance that to neutral ... (read in full...)
Why do I always end up just being 'the friend' when I want more than that?
Q. Why am I one of those guys that women want to be friends with but nothing more? Of my ten closest friends, nine are female. They all say I would be a great catch. I have asked them, seriously, what I could do to make myself more appealing but ...
A. 31 January 2010: OK, you sound like you have plenty of friends, first don';t add to the collection, find women that you can date, and if it's moving towards friendship cut it off and keep moving on... sounds like you're a NICE person, and that may be (sadly) doing ... (read in full...)
Does he regret dumping me now Ihave a modelling contract, or does he really hate me?
Q. I've just been dumped by a Pakistani boy who I've been with on and off for about a year. He's tried to dump me a few times before, but he'd always come back to me. Anyway he told me he'd met someone else and he wanted to be with her, so he dum...
A. 31 January 2010: why do you care, he's an a**hole... forget him... live your life, and laugh everyday that he's not part of it! REJOICE!... (read in full...)
How do I get over the anger I feel towards my parents?
Q. I just turned 30 and I'm still hurting from anger at my parents, and I'll always struggle with that anger. In my heart of hearts, I feel certain that they didn't want me and that they don't love me. I don't want to have to bear their surname ...
A. 31 January 2010: You need to get rid of this poison that's in you... they only way to do that is to get a therapist who can work with you to go back and revisit all these items and work though them. It's not difficult work, it simply takes someone who's not you to ... (read in full...)
Feeling sad about my experiences in high school! Is this a precedent for the rest of my life?
Q. This is pretty shallow compared to a lot of people's problems, and all the chaos in the world, but it really bugs me after all these years. When I was in high school, I never went to prom. It's not a big deal, but it makes me a little sad becau...
A. 31 January 2010: Prom, went- and don't remember it at all, all I remember is who I got to go with me, and that's it... not a banner night in my life.
Work your teaching position where you get to go to the prom, get a date and have a secrete prom celebrat... (read in full...)
Bf wants a break, because I can't stay at his house overnight. Advice?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, my mother really doesnt like him and never really has so, he doesn't stay nights at my house and because she's so controlling I can't stay out of her house all nite. He's been asking me to stay alot lately ...
A. 31 January 2010: DUMP HIM... selfish... Mom is right... ... (read in full...)
If she tests me like this, is it a sign she's not the best match for me?
Q. Before a relationship starts, sometimes a girl will test me by giving me a negative vibe, like she doesn't like me (even though she does). Is this a sign that she isn't the best match for me? I mean, if she were really into me, why would she risk ...
A. 30 January 2010: Any woman that play the 'I was testing you' card isn't worth wasting your time with... DUMP HER... she'll be huge trouble later... ask around...... (read in full...)
How can I get my mum to accept me being with a 19 year old. I'm 15.
Q. hiii, ok imm 15 and my bday is in april. the guy imm talking to is 19, jus turned on december 30th. we have only been talking on the phone and txting for about 2 weeks and we met last year when i was a freshman and he was a senior. hes amazing! he ...
A. 29 January 2010: healthy 19 year olds do not date 15 year olds... no way, no how... somethings wrong here, and your mother will see that.
19 year olds who date young girls either have some kind of social issues, are sexual predators, or have some weird idea tha... (read in full...)
Mom didn't tell me she is having sex with this family friend..what should I do?
Q. I just found out my mom has been dating and having sex with someone we go on vaction with every year, my mom and dad are not together but she did not tell me and she always invites him over to our house to hang out. What should i do?...
A. 25 January 2010: Do what you're going to be wanting her to do in a few years- give her the dignity to have a PRIVATE sex life. The fact that she did such a good job not promoting it is a tribute to her.
You need to develop a close and tight relationship with you... (read in full...)
He made me turn to someone else because I wasnt getting anything from him
Q. I have been in a relationship for 6 years now and had two kids. I am 22 years old and reall yhavent expierenced life yet. I love my boyfriend of 6 years but hate how he treats me. When we get into arguements he tells me how much he cant stand me and ...
A. 25 January 2010: dump him, he's telling you everything you need to know- he's just too big of a puss to dump you.
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Does this happen to anyone else? If so, how do you deal with it?
Q. Ok. I am in need of some good advice. From both men and women, if possible... My current situation: I am engaged. Living with my fiance. She's the woman I love and adore. I know I will always feel this way for her. It's more of my problem than her...
A. 25 January 2010: play with this to your advantage. Have her bring you off manually or orally, then pleasure her orally or manually, then when you've both recovered have intercourse. Odds are good you'll last longer, she may be able to cum and you'll both have had ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend bailed on me and is now on dating site...
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost two months. (we are both in our late 30s) A couple of weeks ago he began acting a bit distant when we were apart which made me concerned so I ended up doing some poking around and found out that he did ...
A. 25 January 2010: You may never learn what happened, but it sounds as if he just wigged out and ran. While it's painful, it's better than he did this a day before a wedding, or two weeks after your second child was born...
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Below the belt questions... do I look right down there?
Q. Hey, im 14 years old. And i dont think i look right down there. But my boyfriend says i look great.? Should i beleve him? Do you have to shave before sex? Also could you please tell me how to give oral sex? Thanks heaps :) xx...
A. 23 January 2010: Sounds as if you have normal concerns about being 'normal'... we'll let me assure you that the first normal is fine- we ALL have had concerns about how we measure up, compared to others. The second 'normal' simply doesn't exist- when it comes to ... (read in full...)
She's oblivious to my real feelings but it's seriously eating me alive.
Q. I am seriously in love with someone. I think about her all day and dream about her every night. She makes me feel like nobody ever has before, but we could never have a relationship for the simple fact we are best friends already. This sort of adds ...
A. 23 January 2010: Man, been there... it's hard when you're friends with a really great girl (FRIENDS Only) and you start having feelings for her, and it's not mutual. The reality is that she's most likely to continue to seek a BF, and you'll be near by to see it ... (read in full...)
Husband has been cheating with his ex?
Q. I have been married for 19 years. I just found out that my husband has been cheating with his ex girlfriend. I don't know what to do! When I ask him why he says, "he don't know". He was seeing her for about a month when I found out about it. He says ...
A. 20 January 2010: agree with the others.... work it out if that's what you want, leave him if that's what you want. If you don't know, go to therapy and figure it out. I'd recommend that either way actually...... (read in full...)
I feel violated by his video antics!!!
Q. Last night I found video on my boyfriend computer, about a week old, of him filming up the skirts of women. I found 5 videos, i dont know if there are more. The video clearly shows his face, and him on escalators, putting his camera phone up girls ...
A. 19 January 2010: Honey, it's the later, and he's trying to guilt you into giving him another chance. Cut this guy out of your life and find someone who will not decide to film you naked and post the video to the internet.
We can all find another love of our live... (read in full...)
What do I do about my real dad?
Q. right my life story basically: my mum split up with my real dad because he was a violent man but not as violent as many men, she left him and got remarried to my real dad's cousin and for years i have hated my real dad because what he had done but...
A. 19 January 2010: You're old enough to be able to have a relationship with both your parents, ask your own questions, listen to answers and form your own assessment of the responses. Just remember that there are 3 sides to each story, his, hers and the truth. Leave ... (read in full...)
Open marriage...
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years now - happily married for 7 of those years. We recently made a decision to have an open marriage and have agreed to a set of guidelines in place to protect our relationship. I have no ...
A. 19 January 2010: Agreed, your all adults, talk about your interests, and what it does and doesn't mean. You're not looking to replace your husband, but interested in a freinds with benefits relationship. Like you did with your husband, you need to establish rules ... (read in full...)
I wanna lose weight! Any tips?
Q. can someone help me understand how many calories I might have to eat a day to lose weight.. I am 27 yrs old I weigh approx. 205lbs and am 5'7 , I did the bmr math thing but it doesn't seem to be rite.. im hoping to lose 2lbs a week if possible. ...
A. 19 January 2010: You're likely going to get lots of advice, I hope that all of it is good... here's mine.
First, it took a long time to pile the weight on, so don't expect to drop it fast. Too fast is unhealthy.
Sadly, there is no magic cure- eat less than yo... (read in full...)
She was my first, but I wasnt hers, and that makes me angry!
Q. She told me about one of the guys she has had sex with before me and Ive been wanting to kick his ass so bad. I saw him tonight and got so close but it didnt happen. She was staying with him when she got kicked out of her house and she had sex with...
A. 16 January 2010: Dude, please grow up. You're young, but if the requirement that EVERY girl you ever have sex with is a virgin the older you get the creeper your dating is going to become. What are you going to do at 24, when some hot chick (who's slept with a ... (read in full...)
What other means of ID can I use?
Q. hi this isnt a relationship question but i thought id ask anyway! i have lost my passport and provisional licence and have no other identification so i can get new ones i originally used my birth certificate but that has gone too, any ideas on what ...
A. 14 January 2010: WOW, first, you need to think ahead and be more careful.
Hopefully you were born in the UK and can get to the hospital where you were born. If so, go and get a birth certificate.
If not (and if the UK is like the US) you're going to need to... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of calling off the wedding! I'm tired of his moods!
Q. Hello We are getting married this July and been together 15mths. We have a house together. Things have always been turbulent in our relationship. When we met he got made redundant and had to get a job on less money miles away so he has to get...
A. 10 January 2010: He needs to commit to getting help, and do so. He needs to be under a Dr's care, and possibly on meds. If he fails to take care of himself (for both of your sake) you need to get out and be prepared to end the relationship. You can not fix a ... (read in full...)
GF cheated on me, should I forgive or let her go?
Q. Been dating a great woman for almost 10 years, and have trusted with 100% for the entire time, but she cheated recently. What do i do? She started to have drunken sex with a friend but stopped within seconds. She is completely devastated that she ...
A. 10 January 2010: At 25 (the high end of your reported age range) you've been with this woman since she was 15 (or younger?). My recommendation is to work through this and QUICKLY. Do not let this fester. If you can forgive her and let he forgive herself this is ... (read in full...)
How do I get girls to like me?
Q. Hellppp ... How do i get girlz to lyk me ... i dont tink im ugly , but girls just dont seem to lyk me ... help ??...
A. 10 January 2010: 1. Present yourself as educated and dnt cmunitkate lik u nvr wnt 2 skool.
2. Women like confident guys... no fear ones. Not ones that do stupid things, but guys who are confident enough to know that they DON'T HAVE TO. Confidence is king, le... (read in full...)
Is my ex boyfriend trying to get over me?
Q. Am pregnant and alone. Father of baby denies his child so wants DNA. I said fine to that. No issue. He has been on/off, hot and cold..he said if baby doesn't come out as his he is gone and hope you are happy. I never replied cos I found this damn ...
A. 6 January 2010: "he is not as into me as I am into him"
You think?
Get a DNA test, if it's his he's paying for the next 18 to 21 years. If not expect the office to hear about it...... (read in full...)
We had sex, he pulled out, but could I be pregnant?!
Q. i had unprotected sex last night and he pulled out onto my backside... i was wearing a thong tho (he jus pulled it aside when we were having sex) and he got his cum on it. i didnt take my underwear off until about 30 mins later. i jus had my period ...
A. 1 January 2010: Yes, what part of use a condom did you sleep though in class?... (read in full...)
I'm 16, and my 20 year old boyfriend has 3 kids, am I in over my head?
Q. I am sixteen and seventeen in under a month. I am with a guy who i've been with now over a month he is 20. And even though it's only been a month i am really falling for him, he is amazing when i'm with him he makes me feel happy. The only problem ...
A. 1 January 2010: yes, and he's a looser... this guy has a pattern, and your in his sights... RUN!... (read in full...)
If I'm bi... can he?
Q. i am a straight guy with bi tendancys... does that make me completly bi? i have made love to both man and woman and like it equaly. so why is it when i kik it with one of my guy friends i feel a strong pull twords this person then nrmal?? he is a ...
A. 31 December 2009: I think you need to relax and not try to establish "how bi you are"... If you think about it, there's straight and gay (think of it as 100% and 0%)... if you're equally attracted to men and women you're at 50%... but your reality is likely to be ... (read in full...)
I am going through a divorce but I still love her!
Q. I have a problem and I need advice. I am going through a divorce and I have custody of my very young children. My wife is severly mentally ill and her mental condition has really collasped over this past year severly bad. She abused the kids so I ...
A. 27 December 2009: WOW, I'm moved by how many people have been down this path- I have too, and frankly reading the messages have really touched me. I was married to my college gf, and the first 2 to 3 years were pretty good. She started suffering from Bi-polar ... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he said about my private parts or was he really joking?
Q. My boyfriend and I were in a fight and I was making fun of the size of his penis. Then he said well what do you call that stuff sticking out of you. He meant my labium majus. I asked him about it later when we had made up. He said he was just joking ...
A. 23 December 2009: You both need to grow up. Your comment could have been a serious blow to his ego and hurt his self image for YEARS! His comment to you could have done the same... how does it feel? You're hurt, he's hurt, both of you may wonder for years if your ... (read in full...)
He wants boob pics, but I don't want to give him any..?
Q. My boyfriend keeps asking me to give him a picture of my chest to him. I keep saying that i dont want to because i feel he might eventually might use it against me one day. I really love him and he is just really persistent! How can i stay with him ...
A. 23 December 2009: He is an ass, and does not respect your desire NOW! You KNOW what he's going to do in several months when you've grown tired of him and moved on... keep your shirt on!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't accept the truth that it's his!
Q. What should I do ?? Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6yrs off and on. im 19yrs old he is 29. I am 5mon pregnant. he is constantly dening that its his. About almost 2 months before I got pregnant I started seeing some one else due to ...
A. 16 December 2009: "He's not a pedophile, they have an ongoing relationship." WTF??? Who thinks that the fact that he's still abusing her makes it LEGAL??? You can NOT have a "relationship" with a 13 year old. The guy is a MAJOR CREAP....
Tell him that he can e... (read in full...)
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