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Caught my son masturbating, should I buy him some condoms, sextoys and an informative book?

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Question - (11 February 2008) 26 Answers - (Newest, 29 March 2010)
A male New Zealand age 18-21, *RUZE_ONE writes:

just rececetly i caught my 13 year old son masturbating naked on top of his bed i saw his penis and pubes, this hasnt effected our relationship but i was wondering if i should buy him some condoms and other stuff like a masturbation and sex book or lube??

if you have any other ideas just tell me and i will be happy to take them into consideration

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A male reader, Tiger69 India +, writes (29 March 2010):

Tiger69 agony auntHi, Just leave him as he is.. Let him enjoy they way he wnats .. as being man I have experience for the same and I know that Consoms and any toys will not help him at this moment.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009):

Hi my dad caught me masterbating when i was 13 and he bought me some magazines, we openly talk about sex and our penises

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009):

dude do you know anything dont give him anyhitng. you should tell him that its ok to masterbate just not all the time.

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A male reader, scorpio33 United States +, writes (26 July 2009):

Sex toys are not the answer. But, this happened to me, my dad walked in on me and fortunate for me, I have a great relationship with him. He never told anyone, we talked very openly about sexual topics and we had this father son bond like no other...seriously. I trusted him and he trusted me totally. There are things that him and I talked about and to this day, my mother has no idea. Make that bond with him, don't embarrass him. Talk with him and assure him that anything he wants to talk about, he can come to you. If you want to discuss this more, email me.

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A male reader, Red Green 0289 United States +, writes (15 July 2009):

buy him a sheep...and some gumboots...

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A male reader, shwazy United States +, writes (22 June 2009):

Im a 13 year old guy and i wish my mom or dad were as cool as you I would be so happy. Yes buy him lube and a sex toy. buy him a Fleshlight. he will love you forever if you do. i know i would if my mom did.

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A male reader, pure shade 5 United States +, writes (25 April 2009):

pure shade 5 agony auntdo what u feel is needed when i was caught at age 13 my dad took me to the store and we bought some condoms and stuff we had a good talk to it wasnt all bad it was inforative i am now 19 and still rember the talk we had it has realy helped me to make some good desions in my life but do what u feel is needed but honstly i would rather catch my kid masterbating then actly having sex...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009):

dont do anything like that. let him learn himself, we young people aren't stupid, we know what safe sex is, our friends tell us the GOOD and the BAD.

let him learn NATURALLY through his SOCIAL life and not his mother.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009):

How can you have a 13 yr. old son when you are 13-15 yrs old?!

Ohh yea...it's not possible!!!

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A male reader, akshayinbox India +, writes (8 October 2008):

Hi!

Yea, giv him full freedom. LEt him use internet and buy giv him pocket money, he can buy cndoms/so.

Any help? Mail me!

And I'm 15! If ur son needs help , he may mail me, Ma'am.

Jerking off @ this age is quite natural in guys!

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A female reader, scrazy Canada +, writes (20 July 2008):

scrazy agony auntOh yeah, condoms and sex toys will definitely hope!

While you're at it, you should get him a subscription to Penthouse or Playboy - He will LOVE you for that one!

Dear God, what a joke...

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A male reader, anonymous11 United States +, writes (19 July 2008):

divion is rite btw peeps his acc says 13 and hes a father?this guy is bull shit hes a liar stop coming here.....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008):

Please people, this is a joke post, don't waste your time.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008):

have a bolt installed on the inside of his bedroom door when he is out of the house and dont mention it, he will get the message then.

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A male reader, aptursso United States +, writes (14 July 2008):

aptursso agony auntok so 1 day me and my friend were at a wallgreens and we bought some condoms just in case. i'm sure if your son needed condoms he would just go to wallgreens and tell the person they were just for a joke even if they we for having sex so i'd wouldn't do anything, he 13 he can handle himself

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A male reader, john wayne United States +, writes (20 May 2008):

yes buy him a fake vagina sex toy and a informative book

he'll love u

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008):

Condoms and educational books are all useful items, but it might be embarrassing to your sone if you give him these things directly. The best you thing you can do is buy them and put them in places where he is certain to 'accidentally' find them for himself. Or if there is a family member closer in age to your son (like a cousin around 18-30 for example) have that person give them to him.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008):

No parent in their right mind would but a 13 year old child those things.

Anyway this is the boy who posted the other day saying he wanted his parents to buy him a butt plug and condoms.

You won't be able to get porn mags or sex toys because you are underage. Condoms however, you can pick up yoursef from pharmacies or supermarkets.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008):

You saw it now forget it and let him grow up normally. Forget all the crap about condoms etc he is only a lad aged 13 masturbating for godsake, what will happen next?

take care

xx

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (11 February 2008):

hlskitten agony auntHi

Grot mags maybe, but condoms no. My son is 12 and if i thought he wanted them, i would buy porn mags for him. I dont feel yet he is that interested though.

I would have a chat with him and stress that IF he is getting into sex with girls, then to talk to you. Or to go to the local family planning clinic where they hand out condoms free.

Yes boys as young as that do have sex. My brother was only 14 when he fathered a daughter. And my mother was buying him and his girlfriend condoms, they unfortunately just thought not to use them!

I expect this is the child asking though, which is fine. You dont need condoms for masturbating.

C xxxxx

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (11 February 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntThis is the young man who wants his mother to buy him a butt plug, he posted a couple of days ago.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008):

I think the book would be ok but nothing beyond that. I don't understand why he would need condoms for masturbation.

Also are you using his account to ask this because according to the information about you, you are a 13-15 year old male!

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A female reader, happytochat Australia +, writes (11 February 2008):

Id talk to him about sexual related things such as safe sex and so on, but I duno about buying him toys and condoms and stuff. Id just tell him that when he is thinking about having sex he cane come to you with any questions and/or for condoms. That way he knows the door is open.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008):

His behaviour is completely normal - sex toys and lube are an absolute no go, firstly that would just be too wierd and secondly, you may actually encourage him to go and have sex. Im sure that he knows about safe sex and condoms but it may be worth getting some condoms in the house, just incase he asks for your guidance.

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A female reader, Zoggi United Kingdom +, writes (11 February 2008):

Buy him sex toys and lube?!? Are you serious?!? No way, he'd just be really embarrassed! What he is doing is perfectly normal, and it doesn't mean he's going to start having sex with girls, so you don't have to worry about that either.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008):

Sex toys? Gosh no! I'm female but I can just imagine how absolutely mortified my boyfriend or brothers would have been if our respective mothers had delivered sex toys to their room!

I think condoms will be enough, maybe a book on safe sex/STDS.

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