I hear my parents arguing about sex and it's grossing me out!
Q. Hello all. This is not really a question regarding myself beyond the fact beyond that the situation is seriously traumatizing me and really, starting to piss me off. My mom went through menopause 5 years ago and apparently, no longer posses...
A. 14 August 2011: AngleDlite is 100% right! Call them on their BS and avoid going into detail.
Your mother sounds 100% like a drama queen and it's unforgivable that she's trying to use you as a human shield.
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Should I study film in college, which is my passion, or get another degree as a fallback?
Q. I know this is relationships but i really could use some third party advice! I'm going to university and want to know whether i should study the what i hope to pursue a career in, or whether i should study something else?? Basically, i w...
A. 14 August 2011: All too often people follow degree programs because they are "interesting". While there is a lot to be said for following your passion, you need to be a well rounded person. You need to get involved with multiple people in the industry, find out ... (read in full...)
My bf wants to do oral on me, but I am afraid it will be too salty for him down there. What can I do?
Q. how do i explain this. my boyfriend wants to do oral on me soon, but i have only recently found out that the juices my vagina makes are salty (i had to taste it). im scared and i know it will put him off! i only got a matter of a couple of days ...
A. 14 August 2011: You don't even need to "take a lot of baths"... (what does that even MEAN?... take 4 a day?). You simply need to bath daily, wash with a bit of soap. You vagina shouldn't be very salty (most women I've tasted were slightly sweet, one was acidic- I ... (read in full...)
Wife says the root of our arguing is that she does not trust me--even tho I have never lied or cheated!!
Q. Hello all. I recently asked for advice about how to renew the spark in a very argumentative marriage. I recently found out some news that explains a lot about the arguing. My wife told me last night that she doesn't trust me. She said she jus...
A. 14 August 2011: Some psycho women are never going to trust you no matter what you do. She needs to get to a therapist and start working on her trust issues. You need to go with her at least enough for the therapist to understand the nature of your relationship. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is forced to go with someone else!
Q. I have my girlfriend that is in crazy love with me, she just adores me so much and i love her as well, I'm 18 and she's 17. I know it seems that we're just two kids that are in just a phase of life then it'll go away but it's not, it has been 2 ...
A. 14 August 2011: If she's as in "crazy love" with you as you say she is, she needs to STAND UP to her family and risk loosing these people who are trying to FORCE her into a marriage to a man who she doesn't know based on old world beliefs that place their wants ... (read in full...)
Do you think my ex boyfriend is gay?
Q. So I think my ex boyfriend is gay, and just hasnt came out the closet yet. I also think thats why he comes coming back to me. Not because I look like a man. lol But because I do the things he wants me to do. So here are the things he has done or ...
A. 29 July 2011: He's your ex, let it go... you need to back away and let him be an ex. Time will tell if he's gay.... (read in full...)
Should she enema before first time anal?
Q. I am looking for advice on whehter my GF should use an enema before first time anal sex. I have heard many pros and cons. Pros being that they obviously clean things out, cons being that they can irritate and make poo that would otherwise stay ...
A. 28 July 2011: NO, no need to use an enema! She needs to take BM and then a shower and wash herself. You need to read up on the matter and work with her to loosen her anus with your fingers (this may take many sessions, and will NOT be something that happens in ... (read in full...)
My adult son has shunned me, because I moved away from the family! What can I do?
Q. New to DC! Hello everyone. I'm a 56 year old female. Mom to three adult children.(2 kids are in their 30's and youngest is 20) I am divorced since 2000; currently in a long term relationship for 8 years. My current partner and I have always ...
A. 26 July 2011: I would suggest that you figure out a way to stay close to his wife, and ideally write her (real) letters that she can hold on to and have for her husband when he either bottoms out or starts to come out of this funk.
I would also suggest talking ... (read in full...)
Can you teach someone to communicate?
Q. so right here it is in a nutshell. I have been dating this girl, she's apples, really a sweetheart, very very pretty, charming, the whole lot. problem is---she cannot communicate. when she is upset, she shuts down and wont talk. wont tell wh...
A. 20 July 2011: You need to decide if she's capable of working on this relationship. There is hope, but she's going to have to WORK on growing. If she doesn't, save both of you the horror of a messy divorce in a few years and part as freinds now.... (read in full...)
Is there any way to get over jealousy over my wife's sexual partners?
Q. I am 46 years old. My wife is 37. About six months ago, we were doing a book together called "All About Me", as a way to build intimacy. Unfortunately what the book did was practically ruin my life. A portion of the book asked what our number of ...
A. 20 July 2011: Wow, it amazes me how many men want the "truth" and then can not handle it. This is a great example as to why we don't need to share such details... if you love our wife the number is irrelevant.
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Should I marry someone that I know has cheated more than once?
Q. I am 25 years old and engaged to be married. I have been with my fiance for about 4 and a half years and we have a 3 year old child together. About 9 to 10 months ago I found out he was cheating on me. I don't think the relationship was at a ...
A. 20 July 2011: You need to get him into pre-marriage counseling. If he will not go, break it off. If he will not admit his mistakes, break it off. If he will not commit to never cheating again, break it off. If you can not forgive him, break it off.... (read in full...)
My ex is sending me mixed signals and tells me he needs a few years to figure out if he wants to stay married to me!
Q. My husband and I split up because he couldn't handle a stressful situation that we had no control over..he just couldn't step up to the plate and give support when needed. Now the situation is over, it is two months since I moved out and the whole ...
A. 15 July 2011: "I think you should give him the time and space he needs"... really...??? Yes, give it to him via a divorce. Cut the contact and let him grow up. He's not letting you heal and get past his lack of ability to cope with life... He's created a sore, ... (read in full...)
After our 3rd date I gave her a kiss goodnight... Did I come on too strongly?
Q. I've just got back from my 3rd date with a girl I like. We've had 2 highly successful dates and this 3rd one appeared to be no acception. We talked, laughed and had a nice evening, just like the previous two dates. But tonight I wanted to slip in ...
A. 14 July 2011: Nope- 3rd date is good... if you didn't let her know you like her she might get confused...... (read in full...)
My daughter's father broke up with me but wants to be friends with benefits!
Q. ok here it goes me and my boyfriend of 5 years just broke up a few months ago, he is also the father of my daughter. i figured we just needed a break, but he started acting like its a permanent thing, he stayed at friends houses for awhile, then ...
A. 14 July 2011: What a mess, a great reason not to have a kid with a BF... (read in full...)
Young love-Is it impossible for us to last? What must we do to last?
Q. So I am in college with my boyfriend of 6 months. We have been through a lot together, and have fallen in love. We have spoken about being together for a while, living together, and possibly even marriage. Our families get along together and ...
A. 14 July 2011: You need to really connect, communicate and continuously reinvest in your relationship. You have to WORK HARD at the relationship... and never that the relationship or him for granted.... (read in full...)
Does sex with a girl (if you're a girl) count as losing your virginity?
Q. When you ask people what losing your virginity means they usually say intercourse.. so what does this mean for lesbians? Like do lesbians not lose their virginity? And does it mean bisexuals lose it twice?...
A. 10 July 2011: Great question! I've often wondered the same thing... but not being a woman, I've not had to define the situation.
If seems to me that lesbians loose the V card the first time they have lesbian sex. So does this mean digital, oral or penetrat... (read in full...)
Should I try to fix things or realize that my husband will never get over the past?
Q. My husband and I married almost a year ago. Prior to marriage he was in the Navy.. We slipped and got pregnant and he begged for an abortion.. (No way i could do it) He told me daily he didn't want our baby and didn't want to be stuck in Fl. He ...
A. 10 July 2011: And why are you still in this "relationship"? SERIOUSLY - what is keeping you in this??? You need to either get into counciling with this guy, or divorce him. You're young, and you have time to rebuild your life. PLEASE do not waste critical ... (read in full...)
Why marry someone when it seems sure you'll get a divorce?
Q. I can't trust my fiance. He constantly lies to me, breaks promises, and walks away from arguments and the relationship. We were planning on going through an LDR, but I'm not so sure anymore. Only a week or so ago, we went through a huge falling out, ...
A. 10 July 2011: dump this guy and move on- sounds like a classic case of manipulation that will turn to abuse.... (read in full...)
Successful anal sex tips?
Q. hey, so my bf of a yr and i tried anal sex for the 1st time as both of us had never tried it b4 and were curious, and it didn't fit! He put a finger there 1st (never experienced that before) which felt ok, but when he tried putting his penis there ...
A. 10 July 2011: Make him get you off first- I've found it is MUCH easier if the girl has already cum once. Also, he needs to use so much lube that he KNOWS it's too much... then a bit more! Mt GF can take me 100% laying on her stomach. She controls the movement, ... (read in full...)
I am 24 and planning to lose my virginity to a prostitute. Any tips for a first-timer?
Q. Well I'm 24 and still a virgin and really tired of waiting. So I'm looking into losing my virginity to a prostitute in a few weeks. It's legal where I live and weekly STD testing are mandatory for prostitutes. I've given up on finding a girlfr...
A. 10 July 2011: You're lucky to live in a country that isn't as backwards as some others- thankfully Australia has legalized prostitution, and with any luck has made it much more socially acceptable- I hope so.
First, go to a nice place, and tell them what you... (read in full...)
Why shouldn't I be embarrassed about being a virgin?
Q. Hey, I just have a quick question. I asked everyone here a while back whether I should tell my girlfriend that I'm a virgin or not and people kept telling me I shouldn’t be embarrassed about it. Why? Why shouldn’t I? Most guys loose their the vcar...
A. 26 June 2011: If you want to be embarrassed go ahead, but there's no need to! You'll find someone when the time is right.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be this worried about sex?
Q. Hi, my best friend has had sex with 3 guys and she's the same age as me. I've only gone to 3rd base, which made feel very vulnerable. So, sex scares me. Not just the pain stuff. It's being that close to someone. Also, that you can't take it ba...
A. 26 June 2011: yes, 100% natural!... (read in full...)
How would you handle it if your mother hated your girlfriend?
Q. i just have a question for all the men on here, if you dating a women who you really love and plan to marry and spend the rest of your life with her but your mother doesnt like her and because of that issue that she doesnt like your girlfriend, she ...
A. 26 June 2011: Ok, so Mom is a manipulative bitch. I'd sit her down and tell her that she has 90 days to get to know your GF and develop a workable relationship. Tell her that if she can't do that, then you're going to have to decide if and how you'll be able to ... (read in full...)
Should I accept the relationship is over?
Q. two weeks ago i asked my husband to leave after yet another argument after he had too much to drink. he left and has now rented somewhere. we met up i thought to sort things out, he told me after much thought he wasn't coming back, because he ...
A. 29 May 2010: So once again a drunk tries to manipulate his wife... wow, a new pattern? Not hardly. You need to let him go, and hit his bottom and finally seek help.
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How can I make him stop loving me?
Q. My ex and I broke up about a month ago. He's suffering so much because he loves me a lot and it seems he has a difficult time accepting it's over. I love him too, but I don't want a relationship with him anymore (we had many issues because he was ...
A. 29 May 2010: If you haven't learned that you can make other people do ANYTHING you need to. All you can control is yourself, not others... Why you care about this guy is something you need to work through- sounds like he's someone you should have pushed out of ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a binging alcoholic.
Q. Please help me, I have been with a man for a six months now who is absolutely adorable to me, but who is also a binge alcoholic. He never drinks at home and we get on wonderfully. But every so often, say once every 6 weeks he'll go on a bender ...
A. 29 May 2010: Get to Al-anon... it's a great resource to those of us who love an alcoholic. They thought me how to continue to love them through the illness, so that she could seek help on her own terms & timeline. Saved me from a living hell, and today, what I ... (read in full...)
Is his 'size' effecting us not getting pregnant?
Q. Im with a guy that is above normal in size. he goes in all the way but i can't get pregnant. can him going in real deep affect me from having a child?...
A. 25 May 2010: If you want kids get married ! Does he know that you're trying to get pregnant?... (read in full...)
I did everything for her, now we don't get on. Has she used me?
Q. Hey, I have been with a girl for coming up two years now. She started to work in the office where I work- I am 34 and she is now 23. I tried to give this relationship my all. We moved in together after a short while of dating. I paid the depo...
A. 25 May 2010: You paid the deposit? You're occasionally paying rent? You bought her furniture? and you fight?
You need to walk away from this 'relationship'... it's unhealthy and if you stick around it's simply going to cost you MORE MONEY and be more pai... (read in full...)
If you're called a broad, does that mean you're fat?
Q. I know this has nothing to do with relationships but What does it mean when a someone calls you a 'Broad' does it mean you're fat? because one of my bf's classmate called me a broad.. ...
A. 25 May 2010: Someone's been watching some old movies... everyone here is in agreement... it's simply a very old term.... (read in full...)
I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged.
Q. I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. We've been married over 10 years and before me she had this boyfriend named Jim. Right after we got married we moved about 3 hours away to another part of the state for my job...
A. 25 May 2010: Wow, talk about needing to let this go... you're letting something that happened 10+ years ago mess with your head! Do the last 10 years not mean anything? You need to give this woman a bit of credit if she stopped prior to marriage.
I can unde... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 25 May 2010: It's normal for a 27 year old immature and self-centered jerk, but not a 27 year old who's worth being in a healthy loving relationship. Your choice! I'd vote that you trade up.... (read in full...)
Warn the Cheating Ex's New Girlfriend?
Q. My ex was cheating on me. For more details you can go here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-checking-a-partners-internet-activities-a-violation.html I have since the break-up been breaking my own rule and checking his Facebook. I alre...
A. 25 May 2010: No - let it go and stay out of it... if you warn this one, then there will be another... and another... and then he'd have every right to pursue you for stalking him. ... (read in full...)
Husband said there were rumors at work about affair, boss knows nothing, was this for cover?
Q. my husband told me that rumors have been spread around his job about him having sex with a co-worker at work. He told me that his supervisor knew about the rumors.I later asked his supervisor about the rumors and he had no Idea what I was talking ...
A. 23 May 2010: Enable to GPS tracking on his phone and see where he goes. That will tell you. Most all phones now have the ability to track the phone via the internet. great feature for finding out when he's got a meeting at a no-tell motel.... (read in full...)
Is she in denial about why a guy might have been divorced three times?
Q. I discovered that my girlfriend is dating a man whom she says is very nice but now I find out from her that he's been married three times and thinks that he must be a nice enough guy if three women want to marry him. Am I wrong , or is she in denial ...
A. 23 May 2010: How can YOUR girl friend be dating someone beside you?
I would suspect that her line of reasoning has been warped to allow the facts to support the conclusion that she wants to find. Few divorced people are ever going to tell you "yeah, I was im... (read in full...)
Fiance is posting ads for bi sex
Q. I snooped into my fiance's (of 8 months) emails and discovered that he's answering and posting sex ads as a bisexual man (he posted as such). He's never discussed this with me. I don't have a problem with it as I realize that sexuality comes in ...
A. 23 May 2010: Since when was sucking cock not sex?
Ok, more on topic... he's likely to be far more interested in an anonymous NSA sexual hookup as his lust will get him through the event and then he can bolt and return to the world that he wants to acknowle... (read in full...)
College student in need of a lot of help.
Q. Hello. I am glad that I have found this website again. Two years ago, I had stumbled upon it and asked a question, but I lost the address. I am in serious need of some help. I am 20 years old, just finished my second year of college, and I h...
A. 23 May 2010: Ok, first, get back on a self-care program and start taking small steps to achieve your goal. Think about this as a strategic plan (nothing too complex, we're not going to the moon... just a few dates!)
First, anti-depressants take weeks to build... (read in full...)
Did God mean for us to be together despite his current relationship?
Q. I am curious if those of faith believe that God can make a mistake in bringing two people together? I have been getting to know a man for the past 10 weeks and we are becoming very close. We are both incredibly devout Christians and are sensing that ...
A. 23 May 2010: WOW! You're incredible! You have chosen to totally throw out a basic tenant of Christianity to rationalize being a force in ruining this man's marriage and negatively impacting the lives to his wife and children. REALLY?
OK, a refreshe... (read in full...)
I went to a prostitute and couldn't get an erection,,,
Q. Hey, I'm a 23 year old guy, reasonably attractive and I never have much of a problem picking up women. I've been wondering about an escort for ages and decided that while I'm here I may as well go nuts. She was gorgeous, nice and understanding...
A. 22 May 2010: it was stress, you just couldn't feel it. Sex is mental, your mind wasn't 100% in the game. It could take 2 or 3 more efforts.... (read in full...)
How much should one sacrfice for a pet?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm at my wits end and would greatly appreciate some input and opinions. My partner and I have been living together for 3 years, he is an absolutely wonderful boyfriend. Problem is he has a 12yr old epileptic dog, who has grand-mal ...
A. 21 May 2010: You need to handle this carefully. Become an advocate for the dog, not a pain in your BF's ass. The dog is miserable, show compassion and start dialoging with your BF about what's in the dog's best interests. This may take weeks... you have to ... (read in full...)
Afraid of the future
Q. Hi, i'm a 20 year old male. I'm a virgin, and would say i've never really been in a real relationship. In every potential relationship i've ever been looking towards getting in, the girl in question has constantly picked someone else over me. At ...
A. 21 May 2010: Well... from my personal experience, you can continue on the way your are, or simply get fed up with it, decide that you're the only thing in our own way and decide to change. I went though high school and 2 years of college this way, then ... (read in full...)
Are we still Virgins?
Q. Ive had sex with my guy, But he was using a condom every time we did it. I never got bleeding. Nor did he. So am I still a Virgin? and is he still a virgin? ...
A. 20 May 2010: Since when did a condom become a virgin barrier?... (read in full...)
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