Are we still Virgins?
Q. Ive had sex with my guy, But he was using a condom every time we did it. I never got bleeding. Nor did he. So am I still a Virgin? and is he still a virgin? ...
A. 20 May 2010: Since when did a condom become a virgin barrier?... (read in full...)
Why was he embarrassed by the birthday gift I got him?
Q. i was wondering if anyone out there could help me understand this. Why would a guy you have known for yrs and have a casual relationship with and are also good friends with. say to you that he was embarrassed by the birthday gift you gave him, eve...
A. 20 May 2010: IS there any chance that he didn't do a good job explaining himself (you know guys can do that!). Maybe he was self-conscious about getting the gift. I know that sometimes I feel weird getting a gift. It's 100% about what's going on in my head ... (read in full...)
Should I let my father back into my life?
Q. My dad was very abusive to my younger brother particulary after he'd been drinking. He used to go out get drunk and then he'd come home and beat my brother. This used to happen regulary for years until my mom finally kicked him out and told him to ...
A. 19 May 2010: What you don't tell us is if he's in recovery... "Sought therapy" is too vague, and sounds like he wondered the halls of a rehab unit looking for a room. Did he get into recovery? Is he no longer Drinking? Is he in a 12 step program (AA?). He ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and allowed to date older guys, but how do I explain to people like my family he's 28?!
Q. I really need some help!! I've fallen for a 28 year old guy and i'm 16. i've liked him since we were 14 and we joked we would get together. now im 16 I really want to date him and get to know him as a boyfriend. He's fine with it, its just I'm ...
A. 19 May 2010: Tell everyone that he's a pedophile that at 26 was chatting up an underage child. If this was OK you wouldn't be asking the question... think about it!... (read in full...)
Financially a mess, I do love him but this discovey has soured my opinion of him!
Q. I met a father with kids a year and a half ago. Initially he was staying with the kids and their mother to help keep family peace. After six months he moved in with me and my kids. Shortly after that he lost his job. I have been paying all of our ...
A. 19 May 2010: He needs to get a job, and start paying this debt down. Separate your finances and quit enabling him. He has it far too good, and as long as you're forking out all the cash WHY should he get off his dead ass and do anything!
Get firm, quit bei... (read in full...)
I didnt bleed when I lost my virginity and my boyfriend couldnt feel anything, now he thinks I was not a virgin!
Q. my boyfriend disvirgins me,he doesnt feel anything.i dint lose any blood when i was disvirgined and am sad bcos my boyfriend said he wasnt the one that disvigined me.pls help because it is normal for a guy to feel something within when he disvirgins ...
A. 19 May 2010: Nope, but it is normal to feel anger at a guy who doesn't trust a woman that loves him.... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about my past
Q. I've been with my current boyfriend on and off for a few years. We'v been back together and goin strong for five months.and things are better than ever. But lately I've started feelin this guilt about people that I've kissed or may have kissed when ...
A. 17 May 2010: PLEASE.... stop tormenting yourself. You do NOT need to disclose every act you've even done. I wouldn't ever disclose the number of guys you've had intercourse with, given head to, kissed, held hands or dreamed about.
It's NONE of any man's bu... (read in full...)
He's been unable, twice. What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about the month. The problem is when we kiss he gets hard, but when the time comes for us to consummate he becomes soft. We tried two times so far. First time he just put his clothes on and left. Yesterday ...
A. 16 May 2010: First, talk to him, the fact that he leaves is 100 times worse than not getting hard. You deserve his company regardless. Lots of guys have a hard time getting hard with a new lover - it takes time to relax.... (read in full...)
He wants pictures of my body!
Q. Okay so I know some people will think this is a bit of a stupid question, but basically a guy I've been getting quite flirty with online has asked for a few pics of my body. But the problem is he hasn't really specified much and I haven't done this ...
A. 16 May 2010: Are you crazy? Do you want these plastered all over the internet for the next 40+ years? ... (read in full...)
Husband hasn't touched me in over 7 years..is he gay?
Q. Dont realy where to start.Well i am married.Im in a sexless marriage.My husband sleeps, on the couch.I sleep in a bedroom.He hasnt touched or looked at me in over 7 years.I been hearing hubby likes men better or his gay or bi.I havent cheatted on ...
A. 16 May 2010: Have you TALKED to him about it? Who's been telling you this stuff? Does it have ANY CREDIBILITY or is it idol speculation? ... (read in full...)
My teacher won't mark my work!! What should I do?
Q. I did all my work. I went to hand it in and my teacher opened the door she said no. She then shut the door in my face. What am I gonna do?? if she doesnt mark it I've failed:(2 years in college(not university):( I dont know what I have done...
A. 12 May 2010: See if your college has an ombudsman who is responsible to assist in cases like this. My university did, and it worked well.... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend broke up with me but wants to remain friends?
Q. My ex bf of 3 months broke up with me saying that he felt that the relationship was getting too serious for him and that he wasn't ready. I deleted him from Facebook. Now he comes on my skype and wants to talk "as friends" on regular basis - he ...
A. 12 May 2010: His wanting to remain freinds is going to be torture for you. Shania has given you 100% spot on advice... take it!... (read in full...)
Will I regret moving for more opportunity?
Q. I always thought I'd go to college, move to a city, establish myself, go to graduate school, meet somebody along the way, and eventually we'd move to a suburb together and settle down. But I moved in with my parent (due to the economy) in a su...
A. 12 May 2010: OK, at nearly 50 I feel that I have something to offer... something that I wish I'd been able to hear at your age.
First, happiness comes from within. My high school freinds went multiple directions, law school, banking, TV, truck driver, ... (read in full...)
Why didn't my wife orgasm?
Q. So my wife and I have been fighting lately. Normally, I am the one who gives in says I'm sorry, etc etc. Whether it's my fault or not. But lately, when we fight I've been standing my ground. Well, she started crying the other night saying tha...
A. 10 May 2010: She's not relaxed- woman need to be totally into the sex and be able to let go. Your fight has her distracted.... (read in full...)
Should a guy ask a girl out...on the street or in a mall?
Q. Would a guy ever ask a girl out just on the street or the mall or something? Basically I know its kinda sad but I don't have a load of friends and I don't really ever go out clubbing. I work in the city so I often go shopping during the day and stuf...
A. 10 May 2010: Uh, yea... and in a car, school, church... probably not while you're in a toilet stall... but most anywhere else...... (read in full...)
Why is she telling me that other women are checking me out?
Q. Ok so my girlfriend and I go out to clubs and go dancing. We both love to dance and have a great time. One thing that drives me crazy is that she keeps telling me about other girls that are checking me out. I am there do dance with her. I dont ...
A. 10 May 2010: Maybe it's flattering to her that she has you and all the other chicks can do is eye you!... (read in full...)
Changing his passwords on his accounts--says its "his business not mine"
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together a year, living together for 6 months. Last week he changed his hotmail and facebook passwords out of no where. He says its his business and none of mine. Why the sudden change? Should I be worried something is ...
A. 10 May 2010: Have you been snooping? How did you know he changes them? If you've been logging on his accounts with his passwords you're lucky that's all he did.... (read in full...)
Need answers on first time sex!
Q. did you have sex with your first girlfriend/boyfriend? Were you their first girlfriend/boyfriend too? How old were the both of you?...
A. 7 May 2010: WOW, the ages are older than I thought...I was 19, she was my first, I was not hers (I was her second and her first was a major jerk who abused her).... (read in full...)
I need help with losing weight!
Q. I am 14 years old and am kinda overweight. I really want to lose weight and gain some muscle what is the best way to go about doing this without starving myself?...
A. 7 May 2010: Ok, first starving yourself will NOT work. When your body thinks it's in a famine it slows the metabolism. That's why they say you have to eat breakfast, as it gets your metabolism cranked up and you'll be hunger by lunch. Some protein works ... (read in full...)
Making out makes me have blue balls
Q. Hey guys I'm a 16 and a virgin, I have a girlfriend and everytime we makeout my balls hurt like a bitch. I have herd something about something called blue balls but they don't turn blue. Can anyone help me how to I stop them from hurting after I ...
A. 7 May 2010: Blue balls are a myth- you're simply horney and want to get off. Jack off before and see if she's game to give you a hand job...... (read in full...)
Oral Sex Questions
Q. Did you give oral sex to your first girlfriend/boyfriend? Were you their first girlfriend/boyfriend? Did they return the favor? How old were the both of you?...
A. 7 May 2010: Yes, no, yes but she wasn't so good at it... I was 19, so was she. It took me till 40 to find a woman who loved to go down on me! Married her and love her dearly!... (read in full...)
My family forced me to have an abortion, ...and now I think I am pregnant again!
Q. On March 27, 2010 I was forced to have an abortion by my mom and grandmom.They knew i didnt want an abortion, so they cut had made me stop going to school,cut off my phone, and took my laptop so that I could have any contact with any one who was ...
A. 7 May 2010: Advice: Use a condom + the pill.
Your too young to keep a child, and you need to become responsible. If you old enough to spread your legs you need to become responsible. I hope you're not pregnant, for your sake, for your family's sake and for ... (read in full...)
I need advice for a first date.
Q. Got a question I got a question I'm going on my first date on may 29th basicly I'm going to take my date to a japenese steakhouse and see a movie possibly also to a amusment park and I get my contacts next week and will buy a hollister outfit ...
A. 7 May 2010: Sounds like you are over planning this date. A nice dinner, nothing too complex, someplace you can have fun w/o feeling funny. The steakhouse may be a very good choice as you're with other people and the cook entertains. Movie OK, you'll not be ... (read in full...)
I want to make this relationship work, but he admitted to molesting his sister
Q. My boyfriend just recently told me he had a dark secret. It took me hours to convince him to tell me. After I broke through to him he told me he molested his sister when he was about 11 or 12 and she was 8. He paid her money to give him blowjobs and ...
A. 28 April 2010: Hello --- First, a blow job is sex! SO he had sex with his sister. This is not normal behavior and you need to let this guy go- he's not capable of having a healthy relationship.... (read in full...)
Please Help Me Get A Divorce
Q. I have been married for 3 years now, and we have a child together. My husband is physically and verbally abusive daily, and the only time we ever talk about anything is when he is yelling about something. It was never like this until our child was ...
A. 27 April 2010: find a woman's shelter, they'll have resources for you, and legal aid. Work with them to formulate a plan and then execute it. Forget him, as he's forgotten you years ago!
Best of luck- there will be some pain, but life gets good!... (read in full...)
Did I open Pandora's box?
Q. I find myself in a bit of a jam. I have been dating my man for some time now. We have had threesomes in the past, however I do not want to do that anymore and I want to be in a committed relationship with him. A.K.A. monogamous. Thing is he knows ...
A. 27 April 2010: I doubt that his hesitation to commit to you is due to the threesomes. What may be troubling him is your belief that all the fun stops when you commit. Where did this belief come from? The fun should never stop, but that doesn't mean you still ... (read in full...)
Are fetishes a normal part of a sexual relationship?
Q. Hey guys and girls, Are fetishes a normal part of a sexual relationship? ...
A. 26 April 2010: Uh, you'd best define 'Fetish'... and 'normal'...
Maybe let's rephrase...
Do the majority of relationships involve one or both partners where an inanimate object causes one or both partners sexual arousal that is mandatory for their sexual ple... (read in full...)
What is the secret to a lasting relationship?
Q. Hi there, My sister and her bf have been together for 4 years, my aunt and uncle have been together for 15 years, and my grandparents for 38 years. I want to know what is the secret to maintaining a good relationship. What do u do in order for the ...
A. 26 April 2010: Trust, respect, communication, listening, giving positive and loving support, valuing time together, prioritizing each other above other people. Being able to forgive each other when there's been a problem, and knowing how to apologize.
A hea... (read in full...)
He doesn't treat me with respect,, but I don't want to lose him
Q. My boyfriend does not treat me the way I want to be treated he belittles me al the time. I believe is my fault because he has been doing for a while now and I have never been able to defend my self. Now I'm beyond tired of it. I don't even feel like ...
A. 26 April 2010: Are you crazy? you think this is YOUR FAULT? NO WAY! He treats you bad, and somehow you've convinced yourself that it's YOUR FAULT??? This is a sick relationship and you need to exit it at once. Men do not treat the woman they love this way AT ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and a virgin and I want to have sex. If I don't wait for the right person, will I regret it?
Q. I'm 15 and still a virgin. All of my friends have had sex, i think im ready to but i really don't know what to do. i m not sure whether to wait for the right person or just go ahead and do it. if i don't wait for the right person will i regret it ...
A. 26 April 2010: Yes, you will.... (read in full...)
I stay with him even though he's cheated on me and hit me
Q. ive been with this guy for 11 months now and i feel really attached to him but ive realized that im in an abusive relationship i know its wrong and evreytime i break up its like im forced to go back because he litterally calls me more than 50 times ...
A. 26 April 2010: Look, after he's beaten you enough you'll figure this out. He has SERIOUS and dangerous issues. You need to get out of this relationship and NOT let him bully you back into getting back with him so he can abuse you more! Go get some help so you ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my husbands past, when it keeps coming to the future?
Q. Hello thank you for taking the time to read this. My husband and I have a healthy relationship, the only problem is his past. I have some issues with dealing with these women he has slept with. I understand it's not a huge deal. Yet whenever we ...
A. 25 April 2010: You and your husband need to contact a domestic abuse hotline and see if they can be of assistance. She's an ex of his and as such she could be crossing a domestic abuse line (it's a shot to take and see if they can help).
The simplest thing wo... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he called? Was I too mean?
Q. I was approached buy a guy exactly one week ago tonight at a wedding. He came up and sparked a convo with me and we totally hit it off. Halfway during our convo he said you have to let me get you coffee sometime and i kinda joked around and avoided ...
A. 25 April 2010: Yep, any level of mean is too mean... you showed him by your actions that you were not interested and that you were ready to ignore him...
Next time you like a guy, no meanness, don't ignore his conversation, don't play games...
Hopefully thi... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling so worthless???
Q. Hi dear cupid audience, how are you all? I want to ask for advice, since this is truly destroying me inside. I need help dealing with regret and guilt, i don't know how to stop me from feeling like im worthless. =( The problem is when i go out. I...
A. 25 April 2010: Reyna,
It sounds like when you drink you drink too much and then do things that you later regret and which brings on shame and self-loathing. Some people simply can not process alcohol and once it's in their bodies it causes a major change in thei... (read in full...)
Is he REALLY that nice?
Q. I got of an abusive relationship about a month ago. I recently started seeing a friend of mine I have been friends with for a few years. I was never allowed to hang out with him but always kept in touch with him secretly online. He's the complete ...
A. 25 April 2010: Do let your past ruin your future. You have to start building trust in people, especially men. Not all of us are like the jerk you were dating. It's going to take time, but work hard to AVOID waiting for the other shoe to drop. Relax and trust ... (read in full...)
Should I un-friend my ex-girlfriend on Facebook?
Q. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about three days ago, and I am now just starting the very hard, heart-breaking and emotional healing process. Every time I log on to the computer, I have the urge to check her Facebook page, to see how she's doing ...
A. 25 April 2010: Yes, wipe all traces of her out... you need to start the healing process as does she.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend threatened to assault me!
Q. What should I do? my bf and i have been together for 8 months. Today, he threatened to assault me. He said "I am glad u are far away so I cant hit you" I am very scared of him. He has a temper and I feel like it is escalating to violence. ...
A. 25 April 2010: You don't trust him, he said that if you were near him he would have beaten you and your scared of him... WHY are you ASKING anyone what to do??? LEAVE HIM, distance yourself and take whatever cautions are warranted. THis is NOT a healthy ... (read in full...)
G/f cheating? No sex, says I make her skin crawl
Q. I live with my girlfriend, but is she having an affair? Weve not had sex for nearly 16 months now, she used to sleep naked in bed but now wears shorts and t-shirt, we argue a lot, she goes out 4 nights a week even for just an hour sometimes, she ...
A. 24 April 2010: get out of this mess - you have nothing to gain but your self respect. Go find someone who likes you.... (read in full...)
I pressed charges against b/f for his behavior, but should I drop them?
Q. I am so confused! Please can someone help me to sort out what I am feeling. Basically, my boyfriend attacked me when he had been drinking so I had him arrested and he is now on bail for 3 weeks, he is getting charged with common assault. But I a...
A. 24 April 2010: Dump him and do NOT drop charges. If you do, he'll one day beat the hell out of another woman, and you pressing charges will hopefully set him on a path of recovery.... (read in full...)
We're both female but I love her so much!
Q. I've fallen completely in love with a girl and she said she likes me too and we've kissed but she said she doesnt want to be a lesbian and doesnt want to be in a relationship with a girl. she said she doesnt want to be the subject of gossip or ...
A. 20 April 2010: Consider her just like a guy who will kiss you, but not date you... not relationship material.... (read in full...)
Is casual sex a bad idea?
Q. Does anybody think casual sex is a bad idea? I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long there is contraception being used. What do other people think thank you x...
A. 20 April 2010: At 16 or 17, I think you need to not have casual sex. Wait till your 18+ and a bit more mature. A bad reputation can be messy at 16 or 17. Once at University, casual (safer) sex is a bit easier to partake in. ... (read in full...)
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