Is casual sex a bad idea?
Q. Does anybody think casual sex is a bad idea? I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long there is contraception being used. What do other people think thank you x...
A. 20 April 2010: At 16 or 17, I think you need to not have casual sex. Wait till your 18+ and a bit more mature. A bad reputation can be messy at 16 or 17. Once at University, casual (safer) sex is a bit easier to partake in. ... (read in full...)
My husband does not appear to be sexually interested in me.
Q. My husband and I have been married for 5 years. The biggest issue in our marriage has always been sex. He just doesn't act that into me. I'm not overweight and most men find me attractive. When I ask him, he says he finds me attractive, yet he ...
A. 20 April 2010: He may be down on himself, depressed or simply lacking self-confidence. Can you make your bedroom a safe place where he can relax? Please do NOT make the bed a place where you complain each night to him- some women have a bad habit of doing this ... (read in full...)
My flat mates wont clean, ...the filth is affecting my health, ... is there a way I can get out of the lease?
Q. Ok, so this isn't a relationship question but I don't know where else to go to for advice. Any help greatly appreciated. I am currently a student living in the UK and share a house with 4 other students. At first things were good and we woul...
A. 20 April 2010: I agree, document everything- with digital cameras there's not a reason not to have 200+ photos. Write down conversations, commitments and their failure (or success) in meeting those commitments. See if you can find a ombudsman who assist peopl... (read in full...)
I know I am number 1, ..but it is hard knowing there have been so many other number 1 women throughout his life.
Q. i'm in an age gap relationship, and there's one thing that has been an annoyance in that. everythings great, but i keep bumping into small things that make me realize our 19 year difference, and how much he has been through in love. im 18, hes 37. ...
A. 20 April 2010: Wow, you keep digging in a minefield and are surprised when you find explosives... how odd... QUIT digging and get over it... if you keep it up you're going to work yourself up to a state where you can't forget. He LOVES you, he's committed to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want to marry until until I get a better job
Q. My boyfriend of four years hasn't proposed yet and doesn't know when he will. We had a discussion last night about it because I'm tired of waiting. Basically he's told me that he can't marry me unless I get a different job that pays more and is m...
A. 20 April 2010: There may be several explanations for this - not a one of them make it OK. You need to decide if you've been waiting for this guy in vain, and if so, move on... He could be insecure about marrying and you two not making enough money to live, a... (read in full...)
Is it my fault that he couldn't cum?
Q. I've been dating a guy for a little over 3 months now. 2 months into the relationship, I gave him his first blowjob, but we had to stop before he finished because we had to go somewhere. I tried again a month later, we were finally able to ensure a...
A. 18 April 2010: NO, it's NOT your fault, many men can't cum from a blow job. Some men don't even like them. You might be able to adapt your technique to get him there, but he needs to teach you what to do... it's not simply one mouth + one penis = orgasm...
... (read in full...)
I can't stand my roommates filthy habits!
Q. My roommate's habits are filthy and dirty. She pokes her nose,spits everywhere and is really dirty! I can't stand it. But i can't even say it straight to her. Please help! ...
A. 18 April 2010: When she does a behavior you find repulsive, let your needs be known. Tell her to go into the toilet and do the behavior with the door closed and that it disturbs you.
Find a new roommate, and this time express the rules prior to agreeing... (read in full...)
I'm scared she is going to drink herself to death if I don't do anything...plz help me help her!!!!!
Q. i absolutely don't know what to do! i have been living with my aunt for over 10 years since my mother works overseas. i have recently noticed that she has been heavily drinking and it is getting worse day by day. i've tried talking to her abo...
A. 18 April 2010: you need to get to an Al-anon meeting as soon as possible. They can help you cope with this situation. There should be English speaking AA meetings in Germany. Here's a link:
http://www.aa-europe.net/countries/germany.htm
If you can't find a... (read in full...)
Woman in 30s and never had boyfriend
Q. I am a woman in my early 30s and I have never had a boyfriend. Recently, I`ve been meeting some men but I keep getting rejected because I do not have dating experience aka I have never been in a long term relationship. I have two question...
A. 18 April 2010: Of course it's possible! You need to relax and down play your past (or lack there of). Don't offer up that you've never had a boyfriend, let a guy get to know you- you don't mention if your a virgin, but if you are when the relationship gets ... (read in full...)
My daughter puts hurdles in my personal life!
Q. Hello all, this is my first story-problem I would like to share with you all and expect your comments and advice. I am almost 37 years old woman and i have a sweet but bossy teenage daughter.I live outside Detroit just with her, since im divorc...
A. 17 April 2010: You need to see this from her eyes, and be less selfish. The fact that you have a bad last 10 years is NOT HER FAULT, yet she is now having to deal with it.
You invaded her space, and most daughters do NOT want their mother at their parties,... (read in full...)
I love my mum, but she irritates me to the bone and I am not able to forgive and forget.
Q. How not to hate someone that raised and gave birth to you? Yup you know it I dislike my mother very much. Why? I don't know why I have so many grudges against her. I love my mom but the sound of her voice trying to tell me that she loves me ...
A. 17 April 2010: Yes, the way to get rid of it is to get HELP... if you're bi-polar you can not self treat this condition, as it requires medication. Once you get on the right meds, your moods will become more regular. Bi-polar disorder can be a real problem ,and ... (read in full...)
20 and never been kissed!
Q. Twenty and Never Been Kissed…. Ever since I was about 15 I’ve been on a “waiting quest” . What’s a “waiting quest” you ask? Well a “waiting quest” is a journey of sorts that doesn’t involve searching or moving or action…it just involves time an...
A. 17 April 2010: IMO, you're going to have to (at some level) put yourself out there. this need not be too excessive, but you need to at least out out a vibe that you're not waiting to enter a nunnery.
In life, things seldom come to those that sit and wait- it... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has started to sleep on the couch instead of in bed with me!
Q. I have a concern about my relationship with my boyfriend. We been involved for four years now, we do live together. I have a problem with him when he sleeps on the couch instead in the bed with me. He has done this in the past with another ...
A. 17 April 2010: I agree, for several years I suffered from sleep problems, the couch became one of the few places I could fall asleep- all be it at 2 or 3 am. My wife goes to bed at 10 or 10:30 and when I did that I would wake up an hour later and be WIDE awake. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if this is an allergic reaction to latex condoms?
Q. Hey I was just wondering if anyone is allergic to latex condoms? Me and bf use durex extra safe and every time we use them I get a burning type feeling down there and it really makes sex not enjoyable. I think it may be an allergic reaction but im n...
A. 17 April 2010: People with latex allergies are nearly always allergic to bananas (this is why many medical forms ask about bananas...), are you allergic to banana's if so it's nearly certain. Here's one link, but there are many... http://foodallergens.i... (read in full...)
He's big -- is there anything we can do so it won't hurt?
Q. Hiya, me and my boyfriend are sexually activee butt we measured his penis at it is 10 inches so it hurts is there anyway i can prevent it from hurting??...
A. 16 April 2010: research the matter on the web, there are positions that create more distance from your cervix to his balls, like spooning. Your bottom adds an inch or two vs. him entering you missionary style, so he can't trust as deep.
Play around with it,... (read in full...)
I've married the perfect person but I want OUT!
Q. Hoping someone can help with a little advice. I have been married for almost 2 years now. We have no children and this is both our first marriage. I truly married the perfect person but I want out. There is no other person on the side or even an ...
A. 16 April 2010: WOW, your going to stomp on the heart of the woman who loves you that much... nice...
Odds are good if you run from this you'll end up regretting it, and badly. She'll move on, remarry and live a good life, you'll be single, age and then rea... (read in full...)
My wife had a wild bachelorette party. Should I be mad that I missed some fun for the last time?
Q. My wife and I have been married for four months now, and overall it has been great. However, I am in an argument with her over her bachelorette trip that she took with her friends before the wedding. I know that these trips are normal for both men ...
A. 16 April 2010: WTF? Did both of you agree that after the wedding you were NEVER going out again? What about other people's future parties? Or, we're you looking to get laid (by someone else) before the wedding?
Are you NEVER going to see another woman na... (read in full...)
I am getting my bachelor's degree soon, while my boyfriend has low ambitions and goals! I don't know if I can deal with this!
Q. i am getting my bachelors degree soon, but my boyfriend only has his high school degree he works and he gets 1200 a month, he does not have a bank account and he lives by sleeping at his friends place, i love him so much and he loves me dearly, the ...
A. 16 April 2010: Wow, $700 derails his future? You and he are not aligned, do yourselves both a huge favor, end this and move on. Long term this is NOT going to work out and will be more painful and more expensive... just wait till he can't crash on people's ... (read in full...)
Does every relationship have a title?
Q. my best friend and me have decided to see eachother, we're involved but we don't have the title of boyfriend and girlfriend yet. I guess my question is 'does every relationship have to have a title?" let me explain, we call what we're doing 'bes...
A. 16 April 2010: Your dating... who cares what you call it. Set the rules, uphold them and grow your relationship. HOWEVER, you need to decide HOW LONG you're willing to being exclusive sex partners w/o a title. If he's never going to marry you, and expect to ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, how would I look if I dated a 15-year-old?
Q. I'm 17 and I'm wondering is dating a girl that is 15 and a freshman is that low class? She is really nice but would that make me look bad...
A. 16 April 2010: It would look like the first step to ending up in prison. It's not low class, and who cares if you look bad... you're an adult, she's a child... when your 43 and you date a 41 year old WHO cares... but 17 dating 15 is not worth it. Wait till she's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is acting really strange, what could be going on?
Q. I am 24 years old, and my boyfriend is 31.We have been dating for almost three years. About four months ago, he wanted a piece of paper and pen to find out what the cost of something would be, i recently found that piece of paper i gave him and he ...
A. 16 April 2010: uh, maybe he wanted to know how much money he makes in 3 months... 722 * 52 would be his annual pay, 722 * 4.3 would be his average monthly... not sure what 722 * 12 is... except how much he'll make in the next 12 weeks...
Why don't you ASK him ... (read in full...)
We don't have sex and he says he needs condoms to jerk off into. Is he cheating?
Q. I am 51 years old. I have been married for 30 years. I met my husband 30 years ago and married him in 2 days. We remain in a marriage. This is not a marriage I want to continue as is. About 15 years ago, I decided to stop having sexual ...
A. 16 April 2010: You two have a bad situation, and you two should have addressed your problems years ago. It sounds like you both have been retaliating on each other- him first, then you second, and now it's gone on for 15 years+.
I've never heard of anyone n... (read in full...)
Is being a martyr to the man you love worth it?
Q. I am in a very complicated situation of a relationship...we already have one baby and he is being responsible with him.But we are not leaving in same house he just paying where the place i stay.He never said he loves me but he just say he likes ...
A. 16 April 2010: No, that's not a relationship... you need to really look at this and make sure that you're doing the right thing by staying in this odd relationship.
He's your child's father, and it's great that he's around, but you need to QUIT sleeping... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant from oral sex?
Q. I recently gave my boyfriend oral sex and he did the same for me, but since then I've been feeling strange. Could I be pregnant?...
A. 14 April 2010: Please spend some more time on some other web sites where you can learn how sex works... can't get pregnant from shaking hands either... maybe you're too young for sex...... (read in full...)
How can I save my marriage after cheating on my wife?
Q. I have been in a 13 yr marrage and now I have distroyed it by cheating on my wife. I had paid for an erotic massage and I am extremly embarresed about it. My wife says that I am upset because I got cought. I am not I am distroyed because I hurt ...
A. 14 April 2010: You've got a set amount of time to work really hard to win her back- don't F it up again. ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him, but he might be dying
Q. Sorry this is so long, but I think details should be known. Hi guys. I'm going through some really hard times here. My boyfriend used to make me incredibly happy. He'd try his best to please me and everything for the first couple of weeks we got ...
A. 14 April 2010: You need to do some research and stop relying on his explanation. We're all dying... it just may take 60 to 70 more years for most of us...... (read in full...)
Is sex something bonding for women?
Q. Do women become more attached to men they've had sex with? I've had a drawn-out flirtation with a woman. We are never single at the same time. I sometimes wonder if she thinks about me (we were pretty inappropriate for a while at one point when I ...
A. 14 April 2010: Yes, it's a primitive urge... much has been written on the subject.... (read in full...)
He thinks I lied about the number of relationships I've had
Q. I have been dating a man for six months. We dated each other last year however not seriously and I ended things without an explanation after 5 months last time. This time around things are better and more serious. Initially I contacted him ...
A. 14 April 2010: Women should NEVER give a guy a number... it's a NO win. If you're low, you're a liar, if high a slut... The answer is NONE of his business. If he loves you, then it's immaterial. I met my wife at 40- SURPRISE, she had sex with several guys... how ... (read in full...)
I get overly emotional when bad things happen
Q. Why is life so evil?????????? It seems to me that as soon as I start feeling happy with my life something happens to turn it all upside down! I hear all the time life is unfair and stuff happens, but c'mon I just want help! I get overly ...
A. 13 April 2010: First, Life is NOT evil - shit happens, it just happens... not to you, but to everyone... It sounds as if you've got some issues with security, and possibly some codependency issues (not uncommon, certainly not a huge deal, but no way to know for ... (read in full...)
I have fallen really hard, but she is moving 600 miles away. Do I just let her go?
Q. I met a women at my best friends wedding,we immediately started going out and things were going extremely good. Until tonight,she is going for an interview for a job in a town 600 miles away. What am I to do,should I be calm about it and wish her ...
A. 13 April 2010: What at your age is stopping you from moving with her? No reason that you need to "tell" her to stay (FYI: that's a crappy idea... she'll resent you later for it... it's a NO WIN). In your mid to late 20's you should be able to move, but can you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriends sexual abuse, I need closure but I don't know how
Q. Hey guys, my problem is i cant get over my girlfriend being sexually abused up until she was 14 by her sick f_ck uncle. i got her to seek therapy and i have been the main person in her healing and recently she has told me that i have taken away ...
A. 10 April 2010: Man, that is rough, and I've been in a similar situation that ended up causing ME alot of pain and problems. My ex-wife had a HORRIBLE relationship with her mother, and right after we met is when it started (has nothing to do with me, her parents ... (read in full...)
Should I file divorce? Is enough enough?
Q. Do I leave my husband?? I need help please. I have been married for 17 years and have two beautiful children. However I feel that I need to put an end to a failing or failed marriage. I feel that I am in it just for the sake of the children. S...
A. 10 April 2010: start making a plan, get your things together, know where your resources are (people, money...) and plan a departure. Make sure that you change as many things as you can (email address, passwords, cell phone #... etc) and that your employer knows ... (read in full...)
Can guys feel if they have released pre-cum?
Q. Last night i may have done something stupid. I was in the car with my ex-boyfriend who I often hook up with, we were fooling around and he really wanted to have sex. It was quite cramped and he didnt have a condom on so I kept saying no initially. ...
A. 10 April 2010: Bad news... pre-come simply leaks out during sex... there's zero feeling attached to it's arrival. You'd best start being REALLY CAREFUL about now... but odds are good you're fine.... (read in full...)
I'm checking ex's emails because I want to know what he's up to!
Q. Right i have been split up fro exalcoholic for 3 weeksnow ive wrote on here before regarding it and im so happy without him and my life is so much easier now but i cant help checking his emails and its getting stupid now i really dont know how to ...
A. 6 April 2010: You need a NEW hobby, as it seems that keeping tabs on him was your old one. Seriously, if he was an alcoholic, you might want to go to a few Al-anon meetings and talk to women who have been in relationships with alcoholics. It can really twist ... (read in full...)
Does fantasizing lead to cheating?
Q. is it okay for my fiance to fantasize about other women? could it lead to cheating? is fantasizing ok? we have a great sex life. he tells me he is very happy. im just worried that if im okay with letting him get lap dances and watch his po...
A. 6 April 2010: NO, in fact quite a bit has been written on it and most everyone agrees that it's part of a healthy sex life. Many women fantasize as well (apparently you're not one of them). Gentleman's clubs are just another kind of fantasy, the women are just a ... (read in full...)
Should I call ex and wish her a happy birthday?
Q. Well this is my second attempt at this question. It was rejected because there wasn't enough detail. I didn't want it to have detail. It was a simple question should I or should I not call my ex and wish her a happy birthday. Now because of this I ...
A. 6 April 2010: You need to let it go. If she wanted a relationship she'd have contacted you. This is like a scab, QUIT picking at it and let it heal... then move on.... (read in full...)
First time sex and he couldn't cum, is this common?
Q. i have only been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of weeks and yesterday we had sex for the first time together. it was ordinary sex apart from the fact that he didnt (or maybe couldn't?) come. afterwards he apologised for this and ...
A. 6 April 2010: YES it happens, especially when the man is worried about the feelings of his partner. Sounds like he was suffering from a little anxiety, which will diminish with time. When I was young the first time I made love to a new girl I had a serious case ... (read in full...)
Do I ignore my boyfriends anger?
Q. I have written previously about my boyfriends anger problem...which I think is hereditary. He is Italian and hot tempered. I wonder if my only recourse is to ignore it if I want the relationship to work. He gets upset all the time. If something ...
A. 6 April 2010: "I wonder if my only recourse is to ignore it if I want the relationship to work" well- is it working? I don't think so, or you wouldn't have posted the message.
Another way of saying this is:
"I fear that I have to give up my idea of a healthy... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend's brother wants a baby with me!
Q. ive got a question am seeing my ex boyfriends brother ive got 2 kids with my ex and now the ex boyfriends brother wants a child with me is this the wrong thing to do please help thank you....
A. 5 April 2010: If you're in a serious relationship, get married THEN have a child. Getting knocked up because some guy wants an anchor to attempt to hold you down is a STUPID idea...... (read in full...)
The condom split! How do I tell Mum I want to keep it?
Q. Hey, I've recently had sex with my boyfriend but the condom ripped i'm only 13 an yes I know I am under-age an silly, but I think I want too keep the baby if I am pregnant, I know there is a-lot more to it than just having a baby! But I will look ...
A. 4 April 2010: "But I will look after it as best as I can, I know my mum would help as much as she could"
Are you that selfish? A 13 year old with ZERO way to support herself or the child, so best you can is CRAP... Living off government handouts all your lif... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: Uh, think for a few seconds about the child and the FACT that there is NO WAY you're ready for this and you'll screw up the rest of your life. Saving a few dollars isn't what's required. An education, maturity and stable home IS...... (read in full...)
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