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writes:ryt ive been friends with this girl 4 over 2 years and recently ive started to like her.a few weeks ago she came to my house to watch a film, we were in bed cuddling and she kept stroakin my arm n holding my hand, she also put my hand on her boob. we got reli close but nothing else reli happened.a few days after she came up i told her how i felt but she said she onli liked me as a friend???im reli confused and dont know what to think! but i cnt stop thinkin about her either?can andbody tell me what i should do or say???plz help me!!!thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Girls like guys that know what they want.She made a move and you didn`t react to it in the way she had anticipated.At this point you can try to explain to her and that your still new to the dating game and how nervous you were .She more than likely took your lack of action as a lack of interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot reli i didnt wanna push my luck.
i just cnt c y shud wud do that n then tell me she doesnt want me???
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Did it not occur to you to massage it a little - then change to the other one?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Christ boy - you're easily confused aren't you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe put my hand on her boob, then put her hand on my hand and kept it there lol
im reli confused!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Maybe she realized she didn't feel as comfortable as she thought she would with your hand on her boob, and now wants to remain friends.
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reader, \m/J.D\m/ +, writes (19 July 2009):
 Lol uncle phil is obviously lookin at this from a males perspective i see. Theres a chance hes hit the nail on the head but i doubt it in all honesty if she only wanted fun she woulda told you out rite and pushed it further. Rite, put it this way if the shoe was on the other foot, you came onto her and she didnt respond fully, would you feel rejected and a little bit silly for putting yourself out there?? Thats prob what shes thinking and feeling. Ive been in the same situation and altho i genuinely liked the guy after the shock of feeling rejected i didnt wanna risk being so embarrassed again. See the problem? My advice would be to talk to her again and give her reasons why you held bk that will encourage her to open up to you in return and let you kno fully where your stand.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (19 July 2009):
Well she is defiantly attracted to you so don`t give up yet if you really hold an interest.She is young and confused as to what she wants,or may just not want anything serious at this time.It`s hard to say for sure what she feels.There is not much to say at this point.Just continue to be friends and maybe try to get her alone to see if she`s willing to have another make out session.Don`t push to hard or you`ll push her away.And don`t do nothing or she will move on to someone else.Its hard to find the exact middle ground necessary to make something come of this but that is what you must look for. If you have been friends for so long she might be afraid to risk the friendship by exploring something more.You can always try to reassure her that you will always be her friend regardless of the outcome. I`d try to just spend time with her and talk to her.Just be her friend.Take things slow,and hope that she opens up to you.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (19 July 2009):
Agreed, She seems ready for a bit of play, but not an emotional relationship. If you can keep those two things seperate, you appear to be in good position to have a bit of fun, but you'll not be allowed the relationship. At this age, women can have a strong sense of what they want long term, and be focused on it. She may have bigger plans, and may not feel that a relationship fits into that right now.
Get her over again and see how it goes. Hopefully this will be a bit hotter the next time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): It sounds like she wants one of those 'friends with benefits' type relationships.
What you say and do about it is entirely up to you! If you're happy with such an arrangement "Shall we get our kit off and have some fun?" might be an appropriate thing to say, her response will give you a clue about what to do about it, if anything.
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