My sisters say I am going mad!
Q. HI!! I am a Pakistani muslim girl of 26 years. My problem is that i recently got devorced from my husband who was a complete jerk. We didn't have any kind of relationship and i only spend 8 days with him. I am now doing my ph.d in genetics and some...
A. 24 October 2009: What? you've not written anything that would allow anyone to comment on your mental health. My question is WHY did you marry this man? No relationship? Did you date him, were you two in love? Did you marry against your will? or for the wrong ... (read in full...)
His parents call me a predator!
Q. Hi all ty for reading this and please your comments will be so welcome.. I met this guy will be 2 years soon .. We were instant friends and started off talking every day it was crazy how natural it was and innocent. He loves with his parents who I ...
A. 24 October 2009: You two need to find a workable solution until he can finish his schooling and move out. He's a ADULT and more than of the age where he should be in FULL CONTROL of his life. He needs to stand up for you and not let his parents control his life. ... (read in full...)
How can I help my brother?
Q. My brother really needs help. Last Sept got his heart destroyed by some girl, and now he's become a complete recluse. Before her, he was a bit of a shut in anyway, but now he won't talk to anyone, my friends tell me that when he's at uni during h...
A. 19 October 2009: Make sure that he knows that your there for him, and don't try to tell him what to do. Be supportive. You may need to go and seek professional advice as to how to best help him. He sounds very depressed, which can result in nasty outcomes- ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and paranoid. Should I see a doctor?
Q. im 16 and suffering from paranoia which has only recently started, will it get worse? do i need to see a doctor about it? x...
A. 19 October 2009: Yes, if you recogize what's going on, it may be a larger problem. Usually can't see it in themselves, so it's great that you can. Go see a Dr., tell them what's going on, and they'll recommend the next step. Recovery can be easy, and you deserve ... (read in full...)
My gay friend keeps grabbing my boobs!
Q. okay so i have this friend he is amazing and i love him to bits. he is gay but i have quite big boobs and he keeps poking at them and grabbing them i didnt really mind at first but now its getting to me and its got worse cause he has asked if he ...
A. 19 October 2009: Not the kind of behavior a freind exhibits... not! Set him straight, he's being manipulative... somethings not right here.... (read in full...)
Once an abuser, always an abuser??
Q. My ex bf abused me and now he wants me back. He promises hes changed and so on. He says he regrets it and would do anything for me. He admits to be an idiot. He says he loves me- something he never told me when we were in a relationship. He says we ...
A. 17 October 2009: "He says he loves me- something he never told me when we were in a relationship" WOW, your definition of a relationship is odd... if you were in one, he should has said this... what you were in was a hostage situation. Abusers do not change w/o... (read in full...)
Do men really think in black and white?
Q. I have heard this saying that "men think in black and white". How true is this? I have past relationships and I know for a fact that once a guy has lost interest in you, there is nothing that can make him lift a finger for you. This makes sense...
A. 17 October 2009: Maybe he's fishing for an easy hook-up... or he's insecure and fishing for releif (and an easy hook-up), or maybe he's drunk, sad and lonely (and fishing for an esay hook-up)... Ex's that send ex's emails like this are usually wanting to reliv... (read in full...)
I want to know if I'm trying too hard to be a good mother?
Q. Im a 22 yr old female. I have 1 child. And am married. I want to know if im trying too hard to be a good mother. Im in the type of career that requires me to be away from my family a lot. Example im gone for this year overseas. I really try to give ...
A. 17 October 2009: I agree, children need attention, not stuff. A child needs love and to build a sense of security and bonding. Having beautiful cloths that are well made and high style will not replace a sense of comfort and well being. Also, your sense of se... (read in full...)
Am I bisexual?
Q. I've come to realize that whenever I feel like getting drunk I feel more attracted and in the mood to makeout with a girl instead of my boyfriend. I don't know why! For example, the other night I went to a party, and there were about 15 people- ...
A. 17 October 2009: The alcohol is lowering your inhibitions and odds are good that when your BF drinks, deep down you don't trust him as much and that you want the sexual stimulation from someone you do trust who is safe. Is it possible that the safty (can't get... (read in full...)
What is likelyhood of a committed relationship?
Q. I'm a 30 year old male and I've met this hot woman off the internet. She is 20 years old and a virgin. No religious ties. She's never even had a bf. She just moved out of her parents home (very controlling/mentally abusive father) and is l...
A. 17 October 2009: I agree, sounds fishy... even if you've talked to her on the phone. Sounds like a come on if you ask me, just like the tales the strippers use to seperate men from their money. Tell them what they want to hear, get the cash, give them what they ... (read in full...)
Is this my fault for being too weak?
Q. My boyfiriend of almost 2 years is for the most part a sweet heart. But When he is upset with me, ne treats me like crap, he blows me off when I apologize or try to make it up to him. He hangs up or yells at me when I ask him what's really bothering ...
A. 17 October 2009: Is his behavior towards me my fault? No, it's NOT, but guys like this pray on women by making them THINK that it is. He's training you on how he wants you to think and feel, so that over time he can manipulate you. I feel that it is. If so ... (read in full...)
Is my teacher crossing the line?
Q. Okay, there's this teacher at my High School, and I think he kind of flirts with me a little bit, and I just want to know if he might like me too much. First of all, I don't even have him as a teacher, he's only my homeroom advisor. But we h...
A. 17 October 2009: Sounds like this young teacher may find you attractive. He needs to learn to not do this, and keep his feelings better hidden. Your right in keeping some seperation here as if he was tempted to 'cross the line' he could easily lose everything that ... (read in full...)
Are short women better lovers?
Q. Just curious to know why so many men say short women are better lovers than taller women. I read several different forums, and sure enough, it came up over and over again. Problem was, no one elaborated on what made sex better with petite women. ...
A. 17 October 2009: What? I've NEVER heard anyone claim that short women are better in bed... Here's some consideration... First, there are more 'short' women than tall ones, when we compare women's heights to men... Second, men usually find women who are adventur... (read in full...)
He meets his psycho ex secretly, should I be concerned?
Q. I have been with my sig other for almost 2 year, but he still keeps in contact with his ex girlfried. I am okay with ex's being friends, bit this person is a bit of a bunny boiler. e.g. she sends "i love you" messages to him via text (she is a ...
A. 17 October 2009: 1. He keeps in contact with his ex girlfried 2. She sends "i love you" messages 3. He meets her secretly 4. (I've asked) him to let me know when they meet, yet he never does. Ok, Yes, you have reason to be worried. If she's throwing sex at hi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insults me and punched me in the back!
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years has a huge insecurity about how he compares to other men. I have reassured him (for these two years) that he is the man I want and who I want to be with - oh, and I am 26, he is 30. Last night we were out to...
A. 10 October 2009: Plan your move, find a safe place to go, get what you need and go. Change your cell, email, everything, and get a TRO (Temporary restraining order). Tell your family and I strongly suggest getting assistance from the local group that helps women ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but I also feel shame
Q. i want to have a sex with my boyfriend,,and that be my first time...becouse im virgin..and i want it but im afraid...and also i shame my body...i dont know what i do????but i want that:)...
A. 4 October 2009: Making love is nothing shameful, and you need to relax and not set your self up to feel guilty or dirty. Sex is fun, and should be something specail.... (read in full...)
Facebook is used for cheating?
Q. I get the feeling that facebook is used to cheat on each other. how u guys think?...
A. 4 October 2009: Not by me... I use it to reconnect with old freinds who I've lost touch with. It's great! I graduated from high school nearly 30 years ago, and have been able to reconnect with dozens of people who I had NO IDEA what happended to them. ... (read in full...)
I don't think my virginity meant anything to him
Q. i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (about a month ago). he was not a virgin, very experienced from what ive heard and what hes told me. about an hour ago we were just talking and watching tv, and he turned on a channel with guys cage ...
A. 4 October 2009: Natasia is 100% RIGHT! Great advice!
I'll only add that if he enjoys contests where one has to "tap out" - tell your father what happended and what he said, or better your older brother and 2 or 3 of his freinds... he'll wish he could move his... (read in full...)
Will I even satisfy her?
Q. Hi um... this isn't very standard for me. I mean, I've watched tutorials and what not, but nothing happens to me in real life. Not physically anyway. And I'm not one to ask these kinds of questions mainly because I've never gone through most of the ...
A. 3 October 2009: dude, you are so lucky... and here's why...
You've been able to recreate the lost art of courting. Probably without knowing it, you've recreated the almost lost process of getting to know someone long distance- really getting to KNOW someone.... (read in full...)
Got busted for shoplifting!
Q. I GOT A SHOPLIFTING CHARGE N I DNT WANT THIS TO MESS MY LIFE UP..WHAT CAN I DO TO GET IT EXPONGED N HOW MUCH DOES IT COST? I USUALLY DNT SHOPLIFT BUT I NEEDED SOME STUFF AND I DIDNT HAVE MONEY! CAN YA PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE...
A. 1 October 2009: Caps = shouting Your claim that you needed stuff and didn't have any money sounds as if your trying to rationalize your actions. Fact- if you shoplifted, you broke the law, should be prosecuted and should own your actions. You did the crime... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex
Q. My ex bf broke up with me and hurt me really bad during the relationship. He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex. I wouldnt have sex with him because I didnt feel he respected me and I had a feeling in my gut that he was ...
A. 1 October 2009: You got away from this jerk once, I'd stay away. He attempted to manipulate you and odds are he still is... to people like this life is a giant chess game. He's still moving around the board attempting to get what he wants.
STAY AWAY, and find... (read in full...)
I needed a hug, not a French kiss!
Q. is it normal that a girl would just want a hug from her boyfriend rathar than a french kiss ,,you see ,2 of my friends died at a car accident, and i was crying so when we met , i hugged him and i started crying he hugged me back but then afterwards ...
A. 25 September 2009: Immature, and frankly sad... If he reacts defensivly I'd say dump him...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do.
Q. My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do. I've tried almost everything and nothing seems to work. He doesn't feel he has a problem. I'm getting more depressed by the day. All we ever do is sit around and he drinks. I love him with ...
A. 23 September 2009: I second (or third) the vote that you seek out Al-anon. There you'll find people who have dealt with similar situations, and have improved their lives greatly, reguardless of the actions that the alcoholic does or doesn't take. This program p... (read in full...)
I'm depressed being a woman and being stuck with my sex organs...
Q. Lately I've been feeling incredibly depressed about being a woman. My boyfriend is amazing and is always doing everything he can to make sure I'm completely satisfied in bed. I like sex a lot and have it frequently and almost always finish. Yet all ...
A. 21 September 2009: Illithid beat me to the punch... and hit every point I wanted to make...
His organs guarantee he can cum so long as he can get hard and hold an erection. When that doesn't happen he's not coming. You on the other hand... can, and repeated... (read in full...)
Can good looking women make men insecure?
Q. Everyone tells me that i am a very beautiful women and i have a good personality. I was in an abusive relationship for many years, but finally got out. My ex even used to worry about other men looking at me whilst we were out shopping! I am not a ...
A. 21 September 2009: Ok, I'm no mental professional, but here's what I've learned over the years... First, we all seem to be attracted to people that stimulate memories from our past. There's a certain comfort that these personality traits stimulate. You may be unkn... (read in full...)
Do his comments reflect what he'll think if he sees me naked?
Q. This is going to sound really silly but here goes. I've been seeing this guy for a few months now and the other day we were bumming around watching tv when a song clip of Rhihanna came on. He made some comment about her having really fat thighs. ...
A. 21 September 2009: Let's assume that he thought that he thought that you'd think she was atractive and was trying to let you know that she wasn't. Guys can say weird things sometimes with strange motivations. I have a REALLY hard time thinking that he was trying to ... (read in full...)
Why do I want my abusive bf to be happy and successful....even "after" he came at me with a knife??
Q. I'm having a really hard time because my boyfriend was arrested yesterday for domestic violence. Yes, there's a big long history, but yesterday was really bad because he came at me with a knife which he was then going to turn on himself (this is ...
A. 20 September 2009: You need to learn that his happyness is NOT your business, nor do you have the power to "make" him happy. If you think you do, you could waste years (and seriously loose your sense of self) trying to fulfill something you simply can't. Each one of ... (read in full...)
Is there a cure for impotency?
Q. Hello, I'm a 20 years old female, and I'm not happy with my sexual life. I have been married for a month now and i feel like my husband is impotent, because we haven't had a normal sex yet. He ejaculates after one min, and can not hold his erection ...
A. 20 September 2009: You're going to need to work with him on this... he may have unfortuantly trained his body to seek very quick orgasms... guys do this sometimes, as they have to learn to jack-off fast and quietly... his penis (and brain) are going ot have to be ... (read in full...)
He wants to change my status of virgin to non-virgin
Q. I am 13 and there is is boy that i really like. we've been going out for about 3weeks and 1night we were talking on the phone and he said,"are you a virgin?" so i said "yes" and then he said "do you want me to change that?" i didnt say anything back ...
A. 19 September 2009: Of course he wants to have sex with you... because boys at that age want that from girls with ZERO reguard for them. Once he gets what he wants he's GONE...
You can't keep this guy, and you can't afford to give him what he wants to stay... ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship between cousins wrong and how do I tell my parents?
Q. Ok I know this may sound weird but I'm in a relationship with my second cousin twice removed. We only met recently and had no interaction as children and our families aren't very close. I really like him and he likes me. He's told his family about ...
A. 19 September 2009: Your fine! Second cousins... I'd not worry about it... ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to tell him I only want to be his friend without hurting his feelings?
Q. There's this guy who i met a few days ago when his mom brought him around my house.I agreed to talk to him as a friend only.but his mom wanted to match make us.i made sure that i was only giving out friend signals to him but then i overherd him ...
A. 19 September 2009: Emily's RIGHT ON THE MONEY WITH THAT... and I'm a guy, and have been there...
First, his feelings WILL be hurt, but that's NOT your problem. Be gentle, be understanding, explain that you just don't see him as anything more than a freind. ... (read in full...)
I discovered he is married!
Q. He told me he was divorced. I just found his myspace page. And his wife's myspace page. both updated within the past week. both listed as married. i am sick and angry. really angry. i suspected. do i confront him? i haven't heard from h...
A. 19 September 2009: Maybe he is divorced, just not from her...
It could depend on what your definition of "is is"... Bill Clinton logic...
He's lied to you, reguardless. I'd at least let his current wife know what she's married to... maybe a collection of hi... (read in full...)
Can I leave my mom now, one month before I'm 18? She assaulted me!
Q. okay so I turn 18 in ONE month exactly, and I live in Texas. Well my mother knows this is the last month so she's doing everything possible to make it hell. She tells me even when im 18 Ill still do what she says and everything else and im not ...
A. 19 September 2009: Find someone to take you in and live with them... you have to make it 4 short weeks... I can't belive that any state agency is going to return a phone call that fast, much less get off their butt and do anything.
Kids move in with freinds parents ... (read in full...)
Considering a divorce here...what do you all think?
Q. Immediate problem: my husband went away to a beer festival over the weekend with 5 other single guys when I specifically told him it made me uncomfortable and I didn't want him to go. The reason why this is a bigger issue than it would be normally...
A. 19 September 2009: You don't need "grounds" for divorce anymore... the fact you want out is enough.... (read in full...)
How should I phrase this letter?
Q. Nearly 2 years ago my relationship with my parents rapidly deteriorated because they would get drunk and out of control, and then constantly abuse and threaten me and my fiancée. I was thrown out of my home by my mother, who is an alcoholi...
A. 18 September 2009: softtouchmale2003 gave some good advice. I'd write a letter, and let it sit for at least 24 hours and re-read it. Read it though the eyes of a 10 year old and read it as if you where your Mom. It might be enough to tell them that you mis... (read in full...)
To guys who have kept their virginity into their 20s
Q. As a guy who has kept his virginity into his 20s, how would you feel if your potential first girlfriend had over 6 years of sexual experience? Could this relationship still work? Would you be wishing that she had waited too?...
A. 17 September 2009: I guess one has to ask, did the guy remain a virgin by choice or lack of opportunity? If I was 23, and so was the girl I was involved with (and she started having sex at 17), I'd likely feel that I was a LUCKY guy, and that she just might know a ... (read in full...)
Fake it? Or not?
Q. okay the everpopular question..is it better to fake an orgasm to give your guy more confidence..or is it better to just let him know he hasn't..help! ...
A. 17 September 2009: No,please for HIS SAKE, do NOT do this... some girls think that this is a good thing to do for a guy, but it's very hurtful and here's why...
First, it's teaching him that his technique is GREAT and that he can make you cum. In realtity, you need... (read in full...)
Husband/daughter clash and how do I work this out?
Q. myhusband is angry with one of our adult children for what he feels is lack or repect , when in fact it is mostly just his strong personality and our daughter being of same personality,and would rather not spend any more time with her unless its ...
A. 17 September 2009: All you can do is try to have a rational, non-judgmental conversation with him... or multiple conversations. Explaine to him how this makes you feel. Don't defend your daughter (don't take sides)...
Assuming that she's an adult, she has a vo... (read in full...)
Does true love really exisit?
Q. This isn't really a problem/issue.. but i would like an opinion from all... heres my question does true love really exist? or is it just a game? does it really exist or is it just merely strong feelings that come and go? it would b ...
A. 17 September 2009: it exists, but not in High School... no seriously, we all can fall in love HARD, and when two people fall for each other, and can nurture that, it becomes true love.
If you're in a loving relationship, there shouldn't be ANY games... that's c... (read in full...)
Got my girlfriend pregnant, what can the police do to me?
Q. HELLO... ok here we go... i got sex with my girlfriend and she is pregnant. and i think her parents gonna send me the police... WAT CAN THE POLICE DO TO ME??? answere plz ...
A. 17 September 2009: You fail to tell us how old she is and all we can do is assume that you're 16 or 17... help us out... more info.... (read in full...)
Husband possibly cheating, how can I find out?
Q. I think my husband cheat on me.How can I find out?He dont want to have sex with me anymore.Even I ask for it he just give me stupid reason like he is tired,he working heard.And he go to work like 2hours early. He said his cousin take him to work,his ...
A. 17 September 2009: You could contact 'Cheaters' TV show and see if they'll put a PI on him and bust him on TV... If you live in Texas (the show is filmed there- in Dallas) you might have a good chance. If you think he's cheating at home a nanny-cam is a g... (read in full...)
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