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What's with the sudden anal sex craze?

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Question - (23 August 2007) 21 Answers - (Newest, 2 February 2013)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I'm 45 and over the course of the last 4 years I have dated 3 guys and each one of them requested to have anal sex. My boyfriend of 7 years before never asked for this........what's up with the anal sex craze and why is it so much better than regular sex?

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A male reader, thathu India +, writes (2 February 2013):

Anal canal is highly innervated erotic area. The great thing about it is that the grafenberg spot in the vagina is also stimulated adding to the ecstasy. the rim is an erotic area too.

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A male reader, thathu India +, writes (26 January 2013):

awareness and curiosity .anal sex has been in for a long long time.open discussions have set wave .

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A male reader, bharat mehta India +, writes (6 January 2010):

bharat mehta agony auntMost standard statement on anal sex, I read from one female on this site. She declared she don't like anal sex because she cannot see, 'anal' as a organ at all sexy.

It is shape of butt give the sexy look to our eye site is all true, but anus is not sex organ. It cannot response to sexy touch like breast and vagina responses.

But, most important point about sex is its wave of energy, that is generated even through 'foreplay'- even without vaginal intercourse is required to keep in mind.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010):

eyeswideopen agony aunt wrote:

"I don't even see how a woman would ever want to do this. all her receptors are vaginal. But to each their own I guess."

Not at all true- the G spot gets massive stimulation from anal sex when the woman is on her stomach. The anus have multiple times MORE nerve endings than the vagina. My ex has HUGE and wild orgasms from anal sex, to the point to totally loosing control of her arms and legs and screaming (in pleasure)... virginal orgasms where nice, but NEVER like that!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009):

Look, if you're turned on by it, go for it, some women are very turned on by it and like it. Some are not... some guys are no where near responsible enough to have this kind of sex with and unless your man is going to be quite serious about protecting you and putting your safety and pleasure first, I wouldn't let him near your anus. If he is, and is willing to put in the effort and you are two you both could have a great time... but it's more work than virginal sex, but worth it in the long run. You've got to train for it... but you can get extreme pleasure from it, as can he.

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A male reader, Red Green 0289 United States +, writes (17 July 2009):

The Taboo factor is the first thing, but the tightness and heat are enjoyable. The act of sliding into a woman's ass is amazing. The heat from her anus feels hotter than her vigina (may be it's just me...)

There's a huge trust issue there as well. I wouldn't be into anal outside a trusing relationship - just not my thing.

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A male reader, FierceKitty South Africa +, writes (31 March 2009):

It does feel utterly wonderful for a man. Like this or not, do it or refuse to do it, but the pleasure it gives a man is real. The fact that she also frequently enjoys one up the bum is a major reason (one among many) why I've stayed with my current GF for the last seven years.

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A male reader, Sailor__67 New Zealand +, writes (22 December 2008):

From my perspective, I love and prefer anal sex, maybe because it's still taboo and relatively unmentionable in normal society.

I guess porn has had a part to play in its current popularity.

In my own experience, I didn't even realise it was physically possible until I saw it in a movie 20 years ago!

Then I thought, wow that looks super hot and not too messy, but would never have asked a partner to do it, until a girl-friend asked to do it. I thought all my christmases had come at once, and have been fixated since! The two partners I have had anal with since have both loved it (in moderation) and achieve strong orgasms

I make sure I am very slow and gentle if my partner has never done it before, as it is a turn off for me if it's not a turn on for them.

I truly don't think I could be compatible long term with someone who wasn't in to it, it would be like a man never wanting to go down (oral) on his partner who really enjoyed recieving oral. Life is a long time...

I sometimes find vaginal sex a bit vanilla and mundane in comparison.

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A male reader, Intrigued40s United States +, writes (21 December 2008):

Pornography is like tv programs for the general public. It informs of what is currently in fashion. Pornography also needs to keep viewers interested and coming back. The first movies were showing regular people with regular faces, breasts, penises, etc. but the feedback requested more of the pretty faces, the larger breasts, longer penises, more toned bodies and this lead toward the "perfect" couple. Same happend on tv. Just look for an tv show of the 50s. After consumers got used to this perfection they requested something else and fetishes got into the scene. Just because some subjects still ilegal we don't see everything but now a days is normal to see cheating wifes, cheating husbands, foot fetishes and latetly anal sex.

Certainly, everything only explain that the human sexuallity has no limits. We are the ones individually who pretend to know were the limit is. You're going to get surprises if you go past your limit either pleasant or unpleasant.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008):

It is not a matter of a small member but the fact that most vaginas are incredibly loose. The butt is so much tighter. Naysayers get your facts straight and try educating yourselves, the anus has more nerve endings then the vagina.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008):

ok, you hardly every see a girl having anal sex look like she is enjoying it. I mean really. They look like they are about to cry. These are women how are being paid (a lot!) to have anal sex. If they are enjoying it I doubt you will either. That goes for men too. Nobody having anal sex seems like they are having the time of their life. If you don't believe me then check out the porn sites.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007):

There are many more nerve endings in the anus than there are in the vagina, so that is why anal sex feels better than regular sex -- for some women. I've read posts from women who say they like anal because the orgasms from it are much more intense than from vaginal sex -- but they say that because they are sure to stimulate their clitoris at the same time that they are having anal intercourse. It also feels better for some men than regular sex because the anus is much tighter than the vagina, so some men like it better than regular sex.

As far as why men are asking you for it, maybe it is because you have a really sexy ass, so naturally the men want to penetrate it with their penis. Or they have probably done it before with other women, and enjoyed it, so that may be why they are asking you for it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007):

Because men are ASSHOLES so naturally they are fixated by them - shove something up his and see if he still thinks its cool!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007):

Analingus, (Anal-sex) is for "The Curious lovers", men who engage in Cunnilingus and lick a little further south of the bottom of her vagina, and he get in a few good licks of her anus, which tends to put a woman at the top of her sexual world. And for a woman who's hand is stimulating her vaginal opening,and when her fingers stray. She, like he, soon discover that the anal opening and the surrounding tissue are richly endowed with nerves that are highly sensitive to gentle loving touch. And It's not a far cry to anal-sex for either gender.

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A female reader, rockelle United States +, writes (23 August 2007):

rockelle agony auntI have no idea but I know a lot of people who have tried. I am not to fond of the idea but my motto is " If I can not put it in yours you can not put it in mine!" LOL.

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A female reader, Sugarbuns Australia +, writes (23 August 2007):

Sugarbuns agony auntI have a theory. Men with smaller penises tend to be the ones who crave anal sex because it feels tighter to their, uh, smaller members. It could be like Dr. Pete mentioned, and have some connection to the porn industry, but oddly enough, of the men I've been with who liked watching porn, none of them really liked the idea of anal sex. Then again, they were all men that had sizable body parts, and probably got plenty of satisfaction going in vaginally. So that brings me back to my original theory - men who have smaller penises tend to be the ones who crave anal sex. You be the judge.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007):

i thought anal sex was a way for gay guys to have sex. i was also under the impression that it was quite dangerous. am i right or wrong here??? :s

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007):

This is just a guess, but maybe there is a link between that and accessibility of anal pornography over the Internet? I am fairly sure anal pornography is still illegal in magazines in the UK and for the vast majority of men, if they have never seen a particular erotic act then they don't have a sexual desire to do it themselves. This is especially true for younger men and boys, pornography sexualises women at a far younger age and those sexual desires will be at a level on the same as the pornography that they have witnessed.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (23 August 2007):

eyeswideopen agony auntI don't even see how a woman would ever want to do this. all her receptors are vaginal. But to each their own I guess.

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A female reader, devilhue United Kingdom +, writes (23 August 2007):

do not be forced into doing this as is carries many risks only do wot u feel comforfable with if u do decide this is the way remember lots of lube and most important a condom !!!!!

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A male reader, Sandman United States +, writes (23 August 2007):

Sandman agony auntI don't think it's a matter of it being "so much better" than regular sex, but it IS taboo and all things taboo seems to spark interest in some people. Add to the fact that the anus/rectum is tighter than the vagina (relatively speaking) which means for better friction for the male.

Seeing as how I've never done it, I have no idea what the fuss is all about. Maybe someone else can shed more light on it than I.

Hope this helps.

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