Husband possibly cheating, how can I find out?
Q. I think my husband cheat on me.How can I find out?He dont want to have sex with me anymore.Even I ask for it he just give me stupid reason like he is tired,he working heard.And he go to work like 2hours early. He said his cousin take him to work,his ...
A. 17 September 2009: You could contact 'Cheaters' TV show and see if they'll put a PI on him and bust him on TV... If you live in Texas (the show is filmed there- in Dallas) you might have a good chance. If you think he's cheating at home a nanny-cam is a g... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't like the fact that I'm not confident!
Q. So basically my bf and I have been dating for 5 months now and he's now voiced his concerns over the fact that im not confident enough and that he hates it. So my question is how can I be more confident? Thank you. =]....
A. 17 September 2009: I agree, this comes from with in, and you may have to seek some outside help to identify why you're not as confident as most people. Odds are good that there's something from your past that you're bringing forward and using as an assumption. It's ... (read in full...)
Should I tell this new guy about the abortion I'm about to get?
Q. A little over a month ago, I had a one night stand. Unfortunately, I did not use correct judgment and we used the withdrawal method. As it turns out, I can attest it is not as effective as I'd hoped to believe. An Abortion has been scheduled for ...
A. 16 September 2009: I suggest that you not tell him, but take care of yourself and heal as quickly as you can. Be gentle with yourself and allow this relationship to grow in a normal manner. I'm sorry your having to go through this, but you'll do fine. While I r... (read in full...)
15 and pregnant. I don't want to tell my dad as he doesn't know I have been seeing anyone.
Q. I'm pregnant and the guy wants me to keep it however he is 18 and I know it is illegal. I also don't want to tell my parents about it. The father and I have always talked about starting a life together once I leave school and have kids but he wants ...
A. 16 September 2009: You really need to get some help. Your not going to be able to keep this a secret very long, and this guy should be prosecuted.... (read in full...)
I am pregnant, but my boyfriend isnt the father. Its his brother. Should I tell him?
Q. I'm 15 and im pregnant My boyfriend is not the father of my baby, it is his brothers, his brother knows about it and he too thinks it might be his. Should I tell him the truth or pretend that it is his?...
A. 16 September 2009: You need to come clean with them BOTH, and seriously consider allowing a mature couple to adopt the baby. You, on the other hand need to learn how not to get pregnant and how not to sleep with memebers of the same family.... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but I need to leave him. How do I hurt him as little as possible?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for three years and we've lived together for most of that time. We've had our ups and downs, but the biggest problems are that he's sterile (which I've known about but I'm starting to really want kids), he can be overly ...
A. 14 August 2009: Follow you're gut and sever this relationship. Set a date, make a plan and do it... do NOT try to "make it easy on him", don't "stay in touch"... while this may seem harsh, the BEST THING that you can do for him is end the relationship and let him ... (read in full...)
Help...I don't know who the father is! What should I do?
Q. Well I'm 8 months pregnant and I'm in a pickle... I've been with J for a year now, but sometime around christmas we had a fight and I went to my exs house (T) and u can do that math on that, well I went to Ts house christmas eve and then christmas ...
A. 9 August 2009: Get a DNA test, it will put your mind at ease. I will also save your man from YEARS of expenses, and let the real father have the privage of writting your child 216+ monthly checks... If you'r man is the father you BOTH get to know the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend trying to change me too much?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to share some concerns I have about my 3 year relationship. About a year and a half into our relationship my boyfriend started trying to change little things about me. For instance, he decided he really didn't like my reddish/b...
A. 9 August 2009: "I have such low self esteem now and I feel so weak because I haven't stuck by what I believe in" This should tell you EXACTLY what you need to do... DUMP THIS BASTARD NOW... he's gutting you and is going to leave you a mess. You've got to... (read in full...)
Deeply troubled with sexual past, please help!
Q. I am almost 20 and have slept with 7 different people. I find myself thinking about it each day more and more and its depressing me to the point that I cry about it for hours. I am so troubled with it and have so many different issues I just dont ...
A. 9 August 2009: Tigerlilly gave you some GREAT advice - I'd read it daily. The crappy thing is NOT that you've been adventurous, but that some one in your mans circle of freinds is so thoughtless as to mention that he's getting "sloppy seconds". When I was in hi... (read in full...)
Her daughter is standing in the way of us taking it to the next level!
Q. Need opinions please. I’m a 47yr old male in great 3.5yr relationship with 50yr woman. The woman lives with her 27yr old daughter and I do not. The daughter smokes pot daily (moms more of a friend than a mom) has dead end job, never has had a car ...
A. 31 July 2009: Agreed, she doesn't have a daugther, she has an anchor. 27 is far too old to be hanging out, smoking dope and leaching of good old Mom. Sounds as if Mom has some serious unfinished business with this kid, that's NOT going to be resolved anytime ... (read in full...)
How can I help my mum with her depression?
Q. my mum just told me that shes really depressed and she has just gone onto anti deppressants. i dont know what to do. help?...
A. 30 July 2009: You may not realize it, but it's really good that she shared this with you as some people with depression will NOT share how they're feeling. Being on medications for depression is also a good sign, as again, some folks will resist and sink deeper ... (read in full...)
Is shaving anal hair a turn on?
Q. I've heard about people who shave their anus... It would be something I would consider because I think anus hair is really gross but its not exactly an easy area to reach and I don't want to cut myself. I've also heard of people who have their p...
A. 29 July 2009: Your NOT going to be shaving the anus, but the butt... keep the razor away from that delicate flower!... (read in full...)
2 years on and I still haven't told him I kissed my ex. Should I?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 2 years nad love him dearly. When we were together 3 months I kissed my ex. It was a very brief kiss and I immediately knew it was a mistake. I didn't tell my boyfriend as I was petrified of losing him. He is amazing and ...
A. 29 July 2009: NO, do NOT tell him. You'll be reiving your guilt and gutting him at the same time... folks that do this to "get it off their chest" are being horrible to their partner. You learned instantly from this, remember what you learned and never tell h... (read in full...)
I was molested and nobody believes me. How do I make them see?
Q. I was molested by my step dad @ the age of 4-12 when i said something to my mom she dint beleave me i was 15 when i finally said something. I was put in a foster home right away, my mom dint want to look @ me. I was to testify but befor that he died ...
A. 29 July 2009: I'm sorry that you went thought both traumas. I have a friend who was molested by her father as a young girl. She's a beautiful successful woman, but she too had told her mother, who was in such denial she took her husbands side. He too died, ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time waiting for him?
Q. Hey. I like this guy named brian simmons and he's nineteen years old now, and I'm gonna sixteen in october. I've liked him since I was eleven years old and he was just fifteen. I've sat back and watched him go in and out of relationships for the ...
A. 29 July 2009: Yes, your wasting your time. There's simply too big of an age difference, and at you ages you have nothing in common. In 10 or 15 years the age gap will mean nothing, but between 15 and 19... that's 25% of his life and people grow up A LOT between ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome my Arachnophobia...help!
Q. Hi,this isnt really the kind of questions you ask on this site but i was wondering if anyone could tell me how to overcome my Arachnophobia. Its terrible, when i see a spider i cry, scream and take panic attacks. Im terrified when im in the house my...
A. 29 July 2009: That's OK, you need someone to work with you on this... I'd suggest a councillor who specialises in phobias. The process should be safe and simple, talk about why your scared of them, and get used to the idea that one day you're going to see one. ... (read in full...)
He walked out on me and doesn't want to be found!
Q. My husband walked out on me over 2 weeks ago... I had no idea why, so I got the police to look for him. They eventually found him, but wouldn't tell me where he was, as they said he didn't want to be found. I feel dejected, depressed, empty ...
A. 28 July 2009: I agree with the others... this is indeed a sad thing, and he may have had some kind of mental snap - certainly, someone who doesn't want to be found (my ex-wife is amongst this group) has issues, and/or something they're hiding from, or in her case ... (read in full...)
Should my husband and I swap with my sister and her husband?
Q. hi i am 34 years old married woman and my husband is 36 years old working in multinational. we both like sex too much and we do sex daily morning and night 2-3 times. now we are thinking to have sex with other married couple and both are agree. he ...
A. 27 July 2009: Don't do this... not with family, or even freinds that you know outside of swinging. Swapping can be great fun, under the right senario, but this is the #1 DO NOT DO... don't swing with family, co-workers, freinds... make new freinds to swing with ... (read in full...)
Being forced to do things on a webcam
Q. my boyfriend and i are long distance. he asks me to do things on webcam that i feel uncomfortable doing but i think if i dont then i'll loose him. i still dont do it. but idk what to do. if i had the confidence yeah i would. but i dont and when i ...
A. 27 July 2009: I'd get him on the web cam, and then hold up a sign that said "Oh, BTW - I'm dumping you"... and then pull the plug... This is NO WAY for a guy to treat a woman who he's supposed to care about. Dump this A-hole, and go find a guy who will treat y... (read in full...)
We didn't have sex before marriage and now I discover husband isn't creative or that interested!
Q. Hi All, Please advice. I have been married to my husband for a year and a half now. I love him. Ever since we have been dating and married I am the one who initiates sex or kissing cuddling etc . We never had sex before marriage. Ev...
A. 27 July 2009: I'm going to take a different approach. First, what happens when you try to initiate sex during the week? At your age when my wife came into our living room butt naked and asked me into the bedroom I want there in about 2 seconds. Does h... (read in full...)
I've got hair growing on my bottom!
Q. ok this is quite embarrassing but im sure its normal. but i have har growing on my bottom and i saw my bottom in the mirror the other day when i got out of the shower and it really looked freaky. i was just wondering what should i do about it? ...
A. 27 July 2009: If it bugs you, go by a hair removale prodcut (Nair is an brand avalible in the US) - put it on before taking a shower, let it sit and wash it and your hair down the drain. Keep it OFF your tender bits, or it could burn! Your bottom will look like ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a lump but he wont go to the doctor!
Q. Hello Everyone, My byfriend is 29 and he has a lump on his testicals (inside his scrotum not on the outside) and he tells me it has been there for a good few years. Its nothing you could feel froma general play but he showed me where it was the...
A. 27 July 2009: I have two words: Lance Armstrong... Get your BF to the Doctor PRONTO... this could be serious, but getting these things diagnosed quickly can make a HUGE difference.
PS: If the reference doesn't mean anything to you, check out his wikipedi... (read in full...)
I found my 40 year old husband in bed with a blonde 20 year old!
Q. What would you do if you found your husband who's 40 in bed with a girl between the ages of 18-21? The girl being young, blonde everything he would like, he gets paid about 4K a month and his credit card bill was higher than usual so i dont kno...
A. 27 July 2009: First, assuming that it was MY bed, her ass would be thrown out of my house with little to nothing on... she'd be running for her life. After the door was locked he'd be trying to figure out which parts to protect... his shit would be flying out ... (read in full...)
Taking our bedroom secrets to the webcam!
Q. hi all, I don't know where to start. My husband (of 3 yrs) wants us to take our bedroom secrets to webcam. I'm confused about it all, I used to think its all wrong but now its like a big question mark. Let's say if I was to do it how many people ...
A. 27 July 2009: Be very careful - the internet is forever, and you do NOT want these videos coming back later in your life...
About dirty talk, it doesn't mean that he thinks sex is dirty- it means that he's willing to play. Talking durning sex can be fun, and... (read in full...)
Are there other women out there that are like this?
Q. what's your take on this? my girlfriend doesn't like french kissing, giving oral, handjobs or anything else sexually towards me. When we have sex its all up to me. It's ok for me to touch her during foreplay. She just doesnt really get in to it. I ...
A. 26 July 2009: yes, but they are home alone tonight... she needs to loosen up and learn to enjoy a healthy sex life... or your going to out grow her and find someone else to have that healty sex life with.
She doesn't sound aroused, more like she's going th... (read in full...)
He thinks a threesome will save our relationship, but will he lose respect for me instead?
Q. My boyfriend of about a year wants a threesome. (If you have read my other post, you might laugh and think it is a crazy idea.) Last week he said he would like to have a threesome. Since we do not know anyone to do it with it is mostly all fa...
A. 26 July 2009: if you want to end the relationship, bring a third in to your bed, and it will HELP speed up the breakup... from what I've read it sounds like the two of you need to go your seperate ways... sad sometimes, but you need to re-read your post... ... (read in full...)
My threesome trouble
Q.
my boy friend has had this fantacy of seeing me(us)
have a three some with a nother girl. The first time
he mentioned this I made it clear to him that it was
never going to happen. But he would still bring it up
every so often as we got more ...
A. 26 July 2009: tell him to pack his stuff and get out... you don't need this... he was using you... this is a control and trust issue and he's failed the test...... (read in full...)
Does watching lesbian porn means I'm lesbian? I've never been attracted to girls!
Q. Dear ppl, Lately I've been thinking about my sexual orientation. I used to watch porn and I stopped because I hated it and I felt disgusted every time I do it. I watched lesbian porn and I felt sth during watching it but I HATED it afterwards and I...
A. 26 July 2009: 1,000 times more straight people watch lesbian porn than lesbians. Most true lesbian porn is not quite what you'd expect, and only real lesbians would get off on it... Relax, your of the age where the idea of two beautiful naked girls getting it... (read in full...)
We've been having sex for 2 years but now he has problems maintaining an erection. What could be the reason?
Q. hi, my boyfriend and i have been having sex for about two years now. Its always has worked out perfectly. I just got off my period, so we went to go have sex again after not doing it for i guess like a week, and he couldnt stay hard. Neither of us ...
A. 26 July 2009: Ok, he's gotten himself so worked up that w/o knowing it he's likely causing the problem. He needs to do a few things, one - he needs to go see someone where he can talk out what he's thinking - he's got to (and I mean GOT TO) get this out, ... (read in full...)
Will guys mind if I have a weird looking vagina?
Q. This is a little embarrassing, but I'm really worried. I have a really weird looking vagina, like quite long lips that kinda hide my clit, I think it looks weird but no one I've slept with have said anything, but I'm really scared about the way it...
A. 26 July 2009: Do NOT use porn to compare yourself - normal (real) women can't compare to made up, platic surgery... Here's the reality... Any guy who's really interested in you, is interested in YOU and not how your vagina looks. Any guy who's interested... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex for a long time, but my girlfriend won't sleep with me. Please help!
Q. I've started dating a girl. We both know that our relationship can't last because we're both going back to university at the end of summer. Because we don't have time to get to know each other, she says she won't have sex with me... But it's been a ...
A. 26 July 2009: What everyone else said... she's told you the score, honnor it, and enjoy your time together... go home a pull one off... repeat as required...... (read in full...)
I'll never get a boyfriend or girlfriend and I'm ugly
Q. I'll never get a boyfriend or girlfriend. I am 15. I think I might be bisexual. Everyone else who is my age that I know has had a boyfriend or girlfriend. Everyone tells me that it will happen. I say that it will never happen. There is no guarantee. ...
A. 26 July 2009: First, your not ugly... and the first part of being attractive is having a positive attitude. What you are is YOUNG... girls mature at different rates - you will mature. Ask anyone who's got to a high school reunion... what we saw 10 years after ... (read in full...)
Question from a lady about something men always say to me
Q. I have a question that I would like the men to answer primarily (but ladies, too, if you have insight into my question). I am a thin lady, I will admit, but there is something that men say to me a lot that, quite frankly, I don't know how to take. ...
A. 25 July 2009: They're trying to be nice, so please take it that way.
Some folks are a bit insensitive about making comments about people's appearences... they have no clue that you're likely to hear the same type of comments year after year...
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How can I make sex enjoyable for an older woman?
Q. I have come to really like an older woman. She is 12 years older than me. despite our age difference is it ok for us to have sex? How can I make sex enjoyable for an older woman? Ladies who have any experience with younger men please give advice. ...
A. 25 July 2009: Getting her to enjoy sex is not likely going to be ANY kind of problem - the age gap is perfect, since your both at your PRIME ages... your young and can provide repeat performances and she's at the perfect age where a woman is at her sexual peak.
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How can I find a girlfriend?
Q. I can't seem to start a new relationship with a girl. Im 22 and up to this point i have always let girls ask me out. Of course this is rare for girls to ask a guy out... so i always end up getting the wrong girl for me. I have been going out to ...
A. 25 July 2009: Well first, I'd give up in the bars... I'd try to get into some small social group activities, some kind of groups where you can be with people that are interested in stuff you're interested in. At my Uni, we had a series of "fun" evening "c... (read in full...)
I didn't mention that a guy was with us and now my boyfriend doesn't trust me!
Q. hi guys i feel so depressed and i reali dont know wat to do. 2 days ago i was with my mum, my mum's friend and her brother. so my boyfriend called me and asked me who i was with i only mensioned my mum and her friend but i didnt say that my mum's ...
A. 25 July 2009: You can't "make him trust you" - this guy has serious issues. Guys like this will try to tell you that YOU have to EARN trust... not true... He, and all men, should allow you to be a responsible mature woman, and he should enjoy sharing the time... (read in full...)
His g/f is pregnant yet he's sleeping with me & other girls, is he happy?
Q. Hi everyone Ok i split up with my ex in october last year, anyway we have stayed good friends and since we split up we carried on sleeping together, untill januery this year when he got his gf who is now 3 months pregnent anyway before i found o...
A. 25 July 2009: I agree, he's REALLY HAPPY! He's getting alot of tail, and is not being held responsible.
YES -he's happy, he's just an imature ass...... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for girls to watch porn?
Q. Another problem for ye. People think its weird if you/a girl watches porn. I personaly think its natural and everyone should be doing it!! Is there something wrong with me? Or is it them? Am I normal? Is it wrong to look at those kind of things? ...
A. 24 July 2009: No problem at all! 100% normal to view erotic material! Enjoy yourself!... (read in full...)
Am I a freak for remaining a virgin?
Q. All my friends, guys and girls alike, have participated in sex of some sort. So I can't help but feel like a pariah when they begin to talk about their sexual encounters when they go on about, "Such and such made me a woman/man the other day." I ...
A. 24 July 2009: I'll keep this short - NO! At 15, no way... what you'll be at 17 is one of the few gals who's darn happy she waited unitl she was a bit older and ready. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my best friend back?
Q. i have a friend, he is 17 and is mentally addicted to weed(so he says) and i want him to stop. he used to talk to me every single day and everything was perfect. we were like bestfriends and i told him everything. i tell him to stop but he doesnt. ...
A. 24 July 2009: Welcome to "life with an addict"... Frist, your freind sounds as if he's practicing for the major leauges of addiction here... and that's being manipulative. He tells you that you're the solution to his problem - that's total BS. People wh... (read in full...)
Thinking about boyfriend's bestfriend while masterbating.
Q. Is it really ok if I masturbate while thinking about my boyfriends best friend?? I kinda feel bad about it....
A. 24 July 2009: There's no problem here! Enjoy yourself, and let you mind play whatever erotic script turns your crank! Your fantasys are going to morph over time and involve different players! These are your private films to play in your head! There is ZERO ... (read in full...)
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