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writes:I've been frequenting the site for quite a while now, and although I believe people can gain insightful advice and in its concept its great I've noticed of late how trivial the majority of questions are. This isn't a post to have ago at certain members, I'm sure most of my posts have been pretty trivial. I'm not quite sure what I'm trying to get at, but maybe people should stop worrying so much, or try helping themselves I think society is so dependent these days on other people telling them how to act and behave. I think people need to realise how insignificant things are and just get on with enjoying what little time we do have. X Reply to this Question
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reader, GoGreen126  +, writes (10 January 2010):
Hahaha, heartfullalove, I doubt you're pregnant! I hope these eases any fears you may have had!
;-)
--GG
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): Could I be pregnant?
(There might be a clue just above this post)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): *arent trivial. sorry for my spelling mistake
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): im 14 and i agree those "can i get pregnant" questions to get a bit tiresome and i tend to skip these questions as i swear in england at least these kids get taught this in primary school. i just wanted to say i posted a number of what you would consider 'trivial' questions on here when i had broken up with my ex and they helped me through a lot and i basically nearly sunk into a depression because of what my ex did which was to tell everybody my deepest darkest secret. these probelms are trivial to the people posting them
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (31 December 2009):
Thank you very much!
I'm sorry to say that 'he' is no wise teacher, though I've learned a lot from him--just an ex that broke me.
But I did gain... Life experience?
Hahaha
--GG
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): You certainly are no ordinary fifteen year old girl. You write with a conviction that, perhaps, bespeaks a mentor-maybe the 'he' you referred to, huh? I see your logic but it is not commonplace and the fact that you are aware of it indicates to me that you are self-aware. Good for you at 15! I'm excited for you.
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (30 December 2009):
Hahaha, thank you very much male anon. I am 15. Personally, I think writing in complete thoughts is a matter of respect. If I'm asking for help or I'm giving advice, I want people to read what I write and respect it as a legitimate thought or issue. Further, if I'm seeking guidance, the least I could do for anyone helping me is write in plain English!
I appreciate that you called me insightful, and the only explanation that I can hopeto offer is I've made my share of mistakes by a young age, and I'm learning as I go. I firmly believe that I had the love that people wait a lifetime for--but he took it away from me. Not to sound dramatic, though it's a very dramatic statement: it changed my life. I'm a different person because of it.
I'm not trying to preach about how great I am--just that when the Aunts on here read that we are 13-15 or something, maybe we deserve just a bit more credit?
Just a thinking-point!
--GG
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): Thanks for the insight k_c100 and GoGreen126. I realize that every real post has a genuine person behind it, it's just that sometimes the questions are so off the wall or unrealistic that it makes you wander if some people have their fun pulling our chain. GoGreen126, I can't believe you're only fifteen years of age. How did you get so much insight and where did you pick up your ability to write as someone who's much older and who doesn't write teenager shorthand?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 The "can I be pregnant when he dumped a ton of cum inside of me on the day I ovulated" posts get a bit old. But it is an issue to the poster.
What I have noticed is that the site might be getting to big for its own good. There are now so many questions that you can only read a fraction of the posts in a session. And if you skip the Xth "I don't know my own cycle" post you might accidentally skip a real question.
In a way, the ease of the site makes it very easy for people to post questions they really should be able to google for themselves.
But if it was more complex, a lot of people who really do need help would not post at all.
I know from replies and mails that this site does help some people. It may only be a handful, but isn't that enough?
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (21 December 2009):
Recent male anon:
k_c100 makes an excellent point in that every situation is unique. In each set of circumstances, each variable matters. If a girl asks if she could be pregnant, are you going to refer her to someone elses question? That wouldn't even make sense! If someone was being cheated on, would you refer them to some other question? I guess you could, but they are unlikely to be satisfied with the answers they get for being different on the details.
Basically, if if have a question, I appreciate being able to ask it MY way. Otherwise the answers won't fit my life, right?
--GG
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (21 December 2009):
 To the most recent anonymous poster - the Moderator's have access to the IP addresses of posters so we can tell if the poster has repeatedly tried to post junk questions hence we reject a lot of the questions that do come through. We also reject ones that are asked often on this site - so a lot of these "trivial" questions do get rejected if we as moderators think they will get an adequate answer just by searching the site.
The main reason we do approve a lot of these trivial questions is because the posters are genuinely in distress and would really appreciate answers, rather than another person rejecting their questions. A lot of them, while often posting about the same topics as others in the past, will have a slightly unique situation or a couple of details that makes their post a bit different so we as mods will generally allow the questions through.
Just remember that everyone needs someone to listen to them, and often the people that come to this site have no-one close to them that they feel comfortable talking to. Often the most trivial of problems can be the most troubling, so I think it is nice that there is a site like this for people to turn to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): I have been on this site several months, since the beginning of the year I think, and I have found that some of the questions do appear trivial and their answers could be determined by doing a search on this site. I have begun thinking that a great deal of questions are so boring as to appear fabricated. I would like to see the last three fields on the person submitting and respondent's IP address to add transparency and to determine if there are people posting frivolous questions repeatedly.
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (21 December 2009):
From the perspective of a 15-year-old girl:My mother is deep in her Christian faith, and I have a great respect for that, despite my beliefs' inconsistently with hers. I'm unsure about relationships like any other teenager! Some teens can go to their parents, others can't. My mom wouldn't be okay with asking much of ANY relationship question of her. She's other the opinion that it's doing (and I quote) "weird stuff" when my boyfriend leans his head on my shoulder.I live according to her values. That doesn't mean I know all that she knows. Maybe I've asked a "trivial" question because of it?Many teens also go to their friends. Personally, I only have a very small number of female friends, and I'm uncomfortable with them as compared to my boys. I can't ask guys about guys--they get weirded out and shut down. Additionally, sometimes a relationship with a close guy-friend can develop into something romantic. Then what do I do? I have no one to ask!So I come here!I'm very fortunate to have all that I do, but I don't have any model of a functional relationship or a parent I can get close to. I've known my stepdad scarcely 2 years, my stepmom tells my dad every word I say, and my dad is great and understands me, but I'm afraid to be me with him (I couldn't actually tell you why, though... I'm not sure)The best relationship I've ever seen is between my best friend/exboyfriend's parents. That's too removed for me to truly learn. That's why I'm here. I need you guys, understanding what's going on in my life. Our questions can be trivial, but we just need answers. You know those ads on tv where people just spout searched information? That is my generation. We rely on the Internet, be that a positive or negative. I appreciate you personally being on this site, because I need all the help I can get.(if anyone has read all this, I applaud and thank you! ;-) =) hahaha)--GG
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Well to the troubled soul who post the question its not trivial its something thats really effecting the quality of their life. Not everyone is as wise as you, think back to your life ten years ago there where things going on that maybe if you had some advice from some one who had been through something similiar how maybe you could have made a better decision.
Ive read some great advice on here ive been able to see things from diffrent perspectives, theres no way you can kno certain things you have to experience them if some one on here can share there experience and help another person make the best decision.
to be honest i wish there was internet when i was a kid i think i kno everything now but every now and then i learn somethng new
Saying these questions are trivial is like saying humanity is trivial we are atlast just a speck in a vast cosmic abyss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): I love this site and others out there that are available for help when people need it. I enjoy giving advice and have also asked for helped on things that may seem "trivial" to others, but at the time they were important to me. (What seems "trivial" to you, may be extremely important to the user asking the question. Maybe he/she has no one else to go to or doesn't feel comfortable asking these questions to family/friends/health care professionals, so they come on here for some guidance and help.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): I'm more bothered by the ones that aren't trivial but just shouldn't be asked on a web site. For example: I...
A) had sex with a condom and it didn't break...
B) had anal sex...
C) gave oral sex...
D) received oral sex...
E) had sex with a woman...
F) dry humped with clothes on...
G) made out with a guy...
H) kissed a guy...
I) held a guy's hand...
J) drank from the same cup/can/bottle as a guy...
K) had a sex dream...
L) looked at a guy lustfully...
M) had cyber sex...
N) am a man...
...could I be pregnant?
If you need people on the internet to tell you the answer then you should never have children.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Certainly some questions are trivial, as are some of the answers or opinions, but I wish that we had had such a resource when I was a teen and young man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Most people do help themselves and don't come here for help, I do believe. I also think the small portion of the world population that do come here, such as yourself, do it because seeking others approval and guidance is exactly what we like and find helpful, and not because we're incapable of dealing with things on our own. And, should we, and you yourself, call to a halt the trivial posts, I do think there wouldn't be much need for the agony aunts anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): The problems may seem trivial to you but I am sure they are not to the people posting them.
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