I'm afraid I'm going to ruin my internship because I'm so tired all the time!
Q. This is not really a relationship question, but about job performance (or lack thereof, in my case.) Since most of you have jobs or had one, I would really appreciate your advice on this. Right now I'm finishing up my studies at uni through an i...
A. 17 January 2013: Could you see if someone you work with is looking for a housemate, they might not charge too much. It must cost you a fortune in fuel so it might work out cheaper in the end.
The only other option is looking for another internship, you have a good... (read in full...)
Should I let my mom know she offended me when she mentioned a diet?
Q. This is just a quick question, but it's been bothering me for a few days. I was out shopping with my mum, and she suggested that I have a small salad for lunch as I am getting 'chunky'. She then proceeded to tell me that I look like a size 12 (...
A. 17 January 2013: That's just a mother thing to say, now you are older and she is no longer responsible for looking after you everyday/cooking for you she probably just wants to get her input in. My mother says all sorts of things like this or about other areas of my ... (read in full...)
My GF doesn't want to lose her virginity until we're married, but that won't be for 10 years! What can we do?
Q. I have been together with my girlfriend for nearly a year. We both never had sex, we only experimented with foreplay etc.(Basically everything but just the most vital part, sex) She told me she will only be willing to do that once we get m...
A. 15 January 2013: you are the one who has set the 10year time limit! She may well leave you for someone who is ready to commit before then anyway and this won't be a problem. basically you either marry her sooner or leave her. If that is her moral viewpoint it is wr... (read in full...)
Is her reluctance to explore much during love making due to fact she's done all that earlier? It's confusing me. Am I being too reactive?
Q. I'm 24 and recently engaged to very wonderful woman. I am bothered by the fact that she has had a lot more sexual partners than I have, but she won't ever tell me how many. She is from a small town and when we go visit we often run into guys sh...
A. 12 January 2013: I say fair play to her if she's worked out what she likes doesn't like in bed, she's entitled to enjoy her sex life as much if you are. If there is something you feel you really need to do with her you could always ask and she may give it a go. If ... (read in full...)
Would guys be put off because, at my age, I still rent, live with friends and don't earn a high salary?
Q. Please can i have some advice/feedback from the guys on this. I need to know if these things would put you off a girl, or if you actually do not care about these things and it wouldn't even be a factor in anything. i am 32 single, female a...
A. 12 January 2013: I doubt a man would care, men still like to be the providers it's in their DNA! Only in London would your wages be considered little, so you could always go for a man in another part of the uk. I know quite a few people who still house share in ... (read in full...)
My Bf has gone on a vacation to Hawaii without me! When he returns should I make demands and set out my expectations?
Q. Hi Dear Cupiders, I really wanted to get some unbiased input from you all. I'll really try to make a long story short. There is a lot of history between my bf and I. We were together for 1.5 years, broke up because he cheated and left me for anot...
A. 12 January 2013: I would be suspicious, why Hawaii alone? Is he visiting friends/family? Why now to go away? You will have to see what he is like when he gets back I suppose...... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 12 January 2013: My friends and I were discussing penis size down the pub lady night as you do! We all agreed men who are big tend not to put much effort in during sex and are very arrogant, average size is well average and men with small penis's tend to perform ... (read in full...)
Some queries about my relationship. Should I go on the pill? He'd like oral sex but I'm not comfortable with it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year. We have used condoms, and the pull out method , when we have had sex. He wants me to try using the pill. I'm nervous about it though, as I have never used it before (he is the only person I have had sex with ...
A. 11 January 2013: I found the pill reduced my sex drive and made my migraines worse bug if depends on your own medical condition really.
If he really want oral sex just save it for special occasions. It does tend to give you jaw ache but men love it and its nice to k... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has female friend that he is entirely too close to
Q. So ill be honest, its a bit messed up, My boyfriend has a friend hes entirely too close to, She calls and texts him constantly, he makes plans to go places we didnt intend on because she gave him the invite. At first she wasnt a problem, then the ...
A. 11 January 2013: Maybe it is for the best and you need to be with someone who can make you feel secure.
Look after yourself, give yourself time to cry and get back out there :)... (read in full...)
Do I keep my 8 year marriage? Or my baby that is probably not my husbands?
Q. I am 26 and been with my husband for 8 years and married for 6, we found out about year 2 of our relationship that my husband had a very little chance of getting me pregnant . We struggled with this over the the whole duration of our relationship ...
A. 11 January 2013: If you want the child then you can be a good mum regardless of what the potential fathers do. You were in a difficult situation if you wanted children and your husband couldn't produce them, this situation had to end somehow and maybe this is one ... (read in full...)
How can I retrain myself not to think of him so much? 2000 miles away and he broke up with me due to the distance.
Q. Dear Cupid, Now this is a situation I'm completely new in. During the summer last year I started going on a website and I met this guy and we hit it off and became friends. As the months went by we learned more about each other we began talking...
A. 11 January 2013: The man has a point, 2000 miles is too far to start a serious relationship. It would be hard and you would miss out on so much not being together physically. It's hard when you meet someone you really like, but he won't be the only one for you, ... (read in full...)
No trust for my boyfriend anymore because he ignores anything that bothers me, and now I suspect him of cheating....what should I do?
Q. I’d like to know how you guys think I should address this situation or maybe even what I should do…im also sorry it's soo long. So When I first got into a relationship with my boyfriend we decided it would be a completely honest relationship and...
A. 11 January 2013: I think you over reacted a bit to the magazines! They are hardly porn! Yes it's hard to look at women who are thinner and prettier than you in magazines but to be honest there are images like that everywhere, would you stop him watching music ... (read in full...)
Did my significant other play me and his ex-girlfriend?
Q. This occurred during the first month of our relationship. His ex-girlfriend, that he deeply loved and wanted to marry, had broken up with him two months prior to us dating. He didn't wait long to date other women, maybe within a week of the break ...
A. 10 January 2013: The important thing is she didn't want him back and you two are now engaged. People make mistakes. You've been together 3 years, he must love you. ... (read in full...)
How do I cope? He's going on and I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach
Q. Soooo me and this guy were seeing eachother for 4 months. The relationship was so rocky it wasn't funny! Every (bleeping) week he would find some excuse of why he couldn't be with me. Then when i tried to leave he would come back and say "baby i ...
A. 10 January 2013: I think the important thing is what you have learnt from this relationship. You now know what signs to look for next time. Remember you deserve better than that and you WILL get a better man than that IF you believe you deserve it. People do some... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has female friend that he is entirely too close to
Q. So ill be honest, its a bit messed up, My boyfriend has a friend hes entirely too close to, She calls and texts him constantly, he makes plans to go places we didnt intend on because she gave him the invite. At first she wasnt a problem, then the ...
A. 10 January 2013: Don't make it a problem or it will become one. If you try and push two people apart they tend to get closer, he may have never thought of her in a romantic way, don't put the idea in his head or he will think about it!
He sounds like a good guy,... (read in full...)
I'm the wife of a crossdresser and my life is a mess
Q. I need help i have known for 2 yrs now that my husband is a crossdresser, we have been together 11 yrs and have 4 kids. Everythung was good until he started crossdressing. He is a hard working great man but my needs are not met like they used to be. ...
A. 10 January 2013: Which needs do you feel are not met? Maybe you need to try again to bring up the issue but in a supportive way, no accusations or arguments, just honest and open. My friend recently told me he cross dresses, I didn't think much of it as a friend, ... (read in full...)
Do I keep my 8 year marriage? Or my baby that is probably not my husbands?
Q. I am 26 and been with my husband for 8 years and married for 6, we found out about year 2 of our relationship that my husband had a very little chance of getting me pregnant . We struggled with this over the the whole duration of our relationship ...
A. 10 January 2013: I'm assuming you told your husband about sleeping with another man if he wants you to have an abortion. HAve you told the other man he is the father? If the other man isn't interested is it possible your husband may come round to the idea of raising ... (read in full...)
Do I continue to date this amazing guy knowing that when I'm with him all I do is think of the ex or do I stop dating until I'm fully over my ex?
Q. I recently started dating a wonderful guy, things have been going really well but for some reason I cannot get my ex out of my head. My ex and I had a great relationship but it ended suddenly with no real reason apart from he was moving 70 miles ...
A. 10 January 2013: After a while you will find that you think about your ex less and this new guy more. Give it a chance and you could be very happy.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his past with prostitutes he never mentioned until we were together? I'm so depressed.
Q. Oh my god, it hurts SO bad. When I met my bf he told me he was like me and could count his sexual partners on his fingers. That he waited for sex and was really old fashion. Never had a 1 night stand. We slept in the same bed and he didn't even ...
A. 9 January 2013: My ex was similar, never mentioned any of these things till he'd sucked me in then they gradually came trickling out, the prostitutes, cheating ok ex's, young girls... I thought ok he's changed now he's with me, then a few years down the line I ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going on online dating sites. Do I have a right to be upset about this?
Q. I am having had a bad time again with my boyfriend. We have been back together after we broke up because of his online dating sites. Over the course of a year, we had argument after argument over his lies and refusal to accept that I had the right ...
A. 9 January 2013: Why do you need proof he is on a dating site? It is your choice to leave if he treats you badly, you are obviously not happy, do something positive for yourself.... (read in full...)
Girls: is this a way to spark a girl's interest? what would be the possible reaction, if guitar solo performances (my own), were included in the flashdrive with legal software being given as a gift by to a fellow student?
Q. Hello. I am here for a question that might open a lot of doors for me. Here is my story. I have been lonely for 2 years now after my ex girlfriend left me for someone else and several rejections since then have made me numb. I came to USA 2 ye...
A. 9 January 2013: Seems like an odd idea. You could tell her you play the guitar and if she is interested in that kind of thing show her a video?... (read in full...)
I was OK to sleep with. But he said he could'nt give me what I wanted. How do I cope with this, and the fact he now has a Gf?
Q. Hi everyone. Back in September, I moved into a shared house with three other people. Two of them I didn't know before, but there had always been chemistry between me and this other person. This other person and I have been close ever since we me...
A. 9 January 2013: That's tough. The only solution is to cut contact and if it is possible to move out I would recommend it. Don't put yourself through the mental torture of watching him date her or any other girl. He wasn't the one, but there are many other men out ... (read in full...)
He thinks we're in a relationship, but we haven't had a date yet! How do I deal with this?
Q. I agreed to a blind date suggested by a mutual friend of myself and the gentleman in question. We spoke in person just long enough to arrange the date, but haven't actually gone out yet. I've just learned that he changed his Facebook status t...
A. 9 January 2013: I think you should cancel the date, say you are not ready to date, anything! If he thinks you are in a relationship after one conversation who knows what he would be like after you meet.... (read in full...)
Am I not good enough for him? I'm pregnant but all he does is talk to his ex. Am I crazy wanting him to leave?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I am currently pregnant and since I've gotten pregnant all he does is talk to his exs. I feel like I am not good enough for him and that he is looking for someone else. I don't wanna lose h...
A. 9 January 2013: That sounds like a horrible situation and I know its not easy to leave someone when you are pregnant with their child. You do need to think about whether being with him is causing you more pain and stress than being on your own would. Obviously ... (read in full...)
Worried I cant get pregnant when I'm older, help?
Q. Had unprotected sex on 4 different occasions since I lost my virginity, I was really worried I'd get pregnant but I've just got my period like normal... Now I'm really worried that one day when I want kids I won't be able to have them?? Is there so...
A. 7 January 2013: You only get pregnant if you have sex when you are ovulating. Not easy to work out when you are young. It's just a matter of the laws of probability and your menstrual cycle.... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends boyfriend 2 days before their baby is due. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've had this friend for 3 years. Me and her met because I hooked up with her boyfriend unknowingly. He split with her before I found out, but still cheated on her with me. Then cheated on me with her. So me and her became friends, long story sh...
A. 7 January 2013: No I don't think you should tell her, take a step back and let them sort their own problems out.... (read in full...)
BF of 2 years either doesn't pick up the phone, or he's verbally abusive. Is this because he got sex and doesn't need me now?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years lives in a different city, I visited him 2 days back and we spent a day together. I came back to my work city yesterday. From yesterday he is not picking my calls or calling me back. Even if he picks up, he calls ...
A. 6 January 2013: He does not sound worth it. Don't let him get any more of your money!
Don't feel bad for sleeping with him, you did it with good/honest intentions it was him who was in the wrong and should feel dirty.... (read in full...)
Broke up with my ex of 2 yrs. It was 2 months ago but I don't feel I'm moving on. Is that normal?
Q. My girlfriend of 2 years and I recently broke up. I guess it's not really recently its been since Thanksgiving. She has a new boyfriend and I have new girlfriend who I like a lot don't get me wrong, but I can't seem to shake off my past girlfrie...
A. 6 January 2013: It does seem very soon to be starting a new relationship especially when your ex is still on your mind. The good thing about breakups is you are allowed to take time to feel depressed and mope about, then you can get up and back out there. Don't try ... (read in full...)
Seventeen year gap in communication with an ex... is it too late to try again?
Q. Hello All, I am back again, so I am 41 years old, apparently for my age I am in good shape and do't look my age. But my issue is this, I am longing to settle down and be married but living in London and seeing Societies Women generally either...
A. 6 January 2013: The only thing stopping you from settling down is your attitude, you'd like to 'court' someone for 5 years before properly committing?! What women in their late 30's/40's wants that! What are you scared of about getting married? Open up to the idea ... (read in full...)
LDR and I miss him. Has anyone gone through something like this?
Q. Dear Cupid, This past September my best friend moved away to go to grad school. I had a lot of trouble coping with the fact that he was gone and cried a whole lot and was depressed for a couple weeks. Eventually him not being around became ro...
A. 5 January 2013: It is sad when close friends move away. The nice thing is that when you do see each other things are great and you have loads to catch up on, this makes you really appreciate them as a friend.
The solution to friends leaving is always to make new ... (read in full...)
He's busy and antisocial. So why did he ask me out?
Q. I got to know of this guy through my friend. We only met once that time together with my friend. Since then he hasn't messaged nor called, until one day he asked if I am interested in a movie. So we went out for movie and dinner. he told me he is...
A. 5 January 2013: Are you attracted to this guy? It sounds like either he is not that in to you or this is his personality. If this is the way he is you can't go into the relationship hoping he will change, men rarely do! So do you like him the way he is? if so maybe ... (read in full...)
My Gf has many issues, especially with her ex Bf. All this is getting me down. Is our relationship a lost cause?
Q. My girl friend is 46 has a failed marriage and three children. Two very young. One children was conceived via a relationship only based on sex only, but she fell pregnant. Then a second child with this violent man because she wanted another chil...
A. 5 January 2013: Someone with issues needs a lot of support and it takes a strong man to do that. If you love her maybe you can try and support her and stick by her, it isn't going to be easy and only you can make the decision to leave or not.... (read in full...)
I feel more lonely than ever now that he's moved on. How do I now move on?
Q. I've been extremely lonely for a very long time. I've tried dating sites with no success. Yes, i am happy with my life the way it is. The person that took that loneliness away has decided that what we had was not morally correct because ...
A. 5 January 2013: Maybe keep going with the Internet dating, new people join all the time. Try and take up a new hobby or go to different places.
He was right to do what he did, it must have been hard to hear but dating family members is morally wrong and I'm sure... (read in full...)
Is 19 too young to go on a dating site?
Q. Do you think 19 is too young to go on dating site, i have no luck with guys, its make me wondering if 19 is too young, my friends have profile and keeps telling me to join? i don't want to mention this to her since its slightly embarrassing ...
A. 5 January 2013: A lot of younger people meet on Facebook these days which is pretty much the same as Internet dating so I don't see why not. Just make sure you always meet people in public places and don't give away any private details till you get to know them.
Y... (read in full...)
Should I move on and how? It's been three years since I dated anyone. Not since my last boyfriend
Q. So, my first boyfriend was the love of my life and we broke up about 5 years ago. After like a year I met another guy who treated me like a queen but got too clingy so I called it off with him. I haven't dated anyone since my last boyfriend a...
A. 5 January 2013: If he is not going to commit (which is how it seems) the only way is to cut all contact, don't answer when he rings, delete texts before you read them. It will be hard but as long as you still let him in your head you will never move on.... (read in full...)
I'm only 20 and not trying for a baby, will the doctors still test me to see if I'm infertile?
Q. I know you aren't doctors, but i'm really worried i'm infertile!! Since I was 13 I've always been weight conscious, so i've stupidly done a lot of dieting on and off and they haven't been healthy ones. But where I eat next to nothing for weeks, ...
A. 5 January 2013: The fact that you have periods is a good sign. Often people who have anorexia related infertility have never had periods. The best advice to help you be more fertile is to reduce alcohol intake, don't smoke and eat healthily.... (read in full...)
We're both in relationships. Does he like me? So how do I Forget him, even though we work together?
Q. Okay, so lets give you some brief history, i'm going to keep it vague just in case he ever stumbles on this! So I joined a music group about 4 years ago now, and I've had a crush on this guy (lets call him Jack) every time I'm in a room with him ...
A. 4 January 2013: He might fancy you, people are still attracted to good looking people when they are in a relationship. This doesn't mean he would act on it though or consider leaving his current relationship... If you want to stay with your boyfriend try and cut ... (read in full...)
My girl friend is bi-curious and wants a three-some.I'm not sure. Can I have advice on this?
Q. Hi everyone, new member here in need of some help! Background: Me (22), GF (19) Been together since Nov 2012, already in love. Lost my virginity to her (saving myself for someone special, she didn't know I was), she has now had 6 sexual partner...
A. 4 January 2013: That is a bit cheeky of her to ask if you've only been together since nov!!
Unfortunately if her desire to be with a woman is that strong, long term you will either have to give in and bring other women into your relationship or let her go. So I su... (read in full...)
He's asked me to sign a Pre-nup! It made me Soooo Mad. Should I just sign the thing?
Q. So my boyfriend of 3 years is in the US Army and on Skype one night he told me to go to my front door. He had someone go write on my front porch step "will you marry me?" And the ring box sitting there with a vase of flowers. When I went ba...
A. 4 January 2013: Don't sign it! He shouldn't be preparing for the worst, marriage is for life. And if it does go wrong and you've had a family together don't you deserve a decent divorce settlement?! If you are getting married you should be able to discuss this like ... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to be accomplishing through sex?
Q. In every magazine I have come across, whenever they write about sex it always has to deal with orgasms. from this I have the perception that if I am having sex with a woman she has to orgasm every time otherwise I won't be a real man and she will ...
A. 3 January 2013: If you are a virgin don't worry to much, you probably aren't going to give a woman an orgasm on your first time and women don't expect that. Just try not to cum to quickly, make sure she knows you are into her and care and enjoy it.
Long term havi... (read in full...)
What does it mean if he stares at you but won't talk to you?
Q. Why would a guy do this? What does it mean? What does it mean •when a guy constantly stares at you, but looks away when you catch him in the act •goes out of his way to open doors for you •Is really friendly and talks to everyone b...
A. 3 January 2013: Not really enough info to go on, you will have to try and make conversation with him and see where things go. This could carry on fit a long time if one if you doesn't make a move, go for it!!... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 3 January 2013: You don't sound that small don't worry! I'm sure if you keep pushing her she will eventually tell you that you are small just to shut you up! Will it make you feel better? If she enjoys it whose complaining! Do you compare vagina sizes of all your ... (read in full...)
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