Is it possible for friends with benefits to eventually have a true romance and relationship?
Q. My best guy friend is also a friend with benefits. We started off as friends, and later I crushed on him. We talked and he told me that he was not looking for a relationship. He has a child with his ex and at the time he still had feelings for her. ...
A. 15 March 2013: It doesn't sound promising to be honest. But giving time and space will help, if he dies just need time to get over his ex then cutting off the sex with him will help this. Why not get out there and date again yourself, you might meet someone who ... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from making out with my guy friends' mates every time I see him with his girlfriend?
Q. basically i go to kinda a strict grammar school where nobody really does anything but everyone gossips like crazy and like two girls have had sex in the whole year and they got taunted horribly. anyway i kinda have this thing for my friend who has a ...
A. 15 March 2013: You are only doing what every other 16 year old in the country is doing. Reputations are damaging and don't help anyone feel good about themselves.
On the other hand it doesn't seem like you are happy doing what you are doing as you don't real... (read in full...)
I'm HIV positive, how do I tell my LDR guy?
Q. Hi guys I'm in long distance relationship.I love the guy with all my heart.We haven't had any sexual connection.My problem is that he is soo crazy about me and he wants to move to my city.How can I tell him I'm hiv positive.I'm afraid to lose him...
A. 14 March 2013: HIV isn't a death sentence like it used to be, if you explain to him the facts he will be less freaked out. If you stay safe in your relationship there is no reason why it should cause a problem. If he loves you he will understand, good luck.... (read in full...)
Can you get sick from cuming in someone?
Q. So my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. I was topping and the day after he said he felt like crap. Can you get sick from cuming in someone?...
A. 14 March 2013: Maybe he was hungover or caught a cold? No you can't get ill from cum. You can catch std's though so you need to wear condoms, but std's won't show any symptoms after 24hours, they take much longer.
Most likely he has just caught a cold.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him? He tried to force himself on me, but I refused. Does he love me or is he just interested in sex?
Q. I'm 22 plus my boyfriend is 27plus we had been dating getting to 4 years now we both love each other but now I can't tell if he still loves me. Any time I pay him visit now he does things that I felt are not right for us. Now like touching my...
A. 13 March 2013: If you have gone off the relationship and don't want to have sex or get intimate with him maybe it is time to end the relationship. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says four is too many guys to have been intimate with. He broke up with me
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. Few hours later we decided to make it a short break of 2 days or so just to take some time off. The reason why that happened? I told him that I have been intimate with four guys before we met(We are in a ...
A. 12 March 2013: He has been quite judgemental which seems to have made you question your sexual past. 4 is not a lot or a little really for someone of your age. You were young, you did what seemed right at the time. You've probably learnt from these experiences. ... (read in full...)
She masturbated... without me!
Q. Should I be upset about this? Basically, my girlfriend and I had not had sex for almost 5 days. While we had never really agreed to not masturbate before our next time in bed, we had talked about doing something like that before. (We have sex a ...
A. 11 March 2013: Surely her masturbating is a good sign, means she is horny and into you. If I knew a man had masturbsted before having sex with me I would be pleased as I would know he would probably last longer, maybe you could see this the same way. You wouldn't ... (read in full...)
He sent me a naked photo with a comment about his penis. I was unimpressed. Shall I just give up? What do you think he's playing at?
Q. Hi, I have been dating this guy for nearly a month now. We had three dates only. First one, we just got to know each other over coffee and it was good, we liked each other! Then, before the second date, he wooed me by texts, we then saw each ...
A. 10 March 2013: Urgh why would any man think us women want to receive a pic of their penis! Yes we know what they look like thanks! ... (read in full...)
How can I support my wife to consider resuming sexual relations with me? My Wife will not have sex with me and it hurts :(
Q. It's like 3:30 in the morning right now, my wife is sleeping next to me and I need to get some advice and get this off my chest. Age is a good start I think, gives people an idea of what your looking at. I'm 28, I workout and I would say I'm a at...
A. 10 March 2013: When you are really tired you value sleep or putting your feet up in front of the tele over sex, it's often as simple as that. Sex is fun when you do it but as a woman I can go without as I enjoy other aspects of life as well. Men aren't like this ... (read in full...)
Could he actually be interested? Do guys after a FWB relationship usually make a point of keeping in touch every day, making 'dates' in advance?
Q. Thanks to a lack of willing participants, a casual acquaintance and I ended up having a night out at the pub. We're both single and ended up going back to his place. We had an amazing few hours and crashed out. He was supposed to be heading out f...
A. 10 March 2013: Seems like a typical friends with benefits arrangement here, he's keeping in touch because you keep having sex with him. If you you are happy with that then go for it, I think knowing something is just about sex will help you enjoy it for what it ... (read in full...)
He and I are quite close. Do you think he's telling me he's leaving his wife?
Q. Married man at work rang my mobile whilst I was at work an he at home; I didn't know he had my number, He was very drunk and told me he needed to hear my voice and he missed me then told me he needed to tell me something. So I asked what? He sai...
A. 10 March 2013: I imagine you will find out on Monday, if he doesn't remember the phone call you can assume it was just a drunken moment and he's not leaving his wife. What's the rest of the story here? ... (read in full...)
I feel like one of my best pals no longer needs me. What is the best way to deal with this?
Q. Hi. I feel like one of my best pals doesn't need me anymore and couldn't care less about me. Since he's had his new gf neither me nor any of our mates have really seen him. At first I understood this as at the start of a relationship you...
A. 10 March 2013: 7 months is still early days, men need other men and I'm sure he will get to a point when he needs time with friends. Is it possible you have outgrown each other? Maybe it's not all down to this girl...? There isn't much you can do really, allow him ... (read in full...)
I don't like anyone. Should I force myself to like someone?
Q. Growing up, girls usually didn't show much interest in me. Apparently they usually think I'm weird. Not weird as in, stay in my room all day and play video games and role play as the characters (Not that I'm judging), weird as in, I say and do ...
A. 9 March 2013: Being gay doesn't mean you can't have children or get married. If you aren't attracted to women then that's perfectly natural and nothing to worry about. Don't try and force yourself to be someone you don't want to be just relax and go with what... (read in full...)
My friend is only 20 but thinks shes old and shes acting really weird!
Q. My friend seems to be going through some very strange life crisis at the age of 20!! I'm really worried because her actions, the things she doing and saying are really out of character... My friend was telling me how she's realised that ou...
A. 9 March 2013: This sounds like its more complicated than the fact she is getting older, it's most likely that there is more going on than you are aware of. You need to try and be there for her as best you can and point her in the direction of support such as ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's reluctance to add me to Facebook has made me suspicious
Q. I never thought I would be writing to DearCupid about this kind of question. Usually when I see questions about facebook, my advice is to just get over it because it's just facebook. Relationsips shouldn't be based on what he/she liked on someone ...
A. 9 March 2013: She probably wonders why you have this big interest in facebook all of a sudden if you normally hardly ever use it. if I was her i'd be thinking if I message him on there he probably won't pick it up for months! Are you assuming she is married or ... (read in full...)
Major crush at the grocery store. Seems he likes me. Why hasn't he asked me out yet?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really like this guy that works at my local grocery store. I usually go in there a couple times a week to pick up food on my lunch break and sometimes ill catch him in the aisles and we talk for a little bit. We sometimes get ...
A. 9 March 2013: a grocery store doesn't sound like an easy place to ask someone out so i'd assume he is worried about all the same things as you. its always a bit scary and a risk to ask someone out. if you are going out one night why not tell him and say if he's ... (read in full...)
What are the sexual needs of men and women???
Q. hi all, ok so i was going to write a long post about the issues between me and my partner but instead first i would like to hear some view points on sex and i would like if possible equal input from men and women, women... how important is it to ...
A. 9 March 2013: I think it depends whats going on in the rest of your life sometimes. sometimes life gets in the way of long sex and all you have time for is a quickie. better than nothing! I like all the romantic stuff but I also enjoy having a good sex life. men ... (read in full...)
Wanting to try a tampon for the first time.
Q. I'm going to the spring fling tomorrow and I'm on my period. I've never worn a tampon before but I feel like it would be a good idea to wear one instead of a pad. should I wear a tampon even though I'venever worn one before? I just want to do the ...
A. 9 March 2013: i'd definitely say go for it, once a tampon is in properly you can't really feel it so it is much more comfortable than a pad. You will definitely need an applicator tampon (most of them are) as non applicator ones are hard to get right. When you ... (read in full...)
Does this woman really want to be with me?
Q. Ok, so here's the deal. It's very difficult for me to write about this, but I am in desperate need of some impartial view of the whole situation. I've been seeing this girl for the last five months, almost on a daily basis. Every time we are toge...
A. 9 March 2013: Sounds like she wants both of you. Why are you prepared to be with someone who is in a relationship and sleeping with someone else? Don't you want a girlfriend of your own? Even if she leaves this guy whats to say she won't cheat again.
Either be c... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems willing to jeopardize our future to play counsellor to his ex wife
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years divorced 8 years ago. The ex wife remarried and now is fighting with the current husband, her third, and it looks like divorce again. She is phoning my boyfriend up and telling him all the detail and crying on his shou...
A. 9 March 2013: You can't really do much about this. They were obviously together a long time and this means there will be a bond there, possibly forever. It doesn't mean he would ever go back to her romantically. it sounds like just a friendship thing. ... (read in full...)
Is 2 years a long time to go without sex?
Q. I'm 25 years old and have been single for 2 years after the end of a 6 year relationship. Being single is fine, infact it's great but I haven't had sex in the last 2 years either and Im worried that my anxiety over this may prevent me from seeing ...
A. 9 March 2013: no man is going to know how long you have gone without sex unless you tell them. A lot of people are anxious about sex or have insecurities. Being with someone who makes you feel comfortable is the key. you will probably find sex is completely ... (read in full...)
Sent him an email ending things hoping for a bit of resistance but he accepted it. I am so sad, what do I do now?
Q. Hello I have been involved in a 3 1/2 year relationship. My bf likes to flirt a lot, he is in his mid 40s and in my opinion weak willed. We also work together in the same building and recently on the same floor for a period of time. In this time i...
A. 9 March 2013: men tend to take things as they are. if you say you want to end it they will accept that and move on. Playing games with people never really works long term. If you don't really want it to be over you need to tell him, in person! you can't expect h... (read in full...)
Is it a red flag that my 33 year old boyfriend likes to hang out with a 21 year old girl?
Q. My boyfriend is 33 and I am 27. We have been together for 3+ years and our relationship is pretty strong. But, he befriends people much younger and hangs out with one 21 year girl old in particular. Is this a red flag? He wouldn't cheat, but I ...
A. 6 March 2013: I don't see anything wrong with it unless you have reason to believe there is something going on. Age doesn't mean anything, if they work together I am sure they are just friends. work is a lot better if you get on with your colleagues!... (read in full...)
My partner won't say he was breaking up with me but told his friend I was stalking him.
Q. My partner just upped and left and I don't know how to deal with it. We never lived together and the last few months had been hard as he had to move away for work - only 150 miles away though so we went from seeing eachother 4 or 5 times a week to ...
A. 3 March 2013: His friend sounds right - this guy has no balls. He should have told you in person but he didnt. This doesn't make him much of a man and definitely not a great loss. You need to delete him from Facebook and try and move on. At least him living ... (read in full...)
Am I gay now, if I had sex with my friend once?
Q. Mod note: OP is a male. I'm a young man. Some time ago I broke up with my girlfriend, it was very hard and painful, because we had a long relationship, but I had to end it because she lied to me, cheated on me and did other nasty things. That even...
A. 3 March 2013: you had sex with a man so that does make you at least bi-sexual if not gay. this doesn't mean you have to start having a relationship with a man just that you have sexual feelings towards men sometimes. No matter how drunk I got I wouldn't have sex ... (read in full...)
Friday night? My Boyfriend of seven years has asked another woman to join us on our Friday night outring. Do I have a right to be miffed? What should I do?
Q. Am I being spoilt and a pain? My Boyfriend of 7 years has asked a fellow dog walker to join us on our regular and special Fri nights out. I am sure their relationship is platonic but one can never be sure . I have met her on a few occasions a...
A. 3 March 2013: If you have been together 7 years surely you are comfortable enough to spend time with other people. Is it every Friday with her or just now and again?... (read in full...)
With friends like this?? After I heard what my friends had said to him I don't feel comfortable continuing to see him. What should I do?
Q. I have a friend who has always been aggressive with guys and it worked out for her. I have done it as well but I have a lot of issues with trust so I don't do it anymore. Well, my friend who was tired of seeing me upset decided to help me. Whe...
A. 3 March 2013: You could either enjoy it for a while till he moves away or end it now if you are worried you will end up getting hurt.... (read in full...)
I've been dreaming of this woman since 1974. Should I look for her?
Q. I´ve been in love with Tessie since 1974, Tessie and I began a few moths relationship, we broke, after 7 years, we started a new relation, By then I was married man but somehow Tessie and I kept together for 5 years. In 1989 I got sick with can...
A. 2 March 2013: Sounds like you are in love with the fantasy tessie and no nothing about the real tessie. Much like fantasising about people on tele. Best left as pleasant memories and not taken any further. ... (read in full...)
Is my relationship to a married female coworker too close?
Q. Hi all, I'm a 26 year old single male and there's a female married coworker (a newly wed) a couple of years older than me. We have become good friends and we call each other BFFs. We have lunch together alone pretty much everyday and always sit n...
A. 2 March 2013: Sounds 100% platonic to me... (read in full...)
So how do I make friends with complete strangers at University?
Q. I live, usually, far away from the city. We don't see many visitors out there. But I've just moved to the city to study. And I'm staying in the University accomodation. My parents have gone back home now. So my question is, what's the best way to m...
A. 2 March 2013: Chat to people on your course - people you sit next to or are paired up with. Ask them questions about the work maybe or make a joke about something that happens... Join clubs - uni clubs are great and the best way to meet people. Sign up to try ... (read in full...)
I don't think I've ever had an orgasm but I make alot of noise. Is this wrong?
Q. Hey all, So whenever I have sex or fool around with my boyfriend, I moan. Alot. Soetimes I even scream I'm a very talkative person in general, so I don't know if that's part of it. Because the thing is, I moan with pleasure, but I don't have an ...
A. 2 March 2013: Girls moan when they enjoy sex not only when they orgasm. If you aren't sure you've had an orgasm you have not had one. When you have one you will know 100% so don't worry! I see no problem with moaning etc, its a compliment to your partner!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend blames himself because I can't have an orgasm
Q. I really need help... I've been with my bf for 2 years, and We lost our virginities together 5 months into the relationship. But no matter what he does, I can't have an orgasm. I love sex, I get horny very easily and I'm always willing to have sex. ...
A. 2 March 2013: I don't think you have a problem, it just takes time to understand your body and work out how to orgasm. You have to really relax and let yourself go. Once you have your first they will keep in coming! If it doesn't happen in a year then go see a ... (read in full...)
How should I how him how I feel without saying it?
Q. Why did he do that? I really like him.? So I was hanging out with this guy I really like and he was playing music and I asked him what song is next and he said your favourite song. And he was right it was one of the songs I like and I ...
A. 26 February 2013: what about choosing a song to play you think he will like and tell him the song makes him think of you. really look him in the eyes as you say it.... (read in full...)
52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 26 February 2013: She obviously had some issues and encouraging her in her promiscuity is not going to help her sought it out. Obviously your kids should be your first priority but if you care at all for the 20 year old you should leave her alone. And if you have ... (read in full...)
Family is against lesbian relationships. How to take it to the next level.
Q. So I've got a problem. I'm in love with this totally awesome girl. We're both bisexual and we are dating. I've spoiled her rotten on Valentine's Day and her birthday and what not. We've been dating for like a year now I think and my family knows ...
A. 24 February 2013: only you know if you are ready to take it to the next level. if it feels right then go with it. Love is about how you feel not what others think.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not acknowledge me on facebook
Q. I have been with a man for 1 year ..we get together every other weekend as my 10 yr son goes to his fathers house. I have travelled with this man and still I find it troubling he wont ackowledge my relationship status on facebook, I am getting upset ...
A. 24 February 2013: I get how you are feeling, facebook is part of modern life. If he will kiss you in public in front of his friends then who cares about facebook - he probably hates facebook, NOT you. if he doesn't like anything public then that is another issue. he ... (read in full...)
52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 24 February 2013: where did you really see it going with a 20 year old. As much fun as your mid life crisis is, time to move on I think...... (read in full...)
Can a correctional officer visit her boyfriend at her previous job she just got fired from because of the relationship?
Q. Can a correctional officer visit her boyfriend at her previous job she just got fired from because of the relationship ...
A. 24 February 2013: Legally I would say yes you can. doubt it will be easy though. Rules against that kind of thing are in place for a reason and people don't like it when they are broken.... (read in full...)
Received advice before, but still feeling bad . . .
Q. I have posted a couple of questions on this site and I received a lot of good answers that built me up. However, I am still in the same place I was when I started posting because for every kind answer I received here there were others on the ...
A. 24 February 2013: In order to make changes in your life (for the better) you have to listen to the good and the bad, Some things are hard to hear but they help you challenge your own opinions and perceptions on life. You will get there in time, but only you can do ... (read in full...)
Could he possibly be flirting?
Q. Ok, so theres this guy i know really well. He used to date my cosin up north now, i only see him on facebook cause he is all the way up north. Now he always likes or comments on my status and pictures on FB. This last summerhe came down and stayed ...
A. 24 February 2013: I'm not sure why commenting on or liking things on facebook means you like someone. Are the comments extremely flirtatious or provocative? Hugs are also just friendly really. You need more clues. If you see him try finding some way to touch hi... (read in full...)
The guy that I've been dating for 3 years has done the disappearing act!
Q. So the guy that I've been dating for 3 years.. has done the disappearing act.. No contact or communication whatsoever..lately.. There was no arguments nothing of that nature.. I feel like he's either one of two things.. Has a fear of taking our ...
A. 24 February 2013: too scared to end it with you properly so he's taken the cowards way out? hope not, let us know...... (read in full...)
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