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Am I a total pervert for being turned on by the idea of a cute boy masturbating to a picture of me?

Q.   Not long ago I had an embarrassing moment at my school where I was wearing a thin black spaghetti strap top with just a thin camisole underneath but no bra when someone conveniently decided to snap a picture and thanks to the flash you could totally ...

A.   29 October 2013: No you are not a pervert. The person who circulated this picture without your permission is the one at fault. This could be seen as bullying if you were not happy with it. There are also legal implications to passing around a potentially sexual ... (read in full...)

Do fathers have rights to know where their children are living?

Q.   Does anyone know, either from a personally experience, or legally, does a father have right to know where his children are living? Story is: Bad relationship, physically and mentally abusive, also his current girlfriend is now causing trouble t...

A.   27 October 2013: If he has access to the child then I doubt he would go to court over your address. But if your address isn't hidden from public records then he could potentially find it. (It is amazing what you can find out about people online etc). If he find... (read in full...)

Baby momma drama or MM who swears he's getting a divorce?

Q.   I moved to another state to be with a man I lived with for 5 years. He moved here to be with his daughter in the mean time I met another guy back home who treated me like a queen for the short time I knew him. He wants me to move back and be with ...

A.   27 October 2013: These ralationships are all very dysfunctional. Neither is a good option. Seems like you need a good support network - friends, family etc. get some support and try to work through whatever is really going on here.... (read in full...)

Gay and ginger, is there any hope?

Q.   Hi all, I would be very grateful for any advice so here it goes. Im a 22 year old guy and I have just accepted that I am gay and I'm not out to anyone. I'm also very unfortunate to have Ginger hair too. I have been a quiet and shy guy all my life ...

A.   27 October 2013: My best friend is gay and has had some very attractive ginger boyfriends! Hair colour is something people notice but it's really not that big a deal. If it really bothers you why not cut it very short... ... (read in full...)

Having trouble adjusting after moving back home

Q.   When I spent a year working in Australia, I met the man of my dreams. He trained at a gym which had a coffee shop nearby, so as I worked there I saw him daily. After a few weeks of flirting, he asked me out and started dating. When my year was up we ...

A.   27 October 2013: Sounds like you need to way up the options and have a serious think about what you want to do. No one can tell you what the right thing is to do. It's possible you two could get back together and live a happy life it's also possible you could never ... (read in full...)

I don't think she's the type to use someone, but that's how I feel

Q.   So, I've been talking to this girl since late July, and I have no idea what to do. We both have emotional concerns, and I care about her a lot, and like her quite a bit. However, we've only seen each other in person a few times, despite texting back ...

A.   27 October 2013: It sounds like she considers you a friend but is maybe being cautious because she is worried you are attracted to her. Are you happy with just being friends? If not you should do the right thing and back away.... (read in full...)

Do fathers have rights to know where their children are living?

Q.   Does anyone know, either from a personally experience, or legally, does a father have right to know where his children are living? Story is: Bad relationship, physically and mentally abusive, also his current girlfriend is now causing trouble t...

A.   27 October 2013: He can apply to court for access to his children. Doesn't mean he would get it, hard to say without knowing all the details. If he does go to court best thing is to get some good legal advice.... (read in full...)

Is asking your separated spouse for sex wrong, we were on very good terms

Q.   My wife and I are separated for 4 years, it's a long story of infidelity on her part and neglect on my part. I have accepted the situation for what it is and to help keep peace in the family. We have 2 adult children. Recently she asked me to go ...

A.   27 October 2013: Yes it was very wrong, you are the one it seems who lacks morals. Expecting a woman to have sex with you is very wrong. You don't own her. ... (read in full...)

Am I wasting my time sending her presents?

Q.   I have a childhood friend on whom I had a huge crush. I met her after 12 years on facebook.. she is studying thousand miles away from me... I proposed her on the 3rd day.. She said no.. Then after one month I sent an expensive leather clutch.....

A.   27 October 2013: You should stop, you may think you are being generous, she probably sees it as stalking. ... (read in full...)

How do I tell him I'm ready for him to enter "through the front door?"

Q.   Hi, So I'm ready to have vaginal sex with my boyfriend. We've done oral and anal. Before him, I had only done oral so he was my first for the backdoor. I'm ready for him to enter through the front too haha The problem is that I'm not sure how...

A.   26 October 2013: Why did you have anal sex first?? Did you enjoy it? Why would you think anything of vaginal sex after you have done more than that already?!... (read in full...)

I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart.

Q.   I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart. Basically, when we broke up, we made a stupid agreement to still have sex from time to time. I ended things because I got sick of ...

A.   26 October 2013: You have to tell him one day. Sooner is always best. Hope you have plenty of support as you can't rely on him now he is with someone else ... (read in full...)

How do I explain my time off?

Q.   So I decided to take this year off due to complete exhaustion and stress. I've been in school for several years now, and I needed a break. I haven't told any of my friends yet, because in my past experience they have asked nosy questions. I di...

A.   24 October 2013: If they are friends then you could try being honest with them, people can be more understanding than you think and it often helps to talk... (read in full...)

My husband told me he was in love with another woman

Q.   I do not know where to even go with this. My husband and his step-sister sat me down and informed me that they have been in love for over 30 years and that they would be together right now except they promised her dad that they would not. My ...

A.   23 October 2013: he loves someone else. what more can he say. its horrible to hear but at least you know where you stand and this can help you move on.... (read in full...)

I know I should just break up with my girlfriend but I can't stand to break her heart!

Q.   i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and its been pretty rocky for the last year. we fight alot and dont really seem to have much in common. its one of the situations where we cant stand each other but both truly love each other. i had caught ...

A.   23 October 2013: Be a man and end the relationship. Cheating will break her heart far more than your honesty. Free her to go meet the right person and allow yourself that right too.... (read in full...)

Do I ask my friend out now that she's told me she's a lesbian too?

Q.   I need some advice on what to do. My friend has recently told me shes a lesbian, I am too and she told me she already knew that. I could not tell if she had been flirting with me for the past few months, my chances are better now I know she is a ...

A.   23 October 2013: If you like her, ask her out!! There are no 100% signs that someone likes you, dating is a gamble. Take a risk!... (read in full...)

Embarrassed at the end of our first date

Q.   I went on a first date with a guy yesterday we've known each other for a week, and I can tell he likes me but sometimes he's really unpredictable, well at the end of the date he kissed me on my lips like a little peck on the lips I thought he was ...

A.   20 October 2013: That does sound embarrassing but he could probably tell it was just a mistake and maybe he wished he did go for a tongue kiss! I'm sure it will be fine and if he doesn't want a second date then I doubt that is the reason.... (read in full...)

He messaging a girl on Facebook, just like we did when we first got together! Do I have a right to be upset by this?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are in a relationship that is distance for about two thirds of the year. We've been together for about a year and a half and the distance is ending in a couple of weeks. We talk on the phone most nights and Skype each other once a ...

A.   20 October 2013: I would be very concerned. Messages are how cheating starts, we all know that we don't message someone from the opposite sex for hours late into the night unless they are an old friend (unlikely) or we fancy them. If he's going out with you he ... (read in full...)

How do I respark his interest in our sex life?

Q.   So we have been together for 5 years. In the last two months, the thought of his mouth being on me in any way has become disgusting because he has begun dipping (which I have made clear that I absolutely despise.) He told me today on the phone when ...

A.   16 October 2013: You stand up for yourself and leave this man!! What do you get out of this relationship? Do you enjoy the sex or do you do it for him?! If you don't find him attractive and he treads you badly what's the point ???... (read in full...)

Why do people let facebook ruin their relationship?

Q.   I have a question about Facebook, and that is why do so many people let it run their relationships? I'm not just talking about significant others, either. They let it affect their relationships with family as well. I know my family has, at least. A ...

A.   16 October 2013: Facebook is just a way of people expressing themselves. Facebook itself is not responsible for what is posted, you have to control that yourself. Statuses about what you've had for lunch may be dull but emotional statuses can have consequences or ... (read in full...)

I'm devastated over this breakup and over being used!

Q.   I’m so heartbroken right now…I need advice on how to get over this woman. I wound up being in a love triangle which has driven me into therapy but I need some additional advice, criticism, feedback…whatever it is…I just need to hear it. I met this ...

A.   16 October 2013: She was in a relationship with another man and you were the bit on the side! How did you think this would play out. You are both responsible for the cheating as you knew about her man so you both have to take responsibility. Find someone who want... (read in full...)

If a girl is just not interested why make excuses for putting things off

Q.   There is a girl I like. We went out once. Ever since then whenever I causally ask her out she keeps making excuses. Some I can believe like she says "Friday is her family day." And other excuses like that. The one she uses a lot though is that she ...

A.   13 October 2013: I think some girls feel rude or uncomfortable being honest and just saying no. Personally I prefer to be honest but I do get called blunt sometimes! They are probably just trying to let you down gently.... (read in full...)

Him keeping his ex as a friend bothers me!

Q.   How can I stop worrying and stop being upset about my boyfriend's friendship with his ex girlfriend? Even though they had a bad break up and things got pretty ugly with them (she cheated on him a lot and they fought a lot) they both decided to ...

A.   12 October 2013: Men struggle to move on when they are the ones who are cheated on. They can become insecure about it. How long have you been with him? If it is a few months I would be worried, if it's a few years hopefully he has moved on.... (read in full...)

She's not so keen on intimacy anymore - whats wrong, me, her or the other guy?

Q.   I dont know what to do, my girlfriend dosent like me touching her anymore, she wont have sex as often, only once a weekend - when she does its like iv been begging and its a chore for her, we used to have it every night, the excusses are: 1: i...

A.   12 October 2013: She is cheating on you and you seem ok with it?! You can't fix this with a ring. If she has gone off you it's best to face up to it and move on. ... (read in full...)

Why would an ex say "we should have a relationship with love and compasion because we have history"?

Q.   Why would an ex say "we should have a relationship with love and compasion because we have history." he left the marriage for another woman who he has been with for over 5 yrs. now. there were other women before her. He is extremely dishones...

A.   11 October 2013: My guess is because he is a twat. ... (read in full...)

Do they girls also like the guys chest

Q.   Hey everyone, Do they girls also like the guys chest, as much as the case in vice versa? I am asking this because there was a girl at my university who used to stare at my flat chest fugitively, which made me wonder the point....

A.   10 October 2013: I love a mans chest but to touch more than to look at. Women need physical contact men like visual. Unfortunately she may have been looking because she was curious more than turned on lol... (read in full...)

I'm afraid he won't accept me because of herpes

Q.   I have herpes type 2. I get one bump, and thats it. Every now and again. Anyway, Im planning on going on a date with a man ive been talking to for 6 months, in a week. I know we are headed in a serious direction. He has a messed up past, being an ex ...

A.   9 October 2013: I would imagine with his past he will be understanding, we've all got some secrets/baggage that we come with... You have no choice really, be strong and tell him, hope it goes well... (read in full...)

I snooped on my partner. Is this woman my rival or am I paranoid?

Q.   First off, I did something really stupid, I decided to snoop on my partner of 8 years when he accidentally left his iphone @ home. I had a premonition and i just did it. I found some suspicious looking replies to CL ads and then I started reading ...

A.   7 October 2013: Does sound a bit suspicious... But it depends on what the messages said, did he moan about you in them or talk to her in a flirtatious way? If so there is probably more going on than a friendship.... (read in full...)

Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?

Q.   Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...

A.   7 October 2013: I don't like having sex in the dark either! You can't see what you are doing and it's clumsy!!... (read in full...)

Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me?

Q.   Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me? I'm 19 and a sophomore in college, yet I have never had a boyfriend. I know I'm not the most attractive person out there, but I'm always extremely kind thinking my personality will outdo my lo...

A.   5 October 2013: There is nothing wrong with the way you dress or who you are but I do think sometimes it helps things along to dress up a bit!! Why not get fitted band t-shirts (or alter them yourself) so that they show off your figure. Team them with a short skirt ... (read in full...)

Guys: Would you have sex with a woman on her period?

Q.   What are your opinions on period sex? Especially guys... Would you have sex with a woman on her period? Would you do this only if you were in a relationship with her and care about or love her? Or would you do it with a random woman if you wa...

A.   5 October 2013: I've had sex while on my period - women feel more horny during this time!! It's not about closeness it's about whether the bloke thinks it's disgusting or not, periods aren't that nice!!!!... (read in full...)

Hurt and broken over an online relationship

Q.   Dear cupid Im talking abt the same guy i found out has a gf a year ago. An online relationship that i wrote about that was hurting me and later realised that all along was a lie. im completely to be blamed for staying in this relationshio although...

A.   4 October 2013: Don't beat yourself up, it's easy to fall for those nice words. This is a learning experience and can make you stronger. You need to hold your head up high and focus on your life. Don't think about what he is up to just get out there and do nice ... (read in full...)

Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her

Q.   hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...

A.   29 September 2013: I don't really understand this question as I can't for a second imagine you turning this girl down if she offered you sex?!? So it's down to whether she is keen surely? Or are you asking for ways to convince her?... (read in full...)

I did everything for him and he wants to break up?

Q.   My boyfriend and I got together this january after he constantly pestered me to get with him despite all our mutual friends advising me against it. I told him I am not looking for sex in the relationship due to my religious beliefs and family values ...

A.   29 September 2013: Is it worth fighting for?? The man who has dumped you repeatedly, shows no support for you and has a drinking problem... Umm no I don't think so. You are better than that.... (read in full...)

Was I wrong for being careful with a guy from an online dating site?

Q.   First, I went online to the dating site that I had been on and while I was off I had joined a few others just to make friends and pen pals. I sent a flirt to this person and he was a nice looking guy and a message also. He responded back to me and ...

A.   28 September 2013: He was lying like a lot of people do on Internet dating. You have to wade through the bad ones for the odd decent one. Don't assume everyone is a honest decent person just because you are.... (read in full...)

How can I not be tight after having sex just once?

Q.   Hi guys! I wanna ask some advice from u. I have a first boyfriend now at my 28yrs of age. He's been my bf for a week. Then he was assigned to my area and s0mething happened to us. It is my first time to have sex in my entire life. I wanna ask why is ...

A.   28 September 2013: How big is he? If he has a small penis no matter how tight you are it would be difficult to feel him...... (read in full...)

What advice should I give my friend about dating/sex?

Q.   Here goes nothing. I have a friend of my mine who is a girl that disclosed some stuff to me. We are close friends. Basically she "dated" this guy for about 3 weeks. I put in quotes because until the 3rd week - they really didn't go on full blown ...

A.   28 September 2013: It's early days... Depends how she feels about him... She is the one in the relationship so only she really knows what's going on. The saying they are just friends is not a great sign but doesn't mean there is no hope. Give it some more time and see ... (read in full...)

What's the deal with ALWAYS making dates and then not going through with them?

Q.   Okay, so about 2 weeks ago I'm in the grocery store and this girl is checking me out. It occurs to me to hit on her, but I ultimately don't. On my walk home, the same girl pulls up beside me and starts chatting me up. She tells me I'm perfect, cute ...

A.   25 September 2013: Do you know that she definitely doesn't have a boyfriend or a recent ex?? This sounds like the behaviour of someone who wants to prove to themselves they are still attractive to other men but aren't ready to date one... I'm sure we've all been ... (read in full...)

Why do some people not have stretch marks?

Q.   I have a question about stretch marks... How come some people don't have them? i've never seen the women in a porno have them, i know the pics are airbrushed but not the videos. Does anyone here not have them? I have them and it makes me feel li...

A.   25 September 2013: I don't have them but then I've never had kids!! Maybe the women you see in porn films also don't have kids... Not exactly a responsible job for a mum... I don't know!! I've never heard a man complain about a woman having stretch marks so I wouldn... (read in full...)

How can you practice kissing?

Q.   Hey. :) So I have a serious issue. I got a date to homecoming and everyone keeps saying the guy is gonna kiss me. Problem is, I have no idea how to kiss. I've never had my first kiss and I'm not one to like practice bc how are you supposed to ...

A.   24 September 2013: I think you will be fine, let him take the lead and follow what he does, then as you feel more comfortable you will work out what you like and don't. I don't think there is any real way to practise kissing without actually doing it! ... (read in full...)

He says I'm smothering him and I didn't realize I was!!

Q.   Ive been in a very intense relationship for 4 months. Recently my bf started pulling away. We've had very sporadic contact for the last 4 weeks and haven't seen each other at all. He didn't tell me what was going on until this past Monday. ...

A.   16 September 2013: Maybe you should stop blaming yourself for everything in this 'relationship' and face the fact that maybe this time it actually isn't you, it's him!!... (read in full...)

How can I help my girlfriend sexually without pressuring her?

Q.   Hello! I have a beautiful girlfriend who lives 200 odd miles away, and, with that said, we only get to see each other every 2-3 months. While I feel incredibly lucky to have her, she has some rather serious intimacy and self esteem issues. S...

A.   15 September 2013: 3 weeks is not very long to have spent with someone so I'm not surprised she is taking things slowly. What do you feel you get out of this relationship that you couldn't get from someone who lives nearer to you?... (read in full...)

He says I'm smothering him and I didn't realize I was!!

Q.   Ive been in a very intense relationship for 4 months. Recently my bf started pulling away. We've had very sporadic contact for the last 4 weeks and haven't seen each other at all. He didn't tell me what was going on until this past Monday. ...

A.   14 September 2013: Sounds pretty much like its over. I suppose you have learnt something from this which you can take to your next dating experience ... (read in full...)

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