Heartbroken, in love with ex crush
Q. Please help. I have been noticing this man around a lot the last 3 weeks and we've been flirting (staring mostly by him and lots of smiles) we have not had chance to speak but have feeling that we would have got along, just didn't have chance to ...
A. 14 July 2013: We all understand how you feel, having a good cry can make you feel better, pick yourself up and move on :)... (read in full...)
Heartbroken, in love with ex crush
Q. Please help. I have been noticing this man around a lot the last 3 weeks and we've been flirting (staring mostly by him and lots of smiles) we have not had chance to speak but have feeling that we would have got along, just didn't have chance to ...
A. 13 July 2013: I don't think staring is flirting!!! People stare out of curiosity so it can be good or bad.
You don't know this man, you have fallen for a fantasy! If you do want to leave your relationship then that is something you should do, but then maybe be s... (read in full...)
He goes MIA to watch porn, or go to a strip club. I'm feeling very deflated. Should I stay?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 7 months and dated for 5 years. Recently our sex life has been few and far between. I am a very sexual person and would have sex everyday if he was in to it. He denies me sex but has no problem watching ...
A. 10 July 2013: Have you talked to him about the lack of sex life? You need a really open conversation which is about sharing how you feel and not accusations. No one can say if he is lieing or telling the truth, but the paranoia seems to be stressful for you... (read in full...)
I really want to know if she likes me or not but I don't want to ask her because I don't want to ruin our friendship if my friend is wrong.
Q. So I have been friends with this girl for about a year now. We're best friends and everything was fine up until recently when one of my friend told me that she is bi and likes me... Which I don't have a problem with seeing as I'm bi. I just fi...
A. 10 July 2013: I think you need a few more clues before you make a move. Could you get a mutual friend to ask her in a subtle way?... (read in full...)
Do women get wet panties without physical stimulation?
Q. Women do you get wet panties - in a sexual sense - without getting physical? By this I mean without someone physically stimulating you. Several years ago a girl I was friendly with came round to my flat and had a quick shower after work.W...
A. 28 June 2013: More likely just natural vaginal discharge which is not related to anything sexual at all. Just look at all the feminine products out there for discharge and you will realise it is all part of being female!... (read in full...)
My gf doesn't want me to please her because she thinks I expect the same back
Q. Hi there. I have a girlfriend and I love. I sometimes do nice and cute stuff to make her happy. And I usually expect to be rewarded for doing so by her as well. As it appears, she doesn't share my point of view. I offered her to make a romantic...
A. 30 May 2013: I think your girlfriend is right. Doing things for someone only to get rewarded is very selfish. If you do something for someone you need to expect nothing in return. Why would she want to do anything for you when your actions are so selfish?... (read in full...)
Has anyone with retrograde jealousy ever come to terms with it and found peace?
Q. About 2 years ago I posted an issue in this forum about how my wife cheated on me while we were dating and how lost her virginity to another man. This was despite her telling me she would not have premarital sex with anyone until married and I ...
A. 30 May 2013: This isn't retrograde jealousy, you are hurt because she cheated and lied there is a loss of trust which takes time to rebuild. Women always cheat for a reason, maybe you could look back at how you were in the relationship at that time. You talk ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be a serial lunch dater?
Q. I view lunch dates as a fun way to meet new people, as well as a diplomatic alternative to me saying NO DATES FOR YOU. But recently a friend told me: You shouldn't go on dates with men who you aren't attracted to... that is the equivalent of le...
A. 27 May 2013: I don't think you are doing any harm. You are giving them a chance to convince you that you might be attracted to them which is what they want I assume... Carry on ;)
(But say no to the sex!)... (read in full...)
Herpes. How do I tell my volatire partner? Should I avoid a big fight and not tell, or take a risk??? please help!!
Q. Hello everyone, Im a 28 yr old female. I just took standard blood work because im in the health field and a routine gyn pap, every thing came out normal. I got a letter about about my bloodwork. I called the office and found out I have Herp...
A. 27 May 2013: I would tell him, it's the right thing to do and as you say it doesn't mean either of you cheated so its annoying but it's not the end of the world. ... (read in full...)
My gf is never interested in sex and I am starting to miss my ex. How should I deal with this?
Q. My girlfriend seems to never be interested in sex. We've been together for eight months now and only had sex TWICE, two months ago. It's getting to the point where I can't handle the frustration anymore. I take her out, I buy her gifts, flowers, ...
A. 27 May 2013: If I'd only had sex with a partner twice ever I'd have left them so you must be getting something else out if this relationship.
I'm assuming your girlfriend either a) has a low sex drive or b) isn't as sexually attracted to you as you are to her.... (read in full...)
Are there some women that just do not like receiving oral sex?
Q. Hi there, I have a question about oral sex on a woman friend (or lack of). Several months ago when we first became intimate, she performed oral on me (with condom)and i politely asked if i could return the favour. The answer to my question was 'No, ...
A. 24 May 2013: I don't particularly like it, unless the person doing it is really good at it (most men aren't). Given the choice I'd rather have penetrative sex any day! I was chatting to some girl friends the other day and you would be surprised how many of us ... (read in full...)
How will I manage not being able to see the guy I have a crush on as often?
Q. So i have an issue, im currently about to leave my sixth form after 7 years. I have liked this guy for majority of the time, and i'm wondering just how i am going to manage with not seeing him so regularly. We've always had a sort of weird relation...
A. 23 May 2013: Now is your opportunity to tell him how you feel. If you like him this much you need to do something about it or you will forever wonder...... (read in full...)
She flirts virtually, not as much in real life, I'm interested: not sure what to do
Q. Very recently, I met a girl through a professional social network (weird, I know!). We started chatting, texting every other day, till we decided to meet. After the first meeting, I made it clear that I was interested in her romantically. (I said it ...
A. 22 May 2013: she did seem a bit dodgy. Nice girls don't send slutty photos! Use it as a life lesson, you will meet someone right for you soon :)... (read in full...)
Why do I miss him, even after a week? He dumped me!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years dumped me last week. He was very abusive for that past 6 months. Long story short, I haven't called him since the day he dumped me. I'm making myself busy at work so I won't have time to mope. But for the past 2 days...
A. 21 May 2013: A week isn't very long. Allow at least a few weeks to mope about and feel sorry for yourself then start doing positive things - get out there and have fun, distract yourself... Soon enough you will get over him...... (read in full...)
Why does he want to do it himself instead of being intimate with me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 months and we are in love and live together. We have a really good and happy relationship apart from one thing. He would rather masturbate than have sex with me. Iv talked to him about it and he said that he ...
A. 21 May 2013: You've only been together 6 months and this behaviour has been going on for months?! Sounds like you've jumped into a bad relationship. Your boyfriend needs to sort out his drug issues and you need to work out what you really want from a ... (read in full...)
Had the second date and I really like her, but she's not responded to my texts for a week!
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I have been on two dates with a wonderful woman and over the course of these dates I have found out that she is perfect for me in every way. The problem is that even though the dates were successful it seems that I'm n...
A. 21 May 2013: Some girls don't like to show a guy that they aren't interested. They feel bad so they pretend to have a good time. She obviously isn't interested or she would have text or called. A week is way to long for her to get in touch now...... (read in full...)
Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?
Q. Today while on lunch break a friend said to me, very openly and out loud, "did you see all the tattoos on that guy's face? He must have been to prison!" I quietly nodded then thought of something... I was very attracted to another friend who had m...
A. 20 May 2013: I don't think it would affect anyone's reputation. But as someone who doesn't have any tatoos I doubt I would have that much in common with anyone who was heavily tattooed!... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 19 May 2013: I wouldn't mind a chat but no cuddling till at least the 3rd date lol... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding me because of the blood or because he never really cared?
Q. Hello, this is a little long but please do read. This is a bit of a messy situation, literally. Yesterday i interviewed a man who i have a serious crush on, a very sexy handsome man with massive muscles, i sat next to him to take a picture and aske...
A. 17 May 2013: I doubt the blood bothered him, people bleed during sex sometimes it's not a big deal. He probably thinks you are after a relationship so is avoiding replying in case you get the wrong idea. It was a one off.... (read in full...)
He said he wasn't interested in me so why has he started staring?
Q. Hi, I send a guy on my class a fb mail. He replied he isnt interested in me. I ignored him totally. One month later I saw this guy looks/stares at me at lectures, sometimes he stares deeply and long at me. Until now we had 15 lectures and he stare...
A. 17 May 2013: I don't think he is interested in you romantically. The staring is a bit rude! But maybe you could manage some kind if friendship out of this.
When someone says they aren't interested, they aren't interested! His loss.... (read in full...)
After all the drama now he's avoiding me and won't contact me!
Q. How Can I have a good relationship with an anxious man ? I met my boyfriend 6 months ago and he fell in love with me i tried to be more rational as i had so many bad experiences before so I couldn't help my heart and I fell in love with him too .he ...
A. 15 May 2013: It sounds like he just wasn't that into you. If anyone stops wanting to see you and puts their friends first then they don't like you enough.... (read in full...)
She flirts virtually, not as much in real life, I'm interested: not sure what to do
Q. Very recently, I met a girl through a professional social network (weird, I know!). We started chatting, texting every other day, till we decided to meet. After the first meeting, I made it clear that I was interested in her romantically. (I said it ...
A. 14 May 2013: She isn't going to send a pic of herself in her bra to someone she wants to be just friends with is she! That kind of behaviour is a bit full on though and not really leading towards a relationship. Are you just looking for sex? Is the flirting very ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about oral sex unprotected from 4 years ago?
Q. I am here to ask about the effectivenes of HIV home test such as OraQuick, as well as the rist of Oral sex when it comes to HIV. The reason why I am asking is because I literally just took one OraQuick test, followed the instructions to the T and ...
A. 10 May 2013: I would assume you are safe. HIV can be passed through unprotected penetrative sex or blood to blood. Not though saliva or touching or kissing. Don't obsessively worry about it - it's in the past. If you are planning on sleeping around in the future ... (read in full...)
Am I in the friend zone? Or should I kiss him when we go out next?
Q. Ok, I've been friends with this guy for about a year and a half and as of September we've been talking on the phone and texting every day. He's in the army so he only comes home for the weekend like once every 6 weeks. I don't really know what...
A. 10 May 2013: Ok sounds like the plan is to stay in the car long enough of him to have the chance to kiss you then! ;)... (read in full...)
For the girls: Would you be interested in a one night stand or short term fling with a guy who couldnt have penetrative sex?
Q. Question mainly for girls. I am an older guy, who is quite lucky as I still get plenty of attention from girls, smiles and signals on the street, at bus stops, shops etc. Also plenty of offers at work. Although, I have issues getting an erect...
A. 9 May 2013: So you aren't offering a relationship or sex you just want me to lie there while you grope me a bit... Hmm... No.
I think you have to pay for that kind of thing.... (read in full...)
Why do so many girls have sex so early in life and become promiscuous when many don't even orgasm through sex?
Q. I'd like to hear here from girls how often they reach orgasm during sex.the reason why I'm asking is because I've read on internet that only 30% or girls/woman reach orgasm, this makes me a bit confused because girls are having sex more then in past ...
A. 9 May 2013: With girls sex isn't all about physical pleasure it's about intimacy, being close to someone. When you are young you thing sex equals love and commitment. Girls do it to keep boys happy, because their friends are, because society is like that these ... (read in full...)
Am I in the friend zone? Or should I kiss him when we go out next?
Q. Ok, I've been friends with this guy for about a year and a half and as of September we've been talking on the phone and texting every day. He's in the army so he only comes home for the weekend like once every 6 weeks. I don't really know what...
A. 9 May 2013: It's not all down to you, if he wants to kiss you he needs to make done moves himself. What about some gentle flirting and see if he gets the message...
I don't know what to make of his intentions, is be naturally suspicious if he is in the army... (read in full...)
I finally figured out that he's 'the one' but he's having trouble with my baggage
Q. Hiya, I am a desperate girl in need of some advice. I met the man of my dreams in January last year. He is absolutely gorgeous, caring and would do anything for me. He worships the ground I walk on. In August the previous year I ended an 8 year mar...
A. 7 May 2013: I think it's only time that can make this better. You need to prove you can be trusted and that won't happen over night. I'm sure you would be gutted if it was the other way round so be thankful that he has stayed with you.
You messed up, if I were... (read in full...)
I thought he was my soul-mate, but now he's with a girl who's everything he said he hates
Q. My ex and I broke up a month ago. We'd been together 3 years. Completely out of the blue he sat me down and said that although he loved me, he couldn't be with me, I wasn't making him happy. I genuinely didn't see it coming - everyone used to say we ...
A. 7 May 2013: Whoever he goes with it will be difficult. You could feel better that she is probably a re-bound girl. Move on, get out with the girls and have some fun yourself. Easier said than done I know but you owe it to yourself to try. :)... (read in full...)
How do you KNOW whether to stick with a relationship or simply admit defeat?
Q. How do you KNOW when the time is right to end a relationship? I've asked friends and the most common response I have received is that "you just know". I don't see how this is the case. I have been in a relationship for little over a year, but I fe...
A. 7 May 2013: What are the problems with the relationship? Are you just hoping the grass is greener on the other side - this is rarely the case. Relationships aren't fun and exciting all the time, the start of a relationship is always going to be the whirlwind ... (read in full...)
I discovered she doesn't shave her legs and it bothers me!
Q. Hello! Well I kinda have a problem. I met this girl online about 3 weeks ago and we've hung out a lot. We decided lastnight that we would be together. Today she ran a marathon and she wore shorts which she hasn't at all since I've known her but I ...
A. 6 May 2013: She might shave before you see her naked. I always shave my legs for men but if it was just a one off run I might not bother... Don't worry till you know whether she shaves at all. Also I think she would be really offended if you told her so prob ... (read in full...)
LDR and first time bad sex. Do I want to continue?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. We've been together 3 year. He's so amazing and Im very much in love with him. Due to the distance we were finally able to have sex recently. I was a virgin and he wasn't. It was horrible. Even though I'd never ...
A. 6 May 2013: That isn't a nice experience for a first time. Cumming on your chest then throwing you a towel suggests he has little respect for you and sees you as more of an object than a partner. You could try talking to him about this. He should have realised ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I let another girl give me oral sex?
Q. I have seriously messed things up with my girlfriend and I need advice on how to put things right. Basically a few weeks ago I went out for my friend's birthday, my girlfriend didn't come as she couldn't get the time off work. I was annoyed ...
A. 6 May 2013: I don't think you should tell her. It may make you feel less guilty but it will hurt her. Unless you want to end the relationship in which case telling her would probably work.... (read in full...)
Online dating. I'm interested. What should I say in my message?
Q. I asked for advice on using dating sites a few days ago. Now I have a more specific question. There's a guy I'm interested in someone on OKCupid. Should I message him? Why or why not? And if so, what should I say? I'm a bit shy and embarassed about ...
A. 6 May 2013: You are over thinking it a bit! Read his profile then send a message asking about something he is interested in or something you both have in common. Keep it light hearted and maybe even funny if you can. If he doesn't respond then its no loss, just ... (read in full...)
I didn't notice what might have been her attraction to me and now she seems cold
Q. So there is this girl I know in college, we met the first week but don't see each other much. We ran into each other at a few parties where she sent me signals (commenting on stuff that she likes about me, like the fact that I'm writing a book) or ...
A. 6 May 2013: You need to forget about her. She doesn't sound interested in you romantically and some if those weird moments have probably ruined your chances of friendship. ... (read in full...)
Co-worker will not stop asking me out even after saying no several times... what should I do?
Q. There is this guy I work with who has been showing interest in me for over a year. He is older than me by 10 or so years, but he is in a position below me. Several times he has told me that he is attracted to me, that he cares for me, and that he ...
A. 3 May 2013: You need to be fair to him and give him a straight answer. Telling him you aren't ready for a relationship says to him he can hang around till you are ready. You aren't the only girl in the world if you turn him down he will get over it and move on. ... (read in full...)
Desperate for sexual contact after long time single - what to do?
Q. Keeping it brief. Was in a 10-yr LTR that was sexless for last 5 years. My girlfriend always had a low sex drive, I loved her, decided I could cope but it eventually totalled petered out. After 5 years I couldn't cope without intimacy any more, ...
A. 28 April 2013: Maybe you need to redo your profile? Or look for girls further afield - travelling a bit won't hurt if she's worth it! If its been 8 years I would be putting in some serious effort. Message more girls, maybe singles holidays? I'm sure you will meet ... (read in full...)
Why the comments on my shorts this year?
Q. I live in Michigan and it is starting to warm up out here. On Saturday I wore my shorts (they are a short athletic style) and a t-shirt. I had some errands to run and some of the looks and comments I got were very strong like Hey Baby nice ass! and ...
A. 28 April 2013: You are free to wear whatever you want. It is the 21st century so ignore the sexist comments below suggesting you are asking for it by wearing those clothes. That is as disgusting as suggesting a girl deserves to be raped because she wears a short ... (read in full...)
'that was nice, good to see you looking good' How do I interpret these remarks by my ex?
Q. I will bullet point this to get the main information you need across; We dated for a year Split up last nov 12 - agreed to remain friends. Stayed in contact but only saw each other for the first time since the split last weekend. It was really...
A. 28 April 2013: His response sounds polite to me. Seeing ex's is always awkward but at least you have gotten through it.
And no he isn't saying you look hot or he wants to get back together. But that's ok as I'm sure you have moved on...... (read in full...)
She does not want us to break up. Yet I feel doubtful all the time. What can I do? Because I want to get to know someone else.
Q. I have been dating my first and only girlfriend for almost 4 years now. i am 21, shes a couple years older. for most of the time we've been together, about 1 and half years after we started dating, we've been in a long distance relationship, seeing ...
A. 28 April 2013: If you are going to be near her in a few months you need to really think about what you want. I would be tempted to try it out when you are living closer and see what you want then. It could also be hard to have her as an ex if you are near each ... (read in full...)
I am worried about first time sex
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for quite a while now, but have yet to have sex. It seems as though we are getting closer to us both being ready to take things to the next level. Unfortunately for me, I'm not sure how that will go...
A. 27 April 2013: It probably won't feel amazing for a while, it takes time to get to know someone sexually and to learn to enjoy sex. Don't worry about what you say or do, as long as you trust each other and take things slowly it will be fine. Your boyfriend knows ... (read in full...)
| *1's friends
These are mutual friends, so *1 has
added them and they have added *1!
|
