I don't want kids and I'm concerned I'll end up alone
Q. Feel like I am going to be permanently single. Been single 5 years. I don't want kids, so my dating pool is much smaller and even on online dating sites there are so few women who don't want or don't already have kids. Have lots of friends but i...
A. 1 April 2013: I agree with the other poster - date someone with older kids. It's unlikely they will want more and you won't have little kids running round the house. Most women (most adults) want kids at some point, it's just part of human nature to want to ... (read in full...)
My much younger girlfriend goes dancing with her ex boyfriend
Q. I have had a girlfriend for over six months and in all that time she has been very affectionate at times but never once said she loves me. She likes to go dancing and occasionaly has men call her and ask if shes going. Recently ske has had an ex bo...
A. 1 April 2013: It does sound like she is taking advantage of your good nature. She is out 'dancing' and having fun while you are fixing her house - for free?!!! Can you come round and do mine while I go out and have fun lol!
I'd just take a step back and look at w... (read in full...)
I have issues with my girlfriend's past
Q. Ladies, Kindly please help. I am a Virgin, She had 2 past relations. Just recently, my girlfriend told me about her past two relations: 1) She never planned to marry them nor was serious with them. It was just for fun. 2) Initially, she had tho...
A. 1 April 2013: Her reasons for having sex with her ex's sound perfectly reasonable. Surely you would feel worse if she had planned to marry them!! Most people have lost their virginity by the age of 21 so it is there a reason why you haven't? You question why she ... (read in full...)
Why did this girl walk away the minute she moved into the house with her boyfriend and not speak to me for a couple of years and then get back in touch, mess me around and fob me off and then shut me out again?
Q. Hi there. Four years ago I had a relationship with a girl who was about to move in with her long term boyfriend. I know it was wrong but I was lonely and inexperienced and she had issues with her bf and had recently lost her father. We met at ...
A. 31 March 2013: You were her potential escape route if things didnt work out with her boyfriend, but sounds like she's made then work somehow. You probably boosted her self esteem at a time when things were difficult between them.
You will be happier with some... (read in full...)
My man's mega spend on liquor. How can I address this casually while still voicing my concerns?
Q. My husband enjoys drinking beer and will have 3 cans most nights and more on the weekend. I have just discovered the supermarket has an offer on and he has went and bulk bought spending almost £350 on beer. I'm quite alarmed to the point of sic...
A. 31 March 2013: I don't think you need to tackle this casually. He just spent 350 pounds on alcohol!! Now is the time to ask him what the hell he is doing!... (read in full...)
My wife wants to be alone with another man before I join them for a threesome
Q. I have been married for 4 years, we have 2 kids together. A couple of months ago she wanted to try a threesome (mmf) with one of our friends (a 23 year old guy). it was not that bad, but its like it has been going on every month. Today she aske...
A. 30 March 2013: Threesomes in a marriage are a bad idea full stop, now it appears your wife has developed feelings for this young guy. I think you need to start setting some boundaries. Are you in an open relationship where she can sleep with whoever she wants or ... (read in full...)
The love and passion seem to have waned. He's always at the gym. What are my options for the future, and what would be best for my son and I?
Q. I need some advice and help! I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now, we have a little three year old boy- as you can figure this happened soon after we met and we decided to do this together. He is a great fathe...
A. 30 March 2013: What do you get from being in a relationship with him? Could you manage financially on your own? Do you go out to play groups or other mother and child groups where you can meet other mums?
It sounds like you are just parents together not love... (read in full...)
Who makes the move? How do I know when is the right time to kiss my boyfriend?
Q. Hi do I wanna know if it is the right time that I should kiss my boyfriend. So me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for a year and I want to finnaly kiss him. I am afraid that he'll tell someone cuz he usually tells people a lot of crap ...
A. 30 March 2013: You seem to have some trust issues with this boy, but then you are both young... I think you need to set the situation up so he knows you are going to kiss him ie arrange to both be alone somewhere where you would need to be close - maybe invite him ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do! If I do break up, with the girl I love, how do I do it?
Q. ok so my fiance and I have been dating nearly a year and we've been friends almost like 2 years. We've had ups and downs but for the most part it's been great She's my better half and I love her. Hell she's my fiancé! Anyways she shows me and tel...
A. 30 March 2013: First you talk about how great she is then you start accusing her of lying and cheating... Which is it? Either you love her and trust her or you don't. To be honest you come across as very controlling and a little to immature to be getting married. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I have sex?
Q. I have tried to have sex with my women two times this week and my penis has not worked well at all. Even with her giving me head ....I don’t know what to do. I only 32 and this has never happened before! What is wrong? ...
A. 29 March 2013: More info needed... How is it not working?... (read in full...)
What is the difference between making love and having sex?
Q. What is the difference between making love and having sex? Is it more morally right to make love rather than have sex? My BF says he could never just have sex but would like to make love (we are both 19) and just wanted thoughts please, not on us ...
A. 29 March 2013: Personally I dislike the phrase making love! But the difference is being in love or not. It's just words though, you can be madly in love and still call it sex if you want!... (read in full...)
I want children and what if my almost 39 year old girlfriend can't have them?
Q. I m a 40 years old man. I never had a chance to find someone who I wanted to share mylife with and have children with until a year ago. I had girlfriends but never anyone who I could marry. I m also an only child, as my mother had me in her lat...
A. 29 March 2013: Wow this is quite insulting to all older women. Are you a fertility doctor? Do you know she will struggle to have kids?! My mum had me at 40, my friend had her first at 38 and has just had her second. Give the poor woman a chance before you declare ... (read in full...)
Had a fling at a party, he's in a relationship, and now he's offered to meet up again
Q. Quick question Don't need a lecture cause I know this is bad but I was at a party last night and I was making out with a lot of people but mostly with one of my classmates boyfriend, they are in gay relationship and I'm gay myself. We was a...
A. 29 March 2013: I think if you text him you know what will happen. This isn't innocent texting and you have already said you don't want to go there. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to keep a chart of your sex life?
Q. I noticed in a drawer that was open, between the porn tapes, a piece of a paper. On the paper was the dates we had sex, where we had sex, the tapes we watched or did not watch and the number orgasim's I had. It appears my significant other has ...
A. 29 March 2013: Haha I'd find that quite amusing too if I were you. It's fairly harmless, if assume he keeps it hidden from others. If it helps him improve his performance then it can't hurt!... (read in full...)
Not totally sure if I am friendzoned or still have chance or even missed my chance.
Q. Hi, so I'm trying to get some help with my situation because I am quite confused. This might be a little long too so I apologize. Little backstory: I've met this girl in college about 2 years ago. She's since graduated and I am little less than...
A. 28 March 2013: The friend zone thing means nothing. If you fancy someone them being a friend is just another plus. I imagine the problem is the distance. Wait till she visits then ask her out. Simple as that.... (read in full...)
Help! Unwanted house guest already taking toll on relationship!
Q. Right, well me and my partner have been living together for about 11 months in our own house. His sister has just broke up with her fella on sunday and she has come to stay here.. When i agreed to this i thought it would be for a week or two. Its ...
A. 28 March 2013: It's only been a few days for all you know she'll be back with her man tomorrow! You know what relationships are like. She's going through a breakup, she needs some support, her mind will probably change as time goes on. Your boyfriend is probably a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has stopped putting forth effort!
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half, with previous friendship of over two years has completely changed. Before, he used to text me literally every 5 minutes and was upset if we were unable to meet every other day. Now it seems as though he's fine when ...
A. 28 March 2013: It is possible you have outgrown each other as a couple. This doesn't mean it has to be the end for you two though. You just need to work out who you both are as individuals. Keep yourself busy, make new friends, start new hobbies. He might ge... (read in full...)
Mother, Baby, BF and financial Woes
Q. Been seeing a guy from work for past 3 months, everything's going lovely, he is 54 and I'm 22! Yeah big age gap I know, I have a one year old but he's completely fine with that my issue is my mum, I currently live with her as she looks after my baby ...
A. 28 March 2013: A lot of people manage to be single parents and date without having their mothers babysit so I'm sure if you are determined to see the man you can. ... (read in full...)
My guy won't commit, what do I do?
Q. I met a guy online and we've been dating for 3 months. I have even met his son and hung out with them both on several occassions. About a month ago he asked me if I was happy with the way things are going. I said yes and he told me the reason he ...
A. 28 March 2013: 3 months together and he's still on a dating site. That's definitely not on in my eyes. He's not giving your relationship a chance if he's constantly looking for something better. You will feel better if you leave, trust me I've been there with guys... (read in full...)
What did he mean "the moon is not blue"??
Q. Hi, This is only a short question but could do with peoples opinion. I was speaking to a guy I like but I didn't think he liked me back so I made a joke about setting him up with a friend of mine and he said "no you would be better but the m...
A. 28 March 2013: I think he was talking crap trying to make himself look more intellectual than he is! But then I'm sure I come out with the odd phrase that means nothing, I hope people don't google everything I say lol!... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife I want to watch her have sex with other men?
Q. Behind The Green Door I want to watch my wife have sex with other men. And I don't know how to tell her. It's a Turn On I would love to experience. How can I tell her to bring home the boys and men?...
A. 28 March 2013: How do you tell her?! Umm you don't! Or you do but be prepared for it to not go well. ... (read in full...)
Is he interested? He texts less since we met up for the first time, and he never initiates texts?
Q. Ok, so I met a guy. Coincidentally we have the same name. Not like that matters. We texted back and forth everyday for 3 weeks. We went on our first ay this past Sunday night. He was a gentleman..held open doors...etc. Didn't make a move on m...
A. 28 March 2013: Are you still meeting Monday? If this is still on then there is no problem, if he's backed out then there is a problem.... (read in full...)
I love my friend but he's very flirty and it depresses me. Should I let him go?
Q. Hey guys so I'm just confused here about a situation I'm in. I really like this guy and he says he likes me too, but we aren't together. There's a couple of problems I've been having and I am not sure if it's just me or if it's something normal to ...
A. 28 March 2013: At the moment this just seems to be a crush on your part. You've not mentioned anything about him liking you back of you two dating. Maybe you need some closure on this. If you think there is a chance he might go out with you ask him out! If he says ... (read in full...)
Is he interested? He texts less since we met up for the first time, and he never initiates texts?
Q. Ok, so I met a guy. Coincidentally we have the same name. Not like that matters. We texted back and forth everyday for 3 weeks. We went on our first ay this past Sunday night. He was a gentleman..held open doors...etc. Didn't make a move on m...
A. 27 March 2013: It's hard to tell. See if he cancels Monday night or not. If he cancels he is probably not keen if you go out you will be able to tell from his behaviour whether he is into you or not.
He tests less?? Who ever writes these titles needs to learn to... (read in full...)
She says she knows what she wants and won't settle for less, is this why she's still single at 42?
Q. So I have been dating someone that is 42,never married and no kids.She is a very smart person,has a great job,has alot to offer.She says that she wants a relationship and hasnt been in too many.Then tells me she has dated alot but they only seem to ...
A. 27 March 2013: I don't buy into this red flag thing. Everyone is different. So what if she's been unlucky in love before. If she hasn't you two wouldn't be together now so you should be glad. Give the poor woman a chance. If it doesn't work out then it doesn't, ... (read in full...)
How much do a woman's friends reflect who she is and her values?
Q. We had some issues a couple of years back when my wife thought about cheating on me. She never went with the other man but considered it. He worked hard to sleep with her and she lied to me about it all until I found out from others. This happened ...
A. 26 March 2013: I don't think her friends will influence her opinions or judgements. I'm assuming she has her own mind. I have a whole range of friends, some who do things that I don't morally agree with but that doesn't mean I would ever follow their lead.
T... (read in full...)
Should I ask her again, go for it and make a move, or just give up on her?
Q. Not really looking for an answer, mainly here to vent, but any input would be nice. So I’m 21 and I met this girl, she’s 23 if that matters, from a mutual friend a few months back. I won’t lie, the moment I laid eyes on her, I was attracted to her...
A. 26 March 2013: I'm guessing she isn't interested, she let you know, have you some space to get over it and is now assuming you are back to being friends. Problem is it doesn't sound like you did get over it. If you aren't her friend then don't pretend to be her ... (read in full...)
Drunken one night stand with the friend of the girl I like. How do I discourage this girl nicely?
Q. Hello all, Firstly, I'm a 22 year old guy currently studying at University. Recently, over the past 2 months of so, I started chatting to and hanging out with a girl I'll call Rita on my course. We'd just do stuff like get coffee and talk, which ...
A. 26 March 2013: Good idea to say you aren't interested but don't mention Rita. She has clearly said she has a boyfriend and there is no sign they will break up. Maybe you should stop bring friends with Rita if you have feelings for her.... (read in full...)
I don't find my girlfriend attractive but she does, is there something wrong with me?
Q. I am 27 Years old i have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months now and i no longer find her attractive. We both want the same things out of life. We have the same goals and aspiritions and other than this i like being around her and we get along ...
A. 25 March 2013: It's not really going anywhere is it. If you don't find her attractive after 3 months then I'm thinking you'll be looking elsewhere after 6!
It isn't shallow it's just what you like, we all have our types.... (read in full...)
My husband jacks off with other men!
Q. My husband jacks off with other men I just found out he has been doing this for years. I'm shocked to find this out. Even more shocking, are all the sites where married men communicate and set up times to jack off together. He says he will sto...
A. 25 March 2013: Wow I didn't know men had sites for this. Poor you. Relationship counselling maybe? ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend about a drunken fumble with her boyfriend?
Q. I recently went on a weekend away with my boyfriend, two of my friends and their boyfriends. We always go out as a group and all get along really well. One night we was playing drinking games and everyone ended up naked. This is the first time ...
A. 25 March 2013: Definitely keep quiet!! You know she will forgive him (as a drunken mistake) anyway so why ruin your friendship and their trust. Men cheat that is just life unfortunately. There is a child involved so give their relationship a chance.... (read in full...)
Why do men assume women are clueless?
Q. I have a question. Why are guys so dumb and why do they assume that women are clueless. I swear they think they are pimps for example my boyfriend. I know everything he does every website he goes to and I mean EVERY website and just cause I havent...
A. 25 March 2013: You will be a good mum without him. Time to kick him out by the sounds of it! I think men are like that because they think they can get away with it!... (read in full...)
I just want a man I can get to know, go on a lot of dates and someone who is not just after sleeping with me.
Q. Hi Everyone Im a 21 year old woman, i have a three year old little boy, i have been single for a while due to breaking up with my son's father, it was a pretty messed up relationship with him being very jelouse and controlling, also him bedding ...
A. 25 March 2013: Give Internet dating a go, there are many dodgy men on there but there are also some good ones. It will get you out on dates and if anything will give you something to laugh about with your mates!... (read in full...)
Sex on the first date. How can I stop it being a one night stand and date him?
Q. I had a first date with a man the day before yesterday. It went very well as in we got along well, had lots of things in common. I was adamant that I would NOT sleep with him, completely certain but... several glasses of wine later and whoops, I ...
A. 25 March 2013: Don't beat yourself up, we all make mistakes. You don't sound like someone who sleeps around at all. A few glasses of wine can be dangerous lol. Fingers crossed he will see past the sex and things will go further. Only time will tell...... (read in full...)
My husband won't allow my son to move in with us!
Q. I am just one year and half in marriage. I actually told my husband that I had 2 kids for different men before we married. But now one of my kids dad has ask me to come and take my son to leave with me because his wife is maltreating my son. I told ...
A. 25 March 2013: Your husband sounds like a horrible man. Why are you putting him before your son?? You are his mother how can you let your son be maltreated by another woman?? ... (read in full...)
Can you have sex without feelings?
Q. I am super confused, please help me figure this one out! If a guy said he never had relationships with a girl, he only used her for sex, how in the name of everything that's good can it carry on for 2-3 months and no feelings whatsoever developed? ...
A. 25 March 2013: Sorry but I'm pretty sure men can have sex without becoming emotionally attached to the women they do it to. That's why they can use prostitutes or strip clubs or watch porn.
Your man is still a cheating bastard whether he had feelings for thes... (read in full...)
I wasn't his cup of tea so why does he say and do things to make me jealous?
Q. Ive been friends with this guy for over a year at first he seen me as a potential but when we met things changed I wasnt his cup of tea as they say it. Put me in insecure zone where I wanted to live on his expectations. I realised that I had feel...
A. 25 March 2013: I think the only real way is to ask him how he feels. We all try and read other people's mind and second guess what they will do but in reality noone knows what he is thinking but him. From the way your relationship with him sounds he should ... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in her as more than a friend. How do I keep her as a friend and not hurt her?
Q. Hello Cupid I need advice about a girl who is being really clingy to me and she even said : she is attached to me loads! well, I am not interested in her more than just friends! lately she has started flirting and I have been ignoring it! ...
A. 25 March 2013: Whatever way you let her down will hurt her feeling unfortunately because us women are sensitive people! It is good to hear to care about her feelings though and still want to be friends. This makes me think you must be a nice decent person so she ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned that my LDR boyfriend doesn't text or call me as much?
Q. Hi, I'm a single mother of two. I've been single for 4 years and while i have went out on dates, I never found anyone that I thought I could have a future with. Here's the thing I met a guy about a month ago, he is really sweet a respectful to me, ...
A. 25 March 2013: It's only been a day, don't panic give it some more time and if he still doesn't get in touch let us know.
Try and keep yourself busy and your mind occupied. Go and see friends/family. Go out for the day. Leave your phone at home. When you come... (read in full...)
Why does he joke about me being with other fellas?
Q. I have a male friend who i have been getting close to the last couple of months. We talk almost every day texting and have kissed a few times. Kind of like a slow burner which is ok. However something that is bothering me is that he keeps joking ...
A. 25 March 2013: I think it could be either of the options you suggested. It depends how he says it and what he's like other than that. Maybe he can't commit or maybe he's scared you don't like him. ... (read in full...)
He's a virgin and I am not. Seems I only want sex from him and it's only been two weeks. He wants cute dates. What should I do?
Q. Why do I seem to only want sex from my boyfriend of two weeks? He's really shy and he's a virgin but I'm not - and I feel terrible! He keeps asking me out on walks and cute little dates, and then there's me; just trying to initiate more. How ca...
A. 24 March 2013: Women have sexual urges and desires like men. It's perfectly natural to be feeling like this. Try and control your feelings till its right for the two of you to take things further. Avoiding alcohol when you are together will help. Masturbating ... (read in full...)
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