Is this normal for a couple to have a sexual relationship in this way? And am I turning gay?
Q. HI I have this question that I hope will not be taken the wrong way. My wife and I don't have sex very often but she watches me masturbate myself. It's come to the point that I like to masturbate in front of her rather than have sex. When I'm r...
A. 9 February 2013: Everyone enjoys masturbating as no one knows your body like yourself, but you are losing the intimacy with your wife that sex brings. She is probably fine with it now but give her a few years and she'll be posting on here about lack of sex life! A... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy or bad to make love every day?
Q. I live with my bf and we make love almost everyday,very often. Right now I am thinking on how bad it could be for me as a girl,I don't really think it good to do it everyday. I spoke to him about it and he explain how much he loves making lov...
A. 9 February 2013: A lot of people have sex with their partners to keep them happy, I think as long as you enjoy it 80% of the time it's kind of ok.
It can be hard to reduce the amount you have sex without annoying your bf. but if he truly cares he should unde... (read in full...)
Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet?
Q. Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet? Last weekend when I went out with a girl I've known a few years, we got a little drunk and totally unexpected she kissed me, I've liked this girl since the moment I met her but be...
A. 9 February 2013: Drunken kisses don't mean the same thing as sober kisses. After enough drink I'll kiss all sorts of people! Doesn't mean I like them or want a relationship with them. She is just giving you an excuse as to why you aren't her type. Doesn't mean other ... (read in full...)
Could we still be friends when I want to rip off his shirt?
Q. Dear cupids, There's this guy that I dated for a couple months, until I broke it off with him. I've never really had a relationship and I've never been in love, and I just suddenly got scared that it was moving too fast, so I chickened out. H...
A. 9 February 2013: You'll end up feeling used, which isn't nice and really isn't worth it. The problem is most of us follow our heart and not our head.
Sounds like he is leading you on, he doesn't want a relationship with you, but it sounds like you do want a rela... (read in full...)
Always been attracted to girls. But also like watching gay porn. Could my porn use be affecting the fantasies I masterbate to and think about?
Q. I am very confused at the moment. Since I was younger I have always been attracted to girls. When I see girls in the street, I'm instantly checking them out. Never in real life have I ever looked at a make and though hmm they're attracti...
A. 9 February 2013: You're still young maybe you are still discovering and beginning to understand things about your sexuality and your sexual desires. Enjoying gay porn doesn't necessarily mean you want to have sex with a man....... (read in full...)
I want love. But my mother is nagging me to get married asap. Is what I want too much to ask for?
Q. I'm 26 and single. My mom has been constantly telling me to just find someone and get married. As long as he's nice and I can tolerate him then that's good enough. Anyone would do. Anyone is better than no one. I'm 26, it's time, soon it'll be to...
A. 3 February 2013: Well I'm 31 and despite some failed relationships I refuse to believe I will be single forever!! The problem with settling for men is it never works out long term. You will meet the right one whether its today or in 5 years time. And when it happens ... (read in full...)
How to make her feel comfortable and relaxed for our first date? And do you think she likes me?
Q. Hi everyone, I have known this girl from college just over a year now and we have always spoken online mostly, not much in person. Normal friendship talk, until last month or two we have gotten closer. Especially last month we have been texting ...
A. 3 February 2013: Relax! I would either take her for a quiet drink or some food. Don't expect a kiss on the first date despite what she said in the text as a lot of women have a no kissing on the first date rule and will appreciate you treating them like a gentleman. ... (read in full...)
Dating for one month so far. I feel as if I'm not good enough when I'm trying to pleasure him. What could be the problem?
Q. I've been dating this guy for almost a month now. Let's call him X. He's 39. I'm 22. I'm still a virgin and he's not. We've already done sexual stuff and he knows what he's doing. I, on the other hand, have not been able to get him off. I feel ...
A. 3 February 2013: Men enjoy pleasuring women so don't worry about that! Maybe get him to place his hand on yours and show you how he likes it. Men know their own penises better than anyone so he can show you how to make him cum. Maybe some lube to help? Or try re... (read in full...)
What are the key factors to keep a Gf interested? I'm afraid my Gf will eventually lose interest in me
Q. a simple question, i'm a very nice guy. too much of it. i please my gf in every single way but im afraid she eventually, with time, will have taken me for granted and lose interest. what are the key factors to keep her interested?...
A. 3 February 2013: What makes you think she would leave? Girls like confidence and from your question there sounds like you have done self esteem issues. Girls do like nice guys, they like loyalty and trust. Treat her well, be yourself and have the confidence that she... (read in full...)
Three months together and already I am jealous of this other girl. What should I do?
Q. Okay, I have been going out with this guy for almost 3 months and he's the type of guy every girl wants to be with. And this one girl especially is all over him and she's always talking about how they use to go out and stuff and well I don't kn...
A. 3 February 2013: Some girls will try and steal boyfriends. If he likes you and I'm sure he does as you have been together 3months, you have to trust he will stay. If he does go off with her it is his fault and his loss. Jealousy is a very difficult thing to deal wit... (read in full...)
The guy I was seeing moved into my shared house and spied on my female roomie. Did I overreact when I told him to move out?
Q. I been seeing a guy for a while, we are not a couple but we get along well, we like each other and we enjoy together. He was living in a place with other people but their lease finished so he asked me if he can move to mine. I agreed with it but I ...
A. 3 February 2013: You did the right thing, many people wouldn't have the strength to kick him out but you did. It will hurt for a while but it would have hurt a lot more if you'd let him stick around. And he probably would have gotten himself arrested as a sex pest!... (read in full...)
Was my friend just trying to be silly or is there more to it?
Q. Hi, Recently I made friends with a guy at work when I first arrived there him was nice to me offered me to have lunch with him and his friends stuff like that. He then Started to hit on me once I told him I had a bf he backed off and we became fr...
A. 3 February 2013: If it makes you feel uncomfortable then that's enough. Have a quiet word with him and say what you said to us - you only like your boyfriend acting like that. Most people are reasonable and will back off if asked.... (read in full...)
He's looking for a girlfriend but he won't ask me out?????
Q. Hello, I am in quite a situation that's driving me nuts! I am a freshman in college and I've liked this guy since August when I started. He is a senior and we work together at the college as well. I found out today that he is looking for a ...
A. 3 February 2013: Just ask him out or we will never know lol!... (read in full...)
No marriage, no will, no life insurance and thinking of the future. Should I stick around?
Q. Last night I expressed my feelings, to my boyfriend of 5 years, about what would happen to me if he died. He is much older than me and we are not married. I was thinking about this because I had pneumonia and he had the flu and both were really ...
A. 2 February 2013: That's really harsh of him. I know everyone is suggesting you leave but I imagine from the nature of your question that would be hard? You may be concerned about where to go? But if what you want is marriage and he this is not what he wants then ... (read in full...)
Was my room mate rude or am I over reacting?
Q. I moved in with one of my good friends a few months ago, around September/October. This is the first time either one of us has had a room mate. For New Years, we had other friends over and cooked dinner together. I brought 2 bottles of champagn...
A. 2 February 2013: I would tell her you were saving that bottle for a special occasion (make it up) so she knows you are hurt over it being gone. If she is a true friend she will offer to replace it. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm developing feelings for this online guy. How to handle this? He tells me lots about him but never asks much about me
Q. I "think" I am developing feelings for a guy online.. There's obviously a few issues with that other than the very obvious one of it been an "online" friendship but also he lives in America... I again think the feeling is mutual but have no idea ...
A. 2 February 2013: America is so far away! I feel like you could be setting yourself up for something really hard! Not that long distance can't work but you really don't know someone till you meet them face to face.
This is just my opinion though and of course you ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I've lost interest in guys and dating. Could I be risk averse due to memories of my ex cheating and lying?
Q. What do you think is wrong with me? Please help me understand:)? For 2 years now I haven't felt like having a boyfriend. I've been single for 2 years now I just don't want to get to know a guy or go on dates. I've just lost interest in guys ...
A. 2 February 2013: You don't need to have a boyfriend just because everyone thinks its what you should do. It's ok to be single! Maybe your heart is waiting for the right person. I say give yourself a break, if you don't feel ready then you're not ready. When the time ... (read in full...)
Online girl I met says she has a b/f yet sends sexual pictures to me and then gets angry! What gives?
Q. hi people i need advice and insight as to what's been going on between me and this lovely and sweet, caring girl i met a few months ago playing video games... LONG STORY SHORT. she's 18. met her online but never met in person but plan on ...
A. 2 February 2013: Online is very different to real life. Maybe she can do these things behind her boyfriends back because you aren't there in person so it doesn't feel as bad as 'really cheating'.
I don't really understand doing all this sexual stuff online when you ... (read in full...)
What does this man send such mixed hot and cold signals?
Q. Why is he so hot and cold?? A man I've known in an informal way has been so strange around me. At times, he smiles a lot (the smile lingers a few seconds too long), seems genuinely interested and we've connected in a special way on the mental l...
A. 2 February 2013: Why would he? I don't know! But I do know I wouldn't want to go out with someone who had the potential to blow hot and cold like that. It would be a lot harder in a relationship! Maybe he has his own issues, let him sort them out himself. ... (read in full...)
Why do I still care for someone that never cared about me?
Q. I broke up with my ex because he wouldn't make a commitment. He wanted to keep his options open. even though he wasn't dating anyone, he wanted the option of being able to. I thought that wasn't fair to me, I wasn't asking him to marry me, but just ...
A. 2 February 2013: Because you are human! He broke your heart and it's hard. Allow yourself time to cry then get yourself back out there, you did it once you can do it again. ... (read in full...)
I thought we were almost BF/GF and now it's just a gray area. What should I do?
Q. I was acquaintances with this guy for 2 years. Three months ago, he said he wanted to get to know me , and we started going to dinner , drinks etc. After a month of this, he went away on holiday for 2 months. I took a weeks vacation and met him. It ...
A. 2 February 2013: How to act? Like you're having a great time with your friends and let him come to you. It is still early days with you two. It might have felt like you'd been together months when you were away. But back in reality you haven't been together months ... (read in full...)
Why would anyone refuse a free trip to a tropical paradise? Why won't my boyfriend come to see my family with me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we've been living together, with his family, for a long time. I got a big promotion at work and finally was able to buy plane tickets to see my little brother and mother in Florida. I've been so ...
A. 2 February 2013: It isn't a good sign to be honest. I don't know what he is thinking but it sounds like you need to have a serious talk about where things are going in your relationship. It doesn't mean you necessarily need to break up but you deserve to know where ... (read in full...)
I found a receipt for heart shaped jewelry, so whose got it!
Q. My husband and I are going through a very rough time in our marriage. About a year ago he came to the conclusion that "marriage just wasn't for him". Although things were not great, this totally took me by surprise He later filed for divorce, but ...
A. 2 February 2013: I just think you are worth more than that. He isn't talking about separation he's talking divorce. Don't you deserve to be with someone who wants you? I think you do and I think you will meet them one day. Preparing yourself for the end is the best ... (read in full...)
I think there might be a connection, but I don't know.
Q. i have a guy friend that I've known for about a year now and last year we used to hangout in the library with my his friend who was in the same class with me, helping each other with work class during lunchtime, so yesterday he asked me to do ...
A. 2 February 2013: I think he might fancy you. If you don't fancy him back probably best not to cuddle as boys easily get the wrong idea!! But maybe you do like him...?!... (read in full...)
Body language? Is he flirting or being friendly?
Q. This lad began coming into my shop just over a month ago. He always bought the same drink and left with the usual pleasantries. He came in daily. One day he came in and asked me about a product we stocked and we had a discussion about it. The f...
A. 2 February 2013: So he asked you out for a drink but you said no. Maybe there was something there, I've never asked a shop assistant out after they showed me a product!
The expressionless face thing could just be a man thing. He wouldn't wave if he didnt want to. ... (read in full...)
How should I approach the attractive girl on Facebook?
Q. Hey, so there is this girl I am friends with on Facebook and I find her very attractive, we have about 80 mutual friends (which in todays society meens f**k all, cos we probably added one another just because we have mutual friends, it's a numbers ...
A. 2 February 2013: I know a lot of teenage girls who seem to meet men this way. I've always advised them to be wary as people aren't what they seem. I find it quite an odd way to go about dating but I suppose it's not a long way from dating sites and as I said its ... (read in full...)
Was my friend just trying to be silly or is there more to it?
Q. Hi, Recently I made friends with a guy at work when I first arrived there him was nice to me offered me to have lunch with him and his friends stuff like that. He then Started to hit on me once I told him I had a bf he backed off and we became fr...
A. 2 February 2013: It's difficult to stop men saying stuff like that though as it isn't offensive (it's actually a compliment), I think you can only really say something when he properly crosses the line - tries to touch you etc. ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I go out of my way for everyone and no-one can be bothered when it comes to me.
Q. Its' my birthday today. A milestone. A special one. I've had a tear in my eye most of the day – not because I have reached 40 but because I feel so let down and now I'm feeling that maybe I'm being unreasonable, selfish and ungrateful. Situat...
A. 1 February 2013: I can think of many birthdays where I have cried and felt disappointed. It's the one day of the year we all get a bit selfish and want something nice for ourselves. Unfortunately you can give the most amazing presents and go out of your way for ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his ex gf? I feel that he is hiding stuff from me?
Q. My boyfriend who I'v been dating for a few months now seems to be hiding a lot of things,and I think the only woman who would know him inside out would be his ex girlfriend they dated 6 years,is it ok if I talked to her?I know her since we went to ...
A. 1 February 2013: She's either going to be very negative about him as they've broken up or if she is still fond of him she may cover for him, who knows. But most likely whatever she says will be biased because if her relationship with him so it won't be information ... (read in full...)
I found a receipt for heart shaped jewelry, so whose got it!
Q. My husband and I are going through a very rough time in our marriage. About a year ago he came to the conclusion that "marriage just wasn't for him". Although things were not great, this totally took me by surprise He later filed for divorce, but ...
A. 1 February 2013: It seems like his intentions are to go through with the divorce. This will be hard for you but it is also an opportunity for a fresh start. Was this relationship making you truly happy? If you don't end a relationship when it isn't working you don't ... (read in full...)
LDR has me not feeling as attracted to my b/f as I used to
Q. I have a boyfriend of 3 years and i love him dearly, we used to spend a lo of time together and even lived together for 6 months at one point but for the last 12 months we have been in a long distance relationship. we stay in contact and mana...
A. 31 January 2013: My ex used to work away, it used to feel weird at first when he came home. It took time for me to want to sleep with him because I had become used to him being away. And people change subtly when you aren't around.
I think you feel that way beca... (read in full...)
I've liked this guy for a long time but don't think he feels the same. Do I tell him or walk away?
Q. I have been attracted to this guy for quite a long time now, i think he knows it but i dont think he feels the same way about me. I used to speak with him online just as friends and really liked his personality, he was very deep and i just really e...
A. 31 January 2013: Tell him!! As you said no one will get hurt. And if he says no you will get over it. Otherwise you will have to live with the regret of not trying.
Everyone is flattered when someone says they like them so at the least he will be flattered at the ... (read in full...)
Ten years with a man only to be cheated on then left for her, so why cant I move on??
Q. Well, I am 26 years of age and about 1 year ago I got out of a 10 year relationship. He left me for another woman! He had also been sleeping with her for a month or who knows how much longer before we actually broke up. I spent my life loving this ...
A. 31 January 2013: You feel so guilty yet he was the one who cheated and left. Where is this guilt coming from?
I know it's hard to move on. The relationship wasn't perfect - it takes 2 to make a relationship and maybe you both made mistakes. When you meet the righ... (read in full...)
Engaged but not ready to marry
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We are engaged with no set date. I know he loves me and I don't want to throw away a loving relationship for no reason, but I don't think my feelings for him are very deep. I'm worried if ...
A. 31 January 2013: It doesn't make you a bad person if you don't want to marry him, whatever your reasons. This is the rest of your life, don't end up in an unhappy marriage. Yes you will feel lonely when you split but that won't last forever. If you marry the wrong ... (read in full...)
What is the time frame in moving on from a broken heart?
Q. How long it takes to move on from a broken heart in a relationship when you plan to stay single for some time (atleast a year or more) . A relationship which wasn't always perfect but it had its good sides! and how to make it easy to move on?...
A. 31 January 2013: I read somewhere you allowed to mope for a month ie stay in/feel sorry for yourself etc. then you get up leave the house and start moving on. When I split up with my ex I stayed in and moped about depressed for a month because I knew it 'was ok' - ... (read in full...)
We had a sex but I don't want it to be just a one time deal. How do I talk to her about it?
Q. This a simple one really...I'm 20, young guy, however unlike most guys my age I don't like "going out on the pull" or sleeping with lots of girls. In fact, I've only slept with 4 since I was 17 all but on relationships and never anything past ...
A. 31 January 2013: How do you know she's not looking for anything serious if you don't ask her. If you are just looking for a girl to have sex with casually then that is pretty harsh and not fair on any woman... (read in full...)
Over 3 years of dating we have lost alot of intimacy. Why?
Q. So I have been with my girlfriend for a little over three years and she has lost alot of intimacy. I will be happy if we can steady have sex once a week but she always has am excuse. I find myself bagging for it and that's pathetic. What I'm asking ...
A. 31 January 2013: Relationships often aren't the same after some time. People put less effort in. If you want sex, work for it! Romance her, charm her, remind her why she fell in love with you. Women need excitement and stimulation not a cuddle in front of the tele. ... (read in full...)
Was my friend just trying to be silly or is there more to it?
Q. Hi, Recently I made friends with a guy at work when I first arrived there him was nice to me offered me to have lunch with him and his friends stuff like that. He then Started to hit on me once I told him I had a bf he backed off and we became fr...
A. 31 January 2013: I'm confused do you work in a school?
Are you uncomfortable about his behaviour as you have a boyfriend?... (read in full...)
What's the point in telling a guy you've fallen for him when you have no intention of taking things further?
Q. Hi people, i'd just like to ask opinions on this matter. Basically I'm a 29 year old single male whose not going out of his way to look for a relationship, but open to one if the opportunity presents itself with a worthy candidate. A bit about my...
A. 31 January 2013: So you are talking about chatting to girls online not in real life? In my experience with online dating, I've thought a guy was great chatted away then met up and a) he was totally different in real life b) didn't look like his pics c) there was ... (read in full...)
How can people have sex with the same person and not get bored?
Q. I am still a virgin so I have no knowledge of such things, but it seems to me that If I had sex with the same girl all the time then things would get very boring, kind of like watching the same movie over and over and over again. Assuming that ...
A. 31 January 2013: That's what youth is for, to experiment. Then after a while you will get bored of sleeping with different women and crave something more meaning full. Then you will just want one girl for the rest of your life.
Few people have only slept with one ... (read in full...)
My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?
Q. All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all ...
A. 31 January 2013: So what you are saying is that neither of you are masturbating or having sex and your question is about his lying?! Doesn't sound like much of a party round your house ;)
But as long as you are both happy. If he says he hasn't done it and given no r... (read in full...)
My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?
Q. All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all ...
A. 31 January 2013: Does he have a low sex drive? Seems strange he isn't that bothered about masturbating. I expect a man to both have sex and masturbate same as women. Porn is a totally different issue as its degrading to women etc.
do you ever masturbate? Since you ... (read in full...)
He's looking for a girlfriend but he won't ask me out?????
Q. Hello, I am in quite a situation that's driving me nuts! I am a freshman in college and I've liked this guy since August when I started. He is a senior and we work together at the college as well. I found out today that he is looking for a ...
A. 26 January 2013: Inviting him out as a group sounds ideal. See how it goes!... (read in full...)
He's looking for a girlfriend but he won't ask me out?????
Q. Hello, I am in quite a situation that's driving me nuts! I am a freshman in college and I've liked this guy since August when I started. He is a senior and we work together at the college as well. I found out today that he is looking for a ...
A. 26 January 2013: You just might not be his type... Or he could see you as a friend and nothing more... Maybe he doesn't know how you feel and if you asked him out it would be different... Or he's just not that into you.
Hard to tell really, if he's not actually turn... (read in full...)
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