The guy that I've been dating for 3 years has done the disappearing act!
Q. So the guy that I've been dating for 3 years.. has done the disappearing act.. No contact or communication whatsoever..lately.. There was no arguments nothing of that nature.. I feel like he's either one of two things.. Has a fear of taking our ...
A. 24 February 2013: too scared to end it with you properly so he's taken the cowards way out? hope not, let us know...... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend getting it somewhere else?
Q. My Boyfriend and I Have Been Dating for a few months (im gay), and its been an up and down ride. Mainly because I have issues with his exes that he's still friends with and texts frequently, but we've learned that I don't need to worry, or do I? ...
A. 24 February 2013: if its sudden maybe something is up? but you won't get your answer on here, you need to hear it from him.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend getting it somewhere else?
Q. My Boyfriend and I Have Been Dating for a few months (im gay), and its been an up and down ride. Mainly because I have issues with his exes that he's still friends with and texts frequently, but we've learned that I don't need to worry, or do I? ...
A. 23 February 2013: It's hard to say really as there can be many reasons why people might go off sex. As you say he could be getting it elsewhere but he could also be stressed/tired, who knows. You need to talk to him. Has it been a gradual reduction or is it quite ... (read in full...)
Can my GF and I really get back together after this break?
Q. Hey everyone. My girldfriend of 9 months asked for space and time apart for a month. We had a great relationship for the first 6 months then some arguments and a fight happened. I apologized sincerely. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks. She conta...
A. 23 February 2013: if she is saying she wants to get back together after the break then that is positive. Have you thought about what went wrong in your relationship and attempted to learn from your mistakes. If there was something wrong (which she is suggesting their ... (read in full...)
Confused cousin: she's giving me mixed signals.
Q. My cousin makes me feel alot confused as she is giving me mixed signals. These range from prolonged eye contact when talking ( 3mins), preening, side glances when I'm not aware and etc. She even friend requested me on facebook and well that's a ...
A. 23 February 2013: She is a member of your family not a potential girlfriend! ... (read in full...)
Is it really true? Once a cheater always a cheater?
Q. Can people be truly sorry for cheating and never go on to do it again? Or is it a case of once a cheater always a cheater? I've cheated in the past knew it was wrong and never done it again. My boyfriend of four years cheated in the b...
A. 22 February 2013: I think that saying refers to someone who has repeatedly cheated or cheated in a number of relationships. Everyone is susceptible to the off mistake, doesn't mean they will turn into a serial cheater.
But then again how do you know it was only once... (read in full...)
Why Did She Lose so Much Weight in Such a Short Time?
Q. Is this really something that can happen? My girlfriend has had the hardest week with a project that she was given by her company, i've never seen her that stressed before! But what was interesting is we live together and not once did I see her ea...
A. 21 February 2013: Yes is possible and also very unhealthy, you should discourage her from exercising when she hasn't eaten and definitely try to get her to eat, you wouldn't want her to faint. ... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend Wants to Sleep With a Guy at Work, What to Do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend got together young - she was 17 at the time and we have been together 9 years and I'm more in love with her now than i have ever been. A few months ago i started to get the feeling that she was thinking about being wit...
A. 21 February 2013: I think you should have some time apart - a break, let her be free to go with other men. Women don't see sex the way men do there will always be feelings involved. If she loves you she will choose you and come back, if not she wasn't the one.... (read in full...)
Am I pervert because I have fantasies/crushes on younger girls?
Q. Hey Guys ever since i can remember i have had fantasy/crushes on "youthful cute girls" Im 21 and this still remains, Although the problem is this trait is mainly in younger girls(not preteens I'm not a pedo) with the exception of a few in there 21+! ...
A. 19 February 2013: a peado/pervert is someone who acts on their fantasies. everyone has fantasies of some description, these are yours. they are not wrong unless you act on them in the wrong way (ie with a girl under 16).
None of us have control over our thou... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems repulsed by my weight loss and breast size being smaller
Q. I was 14lbs heavier when I met my boyfriend and I'm losing weight quickly through stress that I'm experiencing at the moment. Well I've always had big boobs and I'm now a uk size 10 and they're 34 e, he doesn't like it because they're getting ...
A. 19 February 2013: yeah I would be upset by that. but from what you are saying you are still fairly big - breast wise, so I would assume even if you lose more weight they will still be bigger than average. its a difficult one because although two people can love each ... (read in full...)
After a month of dating he's still into porn and doesn't like it that I complained
Q. I was moaning at my boyfriend for not appreciating me sexually more than he did, and he said what after a month of dating? Does he have a fair point? I was moaning at him for still being interested in porn....
A. 19 February 2013: why would he stop being interested in porn? he isn't going to change his interests just because you have come on the scene. in terms of not appreciating you sexually - what do you mean? he isn't interested? he doesn't do what you want in bed? ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend has 20,000.00 he borrowed from me. Will I get it back?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years broke up with me few days back, he was very abusive during the last 1 yr. Im still under depression and i did all things like begging, sending him mails, calling him to take me back. He didnt repond to anything, i gues...
A. 19 February 2013: it doesn't sound very likely. you could try getting some evidence together that you loaned him the money and try taking some kind of legal action (I'm imagining something like judge judy as you are American!). He may try and make out it was a gift ... (read in full...)
Continuous bleeding for 1 month after taking emergency contraceptive pill.. NORMAL?
Q. I had protected sex with my partner in the 2nd week of jan. Within 12 hours i took an emergency contraceptive pill. within 1 week after this i started getting slight vaginal bleeding from around 14 or 15 of jan.On 26 jan we again had unprotected sex ...
A. 19 February 2013: Its always worth seeing a doctor and checking. I've taken the morning after pill a few times myself and never bled after like that, I don't think it has long lasting hormonal affects.
Did you go on any hormonal contraception after such as the impl... (read in full...)
My husband as an actor has to simulate sexual scenes onstage and I don't like it at all! How do I cope?
Q. I'm going through a really tough time just now. My husband of 19 years is an actor- 8 years into our marriage( we married very young) he trained in acting and has done lots of fairly small screen/stage productions. He's a good-looking guy and ...
A. 18 February 2013: He isn't cheating or doing anything wrong. I understand how you feel though. It's probably best to avoid watching any of those performances. Talk to your husband about how you feel, he probably finds those scenes really embarrassing - wouldn't you?! ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend keeps saying he'll come over but he never shows up. What should I do?
Q. Saturday. My boyfriend went home after lunch at my place, saying he had to change his clothes. He never came back. Sunday morning. He texts saying he had to work. Which is acceptable. He said he was very, very tired and that he was going to tak...
A. 18 February 2013: He is treating you pretty badly. It's one thing not to come over and see you and another to not even tell you he wasn't coming. If you really don't want to dump him then at least give him and yourself some space. Leave your phone at home for a day ... (read in full...)
My wife is 7 months pregnant. Is it normal for me to feel aroused around her?
Q. I have been married to my wife for two years, now she is 7months pregnant,Is it normal for me to feel horny and aroused wheneva I look at her or touches her?...
A. 18 February 2013: She is your wife, so yes sounds normal to me! I don't think pregnant women are ugly or unattractive.... (read in full...)
Why does she not wish to be involved with me? What is she thinking?
Q. I'm 40 years old and my love interest (I'll call her "Ann") is 3 years younger. We were together many years ago when we were teenagers. She gave birth to our daughter who is now in her 20s. Ann and I broke up and she eventually went on to get ...
A. 18 February 2013: You are the father of her daughter of course there are going to be some feelings there. She is probably just as confused about how she feels towards you as you are of her actions. Life isn't simple and relationships are definitely not. Have you ... (read in full...)
I want to be reborn again and save my life. Do I have to leave my boyfriend then?
Q. okay Help please!! hi everyone, i am a girl and i am 21. I wan't to change my life i wan't to be born again so what are the do's and dont's. i am in a relationship with a guy i love. so do i leave him after being saved or what????...
A. 18 February 2013: I have no idea. But why do you want to be born again? Are you unhappy in your current life? ... (read in full...)
Should I wait awhile before contacting her again so I don't give her the wrong impression?
Q. Hi everyone. So a couple days ago I reconnected with an old friend on Facebook. She is a year older than me and we haven't spoke since she graduated 12 years ago. We have both moved away from our home state but are still only a short distance ...
A. 18 February 2013: I don't think you should wait if you want to rebuild a friendship maybe more. Leave it a couple of days and message her again. If she doesn't want you too you will probably be able to tell, if your not sure just post another question up here. ... (read in full...)
My online guy has a girlfriend, why is he on a site for meeting people then? Where should I go from here with this?
Q. I've been chatting to a guy for aaaaages online. He's 27, I'm 19 but we really get on... like his sense of humour is completely on track with mine and we chat pretty much everyday. He lives about 3 hours away currently but knows I'm moving up there ...
A. 18 February 2013: Once a cheat always a cheat. Is that the kind of man you want??
He is 27 so old enough to know better. You are only 19 he probably loves the attention. Find someone more worthwhile. If you are off to uni you will meet loads of cool people, forg... (read in full...)
How do I stop sexting crap with my ex girlfriend?
Q. Guys, i dont know how to handle this situation. Me and my highschool sweetheart have texting for a while now after a gap of about 4 years. I kind of like another girl now, and i am seriously considering her as my partner. But lately my texting ...
A. 18 February 2013: She is obviously hoping you will get back together. It's not fair to lead her on if that's not what you want. If she is a sweet girl leave her alone. You can't be friends with someone you sext. Stop texting etc.... (read in full...)
Why hasn't this guy replied to my facebook message?
Q. I added the guy I like on Facebook and all my friends have been telling me to message him, three weeks later after a lot of persuasion I sent him "Heyy (:" I sent this on Wednesday, he has been online since as he has added people and liked pages but ...
A. 18 February 2013: The message was a bit short, maybe if you had asked him a question or something he might have felt obliged to reply. I wouldn't message him again though or he might feel like you are stalking him. Give it time maybe he'll message you, if not delete ... (read in full...)
I thought we had a good time, he said he'd call but he didn't. Why?
Q. I have been casually dating this guy for a couple of weeks, we met on a dating site so I know he wants a relationship. Our dates have been great (at least I think so) consisting of dinner, drinks, and cuddling or making out while watching movies. I ...
A. 18 February 2013: I think you might as well call him. It might give you some answers which is always better than not knowing. None of us really know what was going on in his mind. It does sound like he was hoping you would have sex with him and is maybe getting bored ... (read in full...)
I haven't given my b/f oral sex. Is that a bad thing?
Q. The guy I am seeing is really great and patient because I have only ever had sex with one other guy so I am still a bit new to all of this. My best friend was so shocked because he has gone down on me and I haven't on him. She made it sound like a ...
A. 18 February 2013: Men might love oral but you do need to feel happy doing it. He will love it if you do but shouldn't dump you if you don't. Most men appreciate it can be a bit of a chore for some women.
Don't do it till your ready. And if you don't like it, save... (read in full...)
What is the right age to get engaged?
Q. I know my question seems a little bland and broad, so let me try to rephrase... How old should a couple be when they get engaged for the first time? I am 18, currently and proudly dating a soon-to-be Marine. He hasn't been home for a few months. ...
A. 18 February 2013: The right age to get engaged? Whenever you like! You are over 18 so you don't need anyone's permission and divorce is common these days so its not like it has to be forever.
Shame he's a marine though, you must know they have a really bad rep for ... (read in full...)
He's upset with the gift I gave him -- even complained on lack of gift wrap??? Explain it to me.
Q. Dear Cupids, I have a long distance friend that lives in Germany that I've known for almost 3 years. I'm 25 and he's 23.5. I feel we like each other a little more than friends but each have our own lives, etc. And I don't see them collidi...
A. 18 February 2013: That's fair enough, people move on and change. He may feel hurt for a while when he feels you distancing yourself from him, but he will get over it.... (read in full...)
Why do we hurt the ones we truly love?
Q. I always find myself wondering about love. What love is, how it can be given to you, who chooses to love who, why it exists, when will it come, when will it go, where one anothers eye meet. People take love for granted sometimes... Cruel peopl...
A. 17 February 2013: I think this sounds like a question only you really know the answer to. why do you think we only hurt the ones we love?... (read in full...)
How do I put a stop to this flirting with me by a married man?
Q. Well, here we go again! The married man I posted about before is no longer an issue for me, even though he is still very interested. A situation seems to be developing with this man's co-worker who I see almost as often as I see this aforementio...
A. 17 February 2013: I don't think you have to be hostile just a bit more assertive. Less feminine, more tough. Should gain you respect over sexual interest. I don't think its great, i'd much rather everyone got to be themselves, but the world is the way it is and ... (read in full...)
He's upset with the gift I gave him -- even complained on lack of gift wrap??? Explain it to me.
Q. Dear Cupids, I have a long distance friend that lives in Germany that I've known for almost 3 years. I'm 25 and he's 23.5. I feel we like each other a little more than friends but each have our own lives, etc. And I don't see them collidi...
A. 17 February 2013: I get where he is coming from, I have friends/family who are vegans and wouldn't appreciate presents from large companies like that. I suppose it makes him feel like you don't really know him as the present isn't ethical and that is what he is ... (read in full...)
The best friend? Or the long distance friend?
Q. I'm in a dilema between two women: the first is my best friend. I've been in love with her since the day we met. About a year ago, I tried to tell her how I felt, but I really couldn't get the words out the way I wanted to, and it ended up with her ...
A. 17 February 2013: It does sound like your best friend will probably say no, she most likely knows how you feel so if she wanted to be with you like that she would. Maybe you need some space from her as your feelings seem to be preventing you from moving on and ... (read in full...)
How do I put a stop to this flirting with me by a married man?
Q. Well, here we go again! The married man I posted about before is no longer an issue for me, even though he is still very interested. A situation seems to be developing with this man's co-worker who I see almost as often as I see this aforementio...
A. 16 February 2013: What are you doing to attract this attention from married men? Maybe you need to take a step back and look at your behaviour. When someone flirts with you and you are not interested you need to clearly state it is never going to happen and you do ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to want anything to do with me on Valentines Day. what should I do?
Q. Ever since I turned 12, I have always dreamed of celebrating Valentines Day with someone special. I never even had a boyfriend until I was 18. I never thought it would take seven years to be able to spend the day with someone I love. Now I'm marr...
A. 16 February 2013: You are right you shouldn't have to try so hard to get your husbands attention but it looks like this is what you married so you either leave or put up with it. Next time don't rush into a relationship before you really know someone.... (read in full...)
I'd like to get together with my physiotherapist
Q. I'm seeing a physiotherapist just after having surgery, she's about 23 years old, I'm definitely attracted to her physically and a bit emotionally, although I'm not good with emotions or love. My emotions are a bit messed up because I still have ...
A. 15 February 2013: You haven't got a chance. She isn't going to give up her career for you which is what you would be asking. She probably gets patients chatting her up all the time and obviously turns them down ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have a child, I dont. What should we do?
Q. I’m 31 year old man and I’m having a trouble in my marriage. My wife ( she's 32) wants a child, I don’t. We are married for 4 years. We discussed this subject many times before our marriage. I told her I never want to have children and asked whether ...
A. 15 February 2013: She would have thought like most women do that you would change your mind or she could just get pregnant anyway. If she wants to get pregnant she will, what are you going to do, never have sex with her again?! The only way you can be sure is to have ... (read in full...)
Do women date guys they have only met once or twice?
Q. Is it reasonable to date women if you have only met them once or twice? I ask this because I'm tired of "hanging out" in mixed sex groups and making friends with women instead of pursuing a relationship. I find this form of courtship useles...
A. 15 February 2013: Yeah, if you hang out with them too much first you risk falling into 'friends' rather than something more. Dating is a risky game, you will get rejections but everyone does so it isn't a reflection on you. Be brave ask girls out, if they say no just ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to want anything to do with me on Valentines Day. what should I do?
Q. Ever since I turned 12, I have always dreamed of celebrating Valentines Day with someone special. I never even had a boyfriend until I was 18. I never thought it would take seven years to be able to spend the day with someone I love. Now I'm marr...
A. 15 February 2013: I'm assuming this isn't a one off and he quite often plays computer games and expects you to do the housework? Sounds like he's a bit selfish, unfortunately with men and relationships in general you normally can't change someone. So if you really ... (read in full...)
Makimg out w/his new gf while standing right next to me: not classy!
Q. I became romantically involved with a friend I've known for close to 20 years at a time when we were both available and really lonely. We had a ton of fun, shared a very close emotional and physical bond, but since I wanted a boyfriend and he...
A. 15 February 2013: He is a bastard! Any man who can't respect other people's feelings whether they cared about them or not is not worth it. If I were you I'd avoid places you think he might be at for a while. It's a lot easier to get over someone if you don't see them... (read in full...)
How can I be so very upset about our breakup? The breakup was OK and he was OK as a BF.
Q. Hi. I don't understand why I am upset over my break up with my boyfriend a week ago when I am the one that broke up with him, I didn't get dumped after all. We were together for 4 years. Started off OK but some issues like money and marriage and...
A. 10 February 2013: Breakups are hard, you need time to mourn what you had. If its only been a week don't worry allow yourself to be sad for a few weeks then get out there! You don't have to be the dumped to find breakups hard.... (read in full...)
There's Chemistry. But it's complicated as he owes me money he promised to pay. How do I sort this out? And remain friends?
Q. I'l try keep it short. Theres a guy at college who I met when i started there, it was instant chemistry on both sides, constant flirting etc. We finally went out for dinner a few months later, and we had such an amazing time. we go on so well, ...
A. 9 February 2013: Sounds like this didnt go well from the start - he went out for dinner and didnt bring enough money to pay for himself let alone both of you (like a true gent). I'm not surprised you didn't work out if its been about money from the start. I'd cut ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to give up her sex toys? And consider a real guy like me for sex?
Q. I a year a 25 year old male with a new girlfriend who is 21 years old. We have been going out for about three months. After the first week of dating the subject of sex came up She told me that she had bad sexual experiences with her last boyfrie...
A. 9 February 2013: That really depends what these bad experiences were. If it was something traumatic she is going to need time to trust you, that means no pressure, lots of communication and generally being a great boyfriend.
If it was something more trivial like... (read in full...)
Is this normal for a couple to have a sexual relationship in this way? And am I turning gay?
Q. HI I have this question that I hope will not be taken the wrong way. My wife and I don't have sex very often but she watches me masturbate myself. It's come to the point that I like to masturbate in front of her rather than have sex. When I'm r...
A. 9 February 2013: Everyone enjoys masturbating as no one knows your body like yourself, but you are losing the intimacy with your wife that sex brings. She is probably fine with it now but give her a few years and she'll be posting on here about lack of sex life! A... (read in full...)
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