Does my girlfriend need to get a life? Or do I? Not sure I can continue to support my disabled Bf
Q. Well thanks for take the time to read this,, Ok, so I've been with this girl for over 2 years now, and I feel like I'm being held back,,, like I have to watch all opportunities pass by, I work Monday - Friday and occasional put in 2...
A. 25 April 2013: I think you both have some serious issues that are going to take more than counselling to sort out. You need to get your life back in order, what you have described here is no life at all. Work out what you want then set yourself small achievable ... (read in full...)
He's a virgin and I am not. Seems I only want sex from him and it's only been two weeks. He wants cute dates. What should I do?
Q. Why do I seem to only want sex from my boyfriend of two weeks? He's really shy and he's a virgin but I'm not - and I feel terrible! He keeps asking me out on walks and cute little dates, and then there's me; just trying to initiate more. How ca...
A. 24 March 2013: Women have sexual urges and desires like men. It's perfectly natural to be feeling like this. Try and control your feelings till its right for the two of you to take things further. Avoiding alcohol when you are together will help. Masturbating ... (read in full...)
Moved cross country to live with her, to find out she has no time and is withdrawn.
Q. I met this girl from a different country half a year ago and we decided to move in together. I'm currently living in her apartment. Coming here I knew things were going to be hard since I have no friends, etc. I have a lot of free time compared to ...
A. 24 March 2013: You knew her for 6 months then moved to another country to live with her??? Any you are asking why this has gone wrong?!? I think that's fairly obvious. Pack your stuff and leave.... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my partner may have ADHD so how can I address this? Should I ask him or get him to see a Doctor?
Q. modnote: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attention_deficit_hyperactivity_disorder Hi there, I hope you can help!! My boyfriend and I have only been together a few months, but I have noticed a few things which are already starting to put pressure...
A. 24 March 2013: Diagnosing things like ADHD in adults is not easy. His behaviour could be any number of things to be honest. If it isn't affecting his life in any big way what do you think seeing a gp will achieve? They'd question him about drug use then if they ... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable for me to tell my wife to stop kissing other men on the lips?
Q. I really do not like it when other men kiss my wife on the lips. These are friends - just 2 or so. They do it as a greeting, when, for example, we first meet up for the night, and then again when we say good bye. I am fairly certain it has nothing ...
A. 24 March 2013: Have you expresses how much this upsets you? It's possible age doesn't realise how big a deal this is to you.
I've never kissed a friend on the lips unless I've had a physical relationship with them (either current or past). So I think she's bein... (read in full...)
We have two young kids and my husband is hiding and deleting texts to a 17 year old girl.
Q. My husband and I recently got in a fight. Hes a 26 year old man texting and messaging a 17 year old girl about our marriage problems, but that's not all. He was deleting their messages as if they were never even talking. I questioned him on it one ...
A. 24 March 2013: You are very young to have gotten into this situation, he seems immature for his age. The reality seems that this family life you have both created is not what he is ready for. He is clearly cheating and it is likely he may leave you. But you are ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my alcoholic boyfriend? At times he blacked out and acted evil.
Q. My boyfriend Max and I have dated for seven months. I thought he was the "one." He was always very attentive, we have wonderful fun together and we spend lots of itme together. As the relationship progressed I noticed that each time we went out to ...
A. 24 March 2013: A problem with alcohol is something only he can sort out. I've seen many lovely women stand by their alcoholic partners but until he decided to do anything about it your relationship will continue this way. He does need support to stop and change ... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny guys?
Q. I'm a skinny lad and I was wondering is this a turn-off? I mean I know some girls like guys to be teddy bears but is there really any market for us skinny guys? I'm 5'11"/180 cm and 143 pounds/64 kg and feel as though I'm not bulky enough for women ...
A. 24 March 2013: I love skinny guys, all my ex's have been skinny guys!!
I'm sure all women are different but that's what does it for me ;)... (read in full...)
I need this crush to end now before I do something stupid and I don't know how
Q. I'm in my early 20's and infatuated by this guy at work who is older than me. (late thirties) He's gorgeous for his age , rough,masculine and he's such a laugh...... I think about him day and night , dream about him. The sexual tension between ...
A. 23 March 2013: Trying to stay away is the only way I really know, accepting it would never work - maybe writing down the pros and cons of a relationship with him. Putting things down on paper can really help. ... (read in full...)
I don't know my feelings for her. How can I get her to trust me?
Q. I asked this question before but i only got two responses and whilst i apreciate(appreciate?) them i would be grateful(greatful?) for more insight... I just turned sixteen a month ago and started voluntary work around the same time once a week...
A. 23 March 2013: Firstly your spelling is pretty good so don't worry! I don't think you should ever go into a relationship because you want to help someone, you can help her as a friend. People need to sort their issues out themselves before they get involved... (read in full...)
On a trip I had a drunken hookup, is it time to end things with my boyfriend?
Q. I went away on a university trip abroad and (very drunkenly) hooked up with one of my classmates. I have a boyfriend of two years, and have been having doubts about the relationship for a while but cheating just further assured me - is it worth ...
A. 23 March 2013: you're still young, now is the time to get out there and meet new people and have different experiences! It doesn't sound like it is working with your current bf but if you end it now you will be free to find what will make you happy.... (read in full...)
I'm happy with my boyfriend, but tired of being the 'man' in this relationship
Q. Hi, I'm 24 and have been with my bf for 1.5 years. Throughout the time we are together, I'm honestly very happy, so happy that I cannot explain. Whenever I see him, I cannot stop smiling. However, when I think of future or marriage, I don't se...
A. 23 March 2013: Relationships are about compromise, you have your faults he has his. if he makes you happy and you love him then what more do you want? you may never meet your dream man and may be forever chasing something you cannot have.
if you really are unha... (read in full...)
Are online conception date calendars accurate?
Q. Conception date. Are online conception date calendars accurate? I want to be sure. Can anyone help pls. I had a dating scan and a due date of 26th Sept 2013. With this info i got a conception date of somewhere between 31 Dec - 2nd Jan 2013. Would th...
A. 23 March 2013: they should be fairly accurate to the nearest week. nothing is 100% but it gives you a good idea. I take it there are two potential daddies here? if it is that close between them you might be looking at a dna test when baby is born.... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much of people? I want to stay the way I am but I want to be valued as myself.
Q. This is the most craziest question to ever find on a love advice column... Right... I’ve loved Bollywood, bindis, mendhi tattoos, especially the jewellery and fashion and I love the karma sutra and their beliefs since I was a small girl. I try...
A. 23 March 2013: do it with confidence and you can pull off any look you like. I would probably start off subtly though, a few bits here and there then get more into it as time goes on...... (read in full...)
Would you continue to date a guy who you were completely emotionally compatible with but intellectually it's not quite there?
Q. Would you continue to date a guy who you where completely emotionally compatible with but intellectually it's not quite there???? I mean I love him but sometimes he says this that Make me think he's not intelligent. What so ya'll think?Physically ...
A. 22 March 2013: I think you could have a good relationship but it won't be forever, there will come a time when you will want someone on a level with you.
So either enjoy it for a while but remember its not forever or leave and find the one...... (read in full...)
I can't STAND him when he's drunk!!
Q. I've been seeing this guy pretty regularly for about six months. We're not officially dating mainly because I don't want too and still consider myself single even though I haven't really hooked up with anyone else besides him. But basicall...
A. 22 March 2013: Everyone acts a different way when they are drunk. He sounds like he has a problem with alcohol. There is not much you can do about this other than wait till he is ready to do something about it or leave him. You either stay and put up with this ... (read in full...)
Should I text him? Or not?
Q. I met this guy online, he lives about 1.5 hours away by ferry. We texted pretty much everyday quite a bit for just over a month. He made a few comments about coming up for a weekend. This scared me because what if we did not hit it off and I was ...
A. 22 March 2013: I'm assuming he hasn't stopped texting so that is a good sign.
He might be concerned about how much you will be able to see each other. Why not text and suggest meeting up again. If he doesn't seem keen then you will know it isn't going to go anyw... (read in full...)
If you were in my shoes, would you stay?
Q. i've been seeing a girl for about four months now. i'm very happy with her and we have a very healthy relationship together. she tells me she definitely sees a future with me and i thought i did, too. my problem is that she told me today that sh...
A. 22 March 2013: If you really like her then what is 4months out of the rest of your life? If you break up you wouldn't necessarily be any happier.
It sounds like she has an amazing opportunity, be a supportive boyfriend and this could really strengthen your rela... (read in full...)
I can't accept that my husband was in prison for a sex crime but the families all give me a hard time!
Q. I've been married 20 years, my husband has been a troubled person for the majority of those years, we now have 2 adult children. 6 years ago my husband was sentenced to 6 years in jail shortly after his conviction, I learned that he was doing time ...
A. 21 March 2013: How could he have hidden all the details?! Surely this would have been in the newspapers - local ones anyway. I'd kick him out ASAP. Nothing more to say!... (read in full...)
How would you react to a $20 engagement ring from a well-off guy?
Q. Hello everyone, My boyfriend proposed with a ring that he paid 20 dollars. If he was earning a low income, I would not be asking for advice. However, he drives an expensive car, has about 50 pairs of shoes, good job, etc. should I be upset? Am I ...
A. 21 March 2013: Yeah I would feel offended too. Any chance you could discuss this with him in an amicable way? Maybe he wanted to take you shopping to choose your own ring, you never know.... (read in full...)
I'm just not interested in guys or sex
Q. Why am I not interested in guys or sex? I've been single for 2years now and I don't feel like being with anyone. I signed up on a dating site cause I felt like I wanted to meet a nice guy and fall in love and hold hands and so all the...
A. 21 March 2013: Nothing wrong with you it's probably the quality of men on the dating site! There are some dodgy ones on there.
Get out, have fun with your mates and don't think about dating for a while. Your interest will come back naturally.... (read in full...)
Pre-occupied with the fear that I might have HPV
Q. Hi there, Hmm I don’t know how to start this off it is probably going to sound crazy, but anyway when I was younger I went off of the rails I suppose and was incredibly naïve, so much so I ended up having unprotected sex with two rather questiona...
A. 21 March 2013: Looking at your age - didnt you have the hpv vaccine when you were younger? I know they have it to all girls of a certain age.... (read in full...)
Don't want a serious relationship, but is casual so bad?
Q. Over my last break up but no longer want anything serious as its not the right time in my life. Is wanting something casual a bad thing? Like a sort of friends with benefit thing? ...
A. 21 March 2013: No it's not bad, but some people will judge you so watch out.
Always be careful and use a condom!... (read in full...)
Not sure that either of us still wants to be in this relationship, but how do I tell him?
Q. I'm having relationship problems. And honestly everyone telling me to stick with it and see where it goes. But I don't want to. I think I like someone else. And I know that sounds bad but its the guy I have known for over 10 years I believe. And I ...
A. 21 March 2013: It is hard to break up with someone, but honesty and respect are most important. Explain you just don't feel the way you think you should. You don't think you love him. You just want to be friends. It's harsh but it has to be done. Don't say you ... (read in full...)
What qualifies as "successful" emotional abuse, and what can I do to get continuous abuse, "failed" or otherwise, to stop?
Q. I am having a huge problem, or at least, a huge thought process about a decently large problem. So, uh, it'll be a bit of a detailed story. Sorry... Last year I started going to a small private school, many of the students and teachers I had m...
A. 21 March 2013: Emotional abuse can be all sorts of things really. Him putting you down and making you feel bad or him controlling you. Anything that upsets and hurts you I suppose.
What should you put up with? You don't have to put up with anything. You can hold... (read in full...)
I am very hurt and angry that my husband is looking at porn. Why does everyone think porn is ok?
Q. I have been married for 4 months and moved across the country leaving my family and everything behind to be with my husband. I have no one out here but him and his family. I miss my family so much and cry quite a bit. My mother was molested b...
A. 21 March 2013: Your relationship and your own mental health seems to have far bigger problems than that of porn. You seem to be in a controlling relationship. Have you had much counselling in the past, or now?
On the porn issue, it's not nice and it isn't ok... (read in full...)
Am I her last option? Am I making a wise decision to marry her?
Q. This is going to be a long one. Please take time to read and help me. I recently started dating my best friend's sister. She had two past relationship, I was a virgin and she is my first. She told most of her past, hearing it all made me cringe a...
A. 21 March 2013: If you are worried you have an std go get tested, there's often no symptoms so we can't say if you have or haven't. Her discharge sounds 100% normal though!
If you have doubts do the right thing and talk to her about them. If it hurts to hear her ... (read in full...)
So why did he visit my workplace at the end of the day, then not speak? Yet then message me at home later?
Q. So this guy who liked me at work (he's not there anymore) turned up at work just as all the kids are leaving (I work in a school) Something went on between him and two members of female staff, so they didn't want to see him, and people generall...
A. 21 March 2013: Was he nervous to speak to you in front of the other man maybe? Probably hoping to speak to you on your own? ... (read in full...)
Am I her last option? Am I making a wise decision to marry her?
Q. This is going to be a long one. Please take time to read and help me. I recently started dating my best friend's sister. She had two past relationship, I was a virgin and she is my first. She told most of her past, hearing it all made me cringe a...
A. 21 March 2013: It doesn't sound like she was having a lot of fun with her ex's more like she felt used. She doesn't want to make the same mistakes again so she is trying to do the right thing with you.
It is not her fault you were a virgin when you met and not ... (read in full...)
Is it me or him? I am sick of begging for sex. How can he be 23 and have such a low sex drive?
Q. I’m older than him. He is 23 and I am older. So if you are the kind of person who doesn’t understand the older woman, younger man relationship doesn't respond I’m looking for help and information. Not “advice” that’s not going to help me, at a...
A. 19 March 2013: Do you know what he was like in past relationships? That could help. The guy I was with admitted he rarely had sex with his ex (he thought they did it a normal amount but to me it seemed like hardly anything) so I realised it was normal for him to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a 38 year old virgin and won't finger me or go down on me
Q. My boyfriend is 38 and a virgin. I'm 35 and we've been dating for almost three years. I've been married once before and have 2 children. I don't expect my boyfriend to have sex with me but he won't finger me or go down on me. I pleasure him in ...
A. 17 March 2013: He has issues, you cannot solve these issues. You are his girlfriend not his therapist. So get him some professional help. It's not normal to have that reaction to sex at his age. Good luck, and don't take his behaviour personally.... (read in full...)
Need help identifying new 21st dating lingo? Where does a virgin fit in all this?
Q. Can somebody explain what these new terms mean because I have heard them thrown around and want some closure 1. what is friends with benefits male edition? 2. what is friends with benefits female edition? 3. what is a female jigalo ? 4. wha...
A. 17 March 2013: Are you suggesting that you are thinking of becoming a gigalo to support yourself through dentist school? ... (read in full...)
Is it me or him? I am sick of begging for sex. How can he be 23 and have such a low sex drive?
Q. I’m older than him. He is 23 and I am older. So if you are the kind of person who doesn’t understand the older woman, younger man relationship doesn't respond I’m looking for help and information. Not “advice” that’s not going to help me, at a...
A. 17 March 2013: I've been with a man like that before, he does just sound like he has a low sex drive, it's rare on men but it does happen. It's not about how you look etc, he clearly loves you, but he has a low sex drive.... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend need to get a life? Or do I? Not sure I can continue to support my disabled Bf
Q. Well thanks for take the time to read this,, Ok, so I've been with this girl for over 2 years now, and I feel like I'm being held back,,, like I have to watch all opportunities pass by, I work Monday - Friday and occasional put in 2...
A. 17 March 2013: This is a complicated story with a lot going on. You haven't really explained why you were homeless and living in a car, that sounds fairly important to the story as it appears you would have been fairly vulnerable and needy yourself. You are c... (read in full...)
Should I just let her go? I feel like everything is one sided and I can't sleep or work right
Q. so here is the story reader digest version. 3.5 years together First year of the relationship apart (no problems) Moved into together in year 2 lived with each no problems. The place we were living, girlfriend said she didn't see us raising a...
A. 17 March 2013: This might be the first problem you have had but its a pretty big one. You seem to be hardly seeing each other, which after living together is a massive step backwards in a relationship. If she is ready to move on she should tell you, but us women ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid this relationship my daughter is in is bad news -- how do I get her to see the big picture?
Q. aunts and uncles, i have a daughter that is pregnant by a much, much, much older guy, she has a child from another boy. shes living with this guy now and bragging about how she is going to be a stay at home mommy. now most of you are going to s...
A. 17 March 2013: I'm not entirely sure what you want her to do in this situation. She is already pregnant so he is going to have to be in her life whatever. Would you prefer her to be a single mum? That doesn't sound like an easier option. He probably is a pervy old ... (read in full...)
Need help identifying new 21st dating lingo? Where does a virgin fit in all this?
Q. Can somebody explain what these new terms mean because I have heard them thrown around and want some closure 1. what is friends with benefits male edition? 2. what is friends with benefits female edition? 3. what is a female jigalo ? 4. wha...
A. 17 March 2013: Friends with benefits means you just have sex, but no relationship. Gigilos get paid for sex or are only having sex with the person for some kind of financial arrangement.... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on my history teacher?
Q. I need help. I really have feelings for my history teacher. He gives me all the right signs showing that he likes me back but I don't know. I am 17 and in high school and he is 24. He smiles at me all the time and compliments me. I think of him all ...
A. 17 March 2013: Those aren't really signs he likes you that's just his way of teaching. Every teacher probably prefers some kids over others because they respond better or behave better. Doesn't mean he has sexual feelings towards you.
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We invitied my friend to join in a threesome and haven't heard from him since
Q. Me and my fiance have openly discussed how we share the fantasy of a threesome and its always been known that my friend has a fantasy about my fiance So me, my fiance, my friend and my fiances sister were drinking one night having a good ti...
A. 16 March 2013: I'm not surprised he feels awkward after what's happened. He might have been up for it at the time but that doesn't mean he won't have regrets. I think you need to give him time, maybe he will come round maybe he won't. If he chooses to end your ... (read in full...)
Why is my wife loose now? Is it age, cheating, using toys?
Q. I met my wife six years ago, we started dating and our sexual life was great, she felt good and tight and was more active and I was told that sexually I was the first one..we then started a distance relationship like I was in another country and she ...
A. 15 March 2013: I don't think women who've had sex with various men necessarily have bugged vaginas than women with one partner. I'm assuming you are on the smaller side of penis sizes otherwise this wouldn't affect you till after she's had kids.
You could get ... (read in full...)
Unexpected bleeding after sex...what could it be about?
Q. Slightly awkward question here but advice is appreciated. After about a year of being single and sexually inactive I've recently become intimate with a new partner. We've had sex a handful of times, always with a condom, and twice now I've noticed ...
A. 15 March 2013: Does sound like the sex is causing it. I think most women can think of times they have bled due to the sex being tougher, the man being big or not having done it for a while. Shouldn't be anything to worry about unless it continues. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for friends with benefits to eventually have a true romance and relationship?
Q. My best guy friend is also a friend with benefits. We started off as friends, and later I crushed on him. We talked and he told me that he was not looking for a relationship. He has a child with his ex and at the time he still had feelings for her. ...
A. 15 March 2013: It doesn't sound promising to be honest. But giving time and space will help, if he dies just need time to get over his ex then cutting off the sex with him will help this. Why not get out there and date again yourself, you might meet someone who ... (read in full...)
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