He's looking for a girlfriend but he won't ask me out?????
Q. Hello, I am in quite a situation that's driving me nuts! I am a freshman in college and I've liked this guy since August when I started. He is a senior and we work together at the college as well. I found out today that he is looking for a ...
A. 3 February 2013: Just ask him out or we will never know lol!... (read in full...)
My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?
Q. All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all ...
A. 31 January 2013: So what you are saying is that neither of you are masturbating or having sex and your question is about his lying?! Doesn't sound like much of a party round your house ;)
But as long as you are both happy. If he says he hasn't done it and given no r... (read in full...)
My husband bought a necklace for a random waitress. I find it inappropriate, he thinks it's charity. Thoughts please.
Q. Mod note: I added she was the waitress to make the question more clear. I found a receipt for a swarovski necklace in the sale in my husbands week day apartment. When I asked him about it, after a few laughs, he said that he goes to a chinese ...
A. 31 January 2013: I wouldn't believe him for a second!!! What a cheating bastard. It's funny the things men make up when they are caught red handed.... (read in full...)
My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?
Q. All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all ...
A. 31 January 2013: Does he have a low sex drive? Seems strange he isn't that bothered about masturbating. I expect a man to both have sex and masturbate same as women. Porn is a totally different issue as its degrading to women etc.
do you ever masturbate? Since you ... (read in full...)
Why does my male friend who has a gf txt me every day
Q. il try keep this short and sweet...... why would my male friend text me every day. We did have a drunken kiss at christmas and hes been texting me every day since, even tho he has a gf the last couple of yrs. I told him nothing will happen wit...
A. 31 January 2013: Just make it clear nothing will happen till he splits up with his girlfriend. I assume there is nothing from stopping him ending it.
People often line the next person up while they are still in a relationship, this could be what he's doing with you?... (read in full...)
Did I over-react? I thought we had a connection. Maybe not? I feel he's messing with my mind!
Q. Hello I just wanted some views on my situation. I met a guy on holiday and we kept in touch. I went back to visit him and we spent lots of time together. I met his family and his friends again. When we were apart we always have arguments ov...
A. 30 January 2013: To me this sounds like you had a holiday romance which you thought would lead on to more but he just thought was some fun but nothing long term. There are so many people in the world why would you want someone who doesn't live in the same country?!... (read in full...)
Are long distance relationships all about the sex?
Q. I'm just gonna go right out and say it... are long distance relationships just about sex? I mean, if you meet someone online and see them, say, a couple of weekends a month... and it takes around 3 hours to get to them and you're paying for the ...
A. 30 January 2013: You could definitely have more sex with someone who lived closer!
I think some people like to get into relationships online as they find it easier to communicate that way. Some men will just trawl the Internet looking for young girls to have sex ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend does not know if she would marry me, but ultimately wants to be married.
Q. I started dating my girlfriend back in 2010, and for me it became love at first sight. She felt the same and then we started the relationship and everything was perfect. I will admit, I was not the most emotional person and I tend to express my ...
A. 29 January 2013: I think you know what is going on. You feel you hurt her by not showing her the love she deserved and that she is struggling to forgive you for that despite the changes you have made. Sometimes we hurt people too much and they can never get over it. ... (read in full...)
How do I let a friend know I don't want to date him without disclosing my relationship status which is changing soon?
Q. I have been with my lovely boyfriend for a year and a half. We have had a great relationship but recently have seen him more like a best friend than boyfriend... I just don't fancy him any more, much as I care about him, and it's getting really ...
A. 29 January 2013: "I'm not looking to get into a relationship right now', 'I'm happy to dance with you but just as friends as I don't see you that way'.
Honesty is always best!... (read in full...)
Is it normal to hardly know someone after going out on 2 dates?
Q. Is it normal to barely know someone after 2 dates? I'm 20 years old, recently met this 21 year old guy that comes to my university, we both live near campus and have seen each other twice. First time he came around to my house and the 2nd time I w...
A. 29 January 2013: A few months maybe? More to really know them. After 2 days you know if there is a spark maybe but I wouldn't expect to know too much, no one would expect you to name his favourite band or how he has his tea after just 2 dates. Sounds to me like ... (read in full...)
Does barely legal porn set a trigger for middle-aged men when young teenage girls come into their visual range
Q. My boyfriend of 51 years of age likes Barely Legal Porn. That is the only type of porn he likes. He buys the cd's and also the Barely Legal Magazines. He tags the magazine pages with sticky notes of the young girls that he likes. What I have no...
A. 29 January 2013: I find the whole idea of teenage porn disgusting. If men have to watch porn that's one thing but teenage girls is wrong.
The porn isn't making him like young girls, he likes young girls so he looks at barely legal porn.
If it were me I'd be telli... (read in full...)
Should I date a guy who's shorter and younger than me?
Q. Dear Cupid! I'm a 17-years old girl and there's this 15-years old boy, we kind of like each other. But wouldn't it be weird to date him? People would talk about us. Also he is a few cm shorter than me, I think, and to be honest, looks more like my ...
A. 29 January 2013: People probably would talk because that's what people are like! But it would be your relationship and if it could make you happy who cares what others say? If you think others opinions would upset you then maybe it is safer to avoid this ... (read in full...)
Is my Bf bi-sexual or gay? He says he's shared oral sex with guys. Do I seem to have a closed mind?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 months recently told me that has fooled around with men before. He hasn't had sex with them, just oral. I wasn't ok with this when he told me and I am having a really hard time with it. A lot of people tell me that if a guys e...
A. 29 January 2013: He's had oral sex with men and he has chosen to tell you this within 3 months of dating - he's got to be bi-sexual at the very least. But just because he's bi doesn't mean he isn't into you. I'm not sure how I would feel in this situation, but it's ... (read in full...)
Her need to pee is really getting in the way of our sex life
Q. my girlfriend stops me in the middle of sex frequently and says she is afraid she needs to pee. i hate to say it, but it's beginning to ruin the mood, as it's hard to get into it when she's stopping all the time. now don't get me wrong, i underta...
A. 29 January 2013: I often feel the need to pee during sex, I try and make sure I have a gap between my last drink and having sex and that I go to the toilet just before. ... (read in full...)
My wife is constantly texting another man, asked me to move out and yet says she wants to work on things!
Q. Hi. I have used this site a few times and thank those who have added comments, it helps. Will try to be brief here... Married for 12 years, 3 great kids. Wife and I have always been great friends, quite a bit in common but our sex life has...
A. 29 January 2013: If she means what she says sounds like she's really trying to make a go of it and work things out. Ignoring her will just push her away in the long term.
If you are happier without her then that is fair enough but don't punish her for the sake of i... (read in full...)
Got dumped by BBM and then he deleted me as a contact as soon as I read it
Q. If you are familiar with BBM you will know that someone knows when their message has been delivered and then eventually read. Today I got dumped by BBM and then as soon as he saw that I had read the message, he deleted me! What a coward!! Duh... I ...
A. 29 January 2013: He sounds really childish doing all this over text. You already have one child you definitely don't want another one in their 40's!!! Remain the bigger person in all this, you made a mistake taking him back but it's his loss not yours.... (read in full...)
Trying to make my marriage blossom, but I can't last 5 minutes without thinking about my lover
Q. Married for 23yrs I met the love of my life who has been married 24yrs. We had an undeniable connection, and made love 24hrs after meeting. His first time and my first, since our weddings. We live in different states. I returned home and ...
A. 29 January 2013: Did you stay for your children or your husband? You have adult children who don't need you at home and would understand eventually if you left. I'm not saying you should leave your husband, but whatever you do make sure it's for the right reasons ... (read in full...)
I've been offered treatment for my bi polar disorder...Will it help me and should I sign up for it and postone my career.?
Q. Hi everyone, this question is for anyone who has experience of BPD, and the best available treatments. Please only answer if you have specific experience in this field. Basically, I have recently been offered a place on a three day a week trea...
A. 29 January 2013: Therapeutic communities are the next new thing I've been told (I work in a similar area). I've seen the benefit of these therapies but 2 years is very long I would have thought 6months to a year more appropriate.
You will need to base your deci... (read in full...)
I was wondering if there was any sort of vitamins or remedies I can take or use, to help boost my ever so low libido.
Q. So I'm here for some advice about my sex drive/low libido whatever you want to name it. I'm 20 years old been with my boyfriend for 10 months. I'm a virgin he isn't. So our sex life isn't brilliant but our relationship is great except for the s...
A. 28 January 2013: Any kind of hormonal contraception can alter your libido, you could talk to your doctor about different options.
I'm sure once you have sex and you and your boyfriend start to understand each others bodies more you will look forward to it and enjo... (read in full...)
Sloppy seconds? Or does he like me?
Q. Right here is a tricky situation, Me and my boyfriend split up due to me resenting him for something that he did at the start of our relationship. It led to me being resentful. I dumped him. Then this girl from work came on the scene, he had ta...
A. 28 January 2013: Sounds like he was trying to move on (you said 2 months after you split, which seems reasonable as you dumped him). It's hard to hear but you couldn't have expected him to hang around for you. Now you've both decided to get back together, I suppose ... (read in full...)
Is my G/f still in love with her ex? Why is she keeping their sexual photos and is she just using me for the life I can provide for her ?
Q. Hi there, I just need some advice I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 3 years n it's really good, we're both in our early 40,s Before me she was with someone just for sex she said but she got attached to him but he left and lived hundre...
A. 28 January 2013: Women normally cheat for a reason, because they are not completely happy in their current relationship. If you are determined to stay with her you could consider couples counselling - very useful, or try and really work on things in the ... (read in full...)
Do you think I have missed my chance with this guy or is it worth being somewhere by "accident"on the chance I will bump into him? Or is that desperate?
Q. I had to wait in a queue for half hour or so yesterday and got randomly chatting to this guy who was also waiting. during the conversation he told me 2 or 3 times he was single,divorced, asked if I was.We kept chatting till it was my turn to be se...
A. 28 January 2013: As long as it looks accidental, then why not! Sometimes you have to make your own luck in life. If it doesn't work out then what have you lost?! I say give it a go...... (read in full...)
How do I make sure my friends don't judge me for having sex?
Q. Okay before I begin please dont judge me. I know a lot of you are going to and I dont come here to be judged I come here for advice. Okay so my boy friend and I are both the same age and we were both virgins. We both decided that we were ready an...
A. 28 January 2013: Don't tell them??!! If some people know can you ask them to keep it quiet? It's a private thing between two people and doesn't need to be school gossip. ... (read in full...)
Why did he say that he was interested in my mind?
Q. Does he want to get to know me better? I basically asked this guy if he was "interested" in me. After I thought he was flirting with me. I think he was a little surprised by me asking such a blunt question. He smiled and at first asked what I meant ...
A. 27 January 2013: He's being very cryptic! I wouldn't take that as a no, he wasn't rejecting you. See how things go, a bit more flirting and you could be in there... Let me know lol ... (read in full...)
I went through a divorce and want to change my surname but don't want to go back to my family name either!
Q. I have a really difficult decision to make pretty soon regarding changing my surname and I need some help!! I am now 40 (got divorced last year) after 19 years of marriage. I don't have children. When I married I took my husbands surname. So f...
A. 27 January 2013: You haven't said much about your childhood and why you don't want to use your maiden name, but what about your mothers maiden name? I feel a name should have some relevance to a person. Or possibly look further back in your family history at other ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my gay male friend. How do I control them?
Q. I have a gay friend who over the years we have got to know each other really well. I love his outlook and approach to life, his confidence; he is an interesting and intelligent person to be with and not to mention he has a great body. From the ...
A. 27 January 2013: Have you seen him with other men kissing etc? Watching him do that may help your brain/heart realise its just never going to happen. You will get over these feelings. He sounds like a great guy so I hope this doesn't spoil your friendship, one of my ... (read in full...)
I feel completely heartbroken, I'd accepted that we had broken up but to be lied to repeatedly just for sex?
Q. This all happened within the space of three weeks. So, basically I was in a relationship with this guy for just over two years, we both loved each other but obviously argued occasionally, as people do. One day, he calls me to have a chat, everythi...
A. 27 January 2013: I never stop being amazed by the things other people do, but we all have different morals and unfortunately other people just don't behave the way we think they should/would. It's horrible when things like this happen, the thing to do is focus on ... (read in full...)
I want a man who doesn't cheat or look at pornography. Does he exist?
Q. I want a man like this does this even exist? Basically i'm after a man who does not engage in any kind of cheating at all (glances at swimsuit pics mildly acceptable.) but no porn, no talking dirty to others, little female friends, no strip clubs. ...
A. 27 January 2013: I've never met a man who doesn't look at porn, only ones who don't tell their partners! Unfortunately relationships are about compromise so you'll probably have to give in on some of those things but its good to know what you want from a man and not ... (read in full...)
I have trust issues with my BF after he sexted his ex on Facebook
Q. Hello all! i have a question about my partner. It's been a rocky road for us but he moved in in november 2012. A week after i discovered messages to his ex lovers, not one but a few, which angered and hurt me immensely. He reminisced about their se...
A. 27 January 2013: This man sounds horrible, he doesn't care about your feelings and is potentially lining the next girl up while he is still with you. You need out! The only way you will feel better is to dump him and give it time to heal. I know it will be hard but ... (read in full...)
It's a secret, he doesn't want the baby momma to know!
Q. Im a single divorced mother of four kids. I work a full time job, raise my four kids on my own. Along with that I take online college course. I try so hard to do the best I can to take care of my kids and along with everything else going on. I don't ...
A. 27 January 2013: Depends if its just sex or whether he acts like he's in a relationship with you? Personally I don't like secrets but sometimes people think they are doing it for the right reasons. Is he sweet? Does he call when he says he will, does he put you ... (read in full...)
Is her faith a problem for me?
Q. Hello, My name is Cody and this is my fist time on dearcupid. I'm a college student, English major, and I have been seeing another English major from my class. We seem to have a lot in common, we can talk openly, she is the kind of woman I go for. ...
A. 27 January 2013: She does sound a bit too religious, avoiding horror films and alcohol is quite extreme. If I was in your situation I would probably end up in lots of arguments with her over this as it can be frustrating when people believe in things that have no ... (read in full...)
I'm married but it's a LDR. I cheated with a friend who's also married. I don't want to break up our marriages. What should I do?
Q. I need some advice. I've been in a long distance relationship for about 5 years. We've seen each other every 5-6 months for about one or two months. Got married a few months ago and now living apart again. This will keep continuing for a...
A. 26 January 2013: This is a weird situation. what job could you possibly have that is more important than your marriage? move in with your husband and sort stuff out or split up.... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend called after 4 years! Do I phone him back?
Q. Today i received a missed call from my ex boyfriend. I haven't seen him since end of 2008! When we were together, i did lend him money (one of the things i regret the most and never do that now!) and i have never got it back. I'm confused why he ...
A. 26 January 2013: If he didnt leave a message it's possible he accidentally rang you so probably best not to ring him. If he rings again answer and see if he wants to give you your money back, I doubt it though!... (read in full...)
He's looking for a girlfriend but he won't ask me out?????
Q. Hello, I am in quite a situation that's driving me nuts! I am a freshman in college and I've liked this guy since August when I started. He is a senior and we work together at the college as well. I found out today that he is looking for a ...
A. 26 January 2013: Inviting him out as a group sounds ideal. See how it goes!... (read in full...)
I feel completely heartbroken, I'd accepted that we had broken up but to be lied to repeatedly just for sex?
Q. This all happened within the space of three weeks. So, basically I was in a relationship with this guy for just over two years, we both loved each other but obviously argued occasionally, as people do. One day, he calls me to have a chat, everythi...
A. 26 January 2013: I think it sometimes helps when people treat you badly during a breakup as it makes you realise you are better off with out them. You did nothing wrong, he acted badly, he may or may not realise that. At least you won't still be holding out hope and ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to accept that I may never have a boyfriend? They don't even show interest.
Q. I'm not really the type of girl that guys like. Nor do guys show any interest, in me which is fine. I do get lonely at times despite having friends and an otherwise happy or successful(to me at least) life. I keep telling myself that it will hap...
A. 26 January 2013: You will meet someone, there are so many different people out there. Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places. If you feel different from the people around you why not seek out people with similar interests to yourself. The Internet is a great ... (read in full...)
Why is it that I've never ended up with a boyfriend?
Q. Hey So I'm 22 and I'm pretty, smart; I dress well, I love doing what I do etc etc But I haven't had a single boyfriend till now. I've had people like me...many people. But it's never been mutual. And they always turn out to be creeps or semi cree...
A. 26 January 2013: People do like you and will like you. Dating is hard, you need to put yourself in places where you meet new different people. Join clubs, try new activities. What about Internet dating, very socially acceptable these days. I very much doubt th... (read in full...)
Would be cute to frame her written acceptance note, and give it to her as a valentine's gift?
Q. so i have a basic question about whether or not a valentine's idea is cute or not. my gf and i have only been together officially for a few weeks now (been dating a couple months, but just made it official), and when i asked her to be with me, i wr...
A. 26 January 2013: I wouldn't be that impressed with it, I'd be more impressed with the usual flowers etc. play it safe with the first valentines day to avoid disappointment!... (read in full...)
I want my ex back, he wants to be friends
Q. My boyfriend dumped me last night and it was only the day before he was lookin at houses with me and saying he thought we were heading for a full relationship . A little bit of history behind us is that we met last year and I was ready with my ex of ...
A. 26 January 2013: Sounds like you've messed this guy about a bit and he is trying to do what he feels is best for himself and get out. Maybe you can win him back, it does happen... But if not its a lesson learnt and you will need to move on, spend some time alone an... (read in full...)
I think my husband has an std, is it safe to have sex using a condom?
Q. hello everybody i have a problem with my husband i think he has some std but refuses to go to doctor, is it safe to have sexual intercourse with him using condoms. and can i take his precum sample or sperm sample to test it in lab. if he not wil...
A. 26 January 2013: If you think he has something and I'm assuming you have slept together why not go and get yourself checked out. He needs to see a doctor himself not just his body fluids, but you can't force him, your health is the main priority so go get checked.... (read in full...)
Is it ever good to meet up and talk with a guy who you were dating but it ended abruptly with?
Q. do you think it's ever good to meet up and talk with a guy who you were dating but it ended abruptly with? I was dating this guy for half a year just over and all of a sudden his ended things without a word, I know a lot of guys who do this because ...
A. 26 January 2013: I think it can be helpful if you are prepared to hear things that might be upsetting and you are not expecting to get back together. Keep your head up high, yes he might think you want him back or you are desperate, but if it is about you getting ... (read in full...)
He ended things without a word and now I have to see him. How should I act?
Q. Has anybody ever had to deal with a situation like this, i'm sure it's happened many times but I don't know how to react or what i should do or say when i see him... There's this guy who I was dating for nearly 6 months, a long time! He's not m...
A. 26 January 2013: I agree with your friends try not to let it bother you and definitely ignore him when you are out. He would need a good explanation if he suddenly tried to speak to you after this. Go out have fun with your friends and don't let him see your upset.... (read in full...)
He's looking for a girlfriend but he won't ask me out?????
Q. Hello, I am in quite a situation that's driving me nuts! I am a freshman in college and I've liked this guy since August when I started. He is a senior and we work together at the college as well. I found out today that he is looking for a ...
A. 26 January 2013: You just might not be his type... Or he could see you as a friend and nothing more... Maybe he doesn't know how you feel and if you asked him out it would be different... Or he's just not that into you.
Hard to tell really, if he's not actually turn... (read in full...)
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