I'm falling for my boyfriends father!
Q. I'm 15 years old about to be 16 and I used to date this boy that is now 19. We broke up because he wasn't in a stable environment at the moment. We still remain extremely good friends, though. We talk almost everyday. Now, I don't know what has ...
A. 14 April 2013: An explanation as to why you are feeling this way? Well he is like your boyfriend who you were attracted to and had feelings for yet he is more mature and experienced. Perfectly natural to feel this way. I could suggest you have father issues, but ... (read in full...)
Should I give him a love letter on graduation day?
Q. I have been in love with this guy for over a year now. He knows about my feelings for him. We talked about it and he said he wasn't sure about how he feels and that he didn't want to get into a relationship that he wasn't sure he could fight for. ...
A. 14 April 2013: Personally I wouldn't give him the letter. If you want to tell him how you feel you should do it in person and be prepared for rejection. Boys come and go and you will meet the right one soon enough.... (read in full...)
Should I contact him after 1st date?
Q. One of my clients (I'm a cosmetologist) set me up with her boyfriends friend. He never really texted me a lot but when he did he seemed nice. She informed me that he's really shy so I figured that's why he doesn't text a lot. He asked me out to ...
A. 14 April 2013: Just text him!!!... (read in full...)
Anyone with experience in watersports?
Q. So, recently my boyfriend told me that it would be a major turn on if I peed on him during sex. He also suggested peeing inside me during sex. It doesn't gross me out or anything...I guess I just want to know if anyone had any experience with this. ...
A. 14 April 2013: Yeah this def comes from watching porn. My ex was very into it, did nothing for me obviously, but men want a porn star sometimes. I'd recommend not telling your friends about this one as its more a specialist taste thing!
If you are happy to plea... (read in full...)
How does my friend interpret my smiley use?
Q. Hello. I have a good online contact that I generally interact with, every day. My inquiry is very important to get insight on. When I talk with my friend, I put the :) smiley for anything I answer. One time, he asked me to read some old li...
A. 14 April 2013: What makes you ask? I'd assume smiley face means you are definitely friends, an xx suggests more than friends. If you do it all the time this would be a bit repetitive so he probably doesn't even notice it anymore!... (read in full...)
I followed my girlfriend and found out she was visiting her ex in prison. She was very upset that I followed her and found out. Now what?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over seven months now. We met over a dating site, but an amusing turn found that we shared a large group of mutual friends that lived near each of us. Everything had been going smoothly until sometime in the middle ...
A. 14 April 2013: You seem to be a rescuer. You can't 'save' her from this and if you do then when she is sorted she is likely to leave you. I'm not saying you should leave her just don't try and rescue her, it's unhealthy.... (read in full...)
We can never see each other because my boyfriend is always in trouble!
Q. I just wanna know what's the point of being in a relationship if we can't see each other. Me and my boyfriend been going out for 9 months and he's 16 and I'm 17. He's always on punishment and getting his phone taken, he lives with his dad and he's ...
A. 13 April 2013: They just sound like excuses not to see you, sorry.... (read in full...)
I followed my girlfriend and found out she was visiting her ex in prison. She was very upset that I followed her and found out. Now what?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over seven months now. We met over a dating site, but an amusing turn found that we shared a large group of mutual friends that lived near each of us. Everything had been going smoothly until sometime in the middle ...
A. 13 April 2013: So from what you have said, she is with you but possibly if he wasn't in prison she would be with him. Your second best, which is ok but it's not great.
You want to make sure she is safe?! In what way is she not safe. If he is in prison for anot... (read in full...)
Orgasm question
Q. Do you think there is such a thing as an orgasm that *requires* BOTH gspot and clitoris stimulation?? I ask because I've heard of females having either a clitoris orgasm or a vaginal orgasm. I've tried having just a vaginal orgasm or just a...
A. 13 April 2013: I find I only orgasm through a specific way and I think that's just because that's the way my body and mind is used to being stimulated. It would be great if there was a lot more variety but just be happy you orgasm at all! ... (read in full...)
Is she telling me the truth? Or is she withholding some details? Having trouble trusting if her version is true.
Q. We were both 16 when we met. When I first noticed her, I NEVER thought she would smoke or drink. To my surprise, she told me she started smoking at the age of 12 (social smoker) and went to club and pub at the age of 15. That happened before ...
A. 13 April 2013: Why do you care? This is none of your business and come across as obsessive and controlling behaviour. She is your girlfriend not your possession. Even if she had sex with 10 men before you, you still have no right to judge. Give the poor girl a ... (read in full...)
I just want to be friends! Guys how do I turn you off FOREVER!; without gaining 100lb, sacrificing looks, nor getting really hairy?
Q. I'm studying computer engineering so it's ALL GUYS and I'm not a hermit or anything, so I try to make friends. And I LIKE having friends I can talk to about nerdy things like Linux and UNIX, I mean, most other people don't get it. But the guys A...
A. 13 April 2013: I don't think you need to stop them fancying you, as that is impossible in young men! Just learn how to handle their advances. You can make a joke about things and have a laugh but always be clear and straight to the point - it's never going to ... (read in full...)
I think my g/f is getting bored with me
Q. Hey guys, so my gf of a month has just passed her driving test and now she's seems very off with me. I mean we can spend the day together and not have a real kiss at all, we have gone all the way so it's just really weird. She tries to get rid of me ...
A. 13 April 2013: If she is losing interest then there isn't much you can do. You can't force someone to like you. I'm sure you want to be with someone who likes you as much as you like them. And at your age there are plenty more fish in the sea!... (read in full...)
No reply from the one I love. what does that mean?
Q. I met a American guy online three weeks ago. He is in his late 40s. I am falling in love with him .... We talked online and it seems go well. He needs to work on shift schedule, and i work only during day time. So, we do not talk every day because...
A. 13 April 2013: You haven't met someone until you have met them in person. People who chat to women/men online rarely do it exclusively. He'll be saying similar stuff to other women and maybe he's been able to meet them sooner. The key is to meet them as soon as ... (read in full...)
Is he interested I me or just a Flirt?
Q. How do you know if a guy likes you or not. I know this may seem simple but I find myself in a very confused situation. I am doing an internship for my professor as an undergraduate. There is a graduate student working with the professor doing ...
A. 11 April 2013: you need to spend time with him outside of university. He isn't going to make a move in this environment. Sounds like he is showing signs of liking you, but I haven't seen you two together. You might have to make the first move, risky but depends ... (read in full...)
Brain wants sex.... Body doesn't?
Q. I tried to google it, but could only find information on the opposite... So now I'll just ask you guys and hope I figure this out. I've noticed that recently I've been thinking a lot about sex, and I can't wait till I can see my boyfriend (We ...
A. 11 April 2013: With your boyfriend - it sounds like you don't see each other often enough to bond physically with each other. You need to spend more time getting to know each others bodies.
On your own - take your time, relax. women are more complex than men... (read in full...)
Turned off by my husbands hairy body, any advise how to tell him kindly to groom himself
Q. Hi, I am a newly married irl.I love my husband a lot but am not able to enjoy sex with him. One of the major reasons is that he has too much hair on his body.I have told him a few times that i don't like too much hair on his body and asked him to t...
A. 11 April 2013: if it hurt his ego surely he would have done something about it.
Rather than telling him how much his hair turns you off why not tell him how turned on you will be by his smooth skin. If you make it sound sexy enough i'm sure he'll be grooming... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend lied about being a virgin
Q. Well my girlfriend had said that she had almost had sex with someone I know before we were dating but the way she had told the story made me feel as though she was lying she said she was a virgin (as was I) when we first had sex but she didn't reac...
A. 11 April 2013: there is no way of telling if she is a virgin or not other than by asking her. You can't tell by her behaviour or physically. If you respect her then you would trust her and not accuse her of lying for no reason. If you can't respect her then don't ... (read in full...)
Sexual Abuse at 12 and now addicted to masturbation, help
Q. am a boy aged 19 and single.when i was 12.my brother took me to his friend.he was a man.when we get there.the man sent my brother to market.while i was in the house waiting for my brother.the man came closer to me and he took my hand into his ...
A. 11 April 2013: masturbating is perfectly natural and at your age I would expect you to be doing it a lot. The issue is your association between your sexual assault and masturbation. I think this is something that could be worked through in counselling if you have ... (read in full...)
Wife is building a relationship with the builder while I sit home and give her space!
Q. I am 58 and my wife is 49 and wehave been happily together for 18 years and although the marriage has become a bit mundane I feel there is no excuse for her behaviour. She had been very protective of her phone of late causing me to become very ...
A. 11 April 2013: If you were pretty much leading separate lives can you blame her for wanting space from the relationship. What was stopping you from re-invigorating the marriage before she cheated? While men's sex drive drops as they get older women still need love ... (read in full...)
If she was so disgusted why didn't she make him wear a condom?
Q. this is a similar problem to what many other guys posted about being obsessed with their wives past sex lives. but this is a little different. she was married to this selfish loser for twenty years, had two kids by him.was a virgin she discovered ...
A. 10 April 2013: If she was a virgin she probably didnt have the confidence or knowledge that she could say no to him or insist he wear a condom. I know many women who married their first, later on when divorced and dating other people they realised sex could be ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex put on facebook a photo of us?
Q. My ex of 3 months has just put an old photo of us together up as his profile picture. Loads of friends clicked on like etc. Saying 'be happy' etc. I'm so angry. I put up a status saying 'I'm single single single single single. The camera never lies ...
A. 10 April 2013: I think your response was a little insensitive but that doesn't mean he was in the right for putting up the picture. I would put it behind you and try not to respond to him over Facebook - I know it's tempting and we've all done it but its too ... (read in full...)
Other than counseling, which I know needs to happen, what steps does she need to take to prove she deserves back in my life?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 12 years, 3 awesome kids. Very “stable” family with two educated and employed parents, no abuse, drugs, issue or anything like that. We are both good parents. Wanted to make that clear. We have had a "good" ...
A. 9 April 2013: This is your marriage and your feelings. Only you will know what feels right for you. Take things slowly, you don't need to jump straight back into your marriage, take time and work on your relationship. Good luck, you sound like you really care ... (read in full...)
Did he really get condoms to use with the toy?
Q. Hi everyone, I really need some answers here as I am a nervous mess right now. I previously was here asking about condoms in my boyfriend's school bag which he claimed to have packed for a trip we were taking. Most people said believe him so I lef...
A. 8 April 2013: I have no idea if he used it for his sex toys or for a girl... This is about trust. Is there trust in your relationship? Do you have other doubts outside of the condoms?... (read in full...)
Still in love with my cheating ex, and not with this great guy?
Q. Hi I'm 21 years old and I have just came home for the break from college life. I've been single for the past 4 months and haven't spoken to my ex boyfriend since Christmas, we broke it off on Christmas Day, well I broke it off. We were together...
A. 8 April 2013: Maybe you need more time on your own, it takes time to get over a relationship. If your ex cheated on you and doesn't treat you the way you want to be treated then don't go back. You are setting yourself up to get hurt again.
You don't have to go o... (read in full...)
I was snooping around boyfriend's home and found bags of ladies underwear, sex toys and porno!
Q. While snooping around my boyfriends house I found bags of ladies underware, sex toys and porno movies. I mean several bags! I was shocked. Why did he have these and why would be ever keep them. I can't tell him that I found this stuff because I was ...
A. 7 April 2013: Best not to think about it if possible... Maybe you could offer him some of your underwear..? ;)... (read in full...)
He disappeared without an explanation. Couldn't he at least explained first?
Q. Iam a 33 year old woman and I have been divorced for about 3 years. About 7 months ago, I met a man online from USA through a dating website. He immediately asked for my number and we got chatting and talking regularly. I am a professional and...
A. 7 April 2013: The key to online dating is not to get attached to ANYONE until you have MET then in person!!! There are nice people out there but you do not know someone till you meet them. Sorry to hear you're having a hard time but there will be the right person ... (read in full...)
How could I contact an old teacher of mine?
Q. Hi, this may sound a silly question but its been bugging me for a while. How would I contact and old teacher? He is now a head teacher in another school and on the school website it only gives a email address for the admin of the school. Iv tried ...
A. 6 April 2013: Go to the school? If you have harmless intentions that shouldn't be a problem. ... (read in full...)
If she liked me so much, why haven't I heard anything from her? Why hasn't she replied??
Q. I recently met a girl and she seemed really into me. She was constantly coming into my place of work and speaking to me whenever she had the chance. On one occasion a friend of hers had to physically drag her out and away from me! My boss was cons...
A. 6 April 2013: The message probably went into her other inbox on Facebook, if you aren't friends with someone your messages don't go into your main inbox so she might not have seen it?
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I like watching lesbians, does that mean I am one?
Q. I enjoy watching lesbians, but I love boys and think they are so sexy, I only want to be with boys but sometimes when I'm watching the lesbians I want to be in that situation for just a second but when I think about it again when I'm not watching it ...
A. 2 April 2013: No, sounds like a fairly normal reaction to a sexual scene. That's why they put so much sex (gay/straight) on tele - people enjoy watching it!... (read in full...)
Guys: How would you react if a girl told you she was a virgin?
Q. To cut to the chase: I'm a virgin at 25. And I feel ancient being one at this age. I'm not a christian, so I didn't save my self out of religious beliefs. I did hold on to that romantic notion that the first time should be with someone I love, but ...
A. 2 April 2013: You wouldn't have to tell him if you thought it would be an issue. Most men couldn't tell the difference.... (read in full...)
He says he's had way hotter girlfriends than me???
Q. My boyfriend told me that he's had way hotter girlfriends than me, but he still tells me he thinks I'm beautiful/gorgeous on the inside and also on the outside and he loves me more then anything and that I don't even compare to his previous ex gfs.. ...
A. 2 April 2013: Men need to know when to shut up sometimes as that is a hurtful comment but he probably didnt realise this at the time. I'm afraid you will have to let him off for this one as its just one of those dumb things boys say. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend fantasizes about intimacy with girls!
Q. My girlfriend has recently been fantasizing about having sex with other girls. She has told me that she never has been with another woman or even likes the idea. Then all of a sudden she is having all these fantasies about being intimate with other ...
A. 2 April 2013: They are just fantasies. I imagine she is telling you because she thinks stories like that will turn you on or spice things up in the bedroom. Try not to be so paranoid and enjoy it!... (read in full...)
Why is she acting this way, after she found out how I feel about her?
Q. i've been friends with a girl since october. we were really tight. she used to tell me everything and i was the secretive type who kept people at a distance as i dont like being close to anyone. i started having feelings for her. in late december ...
A. 1 April 2013: She doesn't want you to get the wrong idea. Some men hang around for years hoping a girl will like them when in reality it will never happen. She is making sure you don't do this. Also it's kind of weird hanging out with someone you know has ... (read in full...)
Moving out for the 1st time, and in with boyfriend! Need reassurance/ advice!
Q. Aunts and Uncles, I’m getting ready to “fly the nest” as a 25 year old woman with a BFA in Illustration. I have enough money saved up to last me 6 months should I fall on hard times. I have been semi-guaranteed at least part time in the city to w...
A. 1 April 2013: I say go for it! You sound like you've thought it through and aren't just making a rash decision. As they say you only regret the things you don't do! :)... (read in full...)
It feels wrong for a girl to make the first move
Q. I don't know if any of you girls feel the same, where it feels kind of wrong to make the first move? Whether it's hurting the guys ego or making you look easy... Can we make the first move? If you like the guy, you like the guy right? Sometimes I ...
A. 1 April 2013: I think it can be ok to make the first move but men do like to be the ones to do it. I generally go for being very flirty and basically setting it up for a kiss. Then the guy thinks he's made the first move when in reality you've pretty much done ... (read in full...)
So I met a girl online, was I pretty stupid putting the "friend" thing on a dating site?
Q. I am a single dad with two boys, I decided to have a try at one of the main dating sites, and a girl started messaging me, said she liked what I said on the profile. However, one of the things I wrote on there was that if I couldnt find a lover I ...
A. 1 April 2013: When you meet someone on a dating site it's for a date not for friends do don't worry about that. The friends zone thing really doesn't exist it's just an excuse us women give when we don't fancy a guy.
Personally I would never kiss a guy on the ... (read in full...)
She seems to have lost interest in me!
Q. I met the most wonderful girl on a dating site - intelligent, articulate, humble, kind - and we've been communicating online for more than two months now. We bonded together over a series of uncanny coincidences and shared interests. We al...
A. 1 April 2013: Ok well good luck but I genuinely think you would have more fun with a real person than an online 'person' but maybe you know something I don't! ... (read in full...)
She seems to have lost interest in me!
Q. I met the most wonderful girl on a dating site - intelligent, articulate, humble, kind - and we've been communicating online for more than two months now. We bonded together over a series of uncanny coincidences and shared interests. We al...
A. 1 April 2013: So you've never met? This is not a relationship for all you know she is probably a he trying to scam you out of money! Don't talk to people online for more than a few weeks without meeting.... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to handle seeing my player hookup on this very small campus?
Q. Hey all, It's almost since a year since my ex-fiance broke up with me. I have only dated one guy since then and decided to stop it before it went too far because I couldn't get over my ex. I am a senior in college and have liked this guy ...
A. 1 April 2013: It is horrible when this happens as I'm sure he made you believe he would call and it wouldn't just be a one night stand. He led you on and you feel used. Remember that feeling - that's not how you want someone to treat you. Don't let him sweet talk ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to allow my boyfriend to sleep with other girls while I'm away at College?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm eighteen years old and about to go to college. The problem is that my boyfriend doesn't want me to go, because he hasn't finished high school yet. I think it will take him three years to finish, and I don't want to go to a communit...
A. 1 April 2013: Basically you are breaking up with him just phrasing it differently. Breaking up with him is a good idea, I went to university with a boyfriend at home - bad idea, and my friends in similar situations said the same. Go to college free and single, ... (read in full...)
I don't want kids and I'm concerned I'll end up alone
Q. Feel like I am going to be permanently single. Been single 5 years. I don't want kids, so my dating pool is much smaller and even on online dating sites there are so few women who don't want or don't already have kids. Have lots of friends but i...
A. 1 April 2013: I agree with the other poster - date someone with older kids. It's unlikely they will want more and you won't have little kids running round the house. Most women (most adults) want kids at some point, it's just part of human nature to want to ... (read in full...)
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