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writes:Is it normal to barely know someone after 2 dates?I'm 20 years old, recently met this 21 year old guy that comes to my university, we both live near campus and have seen each other twice. First time he came around to my house and the 2nd time I went around to his. (we live about a 25 min walk away from each other)We have only been talking for about a week and a half. My university is in an extremely rural area, it's more like a village, shops and restaurants close early which is why we didn't go out to dinner.On these two dates, we just chilled, talked/flirted/watched movies.When I was around his, we watched films and ended up kissing.And the same thing happened when he came around to mine.Both times we were in each others company for about 3 hours.So i've spent about 6 hours with him, he's not that talkative via text as he has a busy schedule, he has lessons everyday and also has work in the evening.Is it normal to take long to get to know somebody? When we talk, we don't really "get to know each other". We do ask each other questions, he knows a little about me as I do about him, but on the 2nd date it was more flirting/teasing rather than getting to know one another and he was making jokes during the film (which I didn't mind)I'm extremely inexperienced with dating, I have only dated one guy in the past which was 2 years ago and we met online so I was able to get to know him over the course of a couple of months before we decided to meet up. Also, I've never had a boyfriend, I'm just new to this dating scene so I was wondering how long it takes to get to know someone more (not completely, because I know that can take years).. but just enough so that you know more about them.. Weeks? Few months?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2013): He should be taking you on real dates. Just hanging out and watching a movie can be their move just to make out. I think you deserve better than someone only sort of interested. He should be all in, showing you respect by making an effort, and contacting you to make conversation. It does take time to get to know someone so id give it more time but don't settle- good luck!!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 January 2013):
 two dates is not a lot of time... it can take a few months of casual dating to get to know someone...
dinners, lunches or drinks (coffee) are better than movies... with movies you have to watch the movie and your interactions are limited.
Take your time get to know him... do not have sex too early as that breeds a familiarity that is not really there.
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reader, citadel  +, writes (30 January 2013):
Think of the people in your life you know well and trust.
Friends, co-workers, teachers, etc.
How long did those relationships take to build.
No big difference except chemistry and that is one difference you have to be very careful of.
No kissing until you have a good bases of trust and enough experiences where that has been witnessed.
No trust = no Respect
no Respect = no Relationship.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (30 January 2013):
 It takes a couple of months to get to know someone. Even then for me it can take a year before you see their true colours. In the beginning each are on their best behaviour. After a couple of months you should know a little more but really it takes much longer to really get to know someone.
2 dates... 6 hours? You know if you're attracted to them physically. However, you don't really know their personality/attitude.
Just carry on dating and after 2 months you should have a better idea as to whether you REALLY like him or just like him.
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reader, R1 +, writes (29 January 2013):
 A few months maybe? More to really know them. After 2 days you know if there is a spark maybe but I wouldn't expect to know too much, no one would expect you to name his favourite band or how he has his tea after just 2 dates. Sounds to me like you're doing fine, carry on dating and see how it goes...
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