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Should my parents file for bankruptcy?

Q.   Hello, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but just wanted to get some advice about my family. My parents (58 and 60 yrs old) are in a lot of debt. They have a business which has been losing money for a while and is putting t...

A.   27 December 2013: It depends how much they are in debt. If they owe a significant amount that realistically they cannot pay back then yes it could be an option but bankruptcy obviously has a down side and it's best for your parents to way up the pros and cons of ... (read in full...)

What is she hoping for here?

Q.   My wife is doing something a bit "unusual" lately in bed and I am trying to figure it out. When I am on top, she holds 2 fingers together like a penis and starts sucking and licking them. (great so far :-)) Then she pulls my face down...

A.   14 December 2013: I don't really know! Maybe she gets turned on by having her fingers sucked. I doubt it means much really, she tried it once and liked it so she keeps doing it. Doesn't sound particularly kinky.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants time apart while I'm grieving

Q.   My boyfriend of 35 of 7 months has said he doesn't know how he feels and wants some time away from each other. We have been very up and down lately. My brother died in an accident three months ago and my aunt is terminally ill. I've been upset and ...

A.   3 December 2013: 7 months is not a long time and he is probably working out whether you are the right person for him. Either way you need support for your own grief, from true friends, family or professionals. Whether he is with you or not you can still get through ... (read in full...)

Sex life with fianceé is suffering. How important is sex to women in a relationship?

Q.   I just want to know how important sex is to women in a relationship, and also if it is important to them to maintain a healthy relationship. My fiance and I just got engaged a few weeks ago and we've been together for a year and a half. The first ...

A.   30 November 2013: I think it's very important. I once went out with a mane go had a low sex drive and it left me feeling frustrated and annoyed with him at times! But with your problem this is maybe only a temporary thing so should bed ok soon??... (read in full...)

Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?

Q.   My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...

A.   30 November 2013: It's 21 years ago!!! You can't judge her for the past, everyone has a past. What is she like now? What is the marriage like? Are you happy? You have to learn to let things go, this is your issue not hers.... (read in full...)

Relationship lacks intimcy, fiance wont let me get close.

Q.   Hi ladies and Gents, My fiance is 22 and i'm 26 in a couple of weeks. my relationship lacks intimacy, I am feeling frustrated and rejected by her. we have sex once a week, if that. the times between sex are becomming further and further ap...

A.   26 November 2013: She is your fiancé ie you have already given her the commitment she needs so she sees no reason to try that hard anymore! She comfortable, relaxed, you are friends. You can't change her sexual needs. Choose either marry the woman you love the way ... (read in full...)

I consider her a friend, yet she says I'm using her. Any advice on how to deal with this?

Q.   I met this girl at an AA meeting and she was really cute and flirty at first. We started talking, went to a midnight meeting and I took her back to my apartment and we made snacks. She ended up spending the night and we made out and when we got t...

A.   26 November 2013: I hope you are also getting professional help as it is clear your issues are far more than anything this site can offer. Aa meetings aren't a place to meet women. Could that be where you went wrong...? Be honest, get out of this ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend says she wants to sow her wild oats

Q.   I have been with the most wonderful girl for 3 years now. She is a good complement to me and I to her. We moved in together 2 years ago and we have talked of marriage and having a family. However, there is a problem and that is that our sex lif...

A.   24 November 2013: You haven't had sex in a year... Is this a relationship or two friends living together?? She doesn't feel attracted to you anymore so wants to have sec etc with other people, fair enough for her... But you staying and being fine with it?? What are ... (read in full...)

Three days ago I suffered a miscarriage. Do I tell my ex bf/good friend I miscarried his baby?

Q.   My ex boyfriend and I are 11 years a part, Im 18. We dated secretly to avoid the scandel as we knew he was moving away in december. Last week he ended it early and we are still on really good terms. Its tricky when we both are attracted to eac...

A.   22 November 2013: You don't owe it to him and there is no reason to tell him unless you feel e would be supportive to you or it would help you to not keep it a secret. Miscarriages are common early in pregnancies, but still an emotional event. Make sure you have ... (read in full...)

Trying to save my marriage. Husband calls me names for having had sexual partners before we met. Help!

Q.   I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have been together for 14. We have 4 children together. Recently, he has told me that he wants to leave me because I had sex with multiple people (a total of 6, including 2 one night stands) ...

A.   22 November 2013: This is a form of abuse, get some support. Ps you are definitely not a slut x... (read in full...)

If he's happy then why is he still on dating sites?

Q.   Hi everyone, I am hoping someone (preferably with experience of this) could shed some light on my problem. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a bit more than three years. He says he is happy. If he is happy, then why does he keep going to dating ...

A.   21 November 2013: Why would you want to stay with a man who is cheating on you? What do you get out of the relationship. Of course he is happy he is getting an open relationship and the ok from you to have sex with anyone he wants. Think about what you really want... (read in full...)

My husband won't have sex with me!!

Q.   My husband won't have sex with me. Been together 8 years, married for almost 1, he's 9 years older than me (I'm in my 20s, he's in his 30s). Our lives and relationship is pretty good EXCEPT this damn problem. About a year before the marriage our...

A.   21 November 2013: Male sex drive decreases with age while women's increases so it's possible he's just getting older and is interested in sex less. Maybe he is cheating or finding you less attractive, it's impossible to tell without speaking to him. Maybe you could ... (read in full...)

I recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wife's privates on her phone!

Q.   Hello everyone, i need your help...i recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wifes privates on her phone. we have been married for 9 years and she has never done anything like this. i checked the dates on the pics and they have been take...

A.   20 November 2013: She is most likely cheating I think hat is obvious. What you do about it is up to you. Try to be calm and talk to her without getting angry, find out what she feels is wrong with your relationship that means she needs to cheat. Maybe try ... (read in full...)

What advice would you give to your 20 year old self

Q.   What advice would you give to your 20 year old self? Financial, relationship and just general life information you wish you had known. My biggest fear is wasting my life, I think about this daily. I constantly feel like I should be doing/...

A.   18 November 2013: Believe in yourself more. You will look back and realise you passed by opportunities you could have tried or risks you could have taken. Realise you are an amazing person whatever anyone else says or doesn't say!... (read in full...)

Sister-in-law propositioned me, and I'm tempted ...

Q.   Hi I have a dilemma, I don't get on with my sister in law, she is an obnoxious self centred person, a habitual liar, thief and cannot be trusted even slightly. I have tried in the past to give her the benefit of the doubt but have always had my ...

A.   18 November 2013: Are you really expecting people on here to say - yeah go for it, cheat on your wife with someone you don't even like, who's behaviour you don't understand... You know you shouldn't do it, get some will power and self control! Some women will try it ... (read in full...)

Am I being overly concerned -- he wanted to have sex without protection

Q.   After waiting a fair amount of time, the guy I'm dating and I decided to have sex. I had needed to take it slow, and he had respected that, then last night we took things further. It got to the point where he was about to go inside me, but he tried ...

A.   18 November 2013: Most men will have sex without condoms unless the woman suggests it/pushes for it. Maybe they assume the woman is on contraception or maybe they are only thinking about sex at that point in time... Sounds crazy but that's men's minds. You might ... (read in full...)

After you meet for a date how long do you wait before contacting them again?

Q.   Online dating. After you meet for a date, you kiss, you want to see her again, how long should you leave it before contacting her? She seemed interested but I don't want to come on too strong. Also I went online today and she was on there at the ...

A.   16 November 2013: I would expect a text when I got home saying the person enjoyed the date then a follow up 1-2 days later.... (read in full...)

Don't want drama. Have not talked to FWB since condom broke. So how do I tell him I'm pregnant?

Q.   Soo I feel really stupid here but I don't know what to do.... I was in this FWB things for a couple months we used condoms but had an incident when one broke and 9 weeks later here I am pregnant. Problem is I haven't talked to him since the condom b...

A.   16 November 2013: Talk to him now, it will be better to do it sooner and not later. If you keep the baby he will have to know one day. He might not be happy about it but you can't do much about that. Tell him, give him a chance to take in the information and see how ... (read in full...)

Do I break-up and run? My BF engages in self destructive behaviour and I think I deserve better.

Q.   I have posted here before and your advice has always helped me make it through bad times. My boyfriend of a year has driven drunk for most of his adult life he exhibits other self destructive behaviors. Says he likes risk. I have spoken t...

A.   16 November 2013: Next time call the police if he does that. Drink driving is very dangerous and he could kill someone. Then leave him he sounds like an immature idiot and if you are waiting for him to change you could be waiting the next 20 years...... (read in full...)

My boyfriend of a year and a half looks up pictures of half naked girls online.

Q.   My boyfriend of a year and a half looks up pictures of half naked girls online. I found out through his Facebook page, because he left it open once and every page he had been on was like all pictures of sexy half naked women. My boyfriend loves me ...

A.   16 November 2013: If he loves you and you love him what is the problem?! I'm sure he could list a few things he isn't that keen on you doing either. If a man didn't look at any pics or porn or masturbate or anything then I'd be suspicious!! Enjoy your relationship ... (read in full...)

Should I tell a new boyfriend about my fake teeth?

Q.   Ok here goes, when I was younger I got best by my bf at the time and he messed my teeth up really bad. It was to the point where they couldn't be fixed so I had to get dentures. Don't get me wrong I love my dentures and ppl that doesn't know me ...

A.   12 November 2013: Not straight away. Wait till you know they are committed and a decent person (however long this takes). It's important not to give everything about yourself away too soon, it may sound like a game but it's actually a way of staying safe and ensuring ... (read in full...)

Am I the only one who is not interested in sex?

Q.   I have very little interest in sex and it has become a huge problem in my marriage(understandably). I honestly do not care if I ever have sex again... it's just not important to me and I really don't get much out of it. I really have never had an ...

A.   10 November 2013: I am not in your situation but am aware that there are many other women and men who have little interest in sex. Is it how you have always been? If so it could be your genetics and who you are as a person. It might not be something you can change ... (read in full...)

I found a HIV-test. Did she cheat on me?

Q.   I have a steady girlfriend from past 2 years. Before I came in her life she had around 5-6 men in her life. But I am sure that from past 2 years it's been just me. I moved to another town close by - 2 hour drive from my current place for a work ...

A.   10 November 2013: When you say disease free does this mean you both had an HIV test before meeting each other? Or could this be her first ever test? HIV is spread through blood contact so sex is not the only thing that would have put her at risk. Maybe she was conc... (read in full...)

Do guys really mean it when they call a girl beautiful, sexy, pretty, and hot? And what do they prefer-natural or make-up?

Q.   I was wondering what your opinion is on this question. Do guys really mean it when they call a girl beautiful, sexy, pretty, and hot? Because I think I am attractive but when I look at myself in the mirror I don't like my stomach,(have a few inch...

A.   7 November 2013: I agree with other posters, it depends on the situation. A man in a pub trying to chat you up probably doesn't mean it. A man who has taken time to get to know you may well mean it. With makeup - men normally claim they want women to look natu... (read in full...)

Boyfriend says I am asking him to chose between me and knowledge!

Q.   I just told my boyfriend it bothers me that he is constantly either on his computer, his iPad (which I bought him) or watching TV. And his answer was that he's like that because he's constantly seeking knowledge and that I'm basically asking him to ...

A.   4 November 2013: 'Hes constantly seeking knowledge'?! He's constantly taking the piss more like!! If you aren't happy do something about it, moaning about him won't achieve much...... (read in full...)

I hate having sex with my bf any hellppp???

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for the past 4 and a half years and i hate having sex with him. we are soooo different i like agressivness sexually and he likes gentleness. he only lasts about 2 minutes which is so frustrating for ...

A.   4 November 2013: Well you can't change people. If you've spoken to him and it doesn't work then it's up to you. Is it a deal breaker? Can you see yourself in this relationship for the rest of your life with crap sex? If not leave.... (read in full...)

I sleep with him and he ignores me. Am I just a one night stand?

Q.   So, a few weeks ago I was meeting up with this guy a few times a week. We met at a Bridal Fair so you can imagine my excitement at finally meeting a nice guy. Anyway, we met up to see movies at the cinema, grab food, etc. Then on one occasion we ...

A.   3 November 2013: If he has ignored you all this time he isn't worth a second thought! If he was a decent guy he would have contacted you somehow, text, Facebook, email, phone, Skype, in person... There is no excuse! The issue is with him not you so move on...... (read in full...)

Am I Becoming A Chronic Masturbater? Am I Normal?

Q.   This year has been a year that has been a bad year for my sexual desire, Last summer i use to masturbate around every 2 days or so, i use to do it every night and i never felt bad about it after it, until now. When i gain a orgasm from it which ...

A.   3 November 2013: Maybe you should look at why it makes you feel horrible about yourself? Most people masturbate frequently and see no problem with it so what makes you different? What are your views towards sex in general?... (read in full...)

He says he's confused about whether he wants to be in a relationship

Q.   Ok, so I have this best friend, we were friends for about a year and then we became really close friends for about another year. Then we started dating and we really liked each other. We were going out for like 4 months.. then he went a bit cold and ...

A.   3 November 2013: If he doesn't want to be your boyfriend then he doesn't really like/love you. This is upsetting but you are still young and there will be many more boys along the way. Spend time with your other friends and try to move on from this unhealthy ... (read in full...)

Do I tell this online man that I was being coached on what to say to him?

Q.   Hi everyone, I just started chatting with a guy online who is a Marine. I consider myself fairly intelligent but when it comes to knowing things about being in the service, I don't know anything. My ex-husband talked to me about him. He also knows ...

A.   3 November 2013: I wouldn't worry about it. Chatting online is just a way to arrange a date, no one knows if they like someone till they meet them in person. Meet up, see if you like each other and if it works out explain about your difficulties.... (read in full...)

How do I handle things with a married friend?

Q.   This page has been great at helping me so asking another question if that's ok, The thing I'm asking foradvice on how to handle a situation with a man from church I kinda like him and he has gave me loads of hints that it is mutal. Like watching me ...

A.   2 November 2013: You need to try and avoid him. You go to the same church but maybe when you are there you can talk to other people, not sit near him. Even if he does like you there is nothing to suggest he would act on those feelings. Keep telling yourself it can ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with childlessness issues?

Q.   How do I deal with childlessness issues? Especially the qustion "why haven't I had any"? I'm single and don't have any fertility issues - I've just never met a guy who wanted to get that serious with me. My chances of conceiving a child ha...

A.   2 November 2013: Why do you think you aren't eligible for fostering or adoption? They accept most situations these days, being single is not a problem. ... (read in full...)

Should I cut my really long hair because my boyfriend likes short hair?

Q.   I have really long hair. Myboyfriend an i really love each other. but he likes hair short so he is asking me to cut them. should i do what he says. i cant make up my mind but i do want to make him happy...

A.   2 November 2013: Really long to short is very dramatic. You might hate it! Unless it's what you want I wouldn't suggest doing it. You could buy some short hair wigs and dress up for him? ... (read in full...)

I hate having sex with my bf any hellppp???

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for the past 4 and a half years and i hate having sex with him. we are soooo different i like agressivness sexually and he likes gentleness. he only lasts about 2 minutes which is so frustrating for ...

A.   2 November 2013: Have you talked to him about this? Yes he will probably be a bit offended but if you want this relationship to move forward you need to be open and honest. You are too young to give up on ever enjoying sex again. ... (read in full...)

Thin or curvy?

Q.   I am in my late 20 s and have a 5 year old son. I was very thin when I got married 112 lb with 5.4 height. I was always getting attention from guys, though was called skinny sometimes. Now after divorce and my pregnancy I gained 25 lb. I am not o...

A.   1 November 2013: Everyone is different. Obviously some men prefer thin girls, that is a ridiculous question! Either learn to love your body how it is or lose weight. Do it for you, not to get a few more compliments from men.... (read in full...)

My friends girlfriend is cheating on him... Do I tell him?

Q.   This is a bit of a strange one. And to some it might sound bad on my part. I want to try to set the scene so everyone has a better understanding. A few years ago my next door neighbour moved in with his girlfriend. We both stay in semi detach...

A.   1 November 2013: Don't get involved in their relationship, you might end up getting blamed. How they choose to live their lives is up to them.... (read in full...)

Why did this gal ask me for sex on our first date?

Q.   I met a woman on a dating site for serious relationships, which I am seeking. After some brief emails and a phone chat we made a dinner date. We met at a nice resturant and spent a nice hour talking about ourselves, nothing sexual. When we left, I ...

A.   1 November 2013: I think this girl may have some issues which she needs to deal with before she gets into a relationship. As you are dating and not her therapist I would recommend backing off from this one!... (read in full...)

Both of my friends with benefits don't want to see me anymore. What now?

Q.   I guess that this doesn't fall under the traditional, or conventional, relationship topics, but I lost two friends with benefits and I'm going to have a tough time getting back into the dating world. The dynamics of our relationship bas...

A.   1 November 2013: It's hard to except you are older and women aren't as attracted to you as they used to be. Maybe trying to get to know women on a deeper level would help.... (read in full...)

My online boyfriend just used me for money!

Q.   I meet my bf online 4 months back. Initially he was very sweet. And always told me he loves me very much. We never meet face to face. He is financially a broke. I helped him pay half of his house rent once. He also didn't have money to eat food I a...

A.   30 October 2013: You were not in a relationship as you had never met. You were just paying his bills. He probably saw you as a bank loan he didn't have to pay back. It not nice but it's a good reminder not to look back. Move on and use what you have learnt from this ... (read in full...)

Am I a total pervert for being turned on by the idea of a cute boy masturbating to a picture of me?

Q.   Not long ago I had an embarrassing moment at my school where I was wearing a thin black spaghetti strap top with just a thin camisole underneath but no bra when someone conveniently decided to snap a picture and thanks to the flash you could totally ...

A.   29 October 2013: No you are not a pervert. The person who circulated this picture without your permission is the one at fault. This could be seen as bullying if you were not happy with it. There are also legal implications to passing around a potentially sexual ... (read in full...)

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