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writes:Hi I have a dilemma, I don't get on with my sister in law, she is an obnoxious self centred person, a habitual liar, thief and cannot be trusted even slightly. I have tried in the past to give her the benefit of the doubt but have always had my suspicions confirmed. Strangely though I find her extremely sexually attractive and fantasise about fucking her.this nearly happened a few months ago when she came on to me and kissed me and started stroking my cock. Whilst my wife was upstairs, I didn't respond but was so turned on, she then suggested when we have a chance to make this happen. I love my wife and that is why I did not take up on the offer but the more I think about it the more inclined to accept now, she knows I dislike her so what is this about? Why come on to me? What should I do? I am currently avoiding her as much as possible to avoid such a situation developing and I think she knows that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2013): I wonder whether some women deliberately wind up men in order to bring out their dominating feelings/the need to dominate - seems like you're being subjected to this but you don't quite understand the attraction, maybe because it's never happened to you before. I don't know much about it, but I'm just putting two and two together, remembering a male friend, who in himself was alternately shy and insecure and adorable and then almost obnoxiously dominant in other ways, tell me that he was bewildered as to why he started a sexual relationship with a woman that he really couldn't stand because she was so obnoxious and really wound him up. I think this is what is happening - and added into this the sister is probably trying to hurt her sister (your wife) by 'taking' what's hers. Sisters can be vile to one another and sometimes through male partners. I don't think she wants you at all, she just wants what you represent ie. a love that her sister has and which she doesn't. She's hoping to feel more powerful by taking that from her.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 November 2013):
 I so want to say... "go for it and invite your wife to take pictures and have a threesome" because I agree that this sounds more like some hot fantasy than reality....
IF it's not a made up dream... well then the answer is ASK YOUR WIFE WHAT SHE WANTS YOU TO DO ABOUT IT... since she's the one it will affect in the long run.
What you do is you tell your wife her sister made an indecent proposal to you and you are not comfortable being near her any more... and you do nothing.
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reader, R1 +, writes (18 November 2013):
 Are you really expecting people on here to say - yeah go for it, cheat on your wife with someone you don't even like, who's behaviour you don't understand... You know you shouldn't do it, get some will power and self control! Some women will try it on with you in your life, who cares why they do it, what you do about it is what matters.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 November 2013):
 You let her kiss you and put her hands on your penis for an extended amount of time. I'm going to tell you this *right* now, that if you didn't stop her from touching you, you are a low down dirty cheater who doesn't deserve your wife or your family.
You have *one* chance to prove me wrong, and you need to do it IMMEDIATELY. Tell your wife what happened. You hide it from her, and you are a low down dirty cheater. If you were stunned into inactivity like a deer in the headlights, then make it right and expose her actions to your wife. I mean it. Do it NOW or you are guilty and deserve your world to come crashing down on you faster than Armageddon.
What are you waiting for, your penis to shrivel up? If you love your wife, you wouldn't let some 3-minute grope to devastate her. If you love your wife, you'll stop fantasizing and start giving your wife affection. If you don't tell her NOW, and not 2 months from now, you are guilty.
Tell her right now, and you prove the touching was unwanted and undesired. But I think there is more to this story. I really do. Tell me there isn't and that this isn't the result of days months or years of playing with fire.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2013): Dip your wick and get caught. Better yet, have a row with your sister-in-law; so she can spill the beans. It would be to your horror. It's your marriage you're talking about here.
You're no horny teenage schoolboy. You're a mature married man, and contemplating a very stupid move. One time is all it takes to ruin your life.
She knows you don't like her, and has full evidence that you're hot for her. She held the incriminating evidence in her hand. That's enough for blackmail.
She is leading you on to throw you in-front of a train.
Go for it. We'll be here to console you through your nasty divorce proceedings.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (18 November 2013):
 This topic is covered in the "Book of Everything that guys ought to know"...... in a chapter titled, "What the H??? Woman think that we're all dogs... they tell us so all the time.... so, shouldn't we validate that for them? ... by being the worst dog they can ever imagine?"
It's a very brief chapter.....
Good luck....
P.S. My condolences to your unfortunate wife.....
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 November 2013):
 In the moment it seems like a great idea, but that is because all of your blood has left your brain and gone to your penis. I guarantee you she is going to tell your wife. That is what people like her do. If you don't act on your impulses, they will go away with time. If you do act and she tells your wife (she will), that won't go away with time. Think with your head not your crotch.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 November 2013):
What auntyem said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2013): Love over balls, avoid her , be out with the guys when she comes to see your wife.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (18 November 2013):
 What a perfect way to ruin your family and your life.
Keep it as a fantasy and carry on avoiding her.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 November 2013):
 I think you should go back to just writing bad erotica.
Seriously, you are tempted?
Your poor wife.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (18 November 2013):
 You want to consider an affair with your wife's sister? Seriously? Then kiss your marriage goodbye. Think about it this woman you describe a a liar and thief, well next you can add blackmail to her character as she has no morals, and she will then start to blackmail you. Sleep with her and she will then have you by your balls. Literally and figuratively speaking.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (18 November 2013):
 I think you should do it, f**k her, let her start hounding you and begging you for more, maybe start blackmailing you, live the lie until your wife finds out, get left with nothing after the divorce...seems like a plan and obviously really worth it!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (18 November 2013):
"She is an obnoxious self centered person, a habitual liar, thief and cannot be trusted even slightly."
That would be enough of an answer as to why she came onto you.
Come on! Gross! Do not sleep with her! Or any other woman except for your wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2013): Alarm bells she is setting you up !!! And she will drop you so hard in the shit to destroy your marriage . If you truley love your wife . No matter how sexually attracted you are to some one you should never act on your impulses .
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