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female
age
30-35,
*eartbrokenme
writes:I meet my bf online 4 months back. Initially he was very sweet. And always told me he loves me very much. We never meet face to face. He is financially a broke. I helped him pay half of his house rent once. He also didn't have money to eat food I also helped him with that. I also used to recharge his number. He is short tempered. And gets angry very easily. After the first month he started shouting at me on small small things. Also kept me on hold never had time to talk to me. He always said I should understand his situation because he is in tension due to his poor financial condition. I told him you should take some loan from your dad but he always snapped at me that till date he has never asked for money from his dad and that he is a self made man. But I don't understand why he expected money from my dad? Wasn't he self made then? He also started to humiliate and insult me every now and then. For him I had become an idiot and the most stupid girl. Many times I saw him online chatting till early morning but he never had time to talk to me. I love him genuinely. But why can't he be nice to me? I have fought with him many times. And now I have left him. I feel guilty all the time and frustrated. Have I done the right thing by leaving him? he blames me for everything. i just wanted his little attention. I know I am fool to trust a complete stranger online and give him money. he used me for money.
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (30 October 2013):
 LOVE is like a pancake (Chapati); it gets flipped around so easily at your age…
Had you really thought you found your Prince in 4 months without seeing him? That is truly naïve :(
He prays for girls like you to scam and pretend sweetness!
You are better for learning this lesson now; too have lost only a small amount of money
Warn others ‘if’ you can or be happy that you didn’t loose your life savings etc.
If you want to help, help the truly homeless people with your charity?
Shame on him; for Karma will visit him in due time!
Take Care – CAA
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (30 October 2013):
He wasn't a boyfriend, he was a scam artist.
Also, you couldn't possibly know what love is if you think you love him. People have to earn love. Not only have you never met him, but he is manipulating you into giving him money and he's mean to you.
Is that what you think love is?
Love is him taking care of you, making plans for your future, not making excuses, making you feel good about yourself, making you happy, making you feel secure, etc.
Love is a good thing, not a bad thing.
Block him and find a local guy who treats you well.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 October 2013):
 He started to bully you when you questioned him, typically abusive user personality.
YOU don't love him, TRUST me - the guy you FEEL for was an act, the nasty rude guy IS who he really is.
CUT THE CONTACT, stay away from him.
NEVER EVER give a person you haven't even met in person, ANY of your money. YOU are not their bank.
You dodged a bullet there - EXPENSIVE lesson though, young lady.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2013): You don't love him. You're a lonely person who was a victim of an online scam-artist preying on desperate and needy women for money.Now you know he doesn't love you. You're one of thousands of lonely women who think they are in-love with total strangers over the internet. He is extorting money from you and insulting you on top of it. You need to talk to the police, and block him from further contact. You also need to seek counseling, or join a local women's support group to deal with your loneliness. It compels you to go beyond your sense of reason, and to act completely gullible when you know better. You did the right thing to stop. You now need to find help. Find yourself a hotline to call, if you get so overwhelmed with loneliness that you can't avoid doing something like this again. A female online-counselor will listen to you, and coach you back to your senses. Don't be ashamed. Being lonely just got the better of you.
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reader, R1  +, writes (30 October 2013):
 You were not in a relationship as you had never met. You were just paying his bills. He probably saw you as a bank loan he didn't have to pay back. It not nice but it's a good reminder not to look back. Move on and use what you have learnt from this situation.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 October 2013):
 Have you done the right thing by leaving him? YES!
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