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writes:This page has been great at helping me so asking another question if that's ok, The thing I'm asking foradvice on how to handle a situation with a man from church I kinda like him and he has gave me loads of hints that it is mutal. Like watching me all the time, making excuses to put his arm round me, rubbing my arm when am speaking to him, and here's the catch he's married even though his wife doesn't come to church I know they are still together. And so they should be. But how do I handle this I don't want to feel anything for him other than friendship! But still want to be his friend and obv can't avoid him as we attend the same church, so how can I handle him without him being offended or hurt ? Do I withdraw from him? Or carry on and just hope what I feel and what he may feel just goes away! Because it is a line that I really would never cross, I'd never inflict that kinda pain onto another women, and then if he did ever make a move I'd hate him for trying to do that to his wife, so how do I remain friends with him, or should I just try to avoid him to put a lid on all this? Hope that made sense but don't know what to do! Feelings grrrr Reply to this Question
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reader, KC12  +, writes (2 November 2013):
 I think you need to back away from his friendship...and maybe consider that it's not a real friend, but a married man who likes to flirt with a young girl while the wife is not around.
I think finding another place to sit in church, and other people to talk to is wise. After a few weeks of this, he'll probably get the hint that you are not interested in him that way.
If not, then you may just have to be firm and say you are not interested, and you do not want to get involved with anyone who is married.
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reader, R1  +, writes (2 November 2013):
 You need to try and avoid him. You go to the same church but maybe when you are there you can talk to other people, not sit near him. Even if he does like you there is nothing to suggest he would act on those feelings. Keep telling yourself it can never happen.
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