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41-50,
*umbassman
writes:I have been with my wife for 4 years and married to her about two years. I love her with everything in me, she is the sun, moon and stars in option. But I have been stupid and lost a few jobs and took her for granted and she snapped. She doesn’t want a divorce, she says she still loves me, but she not in love with me anymore and she is cold and distant. She said she can't leave because she loves me but she's miserable with me. My question is... is there any way to have someone fall for you again? I have changedI clean the house and take care of the kids get them off to school and watch them so she can have a girls night and I trust her more I was jealous person so if a guy look at her I acted like a jerk when she did nothing wrong I am proud that my wife she so beautiful that other look because she chose me. What do I do to win back my love I miss her so, at least find a way to make it better
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): Start with good communication. Why not tell her that you want to do whatever it takes to make things better, and start to do that together as a team. Ask her if she has any ideas as to how things might be better, and tell her your ideas that you have thought of. If you both feel like you are on the same team and are both fighting for it, it can create a lot of hope for you both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): I agree with petina1. Keep up what you are doing and don't stop! Also, start doing little things for her, too. Bring her flowers once in a while, and cards that say how much you love her. Listen to her if she wants to talk. If something from the past comes up, really apologize and tell her you have realized you acted stupidly. Remember what she likes and either get it for her (a book or a dinner at a restaurant) or make it so she is able to do it (run her a bubble bath while you put the kids to bed). Whatever you do, don't give up, and just put as much thought and energy into this relationship as you did in the beginning when you were dating. You might try looking up relationship info on the internet or in books, also. Good luck.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 You sound a nice guy. You can see where you went wrong. Your wife has lost trust in you and been let down. Sounds like she's a bit depressed and deflated with it all. When women have to bring kids up it's so important that her man is around to support that but support during the long haul. I think if you carry on doing what you are doing with no let up at all over a long period of time your wife will see your worth. The question is, have you got the patience to be able to do this. She obviously is willing to give this a go or you would be in bedsit land by now. (I am speaking from previous experience of something similar). Hope this helps
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