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writes:Dear CupidI am in LDR with my bf of 3 years for the past 6 months. We went for a trip few days back and had a very nice time. Few times he was cranky, but otherwise trip was a success.Its been a week, he hasnt called me once or returned by messages. Picks up occasionally when i call him, but cuts the call short saying he is busy, call me in 10 mts. After that nothing.I feel like i have been used and tossed aside. We didnt fight during the trip or even before. He used to call me atleast 2 days once before we went on this trip. I called up his friends, he does not have any problems at work or personally as they know off. But once during the trip he said im a bad company in bed, is that y he is not picking up my calls. And he also wanted to do it at my back, i said ok before going on this trip, but the pain was too much to bear, so i couldnt go with it. Is this y he is angry.What should i do now, please help me
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 July 2013):
 if you guys are going to continue to be LDR (and you were not before from my interpretation of your post) then this may be his way of getting out of the LDR... they are very hard to do.
either way his being mad about anal is a big red flag that he's a big baby and not a very good boyfriend.
what you should do now is:
delete his phone number and email account
delete him on social media
say goodbye and move on.
hard to do and you won't do it... but that's what you SHOULD do.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 July 2013):
 Wow, drop the DOUCH-BAG - he is mad because he didn't get to do anal on you? Because it was to painful for YOU?
What kind of selfish prick is he?
This is NOT how a BF treats his GF. Or rather this is not HOW a BF should treat his GF AT ALL.
He is making YOU out to be the problem when you are NOT, he is.
Stop wasting your time/life trying to PLEASE this guy, it's NOT going to happen.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (18 July 2013):
 Was this the first time you met?
It sounds like he's just not that into the real you, if it was indeed the first time you met in person. That's neither your fault nor his.
Consider moving on. Preferably look for guys who live in your immediate vicinity.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (18 July 2013):
sound slike he could be married or else is living with a woman, sorry
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (18 July 2013):
 Was the trip the first time you had met/slept with the guy?
If not, what was he like all the other times you were together physically?
Was this a proper relationship that turned into an LDR, or was it someone you met online 3 years ago and you only just met them?
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (18 July 2013):
 Honey, you need to let go this relationship, as hard as it is to let go a dream and life you wanted to together, he is just not worth it. He does not even treat you properly nor respect you.
If you want to salvage your pride, start no contact. He is a coward to not even end things properly. It is best you put this down to a bad experience and move on. When you do meet someone that treats you like you deserve, you will wonder why you ever wasted all that time and energy in is this man. Chin up and start living positively without this @$$.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 July 2013):
 Wow. So because anal sex caused you too much pain and you didn't want to continue doing it, he calls you bad in bed and pretty much puts YOU down??
I'm sorry, but your LDR is beyond disgusting, and he treated you horribly. He insults you because HE doesn't know how to do anal, and instead of respecting and appreciating that you tried it (that's more than many other women allow!), he puts you down.
This is the time when you break up with him and find someone who is NOT long distance. LDR's are bad news waiting to happen UNLESS there is a definite time limit on the long distance part (i.e. he's in the military deployed for a certain period of time, or he's finishing college and moving home to be local, or he's spending a 6 month missionary trip or taking a 3-month internship out of town and his regular address is local!)
As for this guy, his treatment of you is a massive red flag and one you'd be crazy to ignore and give him a pass for. You need to drop him fast. No man who treats a woman like that deserves to have a girlfriend.
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