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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi Everyone,There is this one guy in school whom I met the first time on the train as we both came from the airport back to the dorm together. We saw each other from time to time and in the beginning, made brief gestures to say hello, either mumming it or with a nod and a brief smile. After an icebreaker party, I noticed that he looked at me more, during breaks or lunch time, etc. sometimes I caught him glancing at me. His hellos seemed more shy but I started to see him around more often. Well, I was kinda shy and not making as much as eye contact and until last weekend I saw him sitting across the other side of the school's dining room with a girl, her back facing me and he was looking directly at me. A few moment when I looked up, I saw him looking at me, but I looked away. Today at school (after the weekend), he appeared to be with that girl the whole time. And during lunch they even sat next to me. This time although I ignored him completely but as he was sitting opposite of me (1 chair away), I could still see through the corner of my eyes that he was looking at my direction sometimes. What could it be? Could it be that something happened between him and that girl and now they're together all the time? But why were they sitting right next to me today?Again, I could be over analyzing things, but any input will be greatly appreciated! Thank you all so much! XxxConfused gal
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 July 2013):
 now that he has a gf he's more comfortable making eye contact with a woman (you) who is clearly interested in him when he is not interested in her that way.
I agree with the concept that you are over thinking this.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (23 July 2013):
 Yeah, sorry, but I also am thinking that you're over-analyzing here.
Even if he is looking at you, looking (and liking what he sees) doesn't mean that he's willing to actually pursue you.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 July 2013):
 I agree with both the uncles. YOU are reading WAY to much into this. And... if a guy is interested in a girl, he would not be "dragging" around another girl to "catch" glimpses...
He can't be THAT shy if he has a GF.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 July 2013):
I think you're unfortunately reading far too much into his apparent actions. The fact that he could have made an effort at some point with you, and didn't, but did make an effort with someone else suggests that he isn't interested. If he really, really liked you, he'd be sitting with you and not her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2013): Could it be that by some strange coincidence that wherever he is, you just so happen to be within his sites? Hmmmm?
The guy is wondering why is this woman always visible wherever I am? Can't she see I have a girlfriend now?
Come on sweetie, I know you just happen to be around accidentally on purpose. He's always there, and you just happen to show up too.
Stares mean nothing. You can admire a person; if they have nice eyes, lovely hair, and not want to date them. I'm gay, and find myself staring at lovely ladies all the time. If you see a familiar face frequently, it's likely to catch your attention. The more frequent the run-ins, the more likely you will notice. Staring is not polite, but it gets a little unnerving if that face just keeps popping up.
If he's with a girl, let him admire from afar; and just be flattered. Don't make anything of it. If he had enough nerve to meet her, he'd get up the nerve to approach you.
Wouldn't you think?
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