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36-40,
*onystarkben
writes:I came out of a relationship a while ago and since then, i have been going on at least 2 dates each week and sleeping with the girls the first night. I never stayed in touch with them and thought being single was great. Last week i was at a bar with a friend and had a great time. A girl bumped into me and said sorry and we got talking. She was just so so beautiful. We talked for a little bit and then we took some photos on my phone and in one of them she kissed me on the lips which i loved. She put her number into my phone and then vanished into the night.I text her the next day and we went out for dinner. She said that she deliberately bumped into me so she could say hello and she thought i was really nice. She said she was looking for a nice guy and she wasn't that girl to sleep around. We had a lovely evening and we have been talking everyday.She invited me out last night but i didn't go. She called me up crying at 2am as her best friend had left her and she was walking home from a club. I said i wanted to make sure she got home safe so i went to pick her up.When i got there she was quite drunk and we went to get some food and went and sat on the beach and watched the sun come up. She asked if we could go back to my place so she could sleep and i was like :) but then i thought different. I said she was going home as that's what i came to do, make sure she got home safe and she ended up falling asleep on me, i took her home and got home at 7am.She called me today to say how much of a gentleman i was and no other guy would have done that.I told my friends and they think i am an idiot. They said i could have slept with her but i said i am sick of one night stands and i want this to be different.We are going out tomorrow to the zoo and im just thinking about everything. I like her and it feels nice not to just rush into bed together. Is this stupid and do i need to man up? or am i doing the right thing?thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2013): That was a very respectable thing to do. Wish all guys could be that way.
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reader, Hnk +, writes (20 July 2013):
 You are doing the right thing !
Know her more and see where it goes .
Good luck
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (20 July 2013):
 Nope, you're doing the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): What is the matter with your friends? There are words for men that take advantage of drunk girls I.e desperate sleaze.... In that drunk emotional state, getting her into bed for the sake of it is almost as bad as slipping her date rape drug in my opinion.
You like her so what's stupid about getting to know her and showing you RESPECT her- she's more than just a pretty accessory to pick up and use right? And she doesn't want to be used, no one does. Tell your friends to DO ONE next time they try nd egg you on like that.
Good luck! X :)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 July 2013):
 Yes, you ARE doing the right thing in NOT taking advantage of a DRUNK girl.
And if having ONS's hasn't done anything for you, maybe it's time to try another approach.
Date her, get to know her BEFORE you "bed" her.
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