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writes:Dear CupidI am in LDR now with my bf of 4 years. We went for a trip few days ago as we didn't meet for few months. As far as i could see the trip was great and fun. We came back to our respective cities. I called him next day, he sounded ok, but he cut the call short. Yesterday i again called him, he was so mean to me, called me a slut who enjoys all kinds of sex and said he was doing me a favour by having sex with me and i was so clingy that i literally never left him alone.Actually that was a two day trip, since i havent met him for few months, i wanted to spend some quality time with him.I literally begged him i wont be all over him and he said he will never have sex with me anymore, as im disgusting. He broke my heart by saying all kind of mean nasty stuff. I am still crying, dont know how to deal with a person who calls me slut and whore. I feel so cheap and disgusting.What did i do wrong here, please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2013): You seem like a good person. That is straight up abusive. Why would anyone treat a person like that. He obviously has some very deep problems.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (20 July 2013):
So he called you a whore and he says you're disgusting simply because you had missed him and you enjoyed sex without holding back. Are you kidding me? It doesnt make sense. He's an idiot and you guys are not compatible. It doesnt matter how long you've been together just dump him.
Or maybe there's something we dont know. But if you've put all there is to it here then you really need to call it quits.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (20 July 2013):
 This feels like another one of those questions where the asker leaves out some crucial details.
From what you've written, though, I say un-cling yourself from this guy, and walk away from the relationship. Whatever happened, he's not interested in you anymore, and you continually begging him to like you just makes you look incredibly desperate.
Again, there's not nearly enough information here, but the only advice I can think to give you for the future is to not be so needy and attached to whoever you're seeing.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 July 2013):
 how you deal with him is you walk away from the relationship.
It's LDR and he's being abusive. What are the CURRENT good things about being with this man who uses you, abuses you and makes you cry?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): He is a verbal abuser. I was married to one that called me all those names and that wonderful C word too.
The best thing you can do is cut him out of your life. Take him off your cell phone, delete him off any social media and refuse any further contact if he tries to contact you in any manner.
Words do hurt, but you don't see that hurt like you would physical abuse.
You can do much better than this loser.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (20 July 2013):
This is rather odd, are you sure nothing weird happened on the trip?
Well truth be told, you aren't the first young lady I know to be called such names after having intimate moments with their boyfriend. To cut to the point, you have a very bad boyfriend and there is nothing you can do to change that. In fact the more you try the more you will only hurt yourself. Dump him and find someone who will truly appreciate you.
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