Why did he leave me for his ex wife?
Q. My boyfriend left me for his "stupid" ex-wife. I was seeing this man for 2 months. We met online and hit it off. He is 43, a respiratory therapist, works nights, makes 75k, and divorce with 2 kids (female 19/12). Everything was great. We never ...
A. 7 September 2010: I guess at the end of the day they have a serious history together and children which is BIG. Maybe the break away from each other was what they needed to get some clarity and perspective.
Just chalk this one up to one of life's lessons neve... (read in full...)
Wife and sex toys!
Q. So I need some advice. My wife and I have been married for 18 years and have 3 kids. About a year or so ago, some of my wife’s girlfriends were all talking about vibrators and my wife admitted to being a “vibrator virgin”. Her girlfriends told...
A. 7 September 2010: What is wrong with your wife you sound like a complete catch! :-) Seriously just get them out and start using them during sex. I have a vibrator and my hubby loves to get it out during sex and do all kinds of things with it and initially I found ... (read in full...)
Should I give in to a 3some to make my boyfriend happy?
Q. I have a boyfriend I been with for almost 3 years now. We are very happy together we have the occasional fight mostly because I am very jealous. I don't want to share him with any one else. He says he doesn't want to be with anyone else. He ...
A. 7 September 2010: Don't do it. NOTHING about sex should be forced. You will regret it if it's not something you feel good about. If he really loves you he wont push the issue.... (read in full...)
My husband is so distant since I've had the baby...
Q. What does it mean when my husband is so distant after we just had a baby? He doesn't want do anything with me anymore and that he works all the time from 8 until 9 at night. I think he does that so he wont spend time with me. That we dont even ...
A. 7 September 2010: Could be that he now sees you as a mother and not a lover which I've heard does happen to some men. Also he could be feeling the burden of being the sole breadwinner for 2 mouths and is feeling stressed by his responsibilities. Can you sit down ... (read in full...)
How do I come across as being more gay?
Q. Ok this is going to sound weird. I'm gay. Unfortunately I just learned that i don't come across as such at all. One kid had to finally ask me. So my question is, how do I come across "gayer" I know it sounds insane, but I'd rather not hide i...
A. 6 September 2010: Most gay people I know don't actively advertise the fact that they are gay but if someone asked they would be straight up about it and without shame. I guess that's the key. If you feel comfortable enough to tell someone you are gay do it proudly ... (read in full...)
Is there something I can do to make my period happen faster?
Q. I'm 16; and haven't had my period, I'm worried because my boyfriend and i had sex 2 weeks ago and it didn't feel like he pulled up in in time and some of 'it' was inside of me; My period was only meant to come yesterday but i was just wondering if ...
A. 6 September 2010: Why are you allowing yourself to be pressured into sex? Any guy who does this to you is not a true love!!!... (read in full...)
Is there something I can do to make my period happen faster?
Q. I'm 16; and haven't had my period, I'm worried because my boyfriend and i had sex 2 weeks ago and it didn't feel like he pulled up in in time and some of 'it' was inside of me; My period was only meant to come yesterday but i was just wondering if ...
A. 6 September 2010: There is a very real chance that you could be pregnant. Withdrawal is the absolute WORST method of contraception there is. You need to go and get a pregnancy test done asap. If you are not pregnant DO NOT have sex again without a condom!!! If ... (read in full...)
We should still be in our honeymoon stage but we aren't!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months now. In the first month and a half of our relationship things were wonderful. He wanted to see me all the time, he told me he was crazy about me, sweet talked me and showed me lots of affection. But then ...
A. 6 September 2010: He is probably not a very demonstrative person. My mother and father have this problem. My mother needs lots of cuddles but my father is not cuddly at all. Luckily for their marriage he has enough other good points that my mother can overlook ... (read in full...)
How do I come across as being more gay?
Q. Ok this is going to sound weird. I'm gay. Unfortunately I just learned that i don't come across as such at all. One kid had to finally ask me. So my question is, how do I come across "gayer" I know it sounds insane, but I'd rather not hide i...
A. 6 September 2010: Pinktopaz is right as long as you are being you then you are not hiding anything. Who cares if someone has to ask if you are gay. I have a friend who everyone thinks is gay because he's quite femimine but he's 100% straight so don't worry about it ... (read in full...)
I love my new girlfriend but I miss the sex from my last relationship!
Q. I was engaged to my girlfriend and with her for 7 years. We had a real intensive sex life and a pretty good relationship. However there were things about the relationship that were bad and good. Good points: Sex, her sense of humour. Bad points, ...
A. 4 September 2010: Good luck to you MrManKind I'm sure everything's going to work out fine. May the force be with you ;-)... (read in full...)
Getting married next month after six years, but no sex
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 6 and a half years. The past two years we have been engaged and are getting married next month. We just moved in together about 3 months ago, and it's not at all what I had hoped for. We tend to work opposites, ...
A. 3 September 2010: Go to the costume shop and get yourself a school girl uniform or a french maids outfit and then come out of the bathroom wearing your ensemble and beckon him to the bedroom with your little finger. Then have a lovely old time together. Spice it ... (read in full...)
Why have I been like this?
Q. Hello! So! The Summer is ending. And A lot of stuff has happened. And I've been EXTREMELY moody. And on top of that, I haven't been taking my Depression pills for a LONG time. I stopped taking them in March. I don't think I need them. Right n...
A. 2 September 2010: The info you have added since your original post has changed my perspective for you. I am a great believer in nautropaths and homeopaths. Would you go and see one of them? They don't look at symptoms like traditional doctors instead they focus on ... (read in full...)
Why is my old Ex ignoring me? Why is he so weird with me? He disappears.
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title: Okay so my ex is ignoring me.We talk on and off.We broke up over a yr ago.We've hung out a handful of times since then.He talks to me for awhile and then disappears. Last time We hung out - he kept talkin about how he...
A. 2 September 2010: That's the sad thing about relationship breakups sometimes you just don't know what the hell happened. I remember my first boyfriend breaking up with me out of the blue. That was over 20 years ago now and I still don't know why. You will be ok ... (read in full...)
I love my new girlfriend but I miss the sex from my last relationship!
Q. I was engaged to my girlfriend and with her for 7 years. We had a real intensive sex life and a pretty good relationship. However there were things about the relationship that were bad and good. Good points: Sex, her sense of humour. Bad points, ...
A. 2 September 2010: Oh dear I'm cringing over your answer about her "unattractiveness" All those things you've highlighted about her are most definately things she hates about herself. Also your answer highlights the old cliche. High Maintenance girls don't have ... (read in full...)
I love my new girlfriend but I miss the sex from my last relationship!
Q. I was engaged to my girlfriend and with her for 7 years. We had a real intensive sex life and a pretty good relationship. However there were things about the relationship that were bad and good. Good points: Sex, her sense of humour. Bad points, ...
A. 2 September 2010: It's possible the sex doesn't feel so good because you are still so hurt over your ex's betrayal too.
Good luck with this I hope your heart feels better soon!!!... (read in full...)
Why is my old Ex ignoring me? Why is he so weird with me? He disappears.
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title: Okay so my ex is ignoring me.We talk on and off.We broke up over a yr ago.We've hung out a handful of times since then.He talks to me for awhile and then disappears. Last time We hung out - he kept talkin about how he...
A. 2 September 2010: Not to sound harsh but I think he see's you as a great friend only now not as dating potential. I would say he went home and thought about your plan and then remembered why the two of you broke up in the first place. Move on and forget about ... (read in full...)
I need help in restoring faith in man kind!
Q. I'v been cheated on twice. I have only been in two relationships, no casual sex no friends with beneficts never ever. I always thought those were mistakes that must be avoided. I am having such a big problem getting over those bad experiences. i ...
A. 2 September 2010: I hope this story helps.
My sister was living in Australia and met a man who she fell in love with. He treated her like she was a convienence store. When it suited him he called her and was nice to her then when he wasn't in the mood he basi... (read in full...)
Why have I been like this?
Q. Hello! So! The Summer is ending. And A lot of stuff has happened. And I've been EXTREMELY moody. And on top of that, I haven't been taking my Depression pills for a LONG time. I stopped taking them in March. I don't think I need them. Right n...
A. 2 September 2010: Doll you really really really need to take your medication. You are feeling all the things you are feeling because your body chemistry is out of wack. I know it's hard to be reliant on pills to be happy but do you want to keep feeling the way you ... (read in full...)
He ended it, but now he wants to get back together - on HIS terms. What should I do?
Q. I've been in a long term, long-distance relationship with a guy who basically controls me. I can't do anything without him knowing, he HAS to know what I'm thinking and why I'm thinking that and I'm not allowed to go near any other guy, which is ...
A. 2 September 2010: Why do you think you love this guy? Anyone who tries to control you and makes you feel bad about yourself is not worthy of your love. You are better than that and you deserve someone who will treat you like a princess. If he's like that now with ... (read in full...)
My first time having sex! advice please!
Q. Me and my girl were thinking about having sex for the first time. We are both in our 20s. Both of us are virgins so we are new to this. So we plan to be safe about this so I was going to buy some condoms, but I have no idea what size to get. My ...
A. 2 September 2010: I'm not a guy so I don't know this for sure but I think condoms are mostly one size fits all. If you take it slowly and do lots and lots of foreplay so she is really wet and ready for you when you do for penetration it shouldn't hurt too much.
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My ex is obsessed with me and won't leave me alone!
Q. I am 16 and I just broke up with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago. Throughout our relationship he has been annoying, posesive, and obsessive.... Before we went out i saw him differently then i thought he was. Now he wont stop calling, texting me and trying ...
A. 2 September 2010: Block him from your cell phone and never pick up your home phone let someone else answer. Then I would threaten him with police action if he doesn't leave you alone. Call in the help of all your mates male and female to help you avoid him you can ... (read in full...)
What can I do to repair this?
Q. hi i need advice...im miserable. first of all i have herpes, and i just met this guy a few weeks back. we have great chemistry and talk for hours on phone each night. but i was afraid to tell him about herpes. so i did tell him, but only day after ...
A. 1 September 2010: Mmmm after reading the other posts here I see I have gone off on the wrong tangent here. Thanks for the input Caring Guy I never realised you can get STD's from mutual masturbation. Always learning :-)... (read in full...)
Trouble since I moved in with him. Can't bear to fight in front of our son!
Q. I'm 20 years old and I have been with my fiance for almost fours years now since i was seventeen. He is 29 this year. We have a beautyful son togather thats 18 months. Well ever since we moved in with eachother in 2008 we have been having alot of ...
A. 1 September 2010: You could try having a trial break to see how it goes. Life is too short ot live in this kind of turmoil and it's very hard on kids living in that kind of tension too.... (read in full...)
What can I do to repair this?
Q. hi i need advice...im miserable. first of all i have herpes, and i just met this guy a few weeks back. we have great chemistry and talk for hours on phone each night. but i was afraid to tell him about herpes. so i did tell him, but only day after ...
A. 1 September 2010: Personally I think you have been up front with him. He's at no risk of catching this from what you have done together so far and he needs to cut you a break. Telling someone you have an STD is no easy feat and something you only tell to someone you ... (read in full...)
Guys do not like me. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. (OP's suggested title) well i am 21 and never had a real relationship i have had boyfriends but they all were abusers and only wanted me for one reason. guys don't look at me though i always have to go up to them. i know im not an ugly person b...
A. 29 August 2010: Maybe you are meeting the wrong kinds of guys. Don't go for the ones who think they are cool and like to be the centre of attention go for the quiet bookworms who have interesting hobbies.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my 3 year old..that my husband isn't her biological father?
Q. hi! I'm 22 years old and married to an amazing man! We have two children together but one is only biologically his! What i want to know is how do i tell my 3 yr old daughter that she has another father, while still making it clear that my husband ...
A. 29 August 2010: If your husband is the one raising then he is her father. Anyone can father a child it takes committment and guts to be a Dad as your husband is being so big applause for him!!!
As for telling her she has another father I would give her a phot... (read in full...)
Have I been had?
Q. I went out my ex for 7 years, we had 2 beautiful kids together and yes we did a lot of things to hurt each other that was unforgivable. We broke up 3 years ago but continued to sleep together and spend a lot of time together. we last slept together ...
A. 28 August 2010: So sorry doll but I think he was having his cake and eating it too. Chalk this up to a life lesson and move on. Don't beat yourself up it's not worth it. Get out and meet some new people by joining some special interest groups e.g book club, ... (read in full...)
Started without a condom -- could she be pregnant?
Q. Ok I have a question....my and my girl (LDS) where going to have sex, but she wanted to take my virginity....bareback if you will. No protection for the immediate start. Well we did and then I put a condom on and we had sex. Now I am worried....
A. 28 August 2010: Yes precum can get a girl pregnant. If the sex was less than 48 hours ago she can take the moring after pill. Do you know where she was in her cycle? 1 week before a period is due is a fairly (but not 100%) safe time to have unprotected sex. ... (read in full...)
Blood after sex?
Q. Hi. So I haven't had sex in over five months nor have I penetrated myself during that time. I just had sex with my new boyfriend and after the second time there was some bleeding. Not just a little blood, it kinda kept coming for awhile, like my ...
A. 28 August 2010: If there's no pain it's possible it could be your hymen. However if there's pain go to a doctor and have it checked out.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to only spend 1-2 nights per week with your partner?
Q. Is it normal to only spend 1-2 nights per week with your partner? My partner and I have been living together for over two years, and I have always shared his time with his daughter (to a previous relationship) and his work. He spends 3 nights p...
A. 28 August 2010: Two sayings come to mind. Familiarity breeds contempt and absence makes the heart grow fonder. Your relationship will never suffer from bordeom and your heart will always skip a beat when you see him which I think is great.... (read in full...)
What do I do about my long distance, stressed out bf?
Q. Okay so I've been with my guy for almost three years and we are long distance right now while I'm finishing up school (just three more months!) and hes trying to find work near home. We had a lil bump in the road a few months ago where he went into ...
A. 28 August 2010: Seriously I would back off and wait for him to contact you. He's treating you like this because he knows you love him and will forgive him for it. He's not treating his friends like that because he knows they wont stand for it. We all do this to ... (read in full...)
Still waiting for my ex?
Q. Hello there, my question is: after 3 years of love, we broke up for a year and a half, now we are communicating (MSN) again as friends i guess.. i'm still in love with her, how likely this kind of relations works after a broke up if we want to c...
A. 28 August 2010: Ooo be careful here. She's jerked you around once you don't want it to happen again. In my personal view I don't think rekindled relationships work (this is based on experience) but I know some do work out but both partners have to be absoutely ... (read in full...)
Would you have sympathy for someone who can't have sex?
Q. Do you have sympathy for a person who can't have sex? That is to say somebody who for whatever reason has been unable to obtain sexual activity. Are you able to have concern for the impact such a situation would have on a person?...
A. 28 August 2010: Yes... (read in full...)
He cannot say, "I love you"!
Q. We have been living together for four years and he can not say I love you...
A. 28 August 2010: My guess is he's probably come from a family who do not say this to each other either. Some people would rather show their love than say it. Have you told him you want him to say it? ... (read in full...)
Is a relationship with a high doom factor worth pursuing?
Q. Hello! Just wanted to know your thoughts. If a relationship has a high doom factor, is it worth pursuing? Would you pursue it? I met someone recently but he lives very far, not to mention he's at a very different stage of his life to m...
A. 28 August 2010: I would suggest you make it a friends relationship and then see what happens from there.... (read in full...)
Are there any signs to tell if someone is being honest?
Q. i kicked my ex out last december cause i thought he was cheating. we started sleeping with each otha agian in january. i want him back and he is not sure bacause he afraid i will kick him out again. my question is he says im the only one he sleeping ...
A. 28 August 2010: Honesty after lying has to be proven. The only way you can find out if he's being truthful is to spy on him.... (read in full...)
Can't figure him out, should I just leave him alone, or what?
Q. Now maybe my first problem is that I'm talking to this guy online. But how many messages do I have to send to him? He never sends me messages (and says he didn't read or get my messages) or starts a conversation with me first. I told him that I was ...
A. 28 August 2010: Yes leave him alone. You are putting too much energy into this. Let him chase you and if he doesn't then you know he wasn't into you.
get off your computer and do some real world things instead.... (read in full...)
Please advise me on how to get over him.
Q. I need help getting over the one i love. Ive been in love with him for nearly 3 years, i guess its my own fault its gone this far but i thought he felt the same and everyone i spoke to about it thought he did too. We're still friends, hes sai...
A. 28 August 2010: I've said this a lot on this site and I'll say it again I trully don't think it works to try and be friends with ex's. I think you can eventually be friends a long time after the wounds have healed but not straight away. You need time away from ... (read in full...)
GF Depressed Over Getting Braces
Q. my girlfriend just got braces, and she's really depressed about it, I keep telling her she's beautiful and gorgeous, and she says it helps a lot, but I honestly don't think it does that much...I just want to know what I can do to make her feel like ...
A. 27 August 2010: I had braces too but I was so glad to get mine because I had a really bad overbite and got teased a lot and called bugs all the time cause I looked like a rabbit. I couldn't wait to have straight perfect teeth. I would keep doing what you are ... (read in full...)
Tips on how to ask her out
Q. I've known this girl for about 4-5 months, we met at college and from the moment she joined our group we got on. The thing is not long after i had a crush on her, nothing to big and i just ignored it as ive had many crushes on girls from my previous ...
A. 27 August 2010: I really feel for guys and am glad I'm a girl cause this situation must be one of the worst things you guys have to do. My suggestion is to ask her to join you for lunch and go somewhere quite swanky but within your budget. Over lunch start asking ... (read in full...)
Ready to take the next step with new BF, but nervous
Q. I ended an 20 year controlling and difficult marriage this year. it's great to be free, and I'm loving having my own house, and friends. I met a lovely man, and after a few months and several dates, he is very keen for us to sleep together. To be ...
A. 27 August 2010: I would suggest telling him a tiny part of your past and that because of it you feel extra nervous about sex with him. If he understands where you are coming from it will make for fantastic sex between you two.
Good luck doll have fun.... (read in full...)
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