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*ixieGwen
writes:MOD NOTE: OP's own title:Okay so my ex is ignoring me.We talk on and off.We broke up over a yr ago.We've hung out a handful of times since then.He talks to me for awhile and then disappears.Last time We hung out - he kept talkin about how he was tired of the dating scene,he wanted to be with someone/spend time w/ them etc.He kept bringing it up so I thought he was hinting.I told him id be down to date again, if he ever wanted to.He said that he should probably talk to a therapist first b4 dating anyone(he told me his mom dates guys thatre bad for her and I guess she ruins the relationships w/ the good ones)He thinks hes like her.I agree.When we were together- he was soo happy with me/talked about it all the time,talked about the future, had me meet all of his fam - they liked me..it was goin great and then it was over and he had random reasons for the break up(IE im not outdoorsy like him).So the night he talked about his mom and mentioned being over the dating scene,he said he didnt know why we broke up and said i was great to him.Chicks hes dated after me have been somewhat unavailable and seem kind of like bitches but I guess its what he likes.Also, the chicks before me have all cheated on him.After this long talk - we made plans to hang - nothing serious.He seemed happy bout it but then completely flaked.Since then we've talked here n there.He's ignoring me again. I have no interest in tryin to get back with him anymore because i know its not me..hes the one with the issues but him and i have alot in common and I really miss his company. I've told him i seriously meant being friends(when we hung last), i was just open to dating - if he was interested..but ultimately i wanted to be friends.I think hes currently dating someone..cause the last time we talked via txt, he was.It irritates me he ignores me because he's a blast to hang with or talk to.I occassionally text him sayin hi or goofy shit and prob shouldnt but i just find it ridiculous that he chooses to ignore me because he has no reason to.. its not like im gonna flirt with him or try to win him back.I havent in a long time.Why would someone ruin something great - break up, date bad people and keep in contact but disappear frequently and when single talk to me about being tired of the datng scene/tell me im great etc..
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 That's the sad thing about relationship breakups sometimes you just don't know what the hell happened. I remember my first boyfriend breaking up with me out of the blue. That was over 20 years ago now and I still don't know why. You will be ok doll be friends with him on your terms not his as it is at the moment.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (2 September 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question but if he saw me as a great friend..why would he ignore me??
i could understand if we broke up because one of us cheated.. or we found someone else or we got tired of each other..but none of that happened. He was super stoked about me daily.. and then one day after i met his whole family (they liked me/it was great)he breaks up w/ me.. the same day. it was very random & never had a true reason for breaking up.I just think he self sabotaged our relationship but aside from that ....
im not tryin to get back together with him.. i just want him to be a true friend..and it seems like he likes hanging w/ me or talkin to me but then he runs away periodically and does this ignoring me bull shit.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (2 September 2010):
Not to sound harsh but I think he see's you as a great friend only now not as dating potential. I would say he went home and thought about your plan and then remembered why the two of you broke up in the first place. Move on and forget about dating him again find happiness in being his friend and having another guy to love. Get out there and get looking.
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