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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): I've had the same problem sometimes. If you're in a relationship drop the phrase "my boyfriend" into conversation - that's what I used to do!
At the end of the day though it doesn't matter though. You can always say something really gay!
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reader, Bobito  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 If it is so important to you to come across as gay, just get actively involved in some gay associations. You don't have to change your behaviour to show people that you are what you are... :)
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (7 September 2010):
That really doesn't make sense to me...and again this could be because I'm not gay. But I think the way men show that they're gay is by acting more feminine/flamboyant or whatnot. I don't know how else you can come accross as more gay other than wearing a sign that says you are gay or wearing rainbow colors.
How do straight people come across as straight is what I'm wondering?
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (7 September 2010):
You shouldn't have to act gay. Just be yourself. I'm gay and most people who know me wouldn't guess it usless I told them. But don't equate continuing to act the way you do now with being ashamed of being gay. If someone asks you if you're gay I supose you could tell them or tell some of your friends about it.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Most gay people I know don't actively advertise the fact that they are gay but if someone asked they would be straight up about it and without shame. I guess that's the key. If you feel comfortable enough to tell someone you are gay do it proudly but not over the top. This is something you will "grow into" so to speak. The more people know you are gay the less you will have to worry about whether you are hiding it or not. I hope this makes sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOp here.
Sorry I guess I came across a bit like "How do I act flamboyant?"
WHat I really mean is just how to not hide the fact that I'm gay. I am proud of it but am tired of not showing it AT ALL!
That's really what I'm trying to figure out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Be who you are. Homosexuality is a SEXUALITY, NOT a personality. Don't fall in to some stupid stereotype. It's a mistake too often made... Just like guys falling into the "I wanna hump everything that moves and be a big douche" stereotype, or the girls "I wanna plaster makeup on my face and act like a retard" stereotype. It's all just lame attempts for attention. You are acting just as gay as you ever need to act.. Because you ARE A GAY PERSON and the only requirement IS liking the same gender.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (6 September 2010):
Pinktopaz is right as long as you are being you then you are not hiding anything. Who cares if someone has to ask if you are gay. I have a friend who everyone thinks is gay because he's quite femimine but he's 100% straight so don't worry about it be you and be proud of you!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 September 2010):
You'd rather not hide it, but acting like you're "gayer" would be hiding who you really are. I'm obviously not gay or a man, so I don't know if other gay men prefer to look for a more flamboyant type of dude or not, but just stay true to yourself. I don't have a problem with gay guys, in fact, I really like most of them. But I think they can be kind of annoying when they act MORE feminine than most females even do, flapping their hands around and just the overexaggeration of the actions has always kind of baffled me. Just be yourself and act like yourself. You know you're gay and I'm sure other people do, you don't need to act a certain way just to let it be known to everyone that you're gay! It doesn't define who you are, it's just a part of who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Good for you! I think its great that you want to appear gay, it shows that you are not ashamed of your sexuality. Well to appear gay you can start dressing differently. Or can talk about things that a straight man wouldnt. But the best way is to hang out with other gay men and see how they act or they could clue you in about what to do. Good Luck.:]
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