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writes:I am 13 year old boy and i have a really big problem. i am dating a 15 year old girl and several weeks ago we staying at my house. its a long story but at the end we drank a bit and i was drunk and really horny so i had sex with her, i didnt use a condom and now shes pregnant, she wants to keep the baby and both our parents are religious. i dont know what to do, im not ready to be a father, i wanna be like normal 13 year old boys and have fun. what do i do??
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reader, I'mheretohelpyou  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 Well, sorry kid thats too bad. You should of thought of that before you drank and had sex. But whatever you do, do not leave her, omg the most uncool thing is to get a girl prego and then leave her. You'll forever be a scared useless punkish bitch faced bag of crack and if anyone finds out, no respect dude. You think your scared now, wait until afterwards, so much guilt will be on your back. And if she feels that she has to keep the baby tell her that she doesn't it's her choice, you'll be with her 100% of the way and don't feel bad if you don't wanna keep it. But if she does you've got a lotta work to do. Tell your parents. An abortion no matter what anyoine says is the girls choice, No girl wants to be raped and have to carry a child that they don't won't or the other thing. Children don't understnad that when the first get a boyfriend/gf when they first start kissing and touching they have to talk about sex and make it clear about what they want and don't. You cannot have sex when your younger cause all this stuff can happen. Your partner might have something or the condom will break or you get pregnant and you die or the baby dies or shit just goes all wrong. Tell your parents and good luck!!!!!
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Yet another reason for shcools to hand out condoms...
I'm only 12, but I know that you are scared now. Religeon shouldn't get in the way of HER choice. If her parents are religeous, she should be, but the sex and drink sugest otherwise. What life is this baby gonna have? It isn't.
People are all different, but I just get rid of it, be fore it becomes more than an it.
You have to think about the girl, her reputation.
It's your fault, but you HAVE TO TELL YOUR PARENTS!!! they deserve to know.
Good luck
Jelly
PS YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR PARENTS - NO CHOICE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): If you wanted to be a normal 13yr old boy, you wouldn't be having sex. You played with fire and now you been burnt, I'm talking to you as a adult as you done adult things.
Your going to have to tell your parents
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (5 June 2008):
 like everyone said DiovanLestat is right
You wanted to play big men games and you did. Now like most adults you have to live with what you did. Talk to the girl and your parents. Nows of all times is not the place to play little 13 year old, you have to be a big man like you wanted to.
You cant hide behind anyone for this
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reader, Sandman +, writes (5 June 2008):
 DiovanLestat - that was WELL said. 5 stars!!!
This is the consequences of your actions. What's done is done.
If she decides to keep the baby, you will no longer be a normal 13 year old. You will be a father, with responsibilities - with people who depend on you. You're too young to get a job, but as soon as you're old enough you'll need to find sound employment to be able to financially care for your child.
If she decides to abort the pregnancy, then you're going to deal with the loss of killing an unborn fetus. But you might feel relieved if she does. And if she does, you need to "...be like normal 13 year old boys and have fun..."
This is why we as adults try to help you kids understand the importance of waiting to have sex. You think we're being hard on you - but this is the reason why. Now do you get it?
Hope this helps.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 So... a bad choice, or maybe a couple of bad choices... but whats done is done! Talk to her and then to your parents. The truth is she needs to go to the doctor asap to have a lot of check ups and to make sure the baby is developing ok and she needs her parents for that.
After that you might be able to consider giving the baby up for adoption which is a definite possibility. A lot of couples that are not able to conceive would be interested in adopting so I would consider this possibility.
Best of lucks!
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reader, Short timer +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Live up to resposibility. normal kids dont get drunk and have sex just to let you know. Do the right thing and take care of your kid. you made the choice to drink you can no longer lead a normal life. you are going to be a father and it is about this child not YOU anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Talk to her, find out what she wants you to do.
Your crying now... "I'm not ready to be a father... I wanna be a normal 13 year old boy and have fun."
But you didn't think about that at the time, you decided to play adult games, well you have to take the adult consequences. If you wanted to be a normal 13 year old you should have stuck to playing football instead of drinking and having sex. You made a mistake and now you have to pay. That's how it goes.
Talk to your girlfriend and plan how your going to approach your parents with this issue. She needs your help, she's having your child. It's too late to run away and hide now. Be a big boy and ask your parents for help.
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